Chapter 80 have a grateful heart

Yes, the world is full of wonderful people, and it cannot be denied that there are scoundrels, liars, thieves, fools, and all kinds of wicked people in the world.People living in this world almost inevitably meet several people.Only a person with a mature personality will understand that seeing the world one-sidedly does not see the whole world clearly; the occasional few flies do not disturb the entire human world. Sometimes our attitudes and behaviors stimulate the character and behavior of others, and we become so suspicious that we conclude, "There are no good people in the world."

However, there is also such a class of people in today's society, they do not have a grateful heart.They always feel that everything they get is what they deserve, and what others give them is taken for granted.For example, in life, they think that their parents should give them material enjoyment and spiritual care, and they have no sense of gratitude in them. On the contrary, sometimes they plausibly criticize their parents when they cannot fully meet their requirements.In the middle of work, this kind of people don't cherish their work at all, and never appreciate the company's intention to provide them with this job opportunity. On the contrary, they even think that it is nothing special, and it will be the same wherever they go.I think it will be difficult for people with such thoughts to integrate into this society, and it will be difficult for such people to succeed.

Gratitude is essentially a healthy state of mind.Usually we think that we are grateful for the things that seem to be right, and we are grateful for the people who help us. This is a kind of gratitude.What you have to know is that no one in this world should do anything for you, and if someone else does it for you, you should be grateful.Otherwise, a person without gratitude will never be popular, and such a person will never be happy.Of course, when people have a heart of gratitude, people and people, people and nature, and people and society will become more harmonious and cordial.Of course, we ourselves will become happy and popular because of the existence of this kind of gratitude.

Ladies, I believe that you actually hope that others will respond to your efforts, that is, you hope that others will be grateful to you.But I must regret to tell the ladies that it is actually human nature to forget kindness.Dr. Johnson from the United Kingdom once said: "Gratefulness is the virtue that those educated people have. You should not expect to find it from ordinary people." It can be seen that if you demand gratitude from others, then you have committed a very common sense. A general mistake, because you really don't understand human nature too much. I don't know what kindness can be greater for a man than saving his life.A lawyer friend of mine said that he had spared no effort to help 80 criminals from the death penalty, but among the 80 criminals, none of them had ever expressed their gratitude to him, even sending a letter to him on Christmas day. None of the cards.

There was such a record in the Bible: "Jesus once made ten paralyzed people stand up again in one afternoon. However, only one person came back to thank him in the end, because the remaining nine people all ran away without a trace. .” It can be seen that since saints can’t get others’ gratitude, why should we ordinary people ask so much? Ladies, you must be wondering how to save yourself, how to make yourself happy.I can tell you a secret, that is to take everything as natural and not to hope to change the reality with your own power. Many women will definitely think that this is an idealized idea of ​​mine, which is unrealistic, and doubt whether it can produce the desired effect.I can answer you with certainty that this is the best and most effective way to make you happy.I have facts to back this up, because that's what my parents did.

My parents were very helpful, and even though we were poor at the time, they used a little of our meager income each year to help an orphanage.One might think that my parents did this in exchange for a good name, when in fact they never went to that orphanage.At the same time, no one has ever formally thanked them, except for the occasional thank you letter or two.But my parents never expected anything. In fact, they were very happy because they enjoyed the joy of helping those helpless children, but they never expected anything in return. Later, I got out of the house and started working outside.I send my parents a check every year around Christmas. Although the money is not a lot, I just hope that my parents can buy something they like.But I was surprised to find that they didn't spend the money to buy anything for themselves, but exchanged the money for daily necessities and gave it to the orphanage.When I asked them why they did it, they told me that giving without asking for anything in return was what they considered the greatest joy.

I realize more and more that my parents have great wisdom and noble personality, because they clearly know that if you want to make yourself truly happy, then you should never have the idea of ​​​​making others grateful, because enjoying and giving is the only way to be happy. is the happiest. In fact, one thing I know very well is that many of the complaints of women come from their children.Because for mothers, children do not know how to be grateful is the most distressing thing.If I am still here to say that ungratefulness is the nature of human beings, it may seem a little unreasonable, but I must also tell ladies that gratitude is a flower in a greenhouse and must be carefully cultivated to grow.Therefore, as mothers or elder ladies, it is necessary for you to educate your children and let them learn to be grateful, because the children must be created by you.

My aunt is a loving mother and a filial daughter.She has never complained to anyone about how unfilial her children are, how ungrateful they are.However, in fact, my aunt has lived by herself for more than 20 years, but her children welcome her very much and often invite her to live in their home.However, the children treated my aunt not out of gratitude, but out of genuine love.In fact, the children learned this true sense of love from my aunt. I remember that when I was very young, my aunt took her mother into the home to take care of, and at the same time had to take care of her mother-in-law.I will never forget those scenes until now. The two old people sat quietly in front of the fireplace, enjoying life silently.I have to admit that the old man has caused a lot of trouble to my aunt, but my aunt has never been annoyed at all, but sincerely greets them.In fact, at that time, my aunt still had to allocate a large part of her energy to take care of those children.However, my aunt never asked her mother, mother-in-law or children to be grateful, because in her view, what she did was just what she should do, and all of this was natural and she was very willing.

The purpose of telling this story to the ladies is to tell you that the best way to find happiness is not to demand gratitude from others. Only when you regard everything as the giving of love and the most natural thing, will you Realize the true meaning of life. Ladies, this story actually conveys another meaning, that is, when you ask others to be grateful, the first thing you need to do is to let yourself have a grateful heart.