Chapter 2 1.men and women

When Wu Changshuo was 70 years old, he took a concubine. Within two years, the concubine ran away with others. When chatting with friends, Wu laughed and said: "I love her deeply, and she will go there." When Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman got married, there were nine bridesmaids, and Xu Zhimo was one of the best men.Later, Wang Lu divorced, and Lu Xiaoman remarried Xu Zhimo. When the two got married, Wang Geng became the best man again. When Mao Yanwen was 33 years old, he married Xiong Xiling, who was the prime minister of the Beiyang government and later became a philanthropist. Xiong Xiling was 66 years old at the time.The congratulatory couplets hung at the wedding mostly involve the age difference between the two.One of Mao's classmates was a family friend with Xiong Xiling, and he usually called Xiong "Shibo". "The old husband has six or six new wives and three or three, the old husband and the new wife are ninety-nine; the white hair is double and the beauty is right, and the white hair and beauty are the same eyebrows." The couplet of the scholar Shen Yinmo is: "Let's give up the fish and ask for a bear, the eldest lady understands Mencius; don't be picky , the old man will be the groom again." Three years later, Xiong Xiling died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage, and Mao Yanwen never remarried throughout his life.

In 1926, Yenching University moved from the city of Beijing to the western suburb of Haidian, not far from Tsinghua University.Tsinghua students sometimes go to Yenching University to play, and they can see red and green notes written by boys in front of the female dormitory: "We do not welcome Tsinghua students", "I oppose Tsinghua students running around". On August 17, 1923, Xie Bingxin and a group of young people set off from Shanghai to study in the United States by boat.Previously, a classmate of Xie in Beiman Girls High School wrote to ask Xie to find her younger brother, Tsinghua student Wu Zhuo after boarding the boat, so that they could take care of each other.On the second day after Xie boarded the boat, he asked his classmate Xu Dishan to look for him, but it turned out that Wu Wenzao was not Wu Zhuo.Later, when I asked the name, I realized that I had found the wrong person.This mistake made a well-known classic marriage.

After Bing Xin and Wu Wenzao got married, Wu Wenzao put a photo of Bing Xin on the desk.Bing Xin asked: "Do you really want to look at it every day, or is it just a decoration?" Wu smiled and said: "Of course I want to look at it every day." One day, while Wu was going to class, Bing Xin replaced the self in the photo frame with Ruan Lingyu, and later After a few days, Wu Wenzao did not respond.Later, it was Bing Xin who reminded Wu Wenzao: "Who does the photo on the table belong to?" Art historian Teng Gu is a young master who grew up with landlords. He studied in Japan and taught at Shanghai Academy of Fine Arts after returning to China. This happened in the 1920s.During this period, he fell in love with a beautiful female doctor. She became a widow not long ago and practiced medicine alone.The female doctor's family hired a country girl who was ugly and fat, and was taken down by Teng Gu as a matchmaker, who was hired by Teng Gu as a matchmaker. After learning about it, a lawyer was hired to publish it in the newspaper again, interfering indiscriminately, and the "family ugliness" was publicized for a while.Under pressure, the female doctor retreated only when she found out the difficulty.Teng Gu suffered a serious illness because of this, and it was this illness that made his marriage for the rest of his life.The maid of the female doctor's family has been serving the lonely and sick Teng Gu, like a personal maid. Under her careful care, Teng Gu's body gradually recovered, and the two fell in love. This is somewhat similar to Jiang Baili's experience .Later, there was a shocking act of Teng Gu marrying a country girl.It is said that there were very few congratulators at Teng Gu's wedding ceremony, and even the witness Zhang Taiyan was not present in person.

At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Tao Baojun, a native of Nanjing, was entrusted with an important military post by Duanfang, Governor of Liangjiang, and embezzled a huge amount of military pay during his tenure.After the Wuchang Uprising, Tao took hundreds of thousands of embezzled money to Shanghai, deposited the money and goods with Shen Qiushui, a famous prostitute, and became Shen's benefactor.Later, Tao Baojun was shot and executed by Chen Yingshi, the governor of the Shanghai Army.After Tao died, Shi Liang came to find Shen Qiushui.Shen was worried that the money and property would be detected by the authorities and was at a loss, so he revealed the truth and asked Shi Liangcai to make up his mind.After hearing this, Shi made a thoughtful appearance.Shen Qiushui was in a hurry, and asked repeatedly, Shi Liangcai turned his face seriously, and said something like this: "If this matter is not handled properly, there is indeed a catastrophe for the whole family. Now, for the sake of pity for you, I don't care about everything. I will take care of it." Risk. With my position in Shanghai's political, business, and academic circles, I can say it and do it. Since the authorities will check the package in the future, you can rest assured. I will be responsible for ensuring your safety." Shen Qiushui couldn't help but burst into tears after hearing this. The amount of talent gained both man and wealth—Shen Qiushui later became Shi Liangcai's wife; and the huge sum of money embezzled by Tao Baojun became Shi Liangcai's source of income for the "Shenbao" in the future.

Pan Fu, who used to be the prime minister of the Beiyang government, was a man who couldn't hug him when he saw sex.In the early years of the Republic of China, Pan served as the director of the Ministry of Finance.Once when he was returning to Beijing from Tianjin, he met a flirtatious girl on the train aisle, and he stepped forward to hang his arms.The woman claimed to be Zhang Jingjuan, and Pan asked her to have dinner at Dongxing Building the next day.The next night, Zhang really came slowly. After dinner, Zhang invited Pan to sit at home. After Pan went, he found out that the woman was a red prostitute in the team.From then on, the two fell in love with each other, and finally got engaged to marry each other, and Zhang became Pan's aunt and wife.Later, Pan used all means to take concubines one after another. After more than ten years, he made up half a dozen concubines.

In 1924, the last emperor Puyi was expelled from the palace by Feng Yuxiang.Within a few years, many of Feng's generals were married to the Aixinjueluo family and became the grandson-in-law of Duanjun Wang Zaiyi. Sun Yuyun of Zaiyi once recalled that in the late 1920s, several of his younger sisters were studying in Lanzhou No. 1 Girls Middle School.Once, his sixth younger sister and her classmate Huang Baozhen (the school flower of No. 1 Female Middle School) went to buy materials at Mingyi, the largest silk shop in Lanzhou.Huang Baozhen immediately warmly invited them to visit her home.Huang was married at the time, and her husband, Zhang Yunrong, was the director of the Gansu Provincial Department of Finance.The girls couldn't resist Huang Baozhen's kindness, so they went with her.

Huang Baozhen's home is in the backyard of the Provincial Department of Finance.When they passed the living room, it happened that Zhang Yunrong was also receiving guests, among them were senior generals of the Northwest Army Men Zhizhong, Sun Lianzhong, Feng Anbang and so on.The three of them were still bachelors at the time. Seeing a group of female students passing by in elegant cheongsams, they couldn't help being distracted for a moment.Afterwards, Huang Baozhen was repeatedly asked to find out the details, and then a matchmaker was invited to propose marriage.Later, Yuyun's ninth sister and Men Zhizhong, eighth sister and Sun Lianzhong, fourth sister and Feng Anbang, tenth sister and Lu Chongyi were engaged in Lanzhou, which happened in 1930.Later, Menzhizhong was transferred to be the chairman of Ningxia Province, and Sun Lianzhong was appointed as the chairman of Qinghai Province.

After they got married, Men Zhizhong, Sun Lianzhong, etc. once chatted with Yu Yun that marrying Duan Wang's family was a kind of "match made in heaven" by chance. Tang Yulin, a warlord of the Feng dynasty, served as an army commander under Zhang Zuolin and later served as the chairman of Rehe Province.This person is addicted to sex and has many wives and concubines.Shan, the police chief of Pingquan County, did what he liked, and recruited a number of outstanding socialites in Pingjin to be concubines, and then sent them to Tang's house to socialize and sleep with him.When Tang's two sons found out, they also called Shan or sent a car to pick him up. They invited Shan's concubine from home to accompany him to smoke, drink, play cards and sleep.Later, Tang's grandson also found out, and the single concubines went to serve the young master Sun of the Tang family.In this way, the three generations of grandparents and grandchildren competed to have a happy gathering with several beauties, but they did not hear the storm of jealousy.This was a romantic farce well-known in Rehe province back then.

During the Anti-Japanese War, Cao Juren traveled all over most of China as a war correspondent.Late one night, he was talking to a clerk in a restaurant in a small town in southern Anhui. The clerk said that there was no hotel in the town, and there was a room upstairs, and he could only share a bed with others, so Cao could only agree to come down.He later recalled: "There are two beds in the room, the one on the right is inhabited by a middle-aged woman with a 16-year-old girl... I was very tired from walking, so I fell asleep after dinner. In the middle of the night, the woman insisted that her daughter sleep on my bed. The girl did not make a sound, and really fell asleep beside me. It was a good thing to be confused. Later, I learned that they owed the hotel Six dollars, and I had no penny, so I had to listen to the arrangement of my buddy and go this way... The next morning, I paid the rent for the two of them, ordered a wheelbarrow, and took them on the road. I gave ten yuan. They just thanked me again and again, as if I were a benefactor. When we parted, the woman secretly gave me a handkerchief. I looked at it secretly, and it turned out to be a white handkerchief with scarlet blood. , Of course I understand what it is." In his later years, Cao Juren concluded after recollecting: "I hope readers don't need to use the yardstick of Taoists to measure this kind of subject; during wartime, morality is on holiday."

Writer Yao Xueyin had a crush on a girl in the same class who was very good looking and good grades after she entered the preparatory class of Henan University in her early years.This is what happened in the 1920s. At that time, free love was not popular in Kaifeng, an inland city, and there was a clear line between boys and girls.Yao did not take any action from the beginning to the end, only staying in the stage of unrequited love.But he wrote a novel about it, completely adopting the method of psychological description, which is probably an earlier "stream of consciousness" novel in China.It is somewhat regrettable that Yao Xueyin did not publish the novel in order to avoid embarrassment when they met in the future.

The female painter Pan Yuliang, whose original surname was Zhang, was born in Yangzhou. Her parents died young, and she was tricked by her uncle to Wuhu, where she was sold to a brothel. One night in the early summer of 1912, the Wuhu business community greeted Pan Zanhua, the newly appointed customs supervisor, at a restaurant in the county seat, and Zhang Yuliang was summoned to sing and play the piano.During the meeting, Pan developed a good impression of Zhang, and the president of the Chamber of Commerce saw it. Afterwards, he sent Zhang to the supervisor's mansion to win over Pan Zanhua.Pan took the opportunity to take Zhang Yuliang in.After Zhang Congliang married Pan, he first went to Shanghai and then overseas, where he received a good education and became a famous painter. On February 11, 1927, Liang Shiqiu and Cheng Jishu held their wedding at the Nanheyan European and American Alumni Association in Beijing.During the ceremony, Liang Shiqiu accidentally lost the ring because the ring was too loose or the fingers were too thin.The bride Cheng Jishu said to him: "It's okay, we don't need this." In 1938, Chen Qiang (Chen Peisi's father), a 20-year-old literary youth, came to Yan'an from the Kuomintang-controlled area after experiencing a lot of wandering, and became a student of the Luyi Drama Department.He later participated in a series of performances. The first villain he played in this life was Hitler in the play "International Toy Store".During this period, because of the cooperation in the play, he fell in love with a female classmate of Lu Yi. It is said that he fell in love with death and talked about marriage.One day, the higher-ups suddenly talked to Chen Qiang and told him that the girl was married.Chen Qiang suddenly felt the thunder, and lost his mind.Not only did he suffer for a long time, but he also suffered a serious illness.He later learned that her husband was a senior general sent by the CCP to serve in the Kuomintang army. Due to the dangerous situation, she was secretly sent to Yan'an. Many years later, Chen Qiang returned to northern Shaanxi from the enemy's rear, passed by Suide, and rested for two days.When he had nothing to do, he went to the street to read newspapers, and a woman with a child in her arms stared around him. When Chen turned around, she blurted out: "Chen Qiang!" It turned out that this was exactly what Chen Qiang met in Luyi. girlfriend.Chen Qiang was taken home by her to take a bath and eat.He also gave him a set of shirts and underpants for her husband, and prepared towels, soap, etc. for him.Chen Qiang later recalled sweetly: "We have a fighting friendship and a friend's friendship. We will never forget that 'life episode' that made me seriously ill." When Li Shutong was young, he was a "Pianpian and a good son of the world", and he liked to make friends with prostitutes. The "Biography of Master Hongyi" says that he once "wandered in Yanshi... with Kun Ling Yang Cuixi, Ge Lang Jinwa, and famous courtesan Xie Qiuyun for generations with artistic deeds".After arriving in Shanghai, he became close to famous prostitutes Zhu Yanying and Li Pingxiang. Kongzhao is a foreign monk whose ancestral home is Germany.He once met a businessman surnamed Wang at the Hualiu place in Hankou, and the two mingled together every day, soliciting flowers and drinking.One day, they called a showgirl in her early 20s, with a generous manner and a good conversation.Boss Wang's frivolity is as usual, and he is about to use his hands and feet when he comes up, but he is dissuaded by Kongzhao.Out of gratitude, the singer invited Kongzhao to her apartment the next day.Kongzhao left as promised, and heard the sound of the piano played very skillfully at the door.After knocking on the door, the sound of the piano stopped, and the singer came out with a smile.Kong Zhao saw an original Dickens novel next to her dressing table, so he spoke to her in English.The song girl talked about her family history with tears in her eyes, and Kongzhao, out of compassion, intervened in it, and finally got the song girl out of the dust. Lin Baishui, a famous reporter in the early years of the Republic of China, had a son named Lu Qi who was regarded as a treasure by his grandfather.He followed his grandfather in and out of Huajie and Liuxiang since he was a child, and was "damaged" by the atmosphere there all his life.His favorite place to go is the song building tavern, his favorite place to see gorgeous girls, his favorite listen to Yingge Yanyu, and his desire to live in the crowd of fans all day long.His half-sister later sighed: "It's a pity that our family is not a Grand View Garden. If he has a Grand View Garden-style home, he must be Jia Baoyu among them!" Before Chiang Kai-shek and Soong Meiling got married, they published a divorce notice in "Declaration": "Mao's first wife has already divorced; Yao and Chen's second family have no contract." Zhou Zuomin, the general manager of Jincheng Bank, was born in a humble family, and later he was picked up by the He family, a wealthy family from the same town, and wanted to recruit him as his son-in-law.Miss He Jia refused at first, but reluctantly agreed.On the night when the He family recruited a new bride, it is said that the door was filled with congratulatory guests and the moment the guests sent the groom into the bridal chamber, Ms. He quit and asked someone to close the door, causing an embarrassing situation.Later, the He family invited an old man who Ms. He had always respected to persuade him, saying that Zhou's talent is not something in the pool, but will become a great tool in the future.After some bragging, Miss He opened the door to get married. On May 26, 1929, Lu Xun mentioned in a letter to Xu Guangping: "Cong Wuyin told me that (Gao) Changhong wrote to Bing Xinxin, which has been read for three years and has become a large bundle. After Bing Xin gets married this year, he will The man who gave the bundle to her, when he was traveling, threw it into the sea as he watched, and disappeared in a few days." An Shilin, the abbot of Baiyun Temple, appears to have a decent "Tao" on the surface, but in fact he is full of male thieves and female prostitutes.The lavishness and extravagance of his daily life are not inferior to those of the dignitaries in the capital.He often leads his mistress into his room from the secret passage in the back garden of Baiyun Temple through the sandwich wall to spend the night.There are five regular concubines: one is Mrs. Kang from Xinjiekou; the other is Miss Zhao Er, the daughter of the owner of an antique shop in Xidan;An not only broke the rules himself, but also committed more injustices. After the victory of the Anti-Japanese War, he was burned in the temple by 36 Taoists. Although Li Chun, the governor of Jiangsu, had two wives and four concubines, he had no children. He adopted a cook's son and named him Li Zhenyuan.When Li Zhenyuan grew up, he became a playboy. His wife Fang said: "After the girls he raped were abandoned, he dared not accuse him publicly. There were more than ninety letters sent home to scold him." Li Benwei is Li Yuanhong's favorite concubine.Li Yuanhong was formerly the unified leader of the former Qing Dynasty, and Li Benwei was a prostitute in the area of ​​Dazhimen in Hankou.After the Wuchang Uprising broke out, Li Yuanhong hid in Li Benwei's house and refused to come out. The revolutionaries dragged him out from under Li Benwei's bed.Before Li Yuanhong stepped down from power for the second time, he gave 15 seals to Li Benwei and took them to Dongjiaominxiang German Hospital to hide.The two of them shared weal and woe. He Yingqin has no children, but has never taken concubines.This seems to be rare among the so-called "party-state dignitaries". Chen Cheng's wife, Tan Xiang, is the second daughter of Tan Yankai and the goddaughter of Song Meiling, who once studied in the United States.When Song Meiling introduced Tan Xiang to Chen Cheng, it is said that Tan Yankai disagreed, but Chen had been in love with Tan for a long time. In the winter of 1930, shortly after Tan Yankai's death, Chen Cheng went to Changsha to visit He Jian and others. When he parted, he had two banquets a night and drank Dadan.After getting drunk, Chen still did not forget to "review" the wedding proposal he bought for the Tan family before getting into the car. His subordinates will buy dozens of high-end items such as goose down brocade sofa cushions, pillows, and goose down quilts at Bajiao Pavilion in Changsha. A restaurant is covered.After returning to Nanjing, Chen Cheng sent people to send these gifts together with his personal letter to the Tan Mansion on Chengxian Street. The Tan family immediately invited Chen back. Because Tan Yankai died not long after his illness, they only entertained them with refreshments.Even if this marriage is finalized. Most of the sales targets of the name Ruifuxiang are rich and noble ladies, and home delivery is a kind of "extraordinary" promotion method of Ruifuxiang.The so-called delivery also means "giving someone away".The delivery staff is a handsome young man with a sharp tongue and neat grooming, which is different from ordinary delivery workers.When they go in and out of mansions, the ladies and ladies not only look at the goods, but also the people. If the people are pleasing to the eye, the goods are naturally pleasing to the eye, and the merchants ultimately benefit.It is inevitable that when you meet a lady who is not comfortable in the room, you will think of a delivery person. During the Japanese Puppet Period, Zou Quansun, the chairman of the Peking Puppet Chamber of Commerce, had a concubine who hid in Zhongnanhai.Because Zou has several mansions and is entangled in "official affairs", he cannot visit his concubine every day.Concubine Zou took advantage of the opportunity of shopping in Ruifuxiang to hook up with a delivery man surnamed Meng.When Meng Mou left, he left his coat at Zou's concubine, which was discovered by Zou.A few days later, Zou called Ruifuxiang to ask if someone had delivered the goods to his home, and he replied that Meng had already gone.Zou Sui hurried back, bumped into him, and in a panic raised his cane to beat him. Meng knew he was in the wrong, so he ran away with his head in his arms.Zou Quansun then sent his concubine out with several thousand counterfeit coins, and Zou concubine took Meng to Shanghai to live together, and soon had a new love, and abandoned Meng Ruyi. During the Anti-Japanese War, Gu Zhutong served as the commander-in-chief of the third war zone, and the commander-in-chief was located in Meilin, more than ten kilometers away from Tunxi. In the summer of 1938, the Minister’s Ministry sent a car to pick up a theater troupe from Wenzhou. The two actresses were sisters. The older one was called Mei Sujuan and the younger one was called Hua Xiuqin. .Mei Sujuan sang operas for more than ten days, but suddenly disappeared and her whereabouts are unknown.Two months later, Hua Xiuqin also quietly left. It turned out that not long after Mei Sujuan arrived in Tunxi, she went to the Chief's Department to sing two heavenly meetings, and was caught by Gu Zhu's eyes.Shangguan Yunxiang, Zou Wenhua, etc. matched their preferences, and they took Mei Sujuan as Gu Zhutong's concubine, found a small mansion in Qianshan, and sent a major adjutant named Wu Baoshu to take care of it from time to time.Soon, Mei became pregnant.This incident inevitably reached the ears of Xu Wenrong, Gu's wife in Chongqing. After hearing about it, Xu rushed to Shangrao (at this time, the chief of the Third War Zone had moved to Shangrao), directly approached Wu Baoshu, and put pressure on Wu Baoshu. Wu was forced to tell the truth. Take Xu to the small mansion. When Xu Wenrong saw Mei Sujuan, she first had a sweet talk, opened her mouth and closed her mouth to address her as "sister", and said angrily: "Mo San (Gu Zhutong's word Mo San) is too unreasonable. I am wronged for not notifying me of such a big matter. I have a younger sister. Now you are pregnant again, it is really a blessing for our Gu family." Said Mei Sujuan elated.The next day, Xu Duan brought a bowl of medicine, saying that it was an anti-fetal medicine brought from Chongqing, which was extremely expensive, and that my sister took it and it was good for the fetus.Naturally, she was convinced and drank it immediately.Seeing this, Xu said, "Take a good rest, and I'll come see you again." This was actually a dose of abortifacient with additives. Mei Sujuan and her unborn baby were poisoned to death soon after taking it.Xu Wenrong returned to Chongqing without meeting Gu, and reported the matter to Chiang Kai-shek.Later, Jiang called Gu, saying that the prostitute Mei Sujuan was suspected of being a major enemy agent, and "find Gu Fu quickly." When Song Xilian was stationed in Kunming, his wife kept him under strict supervision.One day when Song came back late, his wife interrogated why, and Song replied, "I went to play poker." At that time, a poker gambling game called "Suoha" was popular.His wife still didn't believe it, so Song Shun took out a stack of tickets from his pocket and said, "This is the money I won." Song's wife grabbed it and threw it into the stove to burn.It is said that later Chiang Kai-shek reprimanded Song Xilian: "Your wife burned all the notes! How much money do you have?" During the Anti-Japanese War, Chen Lifu wanted to introduce Kong Lingjun, the second daughter of Kong Xiangxi, to Hu Zongnan as his wife.Hu first learned from Dai Li, and the "information" he got was that Miss Kong Er was romantic by nature and had bad conduct.Later Kong Lingjun went on a blind date in Xi'an, and Hu Zongnan disguised himself and went to Kong's residence to "reconnaissance" first. He saw that Kong behaved clumsily and looked scary.I also heard that Kong often disguised himself as a man, with short hair and suits, and he was indistinguishable from male and female, and full of evil spirits.Hu Sui completely gave up the idea of ​​marrying Kong, and avoided seeing him by reasoning that the military affairs were tense.Later, Hu wrote to Chen Lifu in this way: "When the country is in crisis, when our soldiers are fighting against the enemy and aggression, and serving the battlefield, the Huns are not destroyed, so why should we do our home?" Wei Yongcheng is Li Zongren's cousin, and he was called "Guangxi Pan'an" when he was young.When he was studying in Germany, he met Chiang Kai-shek's niece. Miss Jiang took the initiative to pursue Wei, and Wei was up for grabs.At that time, Jiang's father was also unwilling to marry his daughter to a Guangxi guy, but Miss Jiang was very likely to refuse to marry.During the Anti-Japanese War, Wei Yongcheng was the head of the department in Anhui, and Ms. Jiang ran from Shanghai to Anhui to marry Wei.The two opposing political groups, Jiang Gui, then got married.Later, when they ran for the vice president, they became a couple that both parties wanted to win over, but both were on guard.Wei Zeng provided some important "information" to Li Zongren's side. Before and after Jiang Song's marriage, the county magistrate of Fenghua was Xu Zhigui.One day, Xu’s classmate Zhang Minghao went to visit him. Xu said to Zhang mysteriously, “It’s a coincidence that you came here. Let me show you something.” As he spoke, he took out a document from his office drawer. Zhang took a closer look, and it turned out that It is the divorce agreement between Chiang Kai-shek and his original partner Mao Fumei.Xu Zhigui said with a smile: "My master is lucky to handle this eternal case." Zhang joked: "If your master approves the word 'not allowed' on this divorce certificate, he will definitely be famous through the ages!" Once, Chiang Kai-shek and Song Meiling took a black limousine from Zhenhai Airport to Xikou.A attendant in the same car recalled that during the 80-minute drive, the two talked and laughed happily.Song Meiling made a bet with Chiang Kai-shek: "Whoever sees the Jiangkou Tower first wins." After a while, Jiang said: "I saw it first." Song refused to admit defeat, saying: "I saw it a long time ago." When walking on Xuedou Mountain, they often go back and forth between Miaogao Terrace and Xianglianggang hand in hand. During the Anti-Japanese War, Jiang Weiguo was the company commander in the south of Hu Zong.When enemy planes attacked Xi'an, Jiang Weiguo met Shi Jingyi, the daughter of Shi Fengxiang, chairman of Xi'an Dahua Textile Company, in the air-raid shelter.The two came and went back and forth, which was interesting.Ms. Shi is plain-looking and dark-skinned.One of her merits is that she was born in a wealthy family, but she never embellished herself.She doesn't wear high heels or paint, and the blue woolen coat she wears is also produced in her own factory.Another merit of her is that she is gentle, considerate, and understanding.When the two got married, Dai Li came all the way to attend the wedding with Hu Zongnan. Kong Xiangxi's eldest daughter, Kong Lingyi, rejected all the partners introduced to her by her family, and chose Chen Jisi, a graduate of St. John's University.Chen's father was a music conductor in a dance hall in Shanghai. Kong Xiangxi and his wife felt that Chen's family background was not good enough, and he was not good enough to be a good family partner, so they always disagreed with this marriage.Miss Kong didn't care about this, and went to the United States with Chen Yuan, and the two got married in New York.Kong Xiangxi and his wife saw that the deal was done, so they had to acquiesce, and sent a dowry by air. Unfortunately, the plane crashed, which attracted criticism from the society. Kong Xiangxi's son Kong Lingkan wanted to marry Song Ziwen's wife and sister.Song Ailing thought it was inappropriate for a son to marry his uncle's sister-in-law.Kong Lingkan said: "My uncle belongs to my uncle, and I am his brother-in-law for his sister-in-law." When Liang Bin, the author of "Red Flag Spectrum", was young, someone came to his home to propose a marriage, and it was a 16-year-old girl from a neighboring village.The mother asked his second brother to inquire about it. After the second brother went, he saw a fisherman at the entrance of the village and asked the girl how she looked.The fisherman said, "How does it look? Just have a nose and eyes!" When Liang Bin was young, he fell in love with a girl named Yunying in the same village. When he was free, he sat on the big log opposite her house, and he could see the steps of Yunying's house.Sometimes Yunying passed by on the steps and turned her head to smile at him before entering the door, which often made Liang Bin's heart beat.Liang Bin wrote in his memoirs in his later years: "Decades have passed since this incident, and now it is very rare, and my children and grandchildren are in groups. I still think of her in my heart. The two places are separated, and it is difficult to see each other! I put this This kind of suspense is written in "Red Flag Spectrum" and "Beacon Smoke Picture". In July 1933, Hu Feng returned to China from Japan and lived in Shanghai Shigaota Road.One afternoon, there was a knock on the back door of Han's house. Mrs. Han Qi threw the key upstairs, but it broke, so she had to go downstairs to open the door.It was Lou Shiyi who came in, followed by a little girl whose name was Tu Qihua after being introduced by Han Qi.At that time, Tu was wearing a light blue short cheongsam, with short hair, and looked very energetic, which left an excellent impression on Hu Feng.She was later Hu Feng's wife, Mei Zhi. After Yu Dafu and Wang Yingxia got married, they often walked the streets together.Looking at it coldly, there is a gorgeous and graceful young woman, accompanied by a frail and thin man in a blue cloth gown, similar to a young lady in a mansion wandering the streets with her servants. Sichuan warlord Yang Sen has a bunch of concubines, but young men and women are not allowed to fall in love freely and walk together on the street.At that time, Shu Xincheng, a member of the Young China Society, was teaching in Chengdu, with an emancipated mind and fashionable clothes.One day, he was walking hand in hand with his girlfriend when Yang Sen bumped into him.Yang went back and immediately ordered Shu Xincheng to be arrested, and even threatened to shoot Shu.Writer Li Jieren hid Shu Xincheng at home for three days and three nights after hearing the news, and then sent Shu out of Sichuan in disguise. The poet Zang Kejia said in a memoir: Zhang Zongchang "had dozens of aunts and wives, compiled into numbers." Writer Huang Yaomian recalled: "A girl once gave me a photo with the words on the back: 'Look, she is smiling for you.' She is a very cute girl. But because I was poor, I still smiled. Thanks for her smile." Lan Ni is a well-known social butterfly in Shanghai and was once Sun Ke's mistress.During the Anti-Japanese War, she obtained a considerable amount of unknown property. After the victory, it was confiscated as property of the enemy and puppets.Lan Ni approached Sun Ke, then the Legislative President, for help, and Sun wrote to relevant officials in Shanghai to intercede for Lan Ni.In the letter, Lan Ni was referred to as "my family", which was a joke for a while.Later, when Sun Ke and Li Zongren ran for vice president, Huang Shaohong even wrote an article in the newspaper under the title of "My Wife Lanny" to shake Sun Ke's old background. After the first wife of scholar Qian Mu died of illness, Jin Songcen, a friend of Wujiang, introduced Qian to his niece from the clan, who was once a school belle of Southeast University.After the two exchanged letters several times, they met at Jin's house.The woman told Jin Songcen: Mr. Qian is fine as a teacher, but not a husband. Yu Dafu couldn't keep his eyes off women.In the 1920s, he traveled to Suzhou and went around the Xuanmiao Temple, saying that there were only two impressive impressions.One of them was three or five young girls buying flutes at a flute shop in Guanqian Street. Yu Dafu stood by and stared blankly for a while, and they also returned Yu's glances. During Wu Mi's study abroad in the United States, she was introduced by her classmates to Chen Xinyi, a girl from Hangzhou whom she had never met.At that time, Wu Mi and Zhu Junyi, a classmate from Tsinghua University who went to the United States together, are brothers and sisters, and Zhu's fiancée Mao Yanwen and Chen Xinyi are classmates of Zhejiang Women's Teacher.Wu Mi then entrusted Mao Yanwen to inquire about Chen Xinyi's details. After some investigation, Mao replied: "Ms. Chen is an old-fashioned woman, and she is most suitable to be a good wife and mother. Her skin is slightly dark, and her temperament seems to be very gentle. If Wu Jun wants to marry A good housewife who can manage the family, Ms. Chen seems to be very suitable; if Wu Jun wants to marry a fashionable woman who is good at communication and English, he should choose another." After Wu Mi returned to China and married Chen Xinyi, she fell in love with Zeng again. Mao Yanwen, who inspected his fiancée on his behalf. After Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi divorced, Mao Yanwen analyzed: "Wu (Mi) seems to have an imaginary woman in his mind. This woman should be as good as him in both Chinese and English, and also have a deep literary attainment, who can sing harmony with him. Poetry must also be good at eloquence, being able to deal with his friends and colleagues, and being able to talk about the past and the present among them. These are not Ms. Chen's expertise, so their marriage finally broke down. This is the misfortune of both parties, but Wu Ying Take full responsibility. If it is said that they are a wrong combination, this mistake is caused by Wu alone." Mao Yanwen said that the woman Wu Mi imagined in his mind was actually referring to himself. After the scholar Jiang Liangfu graduated from Tsinghua University, he went to Shanghai to teach, met Miss Tao, and talked about marriage.The woman came from a wealthy family, and the family didn't know the potential of a poor scholar. The condition was that Jiang must go abroad for gold plating, otherwise the marriage contract would not be fulfilled.Jiang resolutely studied in France for love, and returned to China after three years, and the two finally got married.Jiang later became a famous scholar, and his wife was gentle and quiet. When Zhu Ziqing was 25 years old, he wrote a famous article, a paragraph of which involved his views on prostitutes: "First, in a popular sense, approaching prostitutes is finally an improper behavior; second, prostitution is an unsound profession. For them, we should have a heart of mourning but not joy, and should not listen to their songs for fun." In 1940, Dai Wangshu's wife Mu Lijuan decided to divorce him.Therefore, Dai Wangshu issued a "Letter of Death" to her, saying: "From the day we had a reason to get married, I foresee that this marriage will bring us endless troubles. But I have been thinking, maybe you will love me in the future .Now that the illusion is destroyed, I choose to die..." But Dai Wangshu finally did not die. The scholar Xie Guozhen traveled to Hangzhou when he was in his twenties. When he was wandering in Geling near the West Lake, he met two old men, one of whom was surnamed Li, who was said to know physiognomy. Xie asked him to show him.Li said: "Mr. Xie is very good-looking, and he will definitely have good luck for twenty years in the future, but there is one thing, if it is not good...it will be even better." Xie immediately asked, "How is it?" Li said hesitantly "It would be even better if I don't get seduced by women when I'm thirty-five or six years old." Xie said, "I don't want to whore girls, so what are you afraid of?" Hurt the personality, so what are you afraid of! I'm afraid it's a woman who doesn't spend money!" More than ten years later, Xie Ji turned 40, and laughed at himself: "I hope that one day the opportunity will come, but it didn't until the 32nd year of the Republic of China. I haven't met one thing yet, I am really an old scholar, and the opportunity will not come." In the 1920s and 1930s, the criteria for choosing a spouse for female students in Beijing was compiled into a catchphrase: "Peking University is old, Teachers University is poor, Tsinghua University and Yanjing University are flexible." Liu Haisu described his second wife in this way: "At that time, a married girl was very beautiful compared to ordinary girls. Her face, body shape, demeanor, and charm were all beautiful." He left his wife and children to go to Nanyang because of the living expenses. Later, he got married and left his children, and eloped with Liu Haisu's collection of paintings and works. Painter Ye Qianyu's first marriage was not happy, and her wife Luo Caiyun was illiterate, so the emotional distance between the two can be imagined.During that time, Ye often drank his sorrows with alcohol, so a third party of the female painter Liang Baibo stepped in.Ye Liang's affair was later discovered by Luo. According to Ye's later recollection, Luo Caiyun "like an anti-smuggling policeman, tracking and attacking us at any time. I remember that she 'attacked' twice in 1936. Once in a pavilion in Shanghai, her daughter's nanny They scouted and tracked us down and captured us. Luo Caiyun pretended to be his wife and humiliated Bai Bo as his concubine. I was so panicked and at a loss. Another time in Nanjing, Luo Caiyun brought her father here and forced me to make a decision in person. I was led by the nose to send their father and daughter back to Shanghai, and a lawyer testified and wrote a letter of guarantee." After liberation, Ye and Luo officially went through the divorce procedures, but during the "Cultural Revolution" Luo was still under Ye's control. She was implicated and suffered, and died after taking sleeping pills. Before she died, she said to her daughter: "You Ye family have caused me so much suffering!" When Ye Ting proposed to Li Xiuwen, Li's family was well-off, and Li's father proposed two conditions for marriage: first, Ye must be the leader of the regiment; responsible for their retirement.Later, the Ye family bought a house in Macau with the money, rented another house, and guaranteed the daily expenses of the family. Hu Jieqing recalled: During the winter vacation in 1930, Lao She returned to Beijing. "Luo Xintian invited me and Lao She to have a meal at home, and then, Mr. Bai Dizhou and Mr. Dong Luan also invited me to have dinner with him. Of course, these meals were arranged by the master intentionally. The two of us The guest also understood in his heart. After eating these meals, he wrote the first letter to me. He said: We can’t always meet each other by eating other people’s meals. Speak out. He first said what was in his heart. After returning to Jinan, he sent me at least one letter every day, sometimes two or three letters." Liang Sicheng said: "My father (Liang Qichao) gave the family's financial power to the first lady and his love to the second lady." Scholar Zhang Dainian said to his daughter-in-law in his later years: "When you were young, your mother's hands were cold and mine were hot; now, it's her hands that are hot and mine are cold." Liang Shuming's niece and son-in-law are also his favorite students. When they got married, Liang said something that husband and wife should respect each other as guests, and gave an example: "For example, when I first got married, I was very respectful to her (Ms. Liang Shuming), and she was very respectful to me. Sometimes I stay up late at night because I am preparing for lectures, and she also stays with me. If I always say thank you to make tea for me, she must be polite. Because respect is relative and balanced..." The words did not say After that, his wife suddenly yelled loudly: "What are you talking about? Nonsense! No matter what you put into your mouth, it becomes philosophy!..." Lin Yutang and his wife have a very good relationship, and they naturally have a tacit understanding in life, and they know each other well.Once at a party, Lin arrived first, and there were footsteps of leather shoes outside the back door. Upon hearing the sound of leather shoes, Lin listened and said, "Here she is!" Writer Zhao Jingshen recalled that before his second marriage, his friend Qian Gechuan and his wife Ling Licha went to Zhao’s house to see the bride.少见的。歌川的肤色也很白皙，略为隆起的希腊式的鼻子，与丽茶真是一对璧人。” 抗战时期，学者舒湮住在重庆。某个周末他去歌乐山，等公共汽车返回时，舒湮牙疼加剧，恰巧附近有一家医院，便去求诊。一个姓吴的值班女医生接待了他，说是周日不门诊，把他回了。舒湮不死心，说：“我是特地从重庆赶来求诊的。倘若在此地过夜，明天再来，实在有些不大方便，请通融一下吧。”吴小姐便为他拔了牙。舒湮以为拔牙很疼，没想到吴小姐医术高妙，牙拔下来的时候，舒湮竟然不知道。他说：“我宁愿牙齿多坏几颗！”这一通融，正如舒湮所愿。后来，两人在重庆举办婚礼，证婚人是张元济。张在婚礼上说，舒湮的先人冒辟疆当年带着董小宛去过他的老家——浙江海盐。 胡适说：“陆小曼与徐志摩的关系只有少数人能够了解，还有几个人是'完全了解'，而我就是'完全了解'。” 诗人杨骚和白薇约定，等他在新加坡嫖妓过百，真正懂得女人之后，两人再结婚，白薇居然同意。杨是否嫖娼过百不得而知，但他确因此染上了一身性病。 章克标回忆说：“林语堂逢场作戏地在交际场中，也会吃花酒，叫条子了，也懂得长三堂子的韵味了。他还十分赏识那时的名妓富春楼老六，好像还为她写过捧场、赞美的文字。他穿着长袍马褂，伴陪了交际花、名妓到高级跳舞厅婆娑起舞或坐听音乐，也感到兴趣不恶了。” 茅盾在回忆录《我走过的道路》中，只字未提秦德君其人，但在茅盾的一生中，这是一个抹不去的名字。大革命失败后，茅盾和秦德君同船避往日本，在京都同居。1930年又一起回国，仍同居数月。秦德君曾为茅盾两次堕胎，一次自杀（未遂）。 郁达夫和王映霞结婚后，曹聚仁对徐懋庸说：“一个瘦的诗人，配上一个结实的美人，一定要时常牙齿疼，终于闹离婚。”曹聚仁下这个断言还有一个理由，他说过：诗人住在历史上是一个仙人，住在楼上就是一个疯子。后来郁王终于闹翻，演成悲剧。曹聚仁又和黎烈文说：“这是对才子佳人型恋爱的最大讽刺。” 苏曼殊好逛妓院，但他找的姑娘没一个和他有床笫私情。这是典型的目中有妓，心中无妓。 章亚若风情万种，在认识蒋经国以前，已经有过三次婚姻。蒋经国任职赣南时，一次左右公宴蒋经国，章亚若也在座。喝到最后，只剩蒋章二人，章亚若便成了蒋经国的爱人。章后来怀孕，因难产而死。据说章死不瞑目，一直等到蒋介石从重庆来电话，左右传话给她听：“老人承认她是他的媳妇。”章才闭目。 阮玲玉自杀后，影迷迁怒于她的情人唐季珊。唐原为华茶公司经理，阮死后唐竟致不敢在上海住下去。后唐迁往昆山时，头等二等车也都不敢坐，穿一件破布衫挤在三等车上。 陈碧兰原为黄日葵的妻子，到莫斯科东方大学留学时被罗亦农追到手，两人在莫斯科同居。回国后，陈碧兰又与彭述之发生恋情，据说在喜宴上，萧楚女曾当众问陈：你下次什么时候再请我们吃这样的喜酒呢？罗亦农后又找了个新爱人——诸友伦，诸原为贺昌之妻，贺去莫斯科开会时，诸与罗同居。诸后来也去了莫斯科。1927年罗亦农在武汉得知诸有伦与自己脱离关系后，又与李哲时同居。罗亦农牺牲后，其遗体为李哲时收殓。 梁漱溟曾这样描述自己的原配夫人：“她的衣履装饰，极不合时样，气度像个男子，同她的姐姐伍夫人站在一起，颜色比姐姐反见老大。凡女子可以引动男子之点，在她可说全没有。就在这匆匆一面后，我们便订了婚。”1934年，梁漱溟夫人因难产而死，梁又写道：“我和她结婚十多年，我不认识她，她也不认识我。正因为我不认识她，她不认识我，使我可以多一些时间思索，多一些时间工作。现在她死了，死了也好，处在这样的国家，这样的社会，她死了使我可以多一些时间思索，多一些时间工作。” 梁漱溟的一个学生结婚，梁写一条幅赠送：“男女居室，西人言爱，中国主敬，敬则爱斯久矣。” 1923年夏天，有妇之夫胡适与未婚女青年曹诚英在杭州烟霞洞同居数月，曹诚英对诗人汪静之说：“我们在烟霞洞真像神仙一样，快活死了！” 朱毅农一直单恋胡适，后因精神失常入院。1930年10月20日，胡适去医院探望朱毅农，朱告诉胡适：“我是为了想你发疯的。” 沈从文当年拼命追求张兆和，留下不少故事。沈是中国公学的老师，张是英语系的学生。一天张带着一大包沈写给她的情书去见胡适校长，张举出沈信中的一句话：“我不仅爱你的灵魂，我也要你的肉体。”认为这是对她的侮辱，请校长给她做主。胡适皱着眉头听张陈述后，温和而诚恳地对她说：“我劝你嫁给他。”但沈骨子里似乎并非一个感情专一的人，把张追到手后，他又惹出多起婚外恋来。沈曾对友人说：“打猎要打狮子，摘要摘天上的星星，追求要追漂亮的女人。” 闻一多的一个朋友婚后移情别恋，家庭濒临散伙。闻一多劝他：“你何必如此呢？你爱她，你是爱她的美貌，你为什么不把她当做一幅画像一座雕塑那样去看待呢？” 林语堂在谈到许广平与鲁迅相爱时说：“许女士爱他，是爱他的思想文字，绝不会爱他那副骨相。” 大革命时期，黄慕兰、范志超等在武汉工作，同住一个宿舍，她们都是单身，且年轻漂亮能干，在武汉三镇很有名。一些单身男士天天晚上往她们的宿舍跑，赖着不走。瞿秋白的弟弟瞿景白也在死追范志超，瞿景白是塌鼻子，瞿秋白对他说：“在你没有把鼻子修好以前，还是不要急着追求范。”瞿景白把这番话写在信中传递给范志超，范在信上批道：女人要求于男人的并不是鼻子。把信退了回去。瞿景白逢人便展示范的“批语”，以致很多人半开玩笑地问范志超：女人要求于男人的到底是什么呢？ 大革命失败后，茅盾和范志超从九江同船潜回上海。两人不敢随意走动，就在船舱内闲聊。范志超告诉茅盾，她没有爱过任何人，当年嫁给朱季恂并非出于爱情，而是工作需要。范还让茅盾看黄琪翔（时为张发奎部军长）写给她的许多情书。茅盾读后感慨道：想不到黄琪翔能写如此缠绵的情书。 学者罗尔纲说：“我和张兆和同班，还同选过一门只有七个人选的《说文》，却从来没有说过一句话。” 学者钱端升年轻时与陈公蕙谈恋爱，两人酝酿结婚时，闹了一回别扭，陈负气而去，回了天津。梁思成会开汽车，钱端升便求梁开车追，车内除了钱、梁，还有林徽因和金岳霖。四个名人开车追到天津，结局自然是两人重归于好，不久，陈公蕙就成了钱太太。 上世纪30年代，季羡林在清华读书，他当年写的日记后来以《清华园日记》出版，作者对原稿未做任何改动，当中不乏涉及男女的内心表白。如：“1932年12月1日，过午看同志成中学赛足球和女子篮球。所谓看女子篮球者实在就是去看大腿。说真的，不然的话，谁还去看呢？”“12月21日，看清华对附中女子篮球赛。说实话，看女人打篮球，其实不是去看篮（球），是在看大腿。附中女同学大腿倍儿黑，只看半场而返。”“1933年12月2日，过午看女子篮球赛，不是去看想［打］篮球，我想，只是去看大腿。”“1934年5月10日，晚上，有人请客，在合作社喝酒，一直喝到九点，我也喝了几杯。以后又到王红豆（即王岷源，红豆乃混蛋的对音）屋去闲聊，从运动扯起，一直扯到女人，女人的性器官，以及一切想象之辞，于是皆大欢喜，回屋睡觉。”“今天（5月17日）看了一部旧小说《石点头》，短篇的，描写并不怎样秽亵，但不知为什么，总容易引起我的性欲。我今生没有别的希望，我只希望，能多日几个女人，（和）各地方的女人接触。” 吴宓任清华教授时，曾疯狂追求毛彦文，甚至在报上发表爱情诗，当中有“吴宓苦爱毛彦文，九州四海共惊闻”之句，有人请金岳霖去劝劝吴宓。金就去对吴宓说：“你的诗如何我们不懂。但是，内容是你的爱情，并涉及毛彦文，这就不是公开发表的事情。这是私事情。私事情是不应该在报纸上宣传的。我们天天早晨上厕所，可是，我们并不为此而宣传。”吴宓听了很生气，说：“我的爱情不是上厕所。”金岳霖说：“我没有说它是上厕所，我说的是私事不应该宣传。” 金岳霖喜欢对对子，他针对梁思成、林徽因夫妇作过一个对联：“梁上君子，林下美人。”梁思成听了很高兴，说：“我就是要做'梁上君子'，不然我怎么能打开一条新的研究道路，岂不还是纸上谈兵吗？”林徽因听了很不高兴，说：“真讨厌，什么美人不美人，好像一个女人没有什么事可以做似的，我还有好些事情要做呢！” 金岳霖终身未娶，也有人说他是为了林徽因终身不娶。林洙曾著文谈及这件事：“我曾经问过梁公，金岳霖为林徽因终生不娶的事。梁公笑了笑说：'我们住在总布胡同的时候，老金就住在我们家后院，但另有旁门出入。可能是1931年，我从宝坻调查回来，徽因见到我哭丧着脸说，她苦恼极了，因为她同时爱上了两个人，不知怎么办才好。她和我谈话时一点不像妻子对丈夫谈话，却像个小妹妹在请哥哥拿主意。听到这事我半天说不出话，一种无法形容的痛苦紧紧地抓住了我，我感到血液也凝固了，连呼吸都困难。但我感谢徽因，她没有把我当一个傻丈夫，她对我是坦白和信任的。我想了一夜该怎么办？我问自己，徽因到底和我幸福还是和老金一起幸福？我把自己、老金和徽因三个人反复放在天平上衡量。我觉得尽管自己在文学艺术各方面有一定的修养，但我缺少老金那哲学家的头脑，我认为自己不如老金，于是第二天，我把想了一夜的结论告诉徽因。我说她是自由的，如果她选择了老金，祝愿他们永远幸福。我们都哭了。当徽因把我的话告诉老金时，老金的回答是：“看来思成是真正爱你的，我不能去伤害一个真正爱你的人。我应该退出。”从那次谈话以后，我再没有和徽因谈过这件事。因为我知道老金是个说到做到的人，徽因也是个诚实的人。'” 徐悲鸿与蒋碧微当年属于“私奔”式的结合。徐在暗中筹划离开上海时，给蒋碧微做了许多衣服，花色、料子和样式，全部按照自己的审美观挑选，蒋碧微后来很满意，说：“他是艺术家，懂得色调的搭配和式样的合宜。” 徐悲鸿任中央大学教授时，与一个名为邵可侣的法国人为邻。徐看邵是外国人，只身在中国，生活不便，便请他来家里吃饭，并声明不收费用。一次徐去上海，邵可侣和蒋碧微同桌吃饭时，突然抓住蒋碧微的手，蒋很惊骇，因为以邵平时的为人，不应该有这样的举动。蒋碧微不动声色地轻轻把手抽回，平静地起身，退出餐厅。后来邵到北平教书，一次来南京，去看徐悲鸿夫妇，徐不在家，当时徐蒋之间的感情已出现裂痕，邵也已知道，他对蒋说：“你为什么不到北平来，你知道那里有一个朋友，他愿意照料你和安慰你。” 1926年底，任教于中山大学的郁达夫打算离开广州，12月3日晚，几个学生给他饯行，女作家白薇同座。郁达夫喝多了，散席后又和白薇等去看电影。出电影院仍未酒醒。郁达夫在日记中说：“路上起了危险是幻想，因为时候太迟了，所以送白薇到门口的一段路上，紧张到了万分，是决定一出大悲喜剧的楔子，总算还好。送她到家，只在门口迟疑了一会，终于扬声别去。”十天后，他又在日记中写道：“白薇去了，想起来和她这几日的同游，也有点伤感。可怜她也已经过了青春，此后正不晓得她将如何结局。” 郁达夫从广州回到上海后，1927年1月13日从邮局取回其妻孙荃从北京寄来的皮袍子，在当天的日记里感慨道：“我想顶好还是早日回北京去，去和她抱头痛哭一场。”第二天，“午前洗了身，换了小褂裤，试穿我女人自北京寄来的寒衣。”没想到中午去一个同乡家串门，“在那里遇见了杭州的王映霞女士，我的心又被她搅乱了，此事当竭力的进行，求得和她做一个永久的朋友。”“中午我请客，请他们痛饮了一场，我也醉了，醉了，啊啊，可爱的映霞，我在这里想她，不知她可能也在那里忆我？”次日，郁达夫在日记里说：“荃君（郁达夫妻）信来，嘱我谨慎为人，殊不知我又在为王女士颠倒。” 林语堂是福建漳州人，父亲是牧师，家里没钱。他在上海圣约翰大学读书时，回乡常去一友人家串门，看上了友人的妹妹，但友人的父亲却替他妹妹相中一个富户的少爷。隔壁也是林语堂的朋友，也有个妹妹。林应邀去其家吃饭，席间总觉得有一双眼睛在偷看他，那便是他以后的妻子廖翠凤。她后来告诉他，在计算他吃几碗饭。廖家很有钱，两人结婚前，廖母告诉女儿，林家很穷。廖翠凤答：“贫穷算不了什么。”婚后两人定居上海，林语堂征得妻子同意，把结婚证书给烧了。他说：“把证书烧掉，只有离婚才用得着。” 蒋百里任保定军校校长时，感到北洋政府陆军部“遇事掣肘”。1913年6月17日，蒋从北京回来，生了一肚子气，一时激愤加郁闷，写下遗书。次日清晨，他集合学生训话后，突然拔枪自杀，幸好身边的一个差弁眼疾手快，冲上去夺枪，致子弹没有击中要害，保住了性命。袁世凯请来日本医生和护士为蒋疗伤。蒋于养病中与日本护士左梅（左藤屋子）产生感情，后结为夫妻。钱学森夫人蒋英即二人之女。 作家孙犁称自己的婚姻是“封建婚姻”，与完全的“封建婚姻”所不同者，是婚前他见过妻子一面。孙犁回忆说：“定婚后，她们村里唱大戏，我正好放假在家里。她们村有我的一个远房姑姑，特意来叫我去看戏，说是可以相相媳妇。开戏的那天，我去了，姑姑在戏台下等我。她拉着我的手，走到一条长板凳跟前。板凳上，并排站着三个大姑娘，都穿得花枝招展，留着大辫子……我看见站在板凳中间的那个姑娘，用力盯了我一眼，从板凳上跳下来，走到照棚外面，钻进了一辆轿车。” 沈从文追求张兆和时，张父住上海，张在苏州，沈则在青岛。沈从文写信给张兆和：“如爸爸同意，就早点让我知道，让我这个乡下人喝杯甜酒吧。”张兆和在得到父亲明确的意见后，和三姐张允和一同去邮局给沈从文各发了一个电报。张允和的电报只取自己名字中的一个字：“允。”张兆和在电报纸上写了一句话：“乡下人，喝杯甜酒吧。”邮局职员对电文感到诧异，问张兆和是什么意思。张有些不好意思地说：“你甭管，照拍好了。” 画家陈巨来年轻时爱上一女，但没追到手，便请友人张大千画一仕女，聊以寄意。张大千慨然应允，画一女凭轩远眺，窈窕多姿。画后张自己也认为这是平生得意之作。 苏曼殊一次与友人但懋辛在上海某戏院看戏，邻座为一少妇，仪态妩媚，因注目台上，没留神两指间香烟落下来的烟灰落在苏曼殊的新西装上。但懋辛嗅到焦灼的气味，急呼苏曼殊，苏则置之不理。少妇觉出后嫣然一笑，冲苏曼殊道歉，苏也报以一笑。散场后，苏曼殊反怪但懋辛煞风景，说：“为了绝世美人，损及一衣，算得了什么，何必大惊小怪！” 钱锺书曾受一个朋友委托，去撮合他与另一个女朋友的关系，见到那姑娘后，钱声明来意，开台便说了第一个理由：那位男朋友学问顶好。正待说第二个和第三个理由时，姑娘打断了他的话，清冷地笑道：“假使学问好便该嫁他，大学文科老教授里有的是鳏夫。” 作家黄裳在天津公学读小学时，一天刚进校门，就被老校工喊住，说有个女学生忘了带语文课本，要借他的用一下，下课后归还。校工不等黄裳表态就从他的书包里把书拿去，说：“你就甭管了，下课来拿书。”下课后黄从校工手里取走还回来的书，坐在教室打开课本时，发现书里夹着一个“巧妙地叠起来的花纸方胜”。等到下课，黄裳才悄悄打开来看，纸条上是铅笔写的一行小字：“我爱你，你爱我吗？”黄裳年纪虽小，却没有把这件事告诉任何人，他说：“后来上学时虽曾多次留心，但终于无法发现写字条的到底是谁。” 广东才女冼玉清毕业于岭南大学，后留校教书。有人形容她“容颜艳丽，才华超卓”，曾倾倒一时豪杰。面对无数追求者，她都不为所动，但并不假以辞色，曾赋诗云：“香饵自投鱼自远，笑他终日举竿忙。”这诗句传诵一时，虽吓退众人，到头来也坑了自己。冼终因美人迟暮，落了个没嫁出去的下场。她后来对自己年轻时的傲气颇多悔意，又赋诗云：“花开花落无人管，惆怅春风又一年。” 龚稼农曾与胡蝶同演电影。龚毕业于中央大学，能游泳、会骑术，人品演技都很出色，博得不少当红女演员的好感，其中也包括胡蝶。胡曾托人去南京摸龚稼农家的底细，得悉龚家世代书香，家道古风，当年西园三支铁笔，龚家即其中之一。龚稼农当时已结婚多年，不可能再和胡蝶谈婚论嫁。不过有人认为，于此可见胡蝶为人正派之一斑。 郁达夫与王映霞的婚姻没维持几年，就遭遇了第三者插足。所谓“第三者”，是曾为浙江省教育厅长的许绍棣，郁达夫自然对此耿耿于怀，说：“现在他比我有名，再过五十年，我们两个齐名，再过一百年，我比他有名。” 学者黄侃性轻狂，蔑视伦理，一生结婚九次，有“黄侃文章走天下，好色之甚，非吾母，非吾女，可妻也”之说。章太炎的夫人汤国梨曾回忆黄侃骗婚黄绍兰一事，致其一生流离失所，直斥黄为“无耻之尤的衣冠禽兽”，“小有才适足以济其奸”。 1927年初，鲁迅即将离开厦门到广州，执教中山大学，他写信给已在广州的许广平：“想来二十日以前，总可以到广州了。你的工作的地方，那时当能设法，我想即同在一校也无妨，偏要同在一校，管他妈的。”