Chapter 19 Second, the extraordinary princess

The 30-year-old Prince Charles, who is still unmarried, must find a virgin who is of good enough background and impeccable beauty to be the princess for the royal family and give birth to a royal heir.Naturally, after Diana entered the royal family, her first task was to give birth to a healthy heir for the royal family.At that time, she accomplished the task brilliantly and gave birth to two healthy and lively little princes, William and Henry, although she suffered from severe pregnancy reactions and postpartum depression during the process. After completing this task, Diana's duties as princess turned to the mother of the two little princes and the image of the royal family in public.As the mother of the lovely little prince, Diana did her best to give the little prince the greatest love and care.This will be mentioned later in the chapter.But as the princess, Diana is trying to explore a new image that suits her, a brand new image of a member of the royal family.In the process, she took a detour, causing criticism and dissatisfaction among members of the royal family such as Charles.But she found it eventually.

Her first change was due to the appearance of Princess Sarah. In 1986, as the annual Royal Ascot week approached, the Queen was drawing up a guest list to invite them to a traditional family gathering at Windsor Castle.The princess was summoned and asked if she could recommend two bachelorettes who were well-bred and acceptable to the royal family.After a moment's thought she named her two girlfriends: Sucia Fenwick and Sarah Ferguson. Sarah Ferguson was the daughter of Mason Nole Ferguson, manager of the Charles Polo Grounds, a delightful redhead.She and Diana met at the Cowdrey Polo Grounds.The polo field is very close to Sarah's mother's house.And Diana came to watch Charles play polo when she was in love with Charles.

The girls soon got to know each other and became friends.Diana invited Sarah to her wedding, and Sarah hosted the royal friend at her south London apartment. During Diana's pregnancy, calling Sarah Ferguson became her way of spending time. Sarah was working for an art dealer in London at the time.The redhead couldn't help but drive to Buckingham Palace during working hours to comfort the soon-to-be mother-in-law. At that banquet, Sarah was arranged beside Prince Andrew, and the two talked very speculatively.It's a smooth sailing love affair. On July 23, 1986, the two married and Sarah Ferguson became the Duchess of York.

The newlywed duchess entered the palace with excitement and curiosity.She rides alongside the Queen and travels in a carriage with the Duke of Attenborough.She takes care to spend time with the queen.The arrival of Sarah seems to have brought a new atmosphere to the palace.In the palace, the princess is depressed, dull, and sickly; the duchess is warm, happy, and energetic.In the palace, the Duchess is the darling and celebrity, while Diana is a lonely stranger who is respected and kept at a distance.Charles was quick to make the comparison.He compared the Duchess to his beloved Queen Mother and asked Diana: "Why can't you be like her?"

Diana is in a state of confusion.The stark contrast between the praise she received in public and her neglect among the royal family made her doubt her own values ​​and way of life.Ashamed, she had unconsciously accepted the idea that her sister-in-law should be emulated. It's a pity that Sarah's enthusiasm, liveliness and even frivolity are definitely not the image of the future Queen of England in everyone's minds.Diana's imitation was just a mere imitation, which brought her a negative effect. Her behavior did change. One night, the Princess of Wales and Sarah Ferguson, dressed in policewoman uniforms, tried unsuccessfully to break into a men's party hosted by Prince Andrew somewhere.They went to the Annable Nightclub and drank champagne and orange juice.When returning to Buckingham Palace, Andrew's car happened to be stopped at the gate, and he had just returned to the palace.Dressing as a police officer is a crime under the law.Afterwards, several demanding members of Congress made a big fuss about this matter and wanted to hold them accountable.

At a sort of disco at Windsor Castle, Sarah urged Diana to join her in a "can-can" she composed.This lively dance of lifting skirts and stepping legs forward was once again dissatisfied by the royal family. Diana's frivolous humor is fleeting, but behind it is still her shyness, weakness, self-confidence and loneliness. One afternoon, a group of photojournalists unexpectedly ran into Diana in the Kloster Cafe.In front of them, she pointed to the oversized medal pinned to her jacket and said jokingly: "This is the medal I award myself, because no one will award me." It showed her subconscious inferiority complex and abjection.

Charles would not have appreciated such reluctant humor and joviality. The two princes went skiing together in Kloster.On the first day, when they stood in front of the camera in a regular manner and waited to take the traditional "roll call" photos, there were 90 photographers of various kinds, busy dragging ladders, looking for camera equipment, and scrambling to be the first on the snow. Find the best angles for each, and prepare to shoot the casual scenes of the royal family members. In this case, it is most appropriate to perform the scene of the couple supporting each other while skiing, creating an atmosphere of mutual love.Sarah and Diana seemed to have no qualms jostling and jostling in the snow.This kind of naive and romantic behavior like a schoolgirl made Charles very annoyed, so he stopped sternly.

Diana was criticized in the press in April for her giggles as she inspected a parade of young officers at Sandhurst following her skiery skiing.She later explained that it was due to a small joke made by a commander at the time and the emotional tension before her speech. Two months later, at Royal Ascotweek, the princess was again condemned.The photographer rushed to snap the next photo, which showed Diana and Sarah poking friend Lulu Black in the back with the handle of an umbrella. Needless to say, members of the royal family, the media and the public are also generally dissatisfied with this, thinking it is too frivolous, like actors in a farce.On another occasion, Diana even wore a pair of leather trousers to a concert, another impersonation of Duchess Sarah.But courtiers at Buckingham Palace believe her attire is incompatible with her status as a future queen.

Faced with this self-defeating situation, Diana had to reflect on how to find her own position in her own behavior and status. For a long time, people in the royal family have always based their speech and behavior on the basis of speech and behavior, but the requirements for women are only beautiful appearance.Diana was born beautiful, and her innocence was not possessed by those glamorous movie stars, so she always received a warm welcome.But her tragedy is that the glory of this beauty overrides everything else. As her astrologer Felix Lyell put it: "One of the worst things that happened to her was that she was placed on a statue's pedestal that didn't allow her to develop in the direction she wanted, It's just forcing her to focus on the perfection of her public image."

Likewise, on the royal side, all they asked for was her good looks.Her informal adviser, Charles' former private secretary, Steve Airey, commented that all the royal family wanted was a perfect coat hanger and a docile and virtuous wife.Apart from the aesthetics of her clothing, people will not praise her for anything else. She once took a lonely drive to her favorite beach after she tried unsuccessfully to change her image.There, she learns that she must unearth the real Diana Spencer if she is to truly live.She is no longer a pretty doll for the royal family, her husband and the press.

The success of her change this time comes from her innate love and image as a commoner.But this also caused dissatisfaction among the royal family members, but Diana didn't care. In 1991, for the first time, she did not succumb to the pressure of the royal family, did not ask the Queen's approval, and left Balmoral Palace without authorization to nurse her friend --- AIDS patient Adrian.The royal family believed that a symbolic visit to the patient was enough, and they were displeased with Diana's behavior of loyalty and dedication to the patient, believing that her behavior clearly exceeded the scope of traditional royal duties.Diana believed that being loyal to her friends was as important as being loyal to her royal duties. At Adrian's memorial service, as a princess, she was unable to sit with a grieving Angela, a friend who needed a shoulder to cry on.Because a memorial service at St. Paul's is a formal occasion, members of the royal family are supposed to sit on the pews on the right side of the church, with friends of the deceased on the left.There were many such sad moments in Diana's life, but the rules of the royal family made it difficult for her to mourn the dead in the way she wished. The distressed court life of the Princess of Wales has also won the sympathy and understanding of her friends.Her title is "Her Royal Highness Princess of Wales" (Princess of Wales), while friends nicknamed her "Prison of War" (Prison of War).The claustrophobic life in the palace caused the princess to gradually suffer from confinement phobia, and felt an uncontrollable fear of any closed space. In 1991, her doctors suspected she might have a jugular tumor, a benign tumor that had grown to press on a nerve under the scapula.To this end, she went to the hospital for a full-body scan.As soon as she stood in the enclosed scanning machine, her heart beat faster and she became extremely nervous.Doctors had to sedate her to calm her panic.What should have been a 15-minute examination took her 2 hours. In the environment of the royal palace, which made her untrustworthy, especially after the phone hacking incident, confidentiality and prudence became Diana's code of conduct.In her private rooms at Kensington Palace, there is a shredder used to destroy her letters.There was also a phone tap that was used to alter the voice of her speech on private calls. In the summer of 1991, she had someone secretly "sweep" her room with an electronic instrument, looking for a possible eavesdropping device, although there was nothing, but her suspicions were not eliminated.She is extremely careful even with what she throws in the waste cardboard.She couldn't believe anyone or anything. In order to be cautious, she began to send scented candles to those friends who provided her services and helped support her, instead of writing thank-you letters, in order to prevent those well-intentioned letterheads or other gifts from falling into the hands of others. Out of season. If Diana was a superstar on the Windsor Walk of Fame, the senior royals were the hard-faced, hard-hearted producers who prowled behind the scenes, waiting to catch her sore feet and whip her for every oversight.Any slight breach of the royal code of conduct invites chatter; any excellence in the fulfillment of the royal mandate invites only hair-raising nitpicking. Once, she traveled to Italy with her mother.During those three days, Antonio Pezzo, a handsome young man from the host family, enthusiastically drove the car for them and took their mother and daughter to visit.In parting, Diana kissed him gratefully on the cheek.For this, she was blamed. On another occasion, she praised Prime Minister Major's performance in the Gulf War crisis, and was similarly blamed.What she considers is to encourage the new prime minister, but the queen's private secretary, the princess' brother-in-law Sir Robert Floss thinks her statement is too political. The noble status of members of the royal family must also be maintained.This is one of the reasons why Diana was criticized. After a new movie was released, the princess attended a party and talked with a Hollywood movie star for a long time, which was quite speculative.The next day, the princess was reprimanded, saying that it was an inappropriate appearance of a member of the royal family on such an occasion.In fact, the gathering touched Diana a lot.The movie star talked to the princess about the hardships of being an actress, and told the princess that whenever she lost confidence in life, she thought of Diana and had the courage to overcome difficulties.Two ill-fated women fell in love with each other and began their good friendship. In this kind of situation where action is blamed, the princess dare not trust the staff of the royal family. Every morning, after swimming in the swimming pool of Buckingham Palace, she would open and read her own letters in person, which not only saved the staff from screening for her, but also obtained first-hand information about people's conditions.This practice has produced satisfactory results on several occasions.The father of an AIDS patient wrote to Diana, saying that his child's last wish before his death was to see the princess.After reading the father's plea letter, Diana was deeply moved.She personally intervened, and she introduced the old man's children to a guest house in London run by the "Wright House Foundation" to receive AIDS patients. Later, Diana inspected the house.Because of her kind care, the young man's dying wish finally came true.Had the secretaries been allowed to read the letter, the family would likely have received only a letter of sympathy but no promises typed out by the maid.The patient's father also said that after he wrote to Diana, he had no hope of success at all. Diana was equally difficult to trust with the staff around her.She clashed with some of her maids.She thinks that they are also bound by the rules and regulations of the royal family and take care of her as closely as a child. For this reason, Diana often consulted some people who had their own views on the royal system and were far away from the royal family. She often called Major-General Sir Christopher Airey, who lived in Devonshire, for advice.He had been Charles' private secretary until he was abruptly dismissed.He has a clear understanding of the royal family's practice, so he often gives advice to Diana.For a while, Jimmy Savile also did a lot to maintain her public image.Terrence Stamp gave her principled guidance in speaking. She gets along well with these people in the outside world precisely because she is out of step with the royal family.She felt that the work of the royal family was just desperately protecting those outdated and pedantic things, and they were just the guards of the prison of the royal family.While they were trying their best to close the city gate, she was trying to break out of the high wall.She is indeed an outlier among royals. Those raised in a royal environment have always valued traditional ways of self-restraint, aloofness, and formality.Diana, on the other hand, was emotional, approachable, and informal.If this is a game of cards, Diana undoubtedly did not play her cards according to the royal family's rules.So, Diana lived a life that confused her. Popular with the public, she was disapproved, jealous and snubbed by her husband and the rest of the royal family.The public believed that she refreshed the stale image of the Windsor dynasty, but in the royal family, Diana was considered an outsider and a problem figure.In the eyes of the royal family, she was superficial, disrespectful, excitable and emotional.Regarding her marginalized status, Diana had to carefully close herself after encountering a setback to avoid conflicts.Her relationship with the royal family can only be maintained as best she can.