Chapter 57 keep private

When ladies encounter troubles, they always like to relieve stress by talking.Indeed, talking is a good way, because you can share your inner pain and pressure with others, so that you will become a little easier.However, if ladies tell others about their privacy for the sake of having fun for a while, it may cause unnecessary trouble for themselves. Most successful people have a good sense of proportion when they speak and do things, especially when they speak, they have a good sense of proportion. They will definitely say what should be said clearly, and never say a word that should not be said.However, some people think that they have fluent teeth, and they talk endlessly with everyone they meet. They don't know the truth that if you talk too much, you will miss it. If you talk too much, it will inevitably lead to loopholes.If ladies want to be popular, the first thing to do is not to say too many unnecessary words.

Some women will say: "Is it true that if you talk less, you will definitely make yourself invincible?" No, talking less can only reduce the chances of making mistakes for women, but it will not prevent women from making mistakes. mistake.In fact, even if you only say one sentence during the entire conversation, and that sentence is private to you, you can get yourself in trouble. Ladies, please keep in mind, don't tell others your privacy casually, even your best friends should be careful.Sometimes, letting friends know your privacy is also a very dangerous thing.The reason is simple, since you are willing to tell your friend your privacy, it means that you trust him very much and absolutely believe that the other party will not do anything to hurt you.At the same time, the reason why you choose to talk to him is nothing more than to get some understanding and comfort from him.However, if one day, some dispute occurs between you and your friend, and this dispute is likely to end your friendship, then your privacy will naturally become a "trump card" in the opponent's hand.

Maria and Rosa work in the same company, and they are both colleagues and friends.At one point, the two shared a business.The two cooperated very well, successfully completed the task, and were rewarded by the boss.Now, the relationship between the two seems to be one step closer.So Maria couldn't help but tell Rosa the secret in her heart. Maria said to Rosa: "My friend, do you know that everyone has their own secrets and their own past. Some people's pasts are brilliant, while some people's pasts are really unbearable, such as I." Rosa asked a little strangely: "What's the matter, Maria? What is it that makes you worry about it?"

Maria said: "It's like this. A few years ago, I was a little girl who didn't know the world. At that time, I was full of fantasy and hope. In my eyes, New York was a paradise on earth. So I quit my job in my hometown. work, and came to New York alone. However, the cruel reality broke my dream. I couldn’t find a job, and no one would use me, a foreign girl with only a primary school diploma. You know, it’s very difficult to live alone Yes, so I had no choice but to choose to do that. I really didn’t do it voluntarily, I was forced to do it, and I became a prostitute.” Rosa said thoughtfully: "Don't be sad, my friend! I understand your behavior very well, and I believe others will understand you. The matter is over, don't think so much! What matters is that you are now !"

Maria said gratefully, "Thank you, Rosa! You are the nicest person I've ever met! I hope you don't tell anyone about this." Rosa nodded, expressing that she would never disclose this matter to others. Originally, Rosa could indeed keep her mouth shut, but things changed dramatically.At the end of the year, there were problems with the efficiency of the entire company, and the company had to make a decision to lay off employees.Maria and Rosa work in the same department, so one of them must be eliminated.To be honest, Maria is better than Rosa in terms of work ability alone.However, just after the company issued the layoff notice, people in the company began to alienate Maria, because no one wanted to work with a prostitute.The final result is self-evident, Maria was fired from the company, but Rosa stayed on smoothly.

Keeping privacy is a very important thing, so it is necessary for me to tell the ladies about the dangers of casually speaking about privacy, which will make the ladies more cautious in normal times.When you tell others about your privacy, you will inevitably let yourself worry about whether the other party will tell your privacy all day long, so that worry will haunt you all day long. Some women may say, I want to keep my privacy forever, but you know, it is very painful to keep secrets in your heart.If you can't get release for a long time, you will inevitably cause yourself a new kind of worry.Indeed, the ladies’ concerns are justified. The famous New York psychologist Adam Carter once said: “Anyone needs a release of the mind. This is the best way to relieve stress. Many patients with depression are because they cannot express themselves Tell others what's on your mind."

In response to this situation, I have some methods for ladies, which may be helpful to you. In the end, I think ladies must understand that not to tell others about your privacy, and not to show that you close your heart to others, because it is a wrong way to not trust others.If you want to make friends, you must first show your sincerity. Of course, this sincerity has a certain limit.