Chapter 24 3. Find yourself

When you open the eyes of your soul, you will also find that the god of destiny has stretched out his hand to you. An accident in March 1988 was another important turning point in her life.She found her strength.Diana, Charles and the Duchess of York and a group went to Kloster, Switzerland for a skiing holiday.On this day, Diana felt a little cold and took medicine to rest in the villa.Suddenly there was news that an avalanche occurred in the ski resort and a fatal accident occurred, and the deceased was a man.Diana and the Duchess of York wait anxiously for more definite news. After a while, Prince Charles called, his tone somber.He told his press secretary, Philip McKay, that he was fine and that the victim was Major Hugh Lindsay, a former valet to the Queen.The sudden sorrow shook everyone's heart.The Duchess of York burst into tears, and Diana was heartbroken.But she slowly calmed down, feeling that it was better to do something practical for the dead man than to grieve for him.She went upstairs to arrange Hugh Lindsay's belongings, putting Lindsay's signet, ring, watch and black wig into the suitcase one by one.Thinking back to last night, Lindsay was still wearing this wig to make everyone happy, and tears welled up in her eyes.

The suitcase was packed, and Diana carried it downstairs and placed it next to Tony Parker's bed so that it could be taken away in time.That night, people came and went, and someone came to understand the accident.The avalanche happened when everyone was sliding down an extremely steep slope.That piste is an accident-prone section, and people die there every year at this time of year.Patty, wife of Charles Palmer Tomkinson, who skied with Hugh, also injured both legs in the avalanche and underwent seven hours of surgery. Charles hesitated and wanted to continue his vacation, but Diana strongly objected.She made a decisive decision to end her vacation immediately and escort Lindsay's body back to the UK.

This is their duty.She argued with the Crown Prince that it was necessary to do the same in order to comfort the dead man's wife, Sarah.Sarah, a popular staff member at Buckingham Palace, and Hugh had just been married for a few months and were pregnant. The body was returned the next day in the most formal military funeral ceremony at RAF airfield near London.Diana and her sister Jenny then stayed with Sarah at Highgrove for a few days, trying to comfort the distraught friend. There is no doubt that the Swiss avalanche had a great impact on Diana.In the face of emergencies and difficult times, she was able to control the situation calmly and steadily! More importantly, she even offered her own opinions to Charles.She decides the course of events against her husband's objections and discovers her own possibility as a decision-making princess.And for herself, she stepped out of her husband's shadow and began to discover a self with merit and potential.

At that time, Diana's good friend Caroline Bartholomew called again and urged her to seek treatment for anorexia nervosa.With a tough tone, she threatened the princess: either Diana went to see a doctor, or she made public the illness that Diana had been hiding from the outside world.Caroline knows that the long-term lack of chromium, zinc, potassium and other traits in the human body will bring unbearable depression to the spirit of the person, and patients will often feel extremely tired, although most of the time they think they are normal. At Caroline's insistence, she found Dr. Maurice Lipseger through her natal Spencer's family physician.

Dr Lipseger is a physician at Guy's Hospital in central London and is a leading authority on digestive disorders.And his unique way of dealing with the world also made Diana feel very special, and soon won the trust of the princess. He dropped his usual politeness and asked straight to the point how many times she had attempted suicide.Although Diana felt uncomfortable with the sudden question, she still said frankly: "Four or five times." He asked her the question for 2 hours in one breath, and then said with confidence that he could help her recover quickly normal.As long as she can control her diet according to his requirements, within 6 months, she will definitely change her appearance.

The doctor concluded that there was nothing wrong with the princess, it was her husband who had the problem.For the next few months, he visited her weekly and encouraged her to read about the eating disorder.She had to read it secretly, so that the prince or the servants would not see it; "This is me, this is me, and I'm not the only one with this problem," she told Caroline. The doctor's words strengthened her confidence in her return to health.The treatment of chronic diseases takes a long time and requires the encouragement and help of others.But Charles gave her no encouragement, and laughed at her for wasting her time.

The doctor's treatment is very effective. After 6 months, her condition improved significantly.She said she felt as if she had been born again.Before starting treatment, she had nausea three to four times a day, but now it is reduced to once every three weeks. However, she also felt agitated and vomited uncontrollably during stressful situations.When she lives with the royal family in Balmoral, Sandringham or Windsor Palace, when she and Charles go to Highgrove's country house, when she thinks of the Highgrove faction in the English manor, She will fall into old habits, and it is difficult to control.

There is a restaurant called San Lorenzo on a busy street in Knightsbridge, London.It was founded by Loren Berni and his wife Mara. For Diana, it was more than just a restaurant, it was a safe haven for her to escape the shackles of the royal family and find a quiet life.Once, Diana was waiting for her friends to come to dinner. Mara came up and held her wrist. In a few words, she outlined Diana's lonely and painful life, her current changes and her future path.Diana is stunned by Mara's minute observations and incisive analysis of the truth of her life, as she has been trying to hide the truth of her own life.

Mara is known as the "Italian gourmet mother".For the guests, she never puts on the airs of the boss, but more of a kind of care.She often chats with guests, discussing some interesting and mysterious things.For example, explain their horoscope, give an explanation about the names of the guests, and analyze the relationship between the constellation and the fate of life, etc. Diana never expected someone to know her loneliness after prosperity and the pain behind her smile so well. She opened her heart to the sympathetic couple Mara and Lorenzo, telling the sadness she had been trying to hide.The Mara couple also tried their best to help her face the difficulties in life.

They encouraged Diana to study astrology, fortune-telling cards and other occult arts such as hypnotism.Interest in metaphysics is one of the hobbies of members of the royal family, known as the "royal psychological tradition". During this time, she was introduced to astrologer Debbie Frank.Debbie Frank helped Diana with a combination of astrology and general psychotherapy.He organically connected Diana's birth date with relevant astrology, explained her present, and predicted her future.Diana belongs to the sign of Cancer and has many advantages of this sign: helping the weak and helping the weak, being indomitable, and emphasizing family and emotional life.

For the lost Diana, metaphysics was like a life-saving straw, and she believed all prophecies without discrimination.As her self-confidence grew, she stopped seeing them as mental oxygen and viewed them more objectively. She will use astrology as her own guide to action, because sometimes it is very accurate, which comforts her.But astrology was not her life buoy, not the purpose of her life.Diana understands her inner world step by step through the exploration of astrology and accepts herself.Her friend Angela Cerro noticed the changes in Diana during this period, saying: "There is nothing more important than realizing the growth of your inner world. This will be the way Diana will go in the future." Diana's rebirth was not an easy task. She struggled to maintain emotional stability, and often experienced weeks of depression, anxiety, and depression.For most of her adult life, she was dominated by others, especially her husband, and her own personality was almost submerged. Now it really takes time to restore her true colors.During those dark days, psychotherapist Stephen Twigg was of great help.Twigg studied Swedish massage and mental relaxation.At the same time, he advocates for improved health through both physical and spiritual healing.Accordingly, Twigg created a philosophy of health.This is a bit like the theory of traditional Chinese medicine, treating both symptoms and root causes.He not only helps patients achieve physical relaxation through massage, but also encourages you spiritually with a set of philosophy of life, so that you can relax, be confident, and have the courage to live. Beginning in December 1988, Stephen Twigg came to Kensington Palace to treat Diana for an hour at a time, with the public reason of relaxing massage. During his hour-plus conversation with Diana, Stephen touched on everything from vitamin supplements to the meaning of the universe.He strives to let patients understand themselves, so that the physical, mental and spiritual aspects can be coordinated and balanced.He advised Diana to take vitamin supplements gradually and recommended a diet to her specifically. Haye therapy is a therapy that formulates precise recipes, separates carbohydrates and proteins, and determines the dietary structure as the basis of treatment. He also had a heart-to-heart conversation with the princess, analyzing the strengths and weaknesses of Diana's personality and studying the dilemmas in her life.In response to the princess's fear in Balmoral, Twigg enlightened her: "You have to remember, it's not that you ask the royal family, but the royal family asks you." In search of inner peace, Diana also turned to other remedies. Rodriland Lane performed hypnotic aromatherapy on her.Aromatherapy is a very ancient therapy.This therapy can quickly make people relax, expel anxiety as soon as possible, and seek inner peace.The balms Diana used were all made by Hugh Beecher in Yorkshire in her laboratory in Chelsea. Diana also combines aromatherapy with traditional Chinese acupuncture.Acupuncture is to select acupoints on the body first, and then use needles to penetrate the skin to adjust the balance of "yin and yang", which is crucial to good health.The qigong treatment for Diana was nurse Ms. Ona Toffler, who was trained in Ireland and has been treating Diana for several years and sometimes Prince William. Diana was also obsessed with the mysterious realm of Tai Chi.Tai Chi includes a whole set of slow movements, and practitioners can often roll out fixed moves coherently in a graceful form, thus integrating the spirit and the movements of the limbs.Diana is partial to Tai Chi because she can often find a sense of stability and flow after exercising. Her qigong master Ona believes in Catholicism and also likes some Indian religious ideas.Diana often meditated and prayed with her, looking for peace of mind. Like Girls' Generation, the princess loves to read romance novels.Danielle Steel signed her new book as a gift.However, Diana also began reading books on the philosophy of "Oneness of Nature" and books on physical and mental health.The writings of Bulgarian philosopher Michal Ivanov enabled her to maintain a calm state of mind in noisy environments.Gibran, the Lebanese philosopher, was also her favorite food for thought. She started reading books like Facing Death, for which Charles blamed her.But she doesn't care that much anymore.Not only has she been able to accept her own emotions with equanimity, but she has also been able to face up to the disturbing emotions of those who are dying, and she has been able to maintain inner peace during life's most tragic moments. Inner clarity made her fall in love with hymn music.In those church music, she found a deep spiritual power.She once made a game where, if she were stranded on an island, the most important things to her were Mozart's Mass in C and Frey and Verdi. After several years of unremitting efforts, Diana finally found herself.Diana, whose mask has been removed, is quieter than people imagined, prefers to think about something quietly, and likes to be alone.She is actually a bit introverted, and she is always timid in the face of overwhelming attacks from the news media. The woman who lost herself in the royal family is gone forever. In the past 10 years, she has not suffered without any reward. Suffering has given her indispensable spiritual strength. She bears a heavy burden in the journey of life, but she still leaves a sunny smile. "I've opened up, my life has changed, and this is just the beginning." She is happy that she has found a balance in her life. Friends around her are also happy that she has found herself again.They discover Diana's transformation from a shy, sad, vulnerable, pitiful girl to a mature woman with a purpose of her own. The refreshed Diana devoted herself to various charitable causes. She stepped out of the shadow of the royal family and established herself as a commoner princess.