Chapter 10 I have hope in my heart, I am the winner

In a woman's life, she will encounter difficulties and setbacks at any time, and even encounter fatal blows.At this time, the positive and negative mentality has a major impact on the success or failure of the career. Robin, an American potential success scientist, said: "The beliefs held in the face of adversity or difficulties in life are far more important than anything else." This is because positive beliefs and negative beliefs directly affect the success or failure of entrepreneurs. Positive attitude creates life, negative attitude consumes life.A positive attitude is the starting point of success, the sunshine and rain of life, making people's minds a soaring eagle.Negative mentality is the source of failure and the slow killer of life, which makes people subject to some kind of shadow set by themselves.Choosing a positive attitude is equivalent to choosing the hope of success; choosing a negative attitude is doomed to enter the swamp of failure.If you want to be successful and turn your dreams into reality, you must let go of the negativity that kills your potential and destroys your hopes.

The famous psychologist A. Adler once said: All losers-criminals, alcoholics, suicides, degenerates, prostitutes, etc., they fail because they lack a sense of belonging and social interest, which makes them Life produces intense depression.When they deal with professional, friendship and sexual problems, they do not believe that these problems can be solved in a cooperative way, so they are full of disappointment in reality. Frustration is a normal phenomenon of human beings, but if you avoid and deny yourself for many years, so you can't extricate yourself from continuous depression, but you are used to pushing the responsibility to others, then most of these people lack courage and ability Take on the unfortunate.

Although most of the depressed people are struggling on their own and want to ask others for help, their loneliness and fear of rejection make them dare not take the risk to ask for help.Due to their low self-esteem attitude, they also cannot face up to their own fragility, so they have to hide themselves by pretending to be happy.Therefore, except for spouses and children and other relatives at home, people around them often cannot understand their inner world, recognize their bad emotions, and thus find it difficult to help them.In fact, even when someone knows about their emotional distress, others often appear powerless.

Oddly enough, some "successful" achievers also experience depression.For example, some successful men, when their wives are not at ease with housework and decide to go to school or find a part-time job, they often feel a strong sense of depression in the face of a messy home.Because they feel that they work hard, earn so much money, have status in society, and have everything they should have in the family. As a result, their wives are still not at ease, and they still have to find themselves, so he will have these things he pursues. What is the meaning of such questions.If these psychological troubles cannot be well resolved, he is likely to gradually become discouraged and depressed.

It can be seen that if a person cannot obtain a sense of accomplishment in his career and a sense of happiness in his family, he will not feel happy and gratified.He will keep asking himself: "What do I get?" If he cannot adjust in time and overcome his frustration, he will easily feel that "if you don't die, you will know everything is empty". In general, people may experience depression during several important stages of their lives.In childhood, sound emotional development and cultivation are very important. If her family life is unfortunate, such as parents divorced, losing relatives, etc., it will easily lead to depression; in youth, healthy social relationships include love, marriage, friends, etc. Frustration in love and marriage will make people depressed; in old age, if you lose your spouse or children in old age, you will easily fall into depression and helplessness.

Depression often amplifies life's unhappiness.Therefore, it is necessary for people who are troubled by persistent and intense depression to receive certain psychological treatment.However, these people are often unwilling to admit that they have psychological problems, and hold an attitude of rejection and rejection of psychological counseling and treatment, which will inevitably cause further damage to their work, life, marriage, and family. Some people form an attitude of indifference towards others in frustration, thinking that this can retaliate against others, but in fact, this will not only not help the resolution of the matter, but will further damage themselves.Because doing so will further affect your emotions both physically and mentally, making it impossible for you to face reality firmly.In fact, striking yourself with indifference is the most powerful weapon you can use.

It is undeniable that everyone will have depression at times in life, but depression is not insurmountable.It takes courage to change your attitude towards life, find out what caused your depression and work hard to change the status quo. So, as with all other consequences of misfortune, we should not allow ourselves to be self-pitying and unfounded about the despondency it brings.Instead, cheer up and take a brave and enterprising attitude to face it and all the setbacks and difficulties in reality. Looking at the success of those with high emotional intelligence, it is that they have strong emotional tolerance, can accept the influence of various emotions with an open mind, and can overcome the troubles caused by negative emotions through appropriate channels, and always maintain An optimistic spirit is full of hope and confidence in life, so that he has the courage and patience to conquer one difficulty after another in life.And those with low emotional intelligence who are blindly immersed in depression and unable to extricate themselves can only make themselves miserable in the end.

In the process of doing in-depth research on negative human attitudes, I believe that the following three specific patterns of attitudes can cause people to feel powerless and ultimately ruin their lives.they are, respectively: That is to say, seeing short-term difficulties as a shadow that will never go away is to prolong the difficulties indefinitely in time, so that you can't extricate yourself from a negative state of mind. That is, because of failure in one area, it is believed that failure in other areas will also occur.This is to expand the difficulty infinitely in terms of space, so that you can't see the light in the shadow of failure.

That is to say, they think that they are not capable enough, and beat themselves one by one, so that they cannot cheer up.The "problem is me" here is not a synonym for taking responsibility, but blindly demeaning oneself in terms of ability and weakening one's fighting spirit. Female friends, have you ever had such a situation?If so, please free yourself from the shadow of negative mentality as soon as possible.Remember a saying that the Germans love to say: "Even if the world is destroyed, I will plant my vine today."