Chapter 6 Grasp the principles that make speaking natural
When children speak, or when we usually talk to people, we always change the speed of speaking.This method feels pleasant, natural, does not produce strange feelings, and has an emphatic effect.
Below, we discuss the points that make speaking natural.In doing so, I was a little hesitant.Because there are bound to be people who say, "Yeah, I got it. Just force myself to do these things and I'll be fine." That's not true, if you force yourself to do these things, you're going to be as stiff as a log , as dull as a robot.
Maybe you used these principles yesterday in a conversation with someone, but you don't feel like you used them in the slightest way, as naturally as digesting last night's dinner.This is the way to use these principles, and the only way.To reach this state, I have said many times, the only way is to practice more.
In everyday conversation, we emphasize important words and skip others.The whole sentence is handled in this way, highlighting some key words.This process is not unusual, pay attention, you can find that people around you do it.You probably said that a hundred times, maybe even a thousand times yesterday.No doubt you will say it a hundred times tomorrow too.Please see this example: read the following passage aloud, reread the words in the quotation marks, and read the other words quickly.Try it out and see how it works.
This is not the only way to read the passage aloud, another speaker will most likely pronounce it differently than you.How to emphasize the tone, there is no definite rule, it depends on the specific situation.
Read the following little poem aloud with enthusiasm, trying to make the meaning obvious and persuasive.See if you can emphasize the important words and skip the less important ones.
When we talk to people, the voice always goes from high to low, and then repeats from the beginning to high and low, always undulating like the sea.Why?No one knows, and no one cares.But it's a pleasant way to do it, and it's a natural way to do it.We don't have to learn it, we can do it; we talked up and down like this when we were young, without deliberate pursuit, and we will do it unconsciously.But now we're standing in front of an audience, and our voices are dull, flat and monotonous, like the Nevada desert.If you find yourself speaking in this monotonous voice—usually high-pitched—pause and say to yourself, “I’m talking like a Indian made of wood. , be humane and natural." Do these words help?There will be a little.A little pause will help you.You have to practice a lot and find your own solution. You can choose to stand out, any sentence or word in your speech, like that green laurel tree in your front yard.This can be achieved simply by raising or lowering the pitch of the voice suddenly when speaking.Dr. Barkis Cadman, a well-known Congregational pastor in Brooklyn, did just that. Sir Oliver Roger, Burian, and Roosevelt often did the same.It's a technique that almost every famous speaker has -- it's an immutable law of speech. Below are three quotations from famous people. Try to read them once, and when you read the words in the quotation marks, you should lower your voice.See how it works. When children speak, or when we usually talk to people, we always change the speed of speaking.This method feels pleasant, natural, does not produce strange feelings, and has an emphatic effect.In fact, this is one of the methods highlighted. Walt Stevens tells us in "Lincoln Through the Eyes of a Reporter" that this was Lincoln's favorite method of emphasizing a point: "He would utter a few words very quickly, and when he reached the word or sentence he wished to emphasize, he would let his voice drag out and say each word heavily, and then he would say the sentence as quickly as lightning. ...he stretches out the word or sentence he wants to emphasize almost as long as the other five or six unimportant sentences." This is a time-tested method for getting the listener's attention.An example: I often quote the following speech by Cardinal Gibbons in my speeches.I wish to emphasize the point of courage, so I always try to draw out the words in quotation marks and emphasize them as much as I can, as if I too were deeply moved—and of course I was.Please read it aloud, try this method, and see how it works. Before his death, Cardinal Gibbons said: "I have lived '86 years'. I have seen with my own eyes 'hundreds' of people who have climbed to the 'peak of success'. There are many 'important' factors for their success,' but the most The important thing is 'confidence'. 'A man will never achieve great things unless he has courage'." Try this one again: Say "$30 million" quickly, in a flat tone that sounds like it's a small sum.Then, say "$30,000" again, slowly and with a heavy feeling, as if you were extremely impressed by the sheer amount of money.Does it sound like $30,000 is more than $30 million? Lincoln would often pause in conversation.When he got to the point, when he wanted to impress his audience, he would lean forward and look them in the eye for a full minute without saying a word.This sudden silence has the same effect as sudden noise: it grabs people's attention.This allows everyone to pay attention, to be alert, to listen to what the next sentence is saying.He was frustrated, for example, by the knowledge that at the end of his debate with Douglas, all signs pointed to his failure, and the painful old habit that bit him now and then added a good deal of pathos to his speeches.In the middle of his last speech, he stopped suddenly and stood for a minute in silence, looking at the faces before him that were half friends, half spectators, his deep-set, melancholy eyes seemed, as usual, full of the unshed. tears.He clasped his hands together as if they were already too tired for the helpless battle, and said in his characteristic monotonous voice: "My friends, Judge Douglas or I, whichever is chosen Entering the United States Senate is irrelevant, it has nothing to do with it. The issue we are asking you today is the most important thing, more important than any personal interests or anyone's political future. Friends—” said Here, he paused again, and the audience listened, "Even when Judge Douglas and my poor, frail, useless tongue have been laid to rest in their graves, this question will continue to live and breathe and burn." An author who wrote a biography for him pointed out: "These simple words and his speech attitude at that time deeply touched everyone's heart." Lincoln also paused briefly after saying something he wanted to emphasize.Use silence to add power, but also to allow their meaning to enter the minds of listeners and affect them. Sir Oliver Roger often paused in his speeches - again before and after important passages.Sometimes a sentence may pause three or four times, but because he behaves naturally, it will not be known.Nobody paid attention - unless someone wanted to analyze Sir Roger's oratorical skills. The great poet Kipling said: "Your silence speaks your heart." Using silence wisely in speaking can play its greatest role.Silence is a powerful tool whose importance cannot be overlooked.It's a pity that beginners tend to overlook it easily. The following passage is an excerpt from Heman's "Lively Talking," where I have indicated the pauses.Of course this is not the only place a speaker should pause, or the best place to pause, just that it is one of the ways to pause.Where should stop, is not static, it should be decided according to meaning, atmosphere and feeling.If you pause at this place in your speech today, you may pause at another place when you give the same speech tomorrow. Read the passage aloud without pausing.Then say it again, pausing where indicated.By comparison, what is the effect of pausing? "Sales is a battle (pause, let 'battle' sink into your audience's mind) and only the fighters win (pause, let that sink into your audience's mind). We may not like these situations, but we can neither create them , and powerless to change them (pause). When you step into the world of sales, take your courage (pause). If you don’t (pause, prolong the suspense for a second), every time you Comes out, gets kicked out, scores nothing but a string of zeros (pause). A batter who fears the pitcher never gets to third base. (pause, let your rhetoric sink into the hearts of the audience) -- This is something to keep in mind (stop and let it go deeper). The man who can hit the ball far, or even let the ball fly over the net, and hit a home run, is usually the player who steps on At the batting position (pause, lengthen the suspense a bit, and get everyone's attention as you introduce this great hitter), there is a firm determination in the mind." Read the following quotes from famous people aloud and forcefully.Notice where you pause naturally. A speaker who follows exactly the prompts I have given in this chapter will probably still have a hundred flaws in his speech: it may be exactly the same as he usually talks to people, his voice may be a little uncomfortable, and his grammar may be ambiguous. erroneous, rude, and possibly unpleasant behavior.One's natural everyday conversation leaves much to be desired.Therefore, first bring your daily conversation to a state of perfect naturalness, then bring this method to the pulpit, and you will be successful.
When we talk to people, the voice always goes from high to low, and then repeats from the beginning to high and low, always undulating like the sea.Why?No one knows, and no one cares.But it's a pleasant way to do it, and it's a natural way to do it.We don't have to learn it, we can do it; we talked up and down like this when we were young, without deliberate pursuit, and we will do it unconsciously.But now we're standing in front of an audience, and our voices are dull, flat and monotonous, like the Nevada desert.If you find yourself speaking in this monotonous voice—usually high-pitched—pause and say to yourself, “I’m talking like a Indian made of wood. , be humane and natural." Do these words help?There will be a little.A little pause will help you.You have to practice a lot and find your own solution. You can choose to stand out, any sentence or word in your speech, like that green laurel tree in your front yard.This can be achieved simply by raising or lowering the pitch of the voice suddenly when speaking.Dr. Barkis Cadman, a well-known Congregational pastor in Brooklyn, did just that. Sir Oliver Roger, Burian, and Roosevelt often did the same.It's a technique that almost every famous speaker has -- it's an immutable law of speech. Below are three quotations from famous people. Try to read them once, and when you read the words in the quotation marks, you should lower your voice.See how it works. When children speak, or when we usually talk to people, we always change the speed of speaking.This method feels pleasant, natural, does not produce strange feelings, and has an emphatic effect.In fact, this is one of the methods highlighted. Walt Stevens tells us in "Lincoln Through the Eyes of a Reporter" that this was Lincoln's favorite method of emphasizing a point: "He would utter a few words very quickly, and when he reached the word or sentence he wished to emphasize, he would let his voice drag out and say each word heavily, and then he would say the sentence as quickly as lightning. ...he stretches out the word or sentence he wants to emphasize almost as long as the other five or six unimportant sentences." This is a time-tested method for getting the listener's attention.An example: I often quote the following speech by Cardinal Gibbons in my speeches.I wish to emphasize the point of courage, so I always try to draw out the words in quotation marks and emphasize them as much as I can, as if I too were deeply moved—and of course I was.Please read it aloud, try this method, and see how it works. Before his death, Cardinal Gibbons said: "I have lived '86 years'. I have seen with my own eyes 'hundreds' of people who have climbed to the 'peak of success'. There are many 'important' factors for their success,' but the most The important thing is 'confidence'. 'A man will never achieve great things unless he has courage'." Try this one again: Say "$30 million" quickly, in a flat tone that sounds like it's a small sum.Then, say "$30,000" again, slowly and with a heavy feeling, as if you were extremely impressed by the sheer amount of money.Does it sound like $30,000 is more than $30 million? Lincoln would often pause in conversation.When he got to the point, when he wanted to impress his audience, he would lean forward and look them in the eye for a full minute without saying a word.This sudden silence has the same effect as sudden noise: it grabs people's attention.This allows everyone to pay attention, to be alert, to listen to what the next sentence is saying.He was frustrated, for example, by the knowledge that at the end of his debate with Douglas, all signs pointed to his failure, and the painful old habit that bit him now and then added a good deal of pathos to his speeches.In the middle of his last speech, he stopped suddenly and stood for a minute in silence, looking at the faces before him that were half friends, half spectators, his deep-set, melancholy eyes seemed, as usual, full of the unshed. tears.He clasped his hands together as if they were already too tired for the helpless battle, and said in his characteristic monotonous voice: "My friends, Judge Douglas or I, whichever is chosen Entering the United States Senate is irrelevant, it has nothing to do with it. The issue we are asking you today is the most important thing, more important than any personal interests or anyone's political future. Friends—” said Here, he paused again, and the audience listened, "Even when Judge Douglas and my poor, frail, useless tongue have been laid to rest in their graves, this question will continue to live and breathe and burn." An author who wrote a biography for him pointed out: "These simple words and his speech attitude at that time deeply touched everyone's heart." Lincoln also paused briefly after saying something he wanted to emphasize.Use silence to add power, but also to allow their meaning to enter the minds of listeners and affect them. Sir Oliver Roger often paused in his speeches - again before and after important passages.Sometimes a sentence may pause three or four times, but because he behaves naturally, it will not be known.Nobody paid attention - unless someone wanted to analyze Sir Roger's oratorical skills. The great poet Kipling said: "Your silence speaks your heart." Using silence wisely in speaking can play its greatest role.Silence is a powerful tool whose importance cannot be overlooked.It's a pity that beginners tend to overlook it easily. The following passage is an excerpt from Heman's "Lively Talking," where I have indicated the pauses.Of course this is not the only place a speaker should pause, or the best place to pause, just that it is one of the ways to pause.Where should stop, is not static, it should be decided according to meaning, atmosphere and feeling.If you pause at this place in your speech today, you may pause at another place when you give the same speech tomorrow. Read the passage aloud without pausing.Then say it again, pausing where indicated.By comparison, what is the effect of pausing? "Sales is a battle (pause, let 'battle' sink into your audience's mind) and only the fighters win (pause, let that sink into your audience's mind). We may not like these situations, but we can neither create them , and powerless to change them (pause). When you step into the world of sales, take your courage (pause). If you don’t (pause, prolong the suspense for a second), every time you Comes out, gets kicked out, scores nothing but a string of zeros (pause). A batter who fears the pitcher never gets to third base. (pause, let your rhetoric sink into the hearts of the audience) -- This is something to keep in mind (stop and let it go deeper). The man who can hit the ball far, or even let the ball fly over the net, and hit a home run, is usually the player who steps on At the batting position (pause, lengthen the suspense a bit, and get everyone's attention as you introduce this great hitter), there is a firm determination in the mind." Read the following quotes from famous people aloud and forcefully.Notice where you pause naturally. A speaker who follows exactly the prompts I have given in this chapter will probably still have a hundred flaws in his speech: it may be exactly the same as he usually talks to people, his voice may be a little uncomfortable, and his grammar may be ambiguous. erroneous, rude, and possibly unpleasant behavior.One's natural everyday conversation leaves much to be desired.Therefore, first bring your daily conversation to a state of perfect naturalness, then bring this method to the pulpit, and you will be successful.