Chapter 35 professional conflict between husband and wife

I know a man who has worked his whole life in a job he didn't like because his wife would sacrifice anything to keep the security of her life. He started out as a bookkeeper and got married when he made enough money to open his own garage.His wife didn't think she could quit the job until they bought the house.After they had a house and they were about to have their first child, his wife made him think that starting his own business would be such a hard and foolish thing to do. So, the days passed like this day by day.His salary is enough for the family's expenses, and the insurance money can cover the children's education expenses.Is it necessary to start your own business?That's ridiculous!What if it fails?He may lose his seniority in the company, the company's pension, sickness benefits, and a medium and regular salary.So the man lost the opportunity to start a business because his wife didn't want him to try it.

When he became a middle-aged man who was bored with his life, he spent his spare time tinkering with his car.He had a frustrated face, a stomach ulcer, and nothing else to recall.Life goes by like this. He spends most of his life suppressing his dissatisfaction with his work. He has no interest in his work, no enthusiasm, and unfinished ambitions, because his wife does not want to give him a chance to try. What if he quit a job he didn't like, tried hard to do a job he chose and failed?At least he will be satisfied that he has done the work he wanted to try, and if he has had enough of failing, he can actually succeed.

Excitingly, however, these types of wives seem to be in the minority.In a recent survey by the Chevrolet Brewing Company, 6,000 housewives of all ages were interviewed.One of the questions was whether the wives would agree if her husband wanted to move from a secure job that he didn't like very much to another job that was less secure and paid less but would make him happy .Only 25% of the wives interviewed expressed their unwillingness to let their husbands change careers. Charles Robertson was my grandfather, who grew up on a Kansas farm in the 1880s.He wanted to emigrate to Indian Neritli and see what he could do in this frontier colony.

So he and his wife Harry packed up their luggage, put them in an open carriage, and took the children to an unknown future.They settled on the banks of the Cimarron. This place is now northeast Oklahoma.My grandfather built a log cabin and fenced off a piece of his own land.Soon, he borrowed some money and opened a small shop in this small village, which is now Tulsa, Oklahoma. At the time, life was very difficult for my grandmother, Harriet, who had nine young children, was in poor health, and was inconvenient.There were no doctors, just a one-room parochial school where children could read.

Hard living, debt, cold winters and hot summers, that's all they had - but by frontier standards, Charles Robertson succeeded.Harriet sees her husband become a successful and respected resident, her children marry and live happily ever after, and Indian Territory becomes a member of the Federal Government. one state.The states of the Commonwealth have grown not only because of the vision of men like Charles Robertson, who broke new ground, but also because of these brave wives, like Harriet, who bravely Let your own husband try new opportunities. These women believed in God, they believed in their husbands, and they believed in themselves.They bravely faced danger, hardship, disease and death.Any nostalgia for the cozy home they left behind as they headed west?Have you ever regretted leaving friends, parents, wealth, and the life you now face of material deprivation, fear, and toil?If they hadn't regretted it, it would be too ruthless.

Even so, the pioneers followed their husbands to these desolate areas and wrote a glorious page in American history.They bequeathed to their sons and daughters a vast inheritance, lands, cities, and an indomitable courage and unshakable faith and spirit. A wife who wants her husband to succeed must carry forward the assiduous spirit of our pioneers.A wife must be willing to let her husband do whatever he likes best, even if it is a risk. She must have the courage to trust her husband and support him without fear, no matter what setbacks.People who can strive desperately to achieve aggressiveness and creativity will not shrink back for other reasons.

I used to work for a guy named Charles Reynolds.A financial assistant for a major oil company in Tulsa, Oklahoma, he was a brisk, capable, likeable young man who seemed sure to make it all the way.He has a wife, 3 kids and great prospects. In his free time, Charles Reynolds loved to paint.Many of his landscape oil paintings are hung on the walls of the company's office.Sometimes he also sold paintings to people outside the company. While Mr. Reynolds enjoyed his job, he longed for more time to paint.He had always loved Taos, New Mexico, a paradise for artists, and he wanted to give up his job and move there permanently.When he and his wife Ruth talked about opening a painting supply store, his wife encouraged him with confidence and said: "We can also sell picture frames. I will take care of the store and you can paint. I think we must It will work."

With the encouragement of his wife, Charles Reynolds made up his mind to quit his job and concentrate on painting.The whole family has the spirit of starting a new business, and young Charles Jr. will also help out with some things in the store after school.He painted so well that he eventually became one of the most successful painters in the Southwest. His work has been exhibited throughout the United States, and he has held solo exhibitions in numerous galleries.Later, he became the president of the Artists Association of Oss City, and built his own studio and gallery on the famous Kit Carson Street in Taos City, New Mexico.It's all because he and his wife dared to try new opportunities.

It should come as no surprise that success is achieved through risk taking.The odds of winning are high.As General Van Deegrift often said to his troops before battle: "God favors the brave and the strong." The job that is best for a man, or that makes him happy, does not necessarily make him rich or well off.However, unless a person's work can bring him inner satisfaction, otherwise it is not really successful.As a wife, she must first have mental endurance, so that her husband can freely do the job he likes, and give up the job he is not satisfied with, which pays better but is not happy.

Many great accomplishments may be the result of unselfish wives who are willing to take a chance—and give up material comforts—so their husbands can work in jobs that suit their personalities. In fact, the real meaning of success is to find a job you love and work hard to do it - you must ignore your own safety and happiness on the way to struggle, and sometimes only doing this is the only way to get what we really want method. Robert Louis Stevenson said: "God, please give me a young man who must have enough courage to do what other people think is foolish." Shakespeare said: "Doubt is what is in our hearts The rebels, for fear of pursuing, will cost us what we usually win."

God does favor those who are brave and strong.If you want your husband to succeed, you must support them in the work they are interested in, and let them succeed in the work that they feel most fulfilled. We should encourage them to try every opportunity, and have enough courage to do so. Overcome the crisis together. The third great principle for eliminating work and money worries is: Handle professional conflicts between husband and wife.