Chapter 9 Section 8: My room is 10 degrees higher than yours

After this year's graduation ceremony, a student said to me excitedly while shedding tears: "Mr. He, I am finally out of the collective life! I can finally live alone! I want this kind of solitary space It's been a long time!" A few days later, my leader chatted with me about something intimate over lunch.It is said that when I get older, I feel lighter, and I am particularly easy to be awakened. I can’t sleep well with light and sound. Therefore, as soon as I have the conditions to move to a big house, I immediately implement a separate living system with my wife. I also have friends who have been in love for several years, and they are not in a hurry to get married, and they don’t even live together. They even bought two small rooms in the same community, each decorated according to their favorite style, and the two of them try not to be too close to each other. , Threatening to absolutely guarantee the "beauty of distance".

Speaking of myself.After graduating from university, I ended eleven years of collective life, and have been living alone for seven years.Gradually, I developed a temper. Now I really mind living with others. I try to live alone when I go out for performances or programs. If the organizer is stingy and asks everyone to share a house, I will be very unhappy.It's not that I play big names because I'm popular, but because my habits are really different from others. I am the type who is particularly afraid of the cold but not the heat. No matter how hot it is in summer, I must cover myself to sleep and never turn on the air conditioner, otherwise I will definitely catch a cold.So if I really have to live with others, either I will freeze to death or others will flee the scene in the middle of the night in the heat.Once on a talk show, I was asked why I am not married yet?I just told the truth about this reason, and I also preached that it is not as comfortable as everyone who lives separately.Later, we were scolded by our "leader" for saying such a private matter, which is really stupid.

I suddenly found that the stories of several generations living under the same roof are less and less heard. When did we start to care so much about our own exclusive space? Is it because our relationship is getting weaker and weaker, and our dependence and nostalgia for each other are gradually no match for the temptation of a comfortable solitary space?In this era of pursuing interests and paying attention to practicality, do we become less and less convinced of romance, and no longer willing to endure for each other because of romance? Such explanations are frustrating.I am also very unconvinced from this group, so please allow me to change my perspective.

Or, it may be that the emotional intelligence of modern people is getting higher and higher. We no longer blindly believe that staying together with zero gaps is the only way to happiness, but confidently distance ourselves from each other and let go freely.It’s nothing special to live together every day and have a good relationship. It’s really called "strong" if you can live alone and be sweet. What's more, sometimes the distance is too close and you can't see the goodness of the other party, but the flaws will stand out, and sometimes a little distance will add a bit of interest.Why do some girls regularly lose their temper with their boyfriends because of trivial matters and ignore him for several days, and then quietly change their minds?Those are all ruthless characters who know this well.

There are so many modern means of connection that provide us with the possibility of living alone without being lonely.The video device of the network really benefits the people.Each installs a camera worth more than 100 yuan, and they can connect to each other online at any time.Let us be close at hand in different spaces, see each other all the time, and ensure that my room is 28 degrees and yours is 18 degrees, each in its proper place. The most wonderful thing is that when the camera doesn't let go, I put on my coat and rush to the side that is 10 degrees lower. It feels better than bumping into a small world every day.

We are really getting better and better!