Chapter 23 Worry is the ugliest wrinkle in life

Life is not a smooth journey of happiness, but swings between luck and misfortune, sinking and buoyancy from time to time.We care about too many things and are surrounded by all kinds of troubles and worries every day. We always like to exaggerate the negative consequences of things and scare ourselves.If we feel that what we expected is not happening, we will feel terrible and difficult to accept.We grow prematurely in this day-to-day worry.Yes, nothing ages you faster than worrying. Worry is like a slow poison, which can make us look sad and even turn gray overnight.The best way to detoxify is to cultivate a sunny mentality.

When President Jackson of the United States was alive, he was always worried that he would have a stroke, because several people in his family died of paralytic stroke. It seems that this is a bad luck that no one can escape. One day, he was playing chess with a lady, when suddenly his hands dropped, his face was pale, his breathing was heavy, and he looked extremely weak. "Finally it came," Jackson said feebly. "I had a stroke and my whole right side was paralyzed." "How do you know?" the chess player asked puzzledly, "I pinched my left leg several times just now, but I didn't feel anything at all."

"But, sir," said the lady with whom he played chess, "you pinched my leg! What is the world in your heart, what will be your world.People who can achieve great careers are good at relaxing their mood. Most of them have an open mind and a cheerful personality. After being busy and excited, they can relax themselves, enjoy the tranquility, watch the development of the outside world, plan the progress of the future, and restore vitality and momentum. Anxiety is a great enemy of our success. It deprives us of happiness and makes us lose confidence and courage in life.Worry will get us nowhere.

In ancient times, there was an emperor who was worried all day long.He is worried about the invasion of the enemy country, afraid of the treasures of the palace being stolen, and suspecting that the ministers are disloyal... In short, since the day he became emperor, he has been awakened by nightmares every day. One day, the emperor stood on the city wall, looked at the busy people, and thought: Are they happy?I'm so unhappy, it's hard to imagine what kind of life they have. He found the most shabby clothes to pretend to be a beggar, and planned to go outside the palace to see what happened.

In the evening, the emperor came to a dilapidated farmhouse in the suburbs.An old man with gray hair was sitting in a dark kitchen eating a small piece of steamed bun, but his smile was extremely bright.The emperor couldn't help but walked in and asked, "Why are you so happy?" "I'm a craftsman, and I make a living by doing woodwork. I made enough money today, and I have dinner, so of course I'm happy." "If tomorrow you Will you be happy if you can't make money?" asked the emperor.The old man looked at the "beggar" with a sad face, and said with a smile: "It's up to you to be happy or unhappy, and it has nothing to do with others." After finishing speaking, he cut the steamed bun in half and gave half to the "beggar ".

After returning to the palace, the emperor was very puzzled: "How can happiness be determined by oneself? I want to test him to see how long he can be happy." So the emperor issued a decree overnight - all carpenters in the city must stand guard at the gate of the imperial city One month, and it is stipulated that the salary for standing guard will not be paid until the end of the month. The next morning, of course, the old man was caught by the chief guard and stood guard outside the city wall, and he was not released until dark.When it was time for dinner, the emperor hurriedly changed into a beggar's attire, and went to the old man's house again. He was secretly proud: See if you are still happy!

When he arrived at the old man's house, the old man still enthusiastically invited the "beggar" he met yesterday to have dinner. Not only steamed buns but also white wine were placed on the table.The emperor asked curiously: "Why is your dinner so rich today?" The old man smiled and said: "I was ordered to stand guard at the city gate, and I can get paid at the end of the month, so I went to the pawn shop to pawn the pendant that was given to me when I stood guard." Sword. You see, we now not only have steamed buns to eat, but also wine to drink, how happy it is!" "This will kill the head!" The emperor exclaimed intentionally. "It doesn't matter, I can redeem that sword when the money is paid at the end of the month." The emperor asked again: "Without the sword, how can you stand guard?" You can tell." The old man said with confidence.

On the morning of the third day, the emperor came to the gate of the city and saw the old man's "saber" inserted in the scabbard, and he couldn't tell it was fake at all.At this moment, there was commotion on the opposite side. A beggar with a hungry face stole money from a passerby. He was caught by the head of the guard, and people all around came to watch.The chief guard said sternly: "The punishment for stealing is to chop off your hands. You," he waved at the old man who was standing guard, "cut off the thief's right hand with your saber." The old man's situation was really bad. First of all, he didn't want to cut off the beggar's hand. In addition, his "sword" was fake. Once he was found, his head would fall to the ground. Even the emperor would sweat for him.At this moment, the old man raised his head and said loudly: "God, if this person has committed a heinous crime, please give me the strength to cut off his right hand; if he is forced to do so and deserves to be forgiven, please turn my iron sword into wood!"

After speaking, he pretended to use all his strength to draw out the saber.The onlookers exclaimed: "The sword has turned into wood! The Buddha has appeared!" The head guard was also shocked, so he had to let the beggar go. Since then, the carpenter has become one of the most important ministers of the emperor. As the saying goes, there is nothing in the world, but mediocrity.Worry makes many people afraid to try, afraid to step into unknown territory, and lack the courage to face failure.Worried people tend to magnify the difficulties and dangers. When you really walk in, those are just illusions.In fact, the fence is not high, and it is only the shadow of the fence that is insurmountable.

Since worry is the devil and poison, shall we let it dictate our destiny?In fact, worry can be conquered. No matter what happens, you just need to prepare for the best and prepare for the worst.May wish to often ask yourself: What would be the worst possible outcome of this matter?How likely is this ending? This is how a businessman went to success.At the beginning, he didn't do anything well, and he used to be worried. Later, his worry didn't help him at all, and he was timid, which made him lose many opportunities.So he asked himself: "What is the worst outcome? The company goes bankrupt and is heavily in debt. Will people die? Of course not. As long as I am still alive, everything is possible." Work mentality, the work has become easier, so he stepped towards success step by step.

Carl Douglas said it well: "Don't take life too seriously, anyway, you can't leave alive." If a person can face all misfortunes bravely and confidently, and face all sufferings calmly, even if there are no flowers along the way Like applause, happiness and joy can illuminate the whole heart.