In the first thirty-five years of the 20th century, the American publishing industry published more than 200,000 books, most of which were quite dull and did not sell well.The manager of a world-renowned large publishing house admitted to me that although his publishing house has 75 years of history and publishing experience, 7 out of 8 books it publishes still lose money. That being the case, do I still have the courage to write a book?Even if I wrote it, why did you bother to read it? This is a great question!So, I'll try to answer it. I think, let's start with my experience.When I was in college, I found out that the most famous people were football or baseball players, and others were debate and speech contest winners.I was very pessimistic, knowing that I had no sports talent, so I began to look for new breakthroughs to achieve my goals.I was determined to excel at public speaking, and I prepared for it for months, practicing on horseback and even milking cows.Although I thought I was well-prepared for this, I suffered from failure to failure in the first few days.But, I persevered, and then there was a shift—I started to win a little bit in the speeches.This is a good start. In the future speech competitions, I can win the opponents almost every time, including those classmates who have mentored me.

After college, I started giving correspondence courses to some adult colleges.Although a lot of passion and energy have been put into the work, the career has not made any progress.Although a little disappointed, I didn't give up.The previous exercise taught me how to stick to my beliefs.In this way, I have been through many twists and turns, and worked as a salesman, actor, author, etc. to support my life.Later, looking back, I discovered my strengths and strengths, and I did my best to convince the Young Christian Association of New York to allow me to teach a speech class to local business people.

In the early days of my teaching, I taught only courses in public speaking—those were designed for adults, and I used practical experience to equip them An interview or a speech before a crowd can be expressed more clearly, more forcefully, and in more detail and thoughtfulness.But later, I found that these people not only urgently need training in speech skills, but also in the art of how to get along with people in daily business or social situations.And I also need training in this area.In this way, I developed a special training method--an amazing blend of public speaking, salesmanship, human relations, and practical psychology.It is not bound by rigid rules, but it is very practical and fun.After each course, the people in the class will organize a club by themselves, meeting once every two weeks. This has lasted for many years, and people often drive 50 or 100 miles to attend the class.

My course was successful and expanded, and I became famous and became a traveling lecturer, traveling frequently between New York, Philadelphia, Baltimore, and later London and Paris.Looking back, my lack of understanding and skill is astonishing.How I wish I had had such a book in my early years, what a priceless privilege it would be! Professor William James, a famous psychologist and philosopher at Harvard University, believes that ordinary people only develop 1/10 of the abilities hidden in their bodies, and my course is to discover the talents hidden in everyone.You know, everyone is a language genius.Once anyone is angry, he will speak cleverly and become very good at talking.Even the most clumsy person will stand up and argue with you immediately after being knocked down by others, and he is no less than a first-rate speaker.Therefore, as long as you have self-confidence and the impulse to express in your heart, then you will definitely speak very movingly.

To tell more people how to develop the potential they had but never used-this is the purpose of writing this book.After reading a few chapters of this book, you will feel that speaking up and handling the interpersonal relationships around you are no longer a headache for you, and you can easily deal with and resolve various embarrassing situations in your life.This is a book for action, not knowledge.You will benefit a lot from reading this book. Well, this preface is a bit long, so, let's start now, let's get back to business right away.