Chapter 75 Use humor to gain sympathy and understanding from others

Sometimes, at work, at home, or in interactions with friends of the opposite sex, we will inevitably encounter various frictions and collisions, especially some embarrassing incidents.At this time, adaptable humor and wit are needed to ease the atmosphere.For example, it is really difficult to ask the other party to return something that was borrowed from you.If you are too straightforward, you can easily hurt the other person's feelings. At this time, humor comes in handy. If you make a humorous sentence at the right time, you can make the other party understand your intentions and return your things to you without hurting the other party's face and maintaining the friendship between the two parties.

Sometimes exaggerating one's own shortcomings can eliminate one's inferiority complex, gain others' understanding and sympathy with humor, and have interesting effects. For example, a very fat writer in the UK often responded to friends' concerns about his weight in this way: "I am three times more merciful than any man, because I can make three people at the same time just stand up and give up my seat on the bus." Ladies benefit." Being honest and open with people can sometimes lead to a sense of security that we ourselves doubt.Through the power of humor, we are more able to acknowledge this insecurity without taking it too seriously.Then we can clear our doubts, strengthen our self-concept, and secure the foundations of our lives.And we don't have to worry about being too open and honest, because we can trust that our shortcomings, background, past and present circumstances, through humor, have been understood, sympathized and respected by everyone, which is better than in the past when we tried to hide and escape. Well done.

There is a story about Senator Dirksen from Illinois. When Derksen first came to Congress, he heard his opponents make a big fuss about his family background at the speeches.The opponent's grandfather was a general and his uncle was a state Supreme Court judge. It was Dirksen's turn to speak: "Ladies and gentlemen," he began, "I am deeply honored to have such a lineage—I come from a long line of married people." Showing who you are in a humorous way can also gain the recognition and respect of others.Everyone has their own unspeakable secrets, and many great people who have achieved great achievements have shown us how to deal with personal past and achievements, and we can also learn a thing or two.

When humor helps us to be emotionally honest and open, we and those around us feel comfortable.