Chapter 20 Language shows your cultivation

Language is a bridge for information communication between the two sides and a channel for the exchange of thoughts and feelings between the two sides.Language occupies the most basic and important position in interpersonal communication.As a means of expression, language can express a variety of information and rich and colorful thoughts and feelings with different times, occasions, and objects.The key to speaking politely is respect for the other person and self-effacement. Appellation is the first key to open the door of communication.Whether you are old or new friends, you have to address each other when you meet.Everyone wants to be respected by others, and people pay more attention to the status they have already achieved.To call a titled person by his title is a great respect for him.Calling people by their first names is only for those who are close to each other.If you have a special relationship with the person with the title, it is more affectionate to call him by his first name, but in public and social situations, it is more appropriate to use his title.For intellectuals, you can directly address their titles.However, for degrees, degrees other than doctorates cannot be used as titles.

In more formal social occasions, when talking with teachers or people with high status and status, when dealing with people for the first time or meeting unfamiliar people, or when attending official occasions such as meetings and negotiations, honorific words are required.The word "please" that we use every day, the word "you" in the second person, the pronouns "Your Excellency", "Mrs. Respect", "Your Party", etc.: In addition, there are some commonly used words, such as "Jiuyang" when meeting for the first time, "Jiuyang" when meeting for a long time, etc. "Long time no see" is called "long absence", "enlightenment" is called to ask someone to criticize, "forgiveness" is called to ask someone to forgive, "interrupt" is called to trouble others, "please" is called to ask someone to do something, and "high opinion" is called to praise someone's opinion, etc.Although these honorifics are simple two or three words, they play a huge role in communication.

The opposite of "honorific language" is modest language, which is a word that expresses humility and self-effacement to others.The most common usage of humble language is to humble oneself and one's relatives in front of others.For example, calling oneself "foolish" and calling family members "family strict, family kind, family brother, family sister-in-law" and so on.Self-humility and respect for others are an inseparable unity.Although Qianyu is not used much in daily life, its spirit is everywhere.As long as you show your humility and sincerity in your everyday language, people will naturally respect you.

Yayu refers to some more elegant words.Elegant language is often used to replace those more casual or even vulgar words in some formal occasions and in some situations where elders are present.Using elegant language can reflect a person's cultural literacy and respect for the personal qualities of others.In dealing with people, if you are entertaining guests, when serving tea, you should say: "Tea, please".If you still have refreshments, you can say: "Please have some refreshments." If you finish the meal before others, you should greet others and say: "Please take your time." The use of elegant language is not mechanical and fixed.As long as you speak and behave politely, people will be more impressed with your personal cultivation.

Proper use of these details can help you properly handle interpersonal relationships in the workplace.However, you must pay attention to the appropriateness of the language used. Although there is a saying that "many people are polite and not annoying", using these words too exaggeratedly will inevitably leave people with the impression of being deliberately flattering, and sometimes even affect others' attitude towards your work. Doubts about ability.Remembering the above-listed respectful, humble, and elegant words is not enough to cope with the daily workplace. You also need to remember the following common vocabulary.

A．Greeting words: "Good morning", "Good afternoon", "Good evening", "Hello", "Nice to meet you", "Please advise", "Please take care of me", etc. B．Thank you words: "Thank you", "Excuse me", "Sorry for your trouble", "I'm really sorry", "Please", "Trouble you", "Thank you for your help", etc. C．Apology: for disturbing the other party or to apologize to the other party: "I'm sorry", "Please forgive me", "I'm sorry", "Please wait a moment", "Please forgive me", etc.When accepting the other party's thanks or apology: "You're welcome", "You're welcome", "It's okay", "Please don't take it to heart", etc.

D．Farewell words: "goodbye", "welcome again", "good luck", "please come again", etc. E．Avoided words: "Hey", "I don't know", "Idiot", "You don't understand", "You can die", "Bullshit", "Pig head", etc. When you are active in the workplace, you will inevitably have the opportunity to communicate with people.There is an ancient saying: what kind of song to sing on what mountain, what kind of people to talk to. Regardless of whether it is a celebrity or a commoner, both sides of the conversation should be equal.The conversation generally chooses topics of common interest to everyone. However, some issues that should not be touched, such as the age, income, value of personal belongings, marital status, and religious beliefs of the other party, it is better not to talk about them.It is impolite and unrefined to inquire about these.

Speaking is usually to communicate ideas with others. To achieve this goal, first of all, we must pay attention to the content of the speech, and second, we must pay attention to the severity of the voice when speaking, so that the interlocutor can understand it. Keeping a proper distance from people when speaking, in addition to considering whether the other party can hear you clearly, there is also a question of how to be polite.From the point of view of etiquette, speaking too far away from the other party will make the interlocutor mistakenly think that you do not want to show friendliness and intimacy to him, which is obviously impolite.However, if you talk to people at a relatively close distance, you will splash saliva on other people's faces if you are not careful, which is the most annoying.Some people, because they have the habit of approaching and talking with others, and knowing that others are afraid of being splashed by their own saliva, so the prophet hilariously covered his mouth with his hands.Doing so is tantamount to "talking to each other", which is ugly and not generous enough.Therefore, from the perspective of etiquette, it is generally most appropriate to keep a distance of one or two people.Doing so not only makes the other party feel a cordial atmosphere, but also maintains a certain "social distance", which is also the most comfortable in terms of ordinary people's subjective feelings.

When talking freely with the other party, you should properly ask about their wives and children, and you should talk about your boyfriend, husband or children.It is not advisable to give a gift to a man in his personal capacity. If it is necessary to give a gift, it should be specified that the gift is for the other couple, or for him on behalf of his unit.