Chapter 68 "Marriage" is like a pair of shoes

Some people say that marriage is like shoes. You can only know whether they are comfortable to wear or not.It is up to you to decide whether to wear these shoes or not, because your feet are yours.If you really can't bear the bondage of shoes to you, then you will be a barefoot fairy. There are many unpredictable factors in life, and it is more dramatic. In this turbulent atmosphere, the change of feelings makes many people lack the courage to trust and pursue their feelings.Some people say that for a woman, having a marriage means having a long-lasting meal ticket; for a man, having a marriage means having a place to settle down.In this complex reality of life, marriage has become so fragile and vulnerable.

Because people's personalities are different, the meaning of marriage to life is also different.Some people are crazily pursuing marriage, and have a strong adaptability to marriage. No matter how difficult the road to marriage is, they never tire of it; An uncertain marriage is bound together; some people do not have too many strict requirements for marriage, but are more forced by various pressures from parents, society, and age. For them, marriage is just like a chicken rib. Both parties in a marriage are equal, and there cannot be distinctions between high and low.Marriage is holy, don't have any purpose, play any means.There are some women who are very capable at work and have a good academic background. Most of them are elites from all walks of life. They are in charge of the workplace, even in the world of men.But once you get involved in marriage and love, it doesn't go so smoothly. Some people fall in love with someone they shouldn't love, and as a result, they get bruised; but what about the people who love them?But often there is one purpose or another, which makes them feel cheated and used, and a little more angry; some people dare not get involved in marriage, and persist in holding on to an unchanging expectation for a love that has no courage to confess.

Ms. Kelly is a senior planning director of a real estate company. She lives affluently and has a lot of savings.At the age of thirty-three, she is still alone, wandering in a corner of the city every night.She also had an unforgettable love, but she didn't plan not to get married, nor was she single or tired of marriage, nor was there any insurmountable physical obstacle, but she didn't meet her own fate.Once, a friend introduced her to a very good man, and after a short time with her, she discovered that the only thing he valued was the convenience she could bring to her business.Someone introduced a man to her one after another. Coincidentally, this man also came with a purpose. The man was financially poor, and her wealth just made up for the man's needs.The vicious cycle of meeting, breaking up, and repeated cycles made her realize that it is not easy to find a man who truly shares poverty with her, because she cannot guarantee that she will have such glory and brilliance in her whole life. How this man treats him when his peak falls is really another matter.And her girlfriend also encountered a similar experience. Not only did the man lose his favor, but he also used bad words from time to time. In the end, the marriage was like hell, so why bother?It is precisely because she is completely disappointed in men that she has no illusions about her marriage. She thinks that no one can be relied on except herself, so she still feels at ease spending her own money.In fact, being happy is the most important thing!

Marriage is like the sand in your hands. It is not something you can hold if you want to, nor can it last for a long time if you settle down with the situation. It mainly depends on how you manage it. Being single or married is a life choice, there is no right or wrong.If you are single, when you come home from get off work, listen to music, take a hot bath, read a book, or surf the Internet, your life will be free from the entanglement of men, and you will be extraordinarily free and easy.But if you are single for a long time, your physical and mental health will also be damaged to a certain extent. A life without sex will accelerate people's aging, and having no children will increase the incidence of breast cancer. Personal care, these are also the reasons why many people do not choose to be single.

Whether it is love or marriage, two people need mutual understanding. Only in this way can two people in a marriage maintain independence and liberation on the basis of interdependence.Marriage is not only the love between a man and a woman in the general sense, it is the ultimate manifestation of the purest, truest and beautiful emotions of human beings. The meaning of love should be a realm of life. Only the purity of the heart can produce pure love and marriage. Whether the shoes fit the feet or not, only the wearer knows, no matter what kind of shoes, as long as they are comfortable to wear.Marriage is like wearing shoes, shoes need love, and marriage needs care.After wearing a pair of shoes for a long time, they will feel more comfortable, more attached, comfortable and tacit understanding.Therefore, the happiness and unhappiness of marriage cannot be judged and thought by our conventional theory, it cannot be controlled.Only let the feet and shoes slowly understand and feel each other.In marriage, if you can feel the love of the other party calmly, you will feel the happiness of two people's life.