Chapter 18 get rid of misfortune in life

In my class, a student told me such a story, the protagonist of the story is named Mike. In 1938, 21-year-old Mike served in the army.He suffered a serious eye injury in a battle, which made him blind.Although he has suffered so much damage and pain, his personality is still very cheerful.He often joked with other patients and shared his ration of cigarettes and candy with close friends. Doctors worked very hard to treat Mike's injured eye.One day, however, the attending doctor walked into Mike's room and said to him, "Mike, you know I always like to tell my patients the truth and never lie to them. Mike, I'm telling you now that your vision will never come back."

At this moment, time seemed to stand still, and the atmosphere in the room became terrifying and silent. Mike finally broke the silence and replied calmly: "Doctor, I know, in fact, I always knew this would be the result. Thank you very much for putting in so much effort for me." After a few minutes, Mike said to his friend: "I don't think I have any reason to despair. Although I am blind, I can still hear and speak very well! My body is strong, not only I can walk, and my hands are very sensitive. Besides, as far as I know, the government can help me learn a skill so that I can make a living. All I need now is to adapt to a new life.”

This is Mike, a blind soldier with bright vision.Being so busy counting the happiness we have, we have no time to curse our unhappiness.That's 100 percent maturity, and that's how we solve problems.Everyone has to face various trials in their lifetime, and Mrs. Mary Brown uses this method to solve the problem. In August 1945, the day after Japan announced its surrender, Mrs. Mary Brown walked into her family home in Ottawa, Canada, and listened to the silence and emptiness. A few years ago, her husband died in a car accident; then, the mother who lived with her was also killed by illness.The tragedy happened like this:

While many bells and sirens were proclaiming the return of peace, my only son, Dano, died.I have lost my husband and my mother, and now that my son is dead, I am completely alone. After my child's funeral, I walked into an empty house.I will never forget that feeling of emptiness and helplessness. There is no place in the world more lonely than this.My heart was full of sadness and fear, fear of living alone in the future, fear that the whole way of life would change completely.And the scariest thing is that I'm going to spend the rest of my life grieving, and that's what really scares me.

In the months that followed, Mrs. Brown's life was completely enveloped in a dazed atmosphere of grief, fear, and helplessness.Confused and distressed, she simply could not accept what had happened.She went on to describe: As time passed, I realized that time would heal my wounds.It's just that time is passing so slowly, and I have to do something to help myself forget about these encounters.In this state, I choose to go back to work. As the days passed, I gradually regained my interest in life.One morning, I woke up from my sleep and suddenly realized that all the misfortunes were over, and the days to come would definitely be better.I know that "bumping your head against the wall" is a sign of not being able to face reality, that this behavior is stupid and ridiculous.For these facts that I cannot change, time has told me how to bear them.

The whole process of change came very slowly, not in days or weeks, but gradually.All in all, it happened.Now, when I look back at that period of my life, it feels as if the ship has been through a great storm and is now sailing back to the calm sea. In our lives, many tragedies like Mrs. Brown's often make it difficult for us to understand why it happened to us, so it is best to face them first and accept them.When Mrs. Brown had fully come to terms with the loss of her family, she was mentally ready to allow time to heal the pain. When we encounter misfortune, there is only one solution, and that is to accept it.When our lives are torn apart by misfortune, only time can pick up the pieces and heal them again.When a wise man faces misfortune, he knows how to give time a chance.At the first blow, the world seemed to stop, and our suffering seemed to never end.But no matter what, we have to go forward to fulfill the various purposes in the life plan.And once we have completed these various operations in life, the pain caused by misfortune will gradually lessen.One day, we will be able to evoke the joy of the past and feel loved, not hurt.Time is our best friend in overcoming and overcoming misfortune, but only when we open our hearts and fully accept that inevitable fate can we lift ourselves out of the abyss of misery.

We should remember that misfortune is not the end of the world, and sometimes it is a catalyst for us to take action that can greatly improve adverse situations.It sharpens our intellect to help us solve problems. Krishna of India said this: "The happy ending of a person is not a plain and stable joy, but a vigorous struggle against misfortune." The human character will become deeper, more colorful, and richer because of "vigorous struggle against misfortune".It will allow us to tap the potential hidden in the depths of human nature.These abilities and resources have always been buried in the depths of human nature, and will not be awakened for our use until necessary.Another good way to get rid of the shadow of misfortune is to help others.I know a wife in Wisconsin who is admired by many for turning her own personal grief into strength to help others in pain.The wife had a son who was a pilot and died in the line of duty during World War II at the age of 23.Although this mother felt very sad for this, she did not need other people's sympathy. She said: "I know many pessimistic mothers. Some are because the child is mentally or psychologically unsound; some are because the child has spastic paralysis. Contribute to the society normally. Of course, there are more women who want to have their own children, but suffer from being unable to do so. I am lucky to have a good son, and spent 23 happy years together. I will keep these happy memories until now At the end of my life, therefore, I will obey God's arrangement and try my best to support and help as many people in need as possible."

She did.She went to great lengths to comfort the many who went to war, or those parents who needed help when their sons went off.This is the first lesson of maturity - put your mind and energy into helping others, and you'll stop worrying about what's bothering you. Everyone's life will not be a smooth and happy journey.In this process, every life is oscillating in the mode between luck and misfortune, ups and downs, light and darkness.We cannot bury our heads in the sand like ostriches, refusing to face misfortunes of all kinds without being resolved.Suffering is a part of human life, and only by facing it with optimism and strength can we show our maturity.

One of the mistakes immature people often make is that they withdraw when they encounter troubles and dare not face reality.Many children refuse to play because they have no chance of winning. Mature adults will try again and again until they succeed. God is fair to everyone.Since we have come into this world, we have had to go through some sufferings, just as we have also experienced many joys.Sooner or later, life will teach us that we are all equal in the experience of suffering.Whether king or beggar, poet or farmer, man or woman, when they face misfortunes of all kinds, they suffer alike.Immature people of any age can be particularly distressed or complain because they don't understand that life's afflictions, such as birth, old age, sickness, death, or other misfortunes, are in fact stages of life.Here are five ways to get rid of misfortune, I hope everyone can remember it.

1.Accept the inevitable and allow time to heal the pain. 2.Take action to resist difficult situations. 3.Focus and help others. 4.In your lifetime, make the most of your life. 5.Calculate the happiness we have. So, if you want to mature yourself, the third principle is: Learn to let go of the unhappiness in your life.