Chapter 13 talk about your experience or research

Those aforementioned people talking about their own stories made that TV show so interesting.Because they are talking about their own experience, they are talking about what they know. Some years ago, the teachers of the training class met at the Hilton Hotel in Chicago.At the meeting, a student began: "Liberty, equality, fraternity, these are the greatest ideas in the human dictionary. Without freedom, life cannot survive. Just imagine, if people's freedom of action is restricted everywhere, what will happen A life?" At this point his teacher wisely asked him to stop and asked him why he believed what he said.The teacher asked him if he had any evidence or personal experience to support what he had just said.So he told us a heart-wrenching story.

He was a French underground fighter.He told us about the humiliation he and his family suffered under the Nazis.In stark, vivid language, he described how he and his family escaped the secret police and ended up in the United States.He concluded his speech thus: "Today, I walked down Michigan Street to this restaurant. I was free to come and go. I passed a policeman who didn't pay attention to me. I walked into the restaurant without showing ID. When the meeting was over Then I can go anywhere in Chicago I choose. So please know that freedom is worth fighting for each of us."

Before he finished speaking, he received a standing ovation and warm applause from the audience. A speaker who tells the revelation of life will never fail to captivate his audience.I know from experience that it is very difficult to get speakers to buy into this idea—they avoid using personal experience as too trivial and limiting.They would rather go to the world to talk about some general concepts and philosophical principles.Sadly, the air is so thin that ordinary people cannot breathe.People will pay attention to life and themselves, so when you tell the revelation of life to you, others will naturally become your loyal listeners.

It is said that Emerson enjoyed listening to people, no matter how humble, because he felt he could learn from anyone.I'm afraid I've heard more adult talk than anyone else.Frankly, I never find it dull when a speaker recounts the lessons life has taught him, no matter how trivial and insignificant. Now let me explain on this point.A few years ago one of our teachers gave a course in public speaking to some senior officers of the City Bank of New York.Naturally, people in such groups are always so busy that they often feel that they have to be fully prepared, or that they think it is difficult to prepare.What they think all their lives is based on their own personal thoughts, their own personal beliefs, and from their own specific perspective.They've all been hoarding 40 years of conversation material, but some of them just don't understand it.

One Friday, a gentleman connected with the superior bank - let's call him Mr. Jackson here - found 45 people present, and what was he going to say?Before coming here, he walked out of the office and bought a copy of Forbes Magazine at the news stand.On the underground train to the Federal Reserve Bank, where he was taking classes, he began reading an article titled "Secrets of Ten Years of Success."He read it, not because he was particularly interested in it, but because he had to say something to fill the time slot that was his share. After 1 hour, he stood up, ready to speak on the content of this article, which made people agree.

As a result, what will be the inevitable outcome? He hasn't digested, hasn't absorbed what he "wanted to say". "Want to say" is a good description, he just "want".He was trying to express himself, and there wasn't much in it, and it was evident in his whole demeanor and tone of voice.So how could he expect his audience to be more moved than himself?He kept referring to that article, saying what the author said.Throughout the course of his speech, "Phobe Magazine" impressed us, and it is a pity that Mr. Jackson left us so little. After his speech, the teacher said: "Mr. Jackson, we are not interested in the author who wrote that article. He is not in our presence and we cannot see him. However, we are very interested in you and your opinion. Tell us , what do you personally think, don't talk about what other people say. Put more of your own in the speech, can you please talk about the same topic next week? Read this article again, Ask yourself if you agree with the author. If so, state what you agree with from your own observational experience; if not, tell us why. Use this article as a starting point from which to develop your own speech. "

After rereading the article, Mr. Jackson thought he did not agree with it at all.He searched for examples from memory to prove his different views, and he used his experience as a bank executive to deduce and expand his ideas in detail.The speech he gave when he returned next week was full of beliefs based on his own background.Instead of reheating magazine articles, he gives us ore from his own mines, coins from his own mint.I'll let you think for yourself, which speech can have a stronger impact on the students in the class? Once, our teachers were asked to write down on small slips of paper what they thought was the biggest problem a beginning speaker had.After statistics, it is found that "guiding beginners to choose an appropriate topic for speech" is the most common problem we encounter at the beginning of class.

What is an appropriate topic?If you have had this kind of life experience and experience, and through experience and reflection make it into your mind, you can determine whether a certain topic is suitable for you.How to find the topic?Dig deep into your own memory and search for those meaningful and vivid impressions in your life from your own background.A few years ago, we did a survey based on the topics that caught the audience's attention, and found that the topics that the audience appreciated most were related to certain personal backgrounds, such as: One is the process of early growth.Topics related to family, childhood memories, and school life are sure to attract the attention of others.Because we are most interested in how others face and overcome obstacles in the environment in which they grew up.

Whenever possible, punctuate your speech with examples from your own early years.You can also use some well-known plays, movies and stories, challenges people faced in early life, etc.But how can we be sure that others will be interested in what happened to us as children?There is a way to test that, years later, if something is still vividly imprinted on your mind, ready to come out, it guarantees that the audience is interested. The second is the early struggle to get ahead.It's an experience oozing with humanity.For example, recounting one's early struggles to get rich can also grab the audience's attention.How did you get into a particular job or industry?What kind of intertwined situation created your career?Tell us about your setbacks, your hopes, and your successes in building a career in this competitive world... A true and vivid picture of a person's life is probably the safest thing to do.

The third is your hobbies and entertainment.This aspect of the topic depends on each person's preferences, so it is also a subject that can attract attention.It is impossible to go wrong if you say something that you do purely because you like it.Your genuine enthusiasm for a particular hobby enables you to communicate the subject clearly to your audience. The fourth is the special field of knowledge.After working in a certain field for many years, you can definitely become an expert in this field.Even discussing things about your work or career based on years of experience or research can command the attention and respect of your audience.

Five is an unusual experience.Have you ever met some great people?Have you ever risked your life under the fire of war?Have you ever experienced a crisis of spiritual depression in your life?These experiences can be the best speech materials. The sixth is faith and faith.Perhaps you have spent a lot of time trying to think about your attitude towards the major situations facing the world today.If you've spent a lot of time working on big issues, you're certainly well qualified to talk about them.Just be sure to give examples of what you believe in when you do it.Audiences don't like to hear speeches full of clichés.Never read newspapers and magazines at random to prepare for the topics you are talking about.If you don't know much more about a subject than you hear, it's better to say less.But, on the other hand, if there is a subject that you have spent years studying, there is no doubt that it is the subject you chose to talk about. Preparing for a speech is not just mechanical writing on paper or reciting a string of words.Nor is it drawing second-hand opinions from hastily read newspapers and magazines.It is digging deep in your own mind and heart and extracting the important beliefs that your life has stored there.There is no need to wonder if the material is there, of course it is there, in abundance, waiting to be discovered.Don't dismiss such topics because they are too personal and minor, and the audience won't like to listen to them.In fact, this kind of speech can make me happy and move me. It makes me happier and moves me more than the speeches of many professional speakers I have heard. Only by talking about things you are familiar with and using subjects you are passionate about can you quickly and easily learn to speak in public.