Chapter 89 Take good measure and beware of speaking inappropriately

You have to be measured when you speak, and if you have a good sense of proportion, a very ordinary sentence will add a little weight; the words are few and precise, giving people the feeling of being thoughtful.How well you speak depends on many factors, such as the person you are talking to, the topic, and the context.In short, speak with moderation. The opposite of degree is "lost degree". What is "lost degree"?Generally speaking, one speaks rudely to others, or exposes one's shortcomings in front of everyone, or does not say what should be said, but says everything that should not be said.These are all manifestations of "loss".

Below we will briefly introduce some topics that are taboo in conversations. Exposure to these topics can easily lead to "lostness" of conversations and produce adverse effects. Asking health questions to someone you're meeting for the first time or who you don't know very well can come across as abrupt.Of course, this is not the case if you are talking with very close people. Unless you are very clear about the other party's position, you should avoid talking about controversial and sensitive topics, such as religion and politics, which are likely to cause confrontation or confrontation between the two sides.

Don't easily touch on topics that involve other people's privacy, including age, price of things, salary, etc., which may easily arouse disgust from others. Do not bring up the hurts of others with co-workers.For example, someone else is divorced or a family member dies.Of course, if the other party brings it up, you should show sympathy and listen to him, but don't ask endlessly just to satisfy your curiosity. Some colorful jokes may be very interesting to say in the room, but the effect is not good when told in the public, and it is easy to cause embarrassment and resentment to others.

In addition to the above-mentioned points to be paid attention to, we must also pay attention to being as objective as possible when speaking, seeking truth from facts, not exaggerating, and constantly taking meaning from context.Speak as sincerely as possible, with good intentions, and try not to say words that are harsh and sarcasm to others, and do not say words that irritate or hurt others. In interpersonal communication, the conversation must be measured, recognize one's own identity, and properly consider the wording.What should be said, what should not be said, and how to say to get a better conversation effect should be paid attention to when talking.

We should also pay attention to our tone of voice, gestures, facial expressions, etc. in the conversation, and strive to make all aspects coordinated and appropriate.In this way, we can greatly enhance the attractiveness of our own words. Literally say that everyone is taboo.When speaking with people in social situations, you must say different things according to different situations, and at the same time, you must carefully consider what to say and what not to say when speaking.