Chapter 93 Use specific details in everyday conversation

Before you can start developing your conversational skills, you have to be confident.Everything in this book so far has been very useful in giving you a sense of security, courage to be around others, and the courage to express yourself in informal social groups.Once you are passionate about expressing your thoughts, you will start to pay attention to everything around you, retrieve your past experiences, and use them as data for your topic.After this pass, something amazing happens—your vision begins to expand, and you see a new layer of meaning in your life. The housewives used to have somewhat limited interest in chatting, and those topics were only interesting in their own small world, but since they used the speaking skills we introduced in the small talk circle, they excitedly reported their new experience. "I found myself gaining more confidence from then on, giving me the courage to stand up and speak at social gatherings," a woman named Hart told her classmates at a public speaking class in Cincinnati. Interested in current affairs. I am no longer daunted by formal conversation gatherings. On the contrary, I have been able to join in eagerly. Not only that, but everything I have done has become good material for my conversation. I find myself already interested in many New activities generate interest."

Ms. Hart's words of gratitude are not flattering for an educator. Once the drive to "learn" and "apply what you've learned" is stimulated, it begins a whole chain of actions and interactions that energizes the whole personality and creates a cycle of achievement.As Ms. Hart says, putting into practice just one of the principles in this book can bring great personal fulfillment. Not all of us are teachers of a certain profession, but every day we have many times to use words to explain something to others.Such as parents teaching their children, such as explaining new ways to prune roses to neighbors, such as exchanging opinions with other tourists on the best travel routes.All of these situations require speaking, and require clear, coherent thinking and powerful expression.The speaking skills introduced in the previous chapters can also be applied to these occasions.