Chapter 6 be a conversational woman

Today's society is full of competition and cooperation. Why do some people fail in competition while others succeed in cooperation?Putting aside the individual's ability to work, it is inseparable from everyone's ability to speak and express. In practice, talking about topics that the other party is interested in is the most effective way to communicate with the other party, and it is a way to deeply understand others and get along with them happily.You can talk to the other party about his (her) achievements, the sports he (she) is good at, etc.; cordial feelings; if the person to be communicated is an individual, then information about his or her resume, interests, place of birth, family members, etc. must be collected in advance; learn.

In fact, extraordinary eloquence is not only beneficial to interpersonal communication, but also gives people a beautiful enjoyment. Every modern woman should constantly cultivate her own eloquence, master the conversation skills that interest both parties, and timely base on the other party's face. Use various feedback information such as facial expressions and movements to adjust the content and rhythm of your speech, and finally achieve the purpose of strengthening communication and communication with others, making yourself the "best talker" in the workplace. Speaking is an art. Anyone who knows the art of speaking knows that light words should not be repeated. Even if there are some problems that must be "clear and clear", one must still remember the importance of "speaking" and "not saying the last sentence." "Talk" principle, leave some leeway for the other party, and leave some morality and demeanor for yourself. The way of "speaking directly" sometimes only makes people unable to step down.Whether it is up to down, or down to up, when speaking, a little twists and turns, so that the listener has time to think and consider, can instead achieve a happy ending of "everything goes smoothly".

It can be seen that by adopting a tactful way of expression during the conversation, even when the other party disagrees with you in terms of positions and opinions, the conversation can still continue happily.It is also because the way she puts forward opinions is more acceptable, which reduces disputes, and once she makes mistakes, she does not feel ashamed as before.Similarly, when she sometimes puts forward correct opinions, others can also abandon their prejudices and accept and adopt them. The first thing we need to do when we talk to people is to make them understandable and thorough, so that they can understand the main intention you want to express.It is forbidden to use dialects and native languages, and Mandarin should be used as the official standard language.In terms of language expression, we should strive to be simple and clear, express our views and opinions concisely, and avoid chattering and long-winded words.

In addition, when talking, it is required that the meaning of the words spoken is clear and logical, and there should be no ambiguity or ambiguity.Everyone in the society has a different standpoint, and the nature of work is also different. In a workplace where many people gather, if people misunderstand due to ambiguous speech, it will be difficult to carry out work; if it is in family life, due to language differences Misunderstanding caused by ambiguity will make the relationship between husband and wife lose harmony and directly affect the stability and happiness of the family.Therefore, we must ensure that the semantics are accurate when expressing ourselves.

The method is: A．Don't omit the subject at will: From the perspective of modern grammar, in some special contexts, the subject can be omitted, but this must be based on the understanding of both parties in the conversation, otherwise it is easy to cause misunderstanding if the subject is omitted at will. B．Pay attention to the use of homophones: Homophones are words that sound the same but have different meanings.In oral expression, it is separated from the shape of the word, so if the homonym is used improperly, it is easy to cause misunderstanding.For example, "terminal exam" is easily misunderstood as "midterm exam", so it is better to change "terminal" to "final" so that there will be no misunderstanding.

C．Use less classical Chinese and dialect words: When talking with people, unless there is a special need, generally do not use classical Chinese words. Excessive use of classical Chinese may easily cause misunderstandings and is not conducive to the exchange of feelings and the expression of thoughts. D．Pay attention to proper pauses: in written language, punctuation should be used to break sentences so that the content can be more specific and accurate.In spoken language, we often use pauses. Effective use of pauses can make your words clear and pleasant, and reduce misunderstandings. Some people speak like firing machine guns, especially when they are excited, they don’t pay attention to pauses.

Polite language is a good habit. Female employees who can be polite and treat each other with courtesy must be very popular. Those who have this habit are more likely to succeed.In interpersonal communication, the use of polite language can be said to be a code of conduct, and it can also be said to be a magic weapon to improve efficiency.In fact, this is what we emphasize that "being able to speak is more important than being able to do things", because only being able to speak can do things more efficiently.Here are some verbal ways to build rapport: A．Often use civilized language: When communicating with people, use civilized language properly, it is one of the manifestations of polite speech.Civilized expressions include "thank you", "you're welcome", "sorry", "it's okay" and so on.These civilized expressions can express gratitude or apology to others, communicate people's hearts, and establish harmonious interpersonal relationships.

B．Speak with sincerity: Because of the difference in speaking attitude, language can be the most powerful tool for establishing harmonious interpersonal relationships, and it can also be a sharp knife that stabs others.If there is no caring mood from the heart, no matter how gorgeous the language is, the other party will see through it, so the most important thing is to be full of sincerity. C．It is best to name: When you want to say thank you to someone, it is best to address the person by their first name first, and then express your gratitude.If you want to express your gratitude to several people at the same time, it is better not to say: "Thank you all!" Instead, you must call him (her) by their names one by one, and then thank you.

D．Optimize your own catchphrase: almost everyone has their own catchphrase, unconsciously, it has formed a part of your personal image, even an important part.Therefore, for the sake of your own personal image, you must pay attention to optimizing your mantra to give people a sense of politeness.