Chapter 32 sometimes choose to forget

When a person has troubles and resentments, most people will appear abnormally impulsive and irritable. In fact, there are many ways to help you get rid of this suffering.For example, find a close friend to talk to, or go on a trip for entertainment, but don't keep this hatred in your heart forever. Destiny never gives people time to wait. If we miss it or lose it, we can only walk along the path we chose without turning back.To let yourself walk happily and happily on this road, you must learn to forget, forget those pains and misfortunes, forget those losses and regrets, so that you can easily enjoy happiness.

She was born in 1890. In that era, women generally did not have jobs, especially noble women. Unfortunately, Agatha fell in love with a poor man and later had a daughter.They shared joys and sorrows and went through many difficult days. Many years later, the man made a fortune, had a big house, a private car, and became an out-and-out rich man at that time, but he fell in love with another woman.Agatha's daughter said to her "Father likes me, but he doesn't like you".Agatha was heartbroken, but she had to admit the reality. After waiting for a year, her husband did not change his mind, and she was extremely disappointed and divorced.She said to herself: "From now on, the days of sorrow are gone, and the rest of the days belong to me alone." After that, she devoted herself to writing books, became famous in the world for detective novels, and she also had a child fourteen years younger than herself. The love of young archaeologists.He said: "I love archaeology, so you don't have to be afraid of your beautiful face. In my eyes, you will only become more and more beautiful, and I will love you more and more." The promise she made made a love that was not favored by the world, and became a good story...

Some people are destined to be just a grain of cinnabar on your heart, you can't touch it, it hurts when you touch it.But if you are a woman and unfortunately meet such a heartless man, you must know how to give up at the right time.Remembering him is trampling on your own soul, the only thing you can do is to learn to forget and live well... The past is already out of reach for anyone.Once it's over, there's no need to revisit it.How big is our mental space?If you carry too much of the past, you cannot make room for the future.Blindly indulging in the past, always hoping to relive old dreams, is to kill the future you will have.The brilliance of tomorrow will surely make you forget the pain of the past, why not give more space to the future and make more efforts for it?

One day, Jack and Tom went on a trip together.When the two passed through a valley, Jack stumbled and slipped. Fortunately, Tom pulled him desperately and saved the day.A false alarm made the two of them deeply moved.After a long time, Jack carved a line of words on a nearby big rock: "On a certain day, month and year, Tom saved Jack's life." Then, the two continued to walk, and a few days later they came to the river.For some reason, Tom and Jack quarreled over a trivial matter, and the impulsive Tom slapped Jack in the face in a fit of anger.Jack didn't say anything, just ran to the beach and wrote this line: "On a certain day in a certain year, Tom slapped Jack in the face."

After a while, the two returned from their trip.Knowing the adventures and unhappiness of their journey, someone asked Jack curiously: "Why do you write the story of Tom saving you on the stone, and write the story of Tom beating you on the sand?" Jack thought for a while and said meaningfully: "I am always grateful to Tom, because he saved my life; as for his beating me, I will forget it completely as the writing on the beach disappears." Forgetting is a release from the pain of the past.As painful as it is to forget the past, whenever we impair our present life by remembering what happened in the past, the remembrance is meaninglessly damaging ourselves.If you learn not to forget, let those sad, troublesome, and boring things linger in your heart forever, and leave an imprint on your heart that will never fade, it is equivalent to carrying a heavy burden and invisible shackles, and you will let yourself live. Very tired and bitter.

Therefore, to have a beautiful day, the most important thing is to learn to let go of sadness and forget pain.And how to use the positive side between emotion and memory to block the influence of negative memory on emotion? (1) Choose a good time to recall. Choose a time of calm and recall past experiences of humility to gain an objective assessment.In a specific emotional state, it is easier to evoke similar emotional memories.Choose a calm time to recall angry memories. At this time, full rationality and rational analysis can help you see the past, recognize the reality, and grasp the future.

(2) Get new angles. Cultivate a positive state of mind and a positive emotional state, so as to gain a new perspective on problems.For the same event, different emotional states and different moods will have very different memories.So shifting your mindset and cultivating a positive emotional state can help you see things you didn't see clearly before. (3) Change to a positive environment. Find an appropriate new situation and new stimulus to evoke a more positive emotional experience, let the positive environment bring you some stimulation, make the negative mood positive, and the sad mood calm down.