Chapter 6 Section 4 Worry has nothing to do with your lifestyle

In real life, we have to deal with a variety of daily tasks in person every day. These tasks not only meet the needs of our survival, but also bring us happiness, but in quite a few cases, some of us are Instead of enjoying the joy of work, they suffer from all kinds of worries caused by work pressure. Nearly 85% of the 20,000 people I surveyed, "Family Health Under Stress," said there was an absolute need to learn how to deal with stress.According to survey estimates by the American Academy of Family Physicians over the past 10 years, nearly three-quarters of the average patient has stress-related problems.Statistics like these and others like them have raised concerns among many corporate and business leaders as slowdowns and low productivity from stress-related illnesses have cost their companies over the past year. $50 billion.And they believe that within two years, that cost will rise to $75 billion—an average of $750 per American worker.Family and marriage are the areas most affected by stress.Generally speaking, stress is one of the most root causes of marital problems and relationship problems.

Dr. Aikesen summarized some anxiety symptoms about work pressure in one of his medical reports.He said: "Stress is the physiological and psychological reaction of the mind and body to internal and external events, and has the following characteristics. A. Subjectivity - the same event, some people feel stressful, while others feel not so good; B. Evaluation Sex—some people think that the same pressure is helpful to them, while others think it has side effects on them; C. Activity—stress will cause different degrees of stress because of the severity of each person’s stress.” Ai Ke Sen carefully observed his patients and found that 80% of them were anxious because of the pressure of work, and their irritability and anxiety caused their bodies to often present the following symptoms.

Emotions: Nervous, sensitive, suspicious, unstable, restless, worried, troubled, difficult to relax, etc. Physiology: Dry mouth, rapid heartbeat, abnormal sweating, muscle tension and stiffness, constipation, headache, insomnia, elevated blood pressure, body aches, fatigue, poor energy, poor digestive system, metabolic disorders, etc. Behavior: complaining, arguing, picking, blaming, violence, drug abuse, disordered life, restlessness, etc. Yes, the stress of work is a major source of worry, but worry hurts you most not when you're doing something, but after the day's work is done.Have you ever noticed that when you make a mistake or mistake at work, and you are afraid that other colleagues or superiors will find out about it, there is such a strong pressure in your heart?This kind of pressure is something that each of us will have, because we have all made mistakes in our work at one time or another.

In an adult education class held in Texas, a lady named Mary Suyman told her unforgettable experience: "Ten years ago, I just graduated from Florida State University and entered the sales department of a detergent company. The company has newly developed a deodorant for refrigerators. First, it did a trial sale in several supermarkets, and the effect was not bad. Then my boss, Sean, assigned me a new sales task—to make a sale of the deodorant within a week. Project. At that time, I was very nervous, 'I'm just a novice, why should I do such a challenging and risky project? Why didn't Sean let Peter, who has been working here for two years, do it'. I spent the first two days in such uneasiness. What I really felt at the time was that when the dawn came, I quickly got up and rushed to each community to distribute deodorant to each housewife, and then counted on the spot. The results of the survey on price, packaging, smell, etc. In the evening, facing a pile of information on the table, I began to worry, "Is this going to work? Will other colleagues make fun of or even object to this sales in the meeting How? What is the probability of success'. The whole night was spent in such doubts. On the fourth day, things began to turn around. An old professor who retired at home came to our company and asked our company Why can't the flavoring agent be found on the shelves of the supermarket. Such a short question relieved my worries, and I confidently told Sean that my project was completed. The pressure was gone, the trouble was gone, and we successfully sold New deodorant.” Although it has been 10 years, Mary is still very excited, “Maybe many people’s worries and unhappiness in life come from the pressure of work, in fact, more often, the pressure of work is not due to the work itself , but the pressure we create for ourselves.”

Renowned psychologist Dr. Harry Lavinson talks about our expectations for our bright future."We always try to make everything perfect because we want to live more like who we think we are," he said.But there is always a distance between the actual situation and self-expectations. This distance is the source of stress, also known as self-stress.So the ideal me is what's causing the underlying problem. A businessman I was in regular contact with in previous years talked about his experience struggling with this pressure.He said: "Many years ago, my company asked me if I would consider transferring to Japan. It was a good opportunity to express myself, but I knew that if I accepted, it might cause family problems. moved to four different cities because of relationships. After one move, my oldest son, who was 15 years old at the time, ran away from home for a few days in protest. I knew I shouldn’t think about moving for my career anymore because I The other son, who was also 15 at the time, was at the critical age of puberty. I had my boss consider me for six weeks. During that time, I said 'I'm not going to recommend myself, God, I'll let someone else decide'. My wife, Joan, said, 'I'm praying for God to show us'. And I knew it was her way of expressing her reluctance to go. My 15-year-old son was frank about I said 'Dad, I don't want to move again'. After six weeks it was decided that another colleague would go. Although I said 'that's fine', two days later I had bowel problems and It didn't get better right away, and that's when I realized how serious my struggles were. After being sick for four days, I woke up in the middle of the night with a stomach upset and I prayed softly 'I now know I've been struggling, Forgive me for thinking only of my own needs. Please heal my relationship with my family...and please also heal my physical discomfort'. I don't have to get up that night because my sins are forgiven and I The tension disappeared along with the tension. As a result, I learned a valuable lesson about the loss of right and wrong when one is desperate to gain a job position at the risk of losing family and neighborhood harmony. The ability to black and white."

In a busy life, the ability to manage yourself is really important, and dealing with your ideal self is an important part of it.Perhaps 90% of our time in life is spent on our own affairs and chasing our own ideals.We only think about ourselves because that keeps us in bondage to ourselves.There is an ancient Roman saying: "It is not the burden, but the excess that kills the bear." In other words, it is the daily stress, combined with too much anxiety, that hurts us. In addition, there is another kind of pressure, which is troubled by indecision. Sometimes the stress you experience at work, like a cold, develops gradually.Nobody could have been on the alert because everyone knows that a little stress won't hurt you, and maybe do some good.But one day you may find that you are stressed beyond capacity, and you don't even know when it started.Then, you must seek a cure to relieve you from the very weary struggle.In this personal battle with stress, you can reduce stress a lot if you let go of your own willfulness.

Remember, your life is not about worry.