Chapter 54 Persuade different people in different ways

In society, there is such a kind of people. On the one hand, they only firmly believe in themselves, and do not believe that others are smarter and more correct than them; Shaken, so dare not tell the real reason. They have a wonderful idea in their hearts: "If I speak out, you can't refute it." Of course, they are not very honest with themselves.They will come up with all kinds of beautiful reasons to support themselves to do so, but no matter what they say, no matter what they think, in their bones they think: it is the safest not to tell the reason.Under this guise of self-deception, many people have spent their lives doing many things that are not worth doing.Such a person is indeed difficult to convince.

Convince such people to have a sincere attitude, enough tact, and to understand their thoughts and inner world.This depends on us paying more attention to the lives of others, being familiar with the laws of thinking and behavior of various people, and being able to deeply analyze the inner activities of others. When we guess what other people think, they may blush, feel very embarrassed, and even become angry from embarrassment, and stick to the mistake to the end.Of course, this situation is not what we want to see. But we must understand: Once the strong fortress in a person's heart is destroyed by others, it is very painful.At this time, we need to try to alleviate their pain, or make them feel happy instead of pain.This depends on us having a sincere heart, truly being considerate of others, not only pointing out their mistakes, but also pointing out a bright future for them.

There is another kind of person who is more difficult to be persuaded. This kind of person is not unwilling to tell or dare to tell the real reason in his heart, but just doesn't know. For other people's persuasion work, if you use correct methods and words, and the other party still shows confusion or disapproval, we have to use our brains.This requires us to immediately turn the rudder with the wind, change our original intention, and change to a better way. The same kind of content can have thousands of ways and means of expression.The same meaning can be expressed in thousands of ways.We have to reflect on ourselves at any time: Can the other party accept what we say?Is it too profound, or is it too superficial?Is it raising the question too high, or lowering it too low?Are our words too assertive, or too reserved?Is the vocabulary we use too refined, or too vulgar?

Convincing this matter, after careful study, is very complicated.Sometimes, we may arouse the other party's resentment for no reason by using a wrong word.In our society, people from all walks of life, religions, and beliefs all have their own speaking habits and their own idioms.People who pay attention to eloquence value this knowledge very much.To establish a deeper relationship with others, it is best to be good at grasping the language used by the other party. Once our words are spoken, it is like a person who wants to travel far, and it may not be smooth sailing.If this statement has no effect, or the effect is not good, it is necessary to change the statement until the other party fully understands and believes it.In fact, some of the more difficult persuasion work can never achieve results in one or a few conversations. Sometimes it takes a long time, and sometimes we need to back up our words with facts and actions.

In the process of persuading others, we must constantly understand our own problems and enrich our understanding of people and things. Otherwise, if we just monotonously repeat what we have already said, then besides being annoying, I am afraid There is no persuasive effect. Therefore, when we want to persuade others, every time we meet, every time we talk, we must add some new material, some new reasons, and some new strength.In a word, strive for new development and advance the position one step further.