Chapter 7 Be confident in your actions

One of America's most famous psychologists, William James, wrote: Action appears to follow sensation, but in fact, the two are accompanied; Under control, we can indirectly control sensations - sensations that are not under the direct control of the will. Therefore, when we are unhappy, the main way to regain happiness is to straighten our backs, do things and speak happily with a positive attitude.So, think bravely, act bravely, give full play to the role of our will, and courage will replace fear. According to Professor James, when you are facing the public, you should muster your courage by acting confidently.Of course, no skill will help if you don't carefully prepare your speech.But if you already know what you're going to say, then you can take a deep breath and go out in public with ease.In fact, you should breathe deeply for about half a minute before your speech, and this increased supply of oxygen will cheer you up and give you courage.The great tenor Joan Rothko once said that deep breathing suppresses and removes tension.

No matter when, no matter where, people always admire bravery, so no matter how hard your inner world has been hit, you must bravely stride forward, stand firmly in front of people, and start your journey with courage. speech. Stand tall, look your audience in the eye, and deliver your speech as confidently as if they were your debtors.Just imagine that they owe you money, that they are gathered here to ask you to relax the deadline for repaying the money.This psychological effect will benefit your speech. Be sure not to unbutton and unbutton your clothes restlessly, play with your own beads, and touch things.If you must make fidgety movements, put your hands behind your back, twirl your fingers, or wiggle your toes without people seeing them.

Generally speaking, the speaker should not be behind the utensil; but during the first few speeches, you can stand behind a table or chair, and holding on to them may give you some courage - and you can Hold a coin tightly. How did Theodore Roosevelt develop his courage and self-reliance?Was it his gifted spirit of adventure and fearlessness?Not at all.He admitted in his autobiography: "Before, I was always a frail, clumsy boy. As a young man, when I first started speaking, I was nervous and doubtful about my ability. Therefore, I tried to constantly temper myself, Both physically and mentally."

Thankfully, he told us how he got this transformation.He wrote: "When I was a child, I read an essay by Mariatt that has been seared in my heart ever since.In it, the captains of several small British warships explain to the hero how the quality of fearlessness was acquired.He preached that everyone is nervous at the beginning of an action, but that subsequent action requires each man to control himself and make himself act fearlessly.When this goes on for a while, pretended fearlessness is transformed into real fearlessness, and by virtue of this fearlessness training, when a person is no longer tense, he becomes truly fearless. (I'm not using Mariart's exact words, these are my own.)

"That's the way I stick to it. In the beginning, I was terrified of a lot of things, from grizzly bears, to horses, to gunmen, but through fearlessness training, I gradually got over that fear. If people choose This way, then, they will be like me." Marshall Falk said, "In war, the best defense is an offense." So attack your fears.In various situations, discover them with a fearless spirit, fight them, and finally overcome them. Now, suppose you get a message, and then, imagine yourself as a Western Conference boy, and you're going to deliver the message.We are all looking at you casually, and this news will be delivered to us.You have to throw yourself into this news until you become very familiar with it and accept it emotionally.With this kind of training, you'll soon be mastering the situation, mastering yourself.