Chapter 22 see each other's strengths

In my opinion, seeing the advantages of others and giving them sincere appreciation is also the secret of the success of "Oil King" Rockefeller in dealing with people. For example, when Rockefeller's partner Edward Bedford failed in a business in South America and caused millions of dollars in losses to the company, Rockefeller did not blame Edward because he knew that Edward had indeed tried his best. Maximum effort and returned 60% of the investment.He found Edward and comforted him: "Fortunately, you have kept more than half of our investment, which is already very good. We can't guarantee that everything will be satisfactory."

Ziegfeld is the most famous cabaret troupe owner on Broadway. He can always make an ordinary girl who is not good-looking and unknown become famous all over the world overnight.Those less-than-perfect women that people don't want to take a second look can always magically become charming and famous actors on the stage after undergoing his training.This is because he is well aware of the power of appreciation, and will always use that kind of earnest attention and considerate care to convince those women of their beauty. In order to increase their self-confidence, he not only increased the salaries of those showgirls from $30 to $175 a week, but also sent congratulatory telegrams to the girls who performed on the night of the performance, and presented beautiful gifts to every dancer who performed. Charming roses.

I remember that once I was obsessed with the popular dieting exercise at that time, and I didn't eat for six days and nights.In fact, this is not as uncomfortable as imagined.Especially at the end of the sixth day, not as hungry as the second day, but I know, and you know, that it is a crime for someone to keep a family member or employee without food for six days; however, if the six days , 6 weeks, or 60 years without any appreciation for family members or employees, is that a crime? When Alfred played the leading role in the play "Goodbye Vienna", he once said: "The thing I need most is praise."

We provide for our children, our friends, and our employees with the needs of life and take it for granted, but we tend to ignore their self-esteem; In the language of appreciation, this is precisely the morning song in life, which will be forever treasured in people's hearts. Some readers may read these words and say, "Old-fashioned! I've tried this sycophancy and sycophanticism, and it doesn't work. It doesn't work at all for educated people." Of course, for a sensible person, flattery is very difficult to work.Because flattery is nothing but superficial, selfish, and hypocritical, it inevitably fails.However, some people are really eager to be appreciated by others, even to the point of starvation.

This reminds me of Brother Moody Pooh.Why are they able to marry repeatedly, and to be noted for their great success in the marriage transaction?Why did these two people nicknamed "Playboys" marry two beautiful and famous movie stars, a world-famous female singer, and a department store businesswoman with a huge fortune of millions?How did they get the favor of these women? "For many years, the Moody Pooh brothers' fascination with women," said St. John in an article in Liberty, "...has been a mystery to many. Bora. Nigre, a female artist with a unique perspective on masculinity, once explained to me: 'Brother Pooh knows more about flattery than anyone else I've ever met. And in This era of authentic humor has long been forgotten. I can assure you, this is the secret of the Pooh Brothers' attraction to women.'”

Of course, this kind of appreciation comes from sincerity, not as hypocritical as flattery; it comes from the heart, not just verbal.Appreciation has no selfish purpose, and will be admired by all people in the world. Here, I am definitely not trying to teach people to flatter!Absolutely not.I'm just advocating a new way of life.Let me say it again, I'm just advocating a new way of life.In the Buckingham Palace in the United Kingdom, there are also six maxims of King George V, one of which says: "Don't flatter others, and don't accept superficial compliments." Flattery is the kind of "worthless compliments."

"Whatever language you use," said Emerson, "what you say is in the end a reflection of yourself." In real life, when we are not thinking about a specific problem, we are often thinking about our own things 95% of the time.Now, if we think not of ourselves for a moment, but of the good in others, then we will not, and need not, bother to utter those false compliments. In fact, as long as we calm down and think about other people's strengths, and understand others' strengths correctly, we will naturally not be frivolous flattery, but praise others from the bottom of our hearts.Emerson said: "Everyone we meet has something worthy of our learning." Even if Emerson is like this, then for you and me, shouldn't we do the same?

As a manager, don't rush to express your own achievements and needs, but first look at the strengths of employees, and then give them sincere appreciation.Appreciate employees sincerely like Schwab, then employees will regard every word of yours as a treasure and never forget it for life: even if you have long since forgotten it, employees will still remember it.