Chapter 61 Be sincere when criticizing others

It is impossible to work smoothly with others. There will always be people who need you to criticize and give instructions when they make mistakes.At this time, if you criticize and correct inappropriately, it will not only fail to achieve the purpose, but also produce side effects if it is not done well. A person who loves photography took a stack of his own photographs to visit a photographer and asked him to criticize and correct him.The photographer looked at his works, and enthusiastically told him which one had a longer exposure time, which one had a smaller aperture, and which one needed to change the angle of view... When the photographer was making corrections , People who come to ask for advice always find some reasons to defend themselves.It’s not that the weather was bad at the time, it’s that I couldn’t find a suitable place to stand on when shooting the scene, etc., so it took me a long time.

When the photographer left, the photographer felt angry and funny.He said: "I'm so stupid, why do I have to say so much." In fact, this kind of result is completely conceivable, and some young people today are unwilling to accept criticism with an open mind. A few years ago, Mr. Smith’s niece Josephine left her home in California and went to New York to work as Mr. Smith’s secretary. At that time, she was only 19 years old and had just graduated from high school. She knew nothing about business knowledge and business matters. do not understand.However, she is quite sophisticated in dealing with people and doing things.For a while, she often made some mistakes.Once, Mr. Smith really wanted to criticize her a few words, but after thinking about it again, she is young and inexperienced, so she should not be too demanding, so he said to her in a pleasant way: "Now you have done something wrong, it is inevitable. , when I was your age, I did many more wrong things than you, so I believe that you will grow up as you grow older in the future, isn’t it much better for you to do so now?” Admit yourself first Make mistakes, and then point out the mistakes of others, which is easy to accept.

When people do something wrong, or do something that is disadvantageous, they will admit their mistakes frankly unless they tell you of their own initiative, but if you point out their mistakes on their own initiative, then they must find various reasons to justify them.You can try it among friends and family around you. Whether it's a small oversight or a big mistake, there are few people who can candidly admit mistakes without explaining for themselves immediately after others point them out.Therefore, when criticizing others, we must pay attention to methods and be sincere. Criticism is always unavoidable to hurt people's face and emotions, and it is difficult for people to accept.Therefore, when criticizing others, you must be sincere in your attitude and tone, so that it is easy to convince people.