Chapter 100 If you love her, give her a free space

Women are good-looking.Men should learn to take care of women's emotions and treat their wives with respect. A sociology expert once discussed love in this way: "The best gift that people who love each other give each other is freedom. The love between two free people has the necessary tension. This kind of love is firm but not rigid, lingering but not sticky. Love without gaps is terrible, love loses the space to breathe freely, and sooner or later it will suffocate." In the course of life, everyone, big or small, always has a territory that belongs to him alone, recognize, respect and protect this Territory is a necessary factor to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife.

Husband and wife should also leave appropriate space for each other and give each other some relative freedom.If you want to live in harmony between husband and wife, you must accept and respect this free space.A good man should be soberly aware that people are independent individuals, and no one can truly and completely understand another person, even those who love each other. Love is a handful of sand in your hand, don't hold it too tightly.A good husband should give his wife a relatively independent space, don’t ask about everything, always know where she is and what she is doing, don’t ask your wife to always be in sync with you, don’t worry about what she doesn’t tell you occasionally, and don’t worry about it. Excessive grilling of her friends, etc.You may just be out of concern, but your wife is not a child, she can handle many things by herself, and when she can't handle it, she will naturally turn to you for help.When some literary works describe two hearts in love as "seamless", please don't forget: leave some gaps between the burning wood, and the fire will be more vigorous.On the contrary, if you are completely exposed to the gaze of others all the time, this kind of life may be real enough, but it is definitely not easy.

It is a good thing to have intimacy between husband and wife, but if your wife wants to keep that space, please respect and accommodate it.In such a space, the wife will think quietly, relax completely, or solve some things by her own strength, and then devote herself to life in a more positive and confident state, and at the same time give you the same freedom.This "distance" will not affect your relationship. Give each other a little distance and a sense of tranquility, just like taking a lazy nap in the summer afternoon, I believe there will be a higher quality love. How can a man respect his wife?

Between husband and wife, there are many hobbies that are very different, and it is impossible to be completely the same.At this time, it is necessary for the husband and wife to respect, support and cooperate with each other, and strive to bring the hobbies of the two people closer together so that conflicts occur as little as possible. You must not despise the other party's hobbies and force the other party to obey you according to your own needs. , This will only gradually reduce the common language between husband and wife, and even lead to a breakdown of the relationship. Today's women are different from the past. Everyone has their own career. After a busy day outside, they are still busy doing housework when they come home. This is an inequality in itself in the equality between men and women advocated all day long, but Most of the wives didn't say anything and still did it.However, there are many husbands who do not understand their wives very well. Instead, they think that doing housework is the wife's proper duty, so they don't respect their wives' labor very much.It is often wrong here and there, and I am always picky about whether the clothes are not washed, the food is not delicious, and so on.Think about it, the wife pays a lot for housework every day, but doesn't get the slightest respect. This is a kind of great harm, and it is extremely detrimental to the development of the relationship between husband and wife.

Of course, if the wife does not respect her husband's labor, it will also destroy the relationship between husband and wife. At present, both husband and wife have their own jobs. Some may have a better job for the wife and a worse job for the husband, or a better job for the husband and a worse job for the wife. There is a phenomenon of disrespect for the other party's work.This approach is extremely wrong, no matter what the occupation is, everyone is equal, and husbands and wives must not disrespect each other because of their occupations. The beating and scolding between husband and wife is the chief culprit that destroys the relationship between husband and wife and the stability of the family.Husband and wife should talk in a friendly manner. When encountering any problems, we should negotiate and resolve them, and we can't do things arbitrarily.Husbands can’t be chauvinistic, thinking that I’m the head of the family, I can do whatever I want, say whatever I want, my wife is my private property, I can beat and scold when I want to; To prevent the phenomenon of "strict control of wives", you can't ask why a man is doing anything. If you don't give him a little freedom, he will lose his dignity as a man.Such a married life should not exist.Mutual respect and mutual respect should be the most basic elements in the life of husband and wife.

Respect for others is the most basic requirement in the process of interpersonal communication, especially between husband and wife.Respecting your wife is the most basic condition for maintaining a normal marriage relationship.