Chapter 14 Chapter 13: Not Promising and Not Letting Go

It's really crazy, isn't spring the season for falling in love?Why are so many people breaking up?The most exaggerated day, I just heard a buddy confess his love history in the morning, and watched the seven-foot man couldn't help crying at the bottom of his words, which was heartbreaking. At noon, he received a call from another friend, and when he came up, he wailed, "We broke up!" People with a good temperament should know the principle of "persuading to unite but not to disperse".At my age, I have more or less experienced emotional things, and it is worth cherishing to know that someone loves you and you happen to love him.I'm not used to talking about "love" with people, and

I'm not very good at comforting pensions. Whenever I encounter things like breaking up with friends, I will suggest: "Give everyone another chance, let go if it really doesn't work, don't leave any regrets." I also learned this point of view.In fact, I also had a different opinion.If there is already a problem with love, what good is it to keep it?It just prolongs everyone's suffering and magnifies each other's pain.However, when I got older and watched a lot, I realized that too few emotions are completely immune, and there is no problem at all.If there is any disagreement, break up, I am afraid that I will fall into a lifetime of loneliness.

Is the cleanliness of love a good habit?I think everyone has the right to choose their own philosophy of love.As long as you want, you can spend your whole life pursuing it with perfectionism, and you can't say that this is the frivolity of youth. After all, there are lucky people who really wait for "the right one" without any thorns. There are still more people who are tolerant, understanding, and even forbearing, and they cannot but respect their choices, and they cannot even say that they are not happy, and their love is not true love. One of my good sisters, her husband is handsome and promising, and the conditions are really good, which is obviously much better than that of the unattractive wife.After many years of marriage, the man fell in love with a young and beautiful girl. The girl was really cute, and she really loved this other man with all her heart.Although the man had a good relationship with his wife, he was still no match for the temptation of "true love". After a long struggle, he finally filed for divorce.The wife didn't cry and make a fuss, and decided to let go after painful consideration. She just proposed that the three of them meet once, and some things should be explained clearly.

When we met, Mrs. Genuine looked at the young and delicate girl quietly, without reprimanding or slandering, let alone the usual scratching and crying scenes, and even sincerely praised her temperament and behavior.This generous and wise woman fulfilled her husband's choice and did not make that man's betrayal any more cheap and unbearable.She didn't ask "how is she better than me", but just told the girl about her husband's habits and temper in detail, and told her how to take care of his daily life and emotions, so thin that the nails on his right hand needed to be cut for him, but the nails on the left hand , he likes to come by himself.

The abandoned woman said to her husband: "Treat this new relationship well, don't let my painful letting go become a meaningless sacrifice." Unable to hold back, she shed tears, wiped it clean and said: "I really don't want to Break up. Up to now, I also think that you are a good man. If you really love each other, there is nothing wrong. You have to live well with her, and don't let her suffer like me again. " The two people over there cried even more.At the end of the story, the man hugged the woman and confessed loudly, begging her to forgive.The young girl also resigned knowingly, leaving a sentence: "Such a good woman, who can compete with her?"

My good sister, she acted as if nothing had happened afterwards, she was not awkward, she did not pursue the matter, the relationship between the two was reborn from the ashes, completely disrupting the old law of "a broken mirror cannot be reunited". I told this story to my colleague, my sister, who was dying of pain. At that time, the little girl was encountering the plot only in the movie. When her boyfriend was in the shower, he received a call from a strange woman to his mobile phone, and then accidentally found evidence of infidelity in the mobile phone. One beat and two break up.No matter how the boyfriend explains, apologizes, or expresses his opinion, the younger sister just refuses to agree.Thinking of the feelings of so many years, it is not as good as the momentary excitement, thinking of the hit person who treats so sincerely, but knowing the face but not the heart, thinking of the fact that there is no guarantee that it will not happen again after being betrayed, the little girl is wronged, unwilling, and nostalgic , Washing my face with tears all day long.

I saw her suffering so much, so I used my sister's story to persuade her. "Comparison, is it more painful to forgive him this time, or is it more painful to break up resolutely? If you already feel that there is no hope, just give up completely. If you still love him and can't bear him, then listen to your heart and simply compromise, why? Do you want to fight against your own feelings?" He was in so much pain, and he had already come to his senses, the pain pierced his heart, why not try again?Maybe such a small disturbance has really created a loyal and down-to-earth good man for you?

The story of a good sister moved the little girl.That day she sent me a text message, saying: "I think you are right. Maybe others will think that I am worthless, but I decided to still love him, and I am willing to forgive him. In fact, I don't want to embarrass myself anymore." I immediately felt that I had done a meritorious deed.Maybe they will go back and forth in the future, but love should not be given up so easily. Love itself should struggle a bit, advance and retreat a bit.Holding hands together gave each other so much warmth, how could they be easily separated? I texted my younger sister back: "Falling in love with someone and relying on him is a good thing that is worthless!"