Chapter 42 Talk about the enlightenment of life to oneself

Tell the revelation of life, which is what everyone is willing to listen to.But experience tells me that this point of view is not easy to accept, because everyone feels that their own experience is hidden, and it is too trivial and too limited.They would rather talk about some general concepts or philosophies, or talk about some long and unconstrained speeches. A few years ago, I was at the Conrad Hilton Hotel in Chicago listening to debriefing speeches by students.A student said in his speech: "Liberty, equality, fraternity, these are the greatest ideas in the human dictionary. Without freedom, life has no value for survival. Imagine what it would be like if our actions were restricted everywhere. A state of existence?" When he finished speaking, I asked him what kind of experience made him feel this way.So, this student told everyone a shocking story.

It turned out that he was an underground fighter in France. Under the brutal Nazi rule, he and his family suffered all kinds of unimaginable humiliation.In his speech, he described in vivid language how he and his family escaped from the secret police and came to the United States.Finally he said: "Today, I walked down Michigan Avenue to this restaurant, and I was free to come and go. I passed a policeman, and he didn't pay attention to me. When I walked into the restaurant, I also needed to show my identity." After the meeting is over, you can go anywhere in Chicago according to your own wishes. So please believe that freedom is worth fighting for.” As soon as the words fell, the audience responded with warm and sustained applause.

From the experience of this student, it is not difficult to see that integrating one's own enthusiasm and experience into the conversation is a good way to move people's hearts, and it is also a necessary condition.How can you impress others if you are not interested in what you have to say? I don't usually watch TV, but recently a friend recommended me to watch a TV show for housewives.A friend told me that this program has a part of audience participation, and the ratings are very high, which will definitely arouse my interest.This is true, I watched it a few times and appreciated the interactive conversation between the host and the audience, and the way the audience spoke caught my attention: these people are obviously not professional speakers, and there is no communication Artistic training, and even spoken words are often read in white.But this didn't affect the content of their speeches at all. When they spoke, there was no tension or fear at all, and they were completely out of character, which was able to attract the attention of the audience.

How did that happen?Let me tell you the answer!These otherwise normal-looking people grab the attention of viewers across the country because they're talking about themselves—whether it's about their most embarrassing moments, their best memories, or how to relate to a loved one. people who meet people... They didn't deliberately draw up an outline for their speech content, and they didn't care about the skills of using words and sentences, but they were appreciated by the audience. Inspiration. Tell the revelation of life, which is what everyone is willing to listen to.But experience tells me that this point of view is not easy to accept, because everyone feels that their own experience is hidden, and it is too trivial and too limited.They would rather talk about some general concepts or philosophies, or talk about some long and unconstrained speeches.We crave news, for example, but they give us editorials.Of course, we are not opposed to listening to editorials, but authoritative media must give speeches.Therefore, for ordinary people, it is better to talk about the revelation of life to you, so that more people can become your loyal audience.

Emerson loved to listen to people—no matter how humble they were—he listened patiently.Because he felt he could learn something different from each of them.I have heard more speeches or conversations in my life, probably, than anyone else.To be honest, I never feel dull when a speaker describes the enlightenment that life has given him, no matter how trivial and insignificant the experience is. A few years ago, a teacher in our training department gave a course in public speaking to senior officials of the City Bank of New York.People who work in a unit like a bank have too many things to do, and rarely have time to make adequate preparations for a speech.In fact, they have their own thoughts, personal beliefs, and know how to look at problems from their own perspective. They have rich work experience, all of which have accumulated sufficient conversation materials for them, but they themselves are not aware of this. a little.

I remember that one Friday, a Mr. Jackson from the Upper District Bank came to the training class, preparing to participate in the training class consisting of 45 people.Before coming, he bought a copy of Forbes Magazine at the news stand.On the subway to the Federal Reserve Bank, where the class was held, he found an article entitled "Ten Years of Success Secrets" to read.The reason why he read this article was not because he was particularly interested in it, but because he wanted to find some talking material from it so that he would have material for him to use in class.An hour after the training session started, he stood up, ready to tell the prepared article in a very witty way, to impress everyone.The results of it?I think everyone can guess.He did not "digest" what he read into his own, let alone absorb what he "wanted to say" from it.He wanted to find some depth in the text, but he didn't get it out of the way beyond the quotations, which was evident in his whole demeanor and tone of voice.Speaking in the way he did, how could he possibly expect his audience to be more moved than he himself?He kept referring to that article, saying what the author said, but he didn't mention what he thought.His whole speech seemed to be promoting "Phobe Magazine", but unfortunately his own stuff was so pitifully small.

When he finished his lecture, the teacher said: "Mr. Jackson, we are not interested in the author you are talking about—I don't know who he is, he is not here, and we can't see him. We are interested in you and your views." Interest. Tell us what you think, don't talk about what other people say. Put more 'Mr. Jackson' in the speech, and give a speech on the same topic next week? Read that article again, Ask yourself if you agree with the author's argument. If so, back it up with your own observational experience. If you disagree, tell us why. Let this essay be an introduction to your own lecture."

Under the guidance of the teacher, Mr. Jackson re-read the article, and he suddenly found that he actually did not agree with some of the views.Therefore, he searched for some relevant examples from his own experience, and used his own experience as a bank executive to elaborate and demonstrate his point of view and refute the argument of the article.His second lecture was full of ideas derived from his own background, instead of copying the content of magazine articles, what he gave us was the "ore" in his own mine, and the "coins" minted in his own mint .Sure enough, his speech had an unexpected effect.