Chapter 17 4. How to deal with harsh words

The above-mentioned cases all took place in the context of peaceful dialogue and harmonious atmosphere.There are also special cases.Let's talk about Liu Bang first. Although Liu Bang gives the impression that he is much more easy-going than Xiang Yu, he is not easy-going all the time, and he also likes to listen to nice words. Fortunately, his group of people are quite good at talking, all of them are old-fashioned fritters, with the ability to observe words abnormal.Needless to say, Xiao He and Cao Shen used to be low-level officials and served for a long time at the grassroots level. Without the ability to observe words and deeds, they would not be able to get along at all; let alone Zhang Liang. A complete slave.So it is not surprising that Liu Bang loves to listen to what these people say.Not all of Liu Bang's staff can speak. For example, Fan Kui is a rough man. Before he followed Liu Bang, he was a butcher who killed dogs for a living. He spoke sonorously and could not turn corners. , speaking that is also unambiguous.Fan Kui is Liu Bang's brother-in-law and an absolute confidant. He is rude to Xiang Yu, and Liu Bang likes it, but if he says something bad to Liu Bang himself, Liu Bang will still be angry.

Liu Bang entered the customs, Ziying surrendered, and Liu Bang entered Xianyang Palace. He opened his eyes and saw "thousands of palace curtains, dogs, horses, heavy treasures and women." Seeing the beauty, I "wanted to stay in it", and planned to stay here for a long time and not leave, so as to enjoy the fruits of victory.At this time, Fan Kui suggested that he "remonstrate Pei Gong to leave the house" and asked Liu Bang to move out of the palace quickly, and said that Qin State perished because of extravagance, so don't repeat the same mistakes and be dazzled by victory.How could Liu Bang want to move? His butt hasn't warmed up yet, and besides, he has worked so hard, tucking his head into his trouser waist and dawdling on the tip of a knife. Isn't it just for today, so he dismisses Fan Kui and doesn't take it seriously.Many years ago, the majesty of Qin Shihuang appeared in front of Liu Bang again. He squinted and looked forward to the future world.Seeing that Liu Bang ignored him, Fan Kui also became angry and said, "Pei Gong wants to have the evil of the world? The general wants to be a rich man?" It means, do you want to be the commander of the world, or do you want to be a foolish and rich man? payment?

These words are very exciting. In 1983, in order to let John Sculley, the then president of Pepsi Cola, join Apple, Jobs said something that is still talked about today, which is comparable: "Do you want to sell sugar water for the rest of your life, or follow us to change the world?" Ska Li was greatly stimulated, so he chose to change the world with Jobs.Sculley listened to the persuasion, Liu Bang may not buy it, no matter how rich Sculley is, he is still a businessman after all, a businessman on the same level as Jobs, or the two are friends.Liu Bang is different. He is now a prince along the way, a leader, and has power. It's there.So Liu Bang felt as if he had eaten a fly when he heard this. He was definitely not happy. "Pei Gong won't listen."Liu Bang showed disdain for Fan Kui. If he hadn't been happy looking at the beautiful woman with wealth at that time, he probably wanted to kill Fan Kui.

In the end, it was Zhang Liang who came out to persuade him, saying that what Fan Kuai said was right, "loyal words are good for deeds, and good medicine is good for the disease." We started to enjoy ourselves as soon as we got Guanzhong. How is this different from the state of Qin?After some hard work, Liu Bang "returned the army to Bashang".From Zhang Liang quoting Confucius’ family saying that “loyal words are harsh to the ear and good for action, and good medicine is bitter for the sick”, we can also imagine that what Fan Kuai said at that time was indeed very unpleasant. Otherwise, how could it be “rebellious” or “bitter”?

Fan Kui was not the only one who spoke badly, Li Shiqi was also there.When Liu Bangxi entered Guanzhong, he attacked Chenliu. At that time, Li Shiqi, who was watching the city gate in Gaoyang (belonging to Chenliu), wanted to defect to Liu Bang, so he found someone to recommend him and went to visit Liu Bang.As a result, Li Shiqi applied for the job excitedly, full of joy, thinking that he had met the Ming Lord, and thought that Liu Bang was not so enthusiastic?Unexpectedly, when he entered the door, he was shut down. The old Mr. Liu Bang was having a pedicure, and he was being served by two servant girls, grinning his teeth and enjoying it. Li Shiqi felt very shameless, so he cupped his hands, and instead of bowing down, he let out a sigh of relief. Say: "Do you want to help Qin attack the princes? And want to lead the princes to defeat Qin?" Do you want to help Qin destroy the anti-Qin coalition forces?Or do you want to help the anti-Qin coalition forces destroy Qin?

Liu Bang was in a good mood. Hearing this, he immediately came up and cursed: "Stand up Confucianism! Husband, the world has suffered from Qin for a long time, so the princes led each other to attack Qin. What does it mean to help Qin attack the princes?" Good boy, how dare you talk to Lao Tzu like this, I have worked so hard day and night with my head in my waist, isn't it just to destroy Qin one day?What nonsense are you talking about helping Qin and not helping Qin? You're looking for smoke! Seeing that Liu Bang was angry, Li Shiqi became calm, and then said: "I must punish Wudao Qin with one step, so it is not appropriate to meet the elders." It's impolite to touch your feet, it's not good.These words are actually very unpleasant, directly questioning Liu Bang's moral conduct, ignorance, and respect for the elders.But Liu Bang was not angry this time, and hurriedly got up, saluted, gave up his seat, watched tea, and politely dismissed the maids, leaving the embarrassment and lack of quality just now to the two foot-washing women alone.

Liu Bang didn't like to listen to Li Shiqi's words, partly because the old boy really didn't listen to what he said.Another very important reason is that Liu Bang doesn't like Confucian scholars.When Li Shiqi asked the knight to introduce him to meet Liu Bang, the knight introduced to him the chief's preferences: "Pei Gong is not good at Confucianism, and all guests crown Confucianism, and Pei Gong always removes his crown and drowns in it. He often yells at you." Not only did Liu Bang dislike Confucian scholars, but when he saw those wearing Confucian hats, he would definitely go up and take off his hats and throw them into the toilet.When it comes to Confucian scholars, Liu Bang is always cursing, and it can be said that he doesn't have any good feelings.

Liu Bang didn't read much, so he resisted scholars.This is understandable. Most people either envy or hate what they don't have or don't have.Moreover, Liu Bang believed in the attitude of trusting the horse and letting the horse rein in the world. He was used to being uninhibited, and he definitely didn't like the Confucian scholars' obedience and self-discipline. That was not his favorite type at all.It is also because of this that Liu Bang knew that Li Shiqi was coming, so he didn't pay much attention to it. If it should be pedicure, it should be pedicure, and if it should be health care, it should be health care. He didn't make any deliberate preparations.

In fact, Li Shiqi should have been mentally prepared after listening to the knight's introduction before he came, and he shouldn't be surprised by Liu Bang's attitude.Even so, I still felt uncomfortable when I encountered that scene, and the book business became angry, so I "long bowed without bowing", made some gestures, and spoke with emotion.It was reasonable for Liu Bang to be angry, he would never allow a little old janitor, who was the Confucian scholar he disliked the most, to talk to him like this, and even in front of two feet-washing women.Any smiles on the faces of the two feet-washing girls, or a slight change of color in fright, were a great stimulus to Liu Bang, so he couldn't accept it, so he wanted to regain his dignity.What's more, at that time Liu Bang was anxious to get angry for beating Chen Liu, otherwise he wouldn't know how to do foot massage to relieve fatigue and stress.This also shows that Liu Bang's mind is not broad enough to accommodate all rivers.He still didn't like to hear those harsh words.

Let's talk about Xiang Yu again.Xiang Yu gave people the impression that he didn't listen to advice, especially the counselor Fan Zeng's words, which made this seventy-year-old man very sad.However, whether Xiang Yu listened or not, there was never any big conflict between the two of them, nor did they cause any big waves.The most typical one is the Hongmen Banquet. Fan Zeng saw that Liu Bang wanted to be big, and suggested that Xiang Yu get rid of hidden dangers and "do not lose when you hit quickly."According to Fan Zeng's idea, the Hongmen Banquet is Liu Bang's tomb.However, Xiang Yu was confused by Ji's father, Xiang Bo, and did not intend to attack Liu Bang.So, for Xiang Yu, the Hongmen Banquet is actually an opportunity for Liu Bang to get close to the leader.

There is a conspiracy in the Hongmen Banquet, but it is not as murderous as people think. Xiangzhuang's sword dance should be an accidental episode. Xiang Yu's original intention was not to take Liu Bang's life, but to take Liu Bang's heart, make Liu Bang obey him, and others Like the princes, unite closely around yourself and don't have any other ideas.In fact, this trick is often used by leaders now. In order to mobilize the enthusiasm of subordinates, the leaders hold banquets and entertain them. But Xiang Yu undoubtedly thought of the problem simply, and thought of Liu Bang as simple and pure.Now Liu Bang doesn't think that Xiang Yu is his leader in his heart, he doesn't think that he is inferior to Xiang Yu, on the contrary, he still has a little bit of feeling that he is better than Xiang Yu, because he is the first person to break into the capital of Qin State.The reason why Liu Bang is still submissive to Xiang Yu is only because of Xiang Yu's lust, that is to say, Liu Bang is not convinced by Xiang Yu in his heart.In this case, it would be difficult for Xiang Yu to take Liu Bang under his command with just one meal. During the banquet, Fan Zeng once "numbered Xiang Wang", kept winking at Xiang Yu, and "showed three of the jade rings that he wears", hinting to Xiang Yu with the jade pendant, asking him to "jue the jade" as soon as possible. Blind people don't see it.Fan Zeng was helpless, so he made his own claim and recruited Xiangzhuang to dance the sword. No matter how straightforward Xiang Yu was, or no matter how stupid he was, he would not be ignorant of what Fan Zeng meant, but Xiang Yu obviously didn't intend to listen to Fan Zeng's words.If you don't listen, you don't listen, and the two didn't have a conflict.Later, Liu Bang escaped on the pretext of going to the toilet and entrusted Zhang Liangjin to present a gift. Fan Zeng put the jade bucket dedicated to Xiang Yu on the ground, swung his sword and divided it into two parts, and shouted: "Ah! The scorpion is not enough. Pei Gong is also, and I’m now a prisoner.” You boy is really blind, and I’m going to be unlucky for eight lifetimes if I partner with you. Just look at it, the world will definitely belong to Liu Bang in the future, and we all have to be others. captive. Fan Zeng was so disrespectful to Xiang Yu, and in front of Zhang Liang and other outsiders, Xiang Yu was very embarrassed.Even though Fan Zeng is the sub-father and the biological father, it won't do to keep Xiang Yu from coming to power.As a result, Xiang Yu didn't show any displeasure, or he did, but it was not recorded in the history books, at least he wouldn't be angry or furious.It can be seen that Xiang Yu still has a certain amount of self-cultivation. But there was one person's opinion, Xiang Yu not only didn't listen to it, but later reacted violently, causing his emotions to lose control. This was a suggestion made by Han Sheng after Xiang Yu entered Xianyang.After Xiang Yu burned Xianyang and prepared to return east, Han Sheng suggested: "Guanzhong is blocked by mountains and rivers, and the land is fertile, so you can dominate it." Guanzhong is a good place, with dangerous terrain and fertile land, so you can build a capital here.But Xiang Yu planned to go back to his hometown and didn’t want to build his capital here, so he said: “If you don’t return to your hometown if you are rich and embroidered at night, who will know!”Seeing that Xiang Yu didn't listen, Han Sheng said: "It is said that the people of Chu wear monkeys and crown their ears, as expected." The people of Chu are like monkeys dressed in clothes and hats, no matter how human they are, they are not real people.Han Sheng implicatively called Xiang Yu an animal, and Xiang Yu cooked it in a fit of anger. Xiang Yu's reaction was so fierce, and his attack was so ruthless, it made people shudder, and also saw Xiang Yu's domineering and domineering side.But things are not that simple, we can carefully analyze the conversation between Han Sheng and Xiang Yu.From these brief dialogues, at least the following four aspects of information are conveyed: First of all, it's not that Xiang Yu didn't listen to Han Sheng's suggestion, but that he had different opinions on it and had his own ideas. He didn't agree with Han Sheng's plan, rather than simply having an opinion on Han Sheng. Secondly, the timing of Han Sheng's suggestion was not very right. He suggested it after Xiang Yu burned Xianyang.If it was before the burning of Xianyang, looking at the magnificent capital, Xiang Yu might have agreed, but now facing the ruins, there is nowhere to stay, so there is no temptation. Thirdly, it’s not that Xiang Yu didn’t intend to stay in Xianyang at all, but seeing that “the palace of Qin was all burned down” and he was ruined to such an extent that he “wanted to return to the east again”, a “again” Words, it is already clear that Xiang Yu was also thinking about Xianyang at that time. Fourth, Xiang Yu didn't want to stay in Guanzhong for a long time, and there was another complex in it. Guanzhong was the old den of Qin Shihuang, and it was the place he hated the most. This complex made him resist Guanzhong, especially Xianyang City, and he was not allowed to stay in Guanzhong. Guanzhong. It's not completely unreasonable for Xiang Yu to think this way, but Han Sheng didn't consider these meticulous thoughts.The thoughts of the two didn't urinate into the same pot at all, monkeys are full of twists and turns, can he listen?The most terrible thing is that seeing that Xiang Yu didn't listen, Han Sheng directly classified Xiang Yu as a short-sighted animal.Not to mention whether you Han Sheng is right or not, even if you are right, you are just a suggestion, what should you do if your superiors put forward different opinions?You should present the facts and reason to convince the leaders.Your purpose is to let him listen to you, what you want is the result.Apparently, Han Sheng didn't position himself properly, and couldn't tell who was older and who was younger.