Chapter 14 1. Good words and bad words

No matter who it is, as long as he is still a human being, he will definitely like to hear good words. The so-called nice words do not necessarily refer to those flattering words deliberately organized for flattery, it is a natural reaction of human emotion.People yearn for the good, and they will express their sincere admiration for the good people and things, and consciously reject those evil people and evil things. In life, we often see people who don't like to listen to nice words, and they are mostly leaders, because they have to listen to countless nice words every day.The nice words mentioned here actually refer to those compliments.The leader said this to emphasize his fair and just style.Most of these words are for show, if you believe it, you will be fooled.If you are a maverick and deliberately turn nice words into bad ones, then there must be a pair of eyes in the leader's belly looking at you in surprise.On the one hand, you praise your sincerity, and on the other hand, you will put an end to your career life in your heart.You know, no one is born to be a master who eats too much. If you don’t get outnumbered, you won’t get to dark. No leader is this kind of verbal masochist.

There are also some leaders who really don't like to listen to compliments. This kind of leader's dialogue is demanding. He thinks your words are lies and not sincere.Leaders are very discerning, flattery is too superficial, it can't go deep into the bone marrow, he can't resonate, and he doesn't feel satisfied, which will affect his mood, affect his impression of you, and affect your future.Companion to a monarch is like companion to a tiger, which is actually such a simple truth. Leaders don't like lame compliments, but they don't like bad words either.If you don’t realize this, you are also a technical error, which will cause irreparable and serious consequences.

If there are people made of special materials who can listen to harsh advice, it can only be said that he is a wise man who can distinguish and discern.Note that this only shows that he listens to good advice, not that he is interested in bad ears.He doesn't like to listen to your harsh words, but he will think about it and think that it will help him in the future, so sometimes he will listen.It is actually very difficult to do this. It is difficult to define what kind of words are good and what kind of words are not good, because the main body of the speech is you, but the target of the speech is someone else. Whether it sounds good or not requires the other party to make a judgment, which is difficult.Because the dispositions of the speaking objects are not the same, the criteria for judging good or bad words are also different.But there is one thing in common, that is, the more cheerful and relieved you are when you speak, the greater the possibility that your words will not sound good; on the contrary, the more careful and attentive you are when you speak, the more tactful and appropriate you will say.

The reason is actually very simple, it is a matter of focus.The former focuses on himself, and only pays attention to releasing himself, trying to make himself happy, and the words he speaks will naturally not sound good.This is what we often say is good or bad.If you consider from the standpoint of the other party, you will be careful when speaking and take into account the changes in the other party's feelings.But if you do this, you will feel wronged, because if you have to adjust your way of speaking according to his changes, it will definitely not be so pleasant to say, which is whether it sounds good or not.It's that simple.