Chapter 9 8. Always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude

Introduction: The self-suggestion brought about by the level of the goal directly determines the size of our behavioral ability. When a person goes up the stairs, aiming at the 6th floor and the 12th floor respectively, the fatigue state will appear differently in the morning and evening.I've found that if you aim for tier 12, the fatigue state comes later.Because when you climb to the 6th floor, your subconscious mind will hint to yourself: there is still half of it, don't be tired now!So you keep going up the stairs. What does this show?The self-suggestion brought about by the level of the goal directly determines the size of our behavioral ability.Furthermore, we can draw the conclusion that consciousness not only affects your mental state, but also directly affects your physiological state.This is the importance of psychological suggestion.

You may still have some doubts, does self-suggestion really work?Yes.Modern experimental psychologists agree that motivation, even if feigned, by autosuggestion is one of the most powerful triggers for rapid learning.So, make positive autosuggestions to yourself. William James once said something like this: "People usually think that action always follows feeling, but in fact, the two are in a co-existing relationship. Action is conditioned by people's will. By restricting action, will can indirectly Condition the senses, which are not under the direct control of the will." "So when we are no longer happy, the only way to change is to sleep happily, eat, talk, and try to act like you are happy. If that doesn't improve your mood, nothing else will. There is a way. Make yourself brave, even if it is only in actions, because people are always used to self-hypnosis. Actions can indirectly affect how you feel, and then mobilize all your will to achieve this end. In this way, courage will also Instead of fear."

This is a psychological hint.If you doubt this theory, you can talk to someone who has read this book and followed this method, or someone who has taken my training class, and you will be convinced of it. Next I will give an example to prove the validity of this theory of psychological suggestion, this person is regarded as a symbol of courage.He had his moments of timidity, but he was determined to rely only on himself.So, after unremitting efforts, he finally became a respected warrior.He was Theodore Roosevelt who opposed the trusts, swayed the audience with his words, and waved the presidential scepter in his hand.In his autobiography, he wrote:

"I was a sickly and clumsy kid. When I was young, I was often in a state of tension and didn't have confidence in myself, so I had to train myself hard. The training was not only physical, but also Including spiritual and spiritual." How did such a child become a warrior?In his autobiography, he explains what led to his conversion: "I read a passage in Mariere's book that made a deep impression on me, and I have always kept it in my heart. It is a passage from the captain of a small British warship explaining to the protagonist how to live upright and fearless He said that when it comes to the initial action, everyone is nervous and anxious, and it is important not to let this feeling of fear continue. The method you should take is to control yourself and pretend that nothing is happening on the surface. This is consistent , the pretense will become reality. He just wanted to practice a strong will, but this practice turned him into a real brave man."

"That's how I trained myself. At first, I was afraid of everything from grizzly bears to wild horses and shotguns, but I tried to pretend I wasn't. Slowly, I stopped being afraid. People would, if they wanted to." Can be like me." Roosevelt said so. During World War II, a Jew tried to get out of a Nazi concentration camp alive.People say that this is impossible-the crazy Nazis may pull them out and shoot them in batches at any time. In addition, the harsh living environment makes people sick, contagious and even die one after another.In short, people have lost confidence in survival.However, the Jew secretly told himself: "On a certain day, the coalition forces will definitely come to save us. Before that, I must live a good life." As a result, before the day he planned came, he His companions died one by one, but he survived tenaciously!However, when his appointed day came, he, like his companions, rapidly weakened and died.

From the above examples, we can see that psychological suggestion can indeed bring us courage.Positive psychological hints can enable us to overcome fear and overcome difficulties, which is very beneficial to us in everything we do.Those who take on this challenge will find themselves transformed to enjoy a richer, better life. So, when you speak up or need courage to overcome difficulties, you might as well put on a confident look.If you're ready, be brave enough to say what you want to say! Tips for staying optimistic: (1) It doesn't matter even if you are a little nervous, the key is to handle it correctly.

(2) If you make a mistake while speaking, take it as your humor or something.In short, give yourself appropriate and positive psychological hints.Tell yourself: everything is fine.