Chapter 12 A woman who pursues perfection is not happy

Perfection is the highest state of life that everyone wants to achieve, but in fact it is just a beautiful fantasy, not what we must or must pursue. Most women in real life think that successful women often have profound knowledge, maintain an elegant posture, good temperament, and extraordinary conversation. And perfect.For this reason, they pursue perfection one after another, and formulate many rules and standards to restrain themselves.From the perspective of self-discipline, this is indeed a good thing.However, there is no need to be too concerned about some things in life, and there is no need to pursue perfection everywhere and always, otherwise it will lead to psychological imbalance.

In ancient India, there lived a very wealthy businessman.The merchant's wife is very beautiful, and the two are very affectionate.In the eyes of others, they are probably the happiest couple in the world.However, businessmen are always brooding about one thing.It turned out that although his wife was a rare beauty in the world, she had a rosy nose, which would undoubtedly give everyone a feeling of a fly in the ointment.His wife was also very distressed about this, and kept touching that ugly nose in front of the mirror every day, feeling extremely sad in her heart. One day, the merchant went out to do business and passed a slave market.He saw a lot of people gathered in the center of the square, so he also moved over.It turned out that a slave trader was introducing a thin and frail woman to the onlookers.The businessman didn't want to buy a slave at first, but when he was about to leave, he suddenly discovered that although the female slave had an ordinary appearance, she had a beautiful and charming nose.The businessman was very happy, thinking that it must be a gift from the gods.Therefore, he did not hesitate to spend a lot of money to buy this woman with a beautiful nose.

The businessman rushed home happily with the woman, thinking of giving his wife a surprise.After arriving home, the businessman couldn't wait to cut off the girl's nose, and then took the bloody and warm nose and shouted loudly: "My wife, dear, come out quickly! I brought you the world The most precious gift." His wife didn't know what happened, so she ran out of the house and asked in surprise, "What's wrong? What did you find outside? What kind of treasure made you so happy "The businessman said excitedly: "Look, I bought you the most beautiful nose in the world, which matches your face shape very well. Come on, put it on and let me have a look!" He took out an unusually sharp knife from his arms and chopped off his wife's rosacea.

With his wife's scream, the rosacea also fell to the ground.The businessman hurriedly picked up the beautiful nose and stuck it on his wife's face, but no matter how he stuck it, he couldn't stick it on.Only then did the businessman realize that no matter how hard he tried, it was impossible for this beautiful nose to grow on his wife's face.And even the old rosy nose no longer belonged to his wife. The story is indeed philosophical because the businessman and his wife are undoubtedly striving for perfection.However, the result of their pursuit to the end is to bring more regrets to themselves.

It can be seen that, whether in life or career, many "perfections" cannot be obtained by pursuit.In fact, those who are too obsessed with "perfection" are not perfect.Because "perfection" is abstract and relative, not as concrete and colorful as life.Here, I just want to tell those female friends who are struggling for their careers, don't think that as long as you do your best, you will definitely achieve perfection.Those women who are struggling to pursue happiness should live out their own characteristics, live out their own style and splendor, and you don't need to mind too much what others say.Because "perfection" is only illusory and does not exist, only hard work with a clear conscience can get the most practical gains.

There is nothing wrong with pursuing perfection, but if you pursue it too much, it is better not to pursue perfection.To give a simple example, every woman wants her room to be clean forever, but we can't keep it clean forever.If we blindly pursue the most perfect state, then I am afraid that we will live in painful torture every day.The reason is very simple, nothing can be perfect, so a woman who pursues perfection weaves herself a dream that is impossible to realize at the beginning. Ladies, if you have tried your best and put a lot of thought into it, but you still can't achieve the desired goal, then you might as well choose to give up.Sometimes, giving up is the smartest way.You can quiet your mind and stop thinking about something that has failed or is not perfect, so you can focus on thinking about what to do next.If women demand perfection in every part of the process, it's easy for you to feel like everything is going wrong.

In his book Love and Death, Dr. Smiley Blanton said: "Every healthy person has a certain level of self-confidence, which is normal. Confidence is the key to getting the job done. and the essential ingredients for success.” Psychologist A. H. Maslu once mentioned the concept of "accepting oneself" in his book "Motivation and Personality"."There are several key concepts in Neodynamic psychology, namely: autonomy, release, humanity, acceptance of the self, drive to awareness and fulfillment," he said. It can be seen that mature people don't toss and turn at night comparing their shortcomings with other people's advantages, worrying that they lack the self-confidence of Bill Smith, or the enterprising spirit and perseverance of Jim Johns.He will face up to his mistakes in work and his own shortcomings, but he is very clear about his goals and very satisfied with his drive.Not only does he understand his flaws, he also tries to take the time to correct it.He forgives himself as he forgives others, and does not allow himself to struggle in pain.

Ladies, if you want to be perfect, believe in yourself that you are perfect.If you start by admitting that you are perfect, then you will not be living in someone else's world. Finally, I still want to advise the ladies, if you want to be a happy woman, you must not become a woman who pursues perfection.