On April 28, 2004, I turned thirty! The reason why I dare to announce this embarrassing news so blatantly and loudly is because I still stubbornly believe that I am not outdated, not giving up, not old-fashioned, and that my age is not a mistake of my parents. It’s a little joke, and because in fact, I still can’t get used to, admit and accept this fact. Since when did someone call me "Brother Jiong"?Backstage at the play that day, my brother heard someone call me "Brother Jiong". He was overjoyed by such a name and was not used to it.Only then did I realize that all the actors in the crew called me "Brother Jiong", and they didn't mean it politely, they all came from the heart.Because I am really the most "oldest" one of them.

Later, I found many signs reminding me of this: For example, the base camp I have been hosting will celebrate its seventh anniversary this year; the award ceremony invited me to be a judge with other senior people (the word senior is definitely associated with age Ah); when filling out the form, I can no longer find suitable options in the familiar position of the age span column; 70% of the songs on the music list are not really liked by myself, and 20% of them even I can’t quite understand it; the people I worked with told me the year he was born and I was about to graduate from high school at that time; almost no children called me brother, and everyone seemed to call me Uncle He in a unified way all of a sudden; suddenly I can’t remember what I ate last night; I am more and more fond of reminiscing and looking back; without even thinking about it, I ranked such a theme at the first place in this book...

One day there was some small conflict in our drama crew, I persuaded the fight, and when it was busy, I remembered that the medicine for throat was about to cool down, so I went into the house to drink the medicine.Afterwards, I was very ashamed and felt that I was really dishonest.When I was young, I was not like this. I remember meeting a group of drunks harassing a girl in college. Come to protect me, I was blocked by his body, and the two of them were beaten by Haibian under the crowd of girls, and they couldn't fight back. How young and happy, and how proud. Now, how can I remember that the bowl of medicine is about to cool down in such an emergency?

Back then, I thought, how mature I would be if I was 24 years old in my natal year!Later, in 1998, I was 24 years old, and there was no obvious change.I still live like that day by day.Then I thought, if I was 30 years old in 2004, how mature I would be!Fortunately, now, in the blink of an eye, the deadline has come.It seems that there is still no obvious change, but it seems that everything is different. I once thought that when I was 30 years old, I would definitely know what I wanted.However, later I discovered that the reason why the goal I want is no longer vague is actually because I increasingly find that there are not many things left that I can grasp.Zhang Aijia said that at the age of 20, you can choose clothes as you like, and you can wear anything that looks good; at the age of 30, there are many boundaries, which can't be long or short; at 40, there are very few clothes that suit you, and you can't live without finding one that looks good Ken took it off.She said, in fact, not just clothing.

The other day, I saw a good friend’s post on the Internet, telling about an article called "The Last Day of the World", which was accompanied by a hand-painted home scene: a family of four gathered together at night, Mommy was drinking coffee, and Daddy poured coffee , the two daughters line up building blocks on the living room rug.Many young people don't understand it, and question how the last day of the world can be so ordinary.The meaning of the post is that real happiness is actually going to and from get off work on time every day, and being able to be with your lover after get off work, reading books, watching TV, chatting, and then hugging and falling asleep together...

The seemingly routine chores are actually the best happiness.The so-called maturity is to figure out that the ultimate pursuit of life may be nothing more than being surrounded by family members, drinking a cup of good tea when the green leaves turn red, and having crisp sheets and a good night's sleep at the end of each day. I suddenly found myself very accepting of this point of view, and I also understand that quite a few young friends should disagree, and they are all yearning for a colorful, interesting, romantic and exciting life.Because of this post, from another perspective, I reluctantly found that I was already an adult.

I just twisted like this, unwilling to be an adult, and unwilling to be treated as a child. When 2004 passed quickly, I found that when I was still brooding over the age of 30, the age of 31 was approaching me with great interest.Only then did I realize that 30 years old can easily become a year to be missed. Treat me well in 2004. I had my first solo album "You Can Love He Jiong". After releasing the first album, I could get some professional awards. He played the leading role in "The Romance of Zhengde", and now, after three years, he has published his fourth work. Friends who like me don’t need to buy this book. This book is a collection of the words I wrote in my column or other places in the past three years. Friends who follow me should have read it more or less; friends who don’t like me don’t need to buy this book. This book, because it records my innermost and truest emotions, if I don't like it, I might not be interested.But those who yearn for happiness should read these words, and those who believe in happiness should read the happiness video series that I carefully edited to accompany the book. More and more sober perception.

If you resonate, that is my best happiness.