Chapter 102 Show a man's tolerance in every word and deed

Some people say that home is a place of love rather than reason.If you want to have a harmonious marriage relationship, both husband and wife should not be too rational.The husband must be able to tolerate his wife, and the wife must not be too serious. A philosopher said that a magnanimous person often has more love than resentment. He is optimistic, happy, open-minded, and patient, but not sad, depressed, anxious, or angry.He can comfort the inadequacies of his partner and relatives and friends with love, understand them with reason, and move them with emotion, so that the listeners will be tempted and obeyed. In this way, there will be no emotional gap and no gap in action Antagonism, psychological resentment.

A magnanimous man in the family can turn the family crisis into a breeze.For example, the characteristic of a wife is that what is said is what is said, and what is done is what is done. When a wife does housework every day, she feels unbalanced in her heart, and it is inevitable that she will chatter and complain. can punt a boat" or make a joke.Living with a magnanimous man, the wife will be safe, at ease, and have no worries. There are many qualities in a man, but his tolerance is the most important to a wife.Medical research proves that the appearance of a wife is not only related to natural factors, but also related to her husband's attitude.How can a man make himself more tolerant?

Tolerance is kind and calm.Discuss with your wife when you have something to do, and don't impose anything on your wife; don't easily interfere with your wife's career choice, respect and encourage your wife's hobbies; if your wife is busy with work and has no time to do housework or does not do it well, a tolerant man will take the initiative to help his wife do it Housework, but not casual complaints; wife has made a big mistake, criticize it with restraint; be as friendly to wife's family and friends as she is to her own family and friends, and will never care about the wife's favor or favor for her husband's family or her mother's family ; Even if a wife treats her parents closer than her parents-in-law, she regards it as human nature.Only in this way can it be regarded as the attitude that an upright man should have.

A tolerant man creates a relaxed family atmosphere because of his confidence in love. He firmly believes that his wife will never betray love for no reason, so he is never suspicious.A tolerant man will give his wife autonomy and freedom in life, allowing her to have normal friends of the opposite sex and proper social activities. He will not lose his mind and become jealous just because his wife said a few more words to other men.Some men are particularly worried about their wives. In addition to various objective reasons, his lack of confidence in love is also the most important.They are not practicing their internal skills hard to increase their own charm, but imposing restrictions on their wives.They think that this can keep their wives firmly tied to them, but the result is often just the opposite.

A tolerant man has a healthy mind.A narrow-minded man is afraid that his wife will be stronger than him and be looked down upon by others.They would rather be incompetent than let their wives stand out.These feudal men often use housework as an excuse to bring their hard-working wives back to the family.And a real man, they are neither proud nor inferior. In the real society of "men are strong and women are weak", if their wives have higher status than themselves, succeed in their careers, and earn more money than themselves, they will never think it is Invisibly demeaning themselves, they are sincerely proud of their wives.

The ancients said: "A gentleman is magnanimous, and a villain is always concerned." Tolerance is an external manifestation of inner kindness, and only by being kind to others can we be lenient to others.Those who are self-centered are hard to tolerate, they always think that the world revolves around them.Such a person is also unavoidably mean and critical towards his wife. They like to compare other women in front of their wives. They always feel that other people's food is the best, and other people's wives are better than their own, so they blame their wives.They monopolize the power of the family, and no matter what their wives do, they must conform to their wishes.This kind of narrow selfishness prevents them from treating their wives equally and respecting them, let alone being tolerant to their wives.

Living at home will encounter some big or small things every day, so all kinds of contradictions in life are hard to avoid.If the husband and wife are always haggling about things, insisting on finding out who is right and asking for an "explanation", this serious result will only bring troubles and sorrows.Over time, it is not conducive to physical and mental health.Especially as a husband, as a man, you shouldn't care about small things.Some men, after their wives buy things, ask very carefully, how much is a catty of food; who will go with them on a business trip, how many days, where they go, how to go, etc.Similarly, some wives also criticize the things that men bought back. You bought this thing too expensive, or there was a problem with the quality, so you didn’t pick it carefully, etc.These are against the law of harmony between husband and wife.

There is no need to seriously care about unprincipled things in life.From a psychological point of view, it is not only an attitude in life to pretend not to hear, not to see, or to listen, to see, and to forget things that are unprincipled, unpleasant, or unaccustomed. , It is also the secret of harmony between husband and wife. As a man, you must have a tolerant heart, don't care about small things, don't pay too much attention to trivial matters in life, and don't blame your wife for perfection.Be open-minded in speech and deeds, be more tolerant and considerate to your wife, this is the key to a harmonious relationship between husband and wife and a happy marriage.