Chapter 12 Chapter 11: Happiness is a cultivation

I went to a friend's house as a guest and found that they had a small note board that said "Love is a practice".Everyone on the spot was sour.The parties said nonchalantly that this was the motto of their young couple, because they felt that no one was born knowing how to love someone, how to manage and maintain a marriage, so both parties need to study hard, cultivate well, and make progress together . When it came to this, the young couple exchanged tacit and loving eyes, which made the outsiders present restless. It can be seen that under the same circumstances, people really have different responses, and people have room to expand their emotional control and coordination. It is not "naturally optimistic" that can be summed up in one word.And if you also want your life to be full of sunshine no matter what challenges you face, you must practice happiness from now on.It seems that none of us have thought about problems from this perspective. When it comes to learning, we must immediately think of some kind of knowledge or technology. We don’t seem to think of cultivating the quality of life that does not provide courses in schools.

After that, I started to think about this kind of problem from different angles.It turns out that there are many qualities you take for granted that you can't expect to be born with, and really need to be cultivated, such as happiness. "Are you happy?" Harlem asked us repeatedly in the song. Indeed, I think this question should be changed to do you know how to be happy?Or will you have fun? Happiness is indeed a very subtle thing, and there is no fixed addition that can equal happiness.For example, should good-looking clothes + delicious food equal happiness?However, there are really many people who are well-clothed and well-fed are unhappy all day long.In addition, the addition of low income in the old house does not necessarily mean that it cannot produce happiness. In my memory, singing and laughter often wafted from my low-slung old house.Happiness is so elusive, it seems really hard to grasp it without learning how to do it.

I think of when the "SARS" made a lot of noise, who would be happy was immediately tested.At that time, the virus spread very fast. The school notified the students of the epidemic and asked them not to leave the school.After some students understand the situation, they should eat and sleep like normal people, because they are not allowed to leave school and cannot go out to play, so they play table tennis and badminton on campus by themselves. I heard that May Day is not allowed When I got home, my first reaction was "it's so fun to celebrate May Day with so many people".

But other students were miserable.Terrified by such an emergency.At first, I wanted to go back, but when I found out that there was danger on the road, I immediately felt desperate.At night, when I heard that other departments found fever, they immediately cried in fright in the dormitory, as if there was absolutely no other choice but to be infected.I couldn't sleep all night, I didn't dare to go to the cafeteria to eat, and I didn't feel in the mood to eat instant noodles. Not to mention being happy, I almost lost the courage to live. There will be such two completely different scenes during the class break.Some students will kick the shuttlecock in the sun, chasing each other, laughing loudly.Others sat on the steps of the garden, hugging their knees tightly, frowning, looking at the ground in a daze, looking extremely pitiful.

I was thinking, for students who are so nervous and scared, is the risk of infection really much greater?If everyone is faced with the same challenges and dangers, why do they react so wildly differently?After this incident, these classmates who have been frowning all the time, will they regret their reactions when they think back to themselves?