Chapter 18 1. She was out of tune with the royal family

It is undeniable that in the long and painful marriage process of Diana and Charles, the royal family, the media and Camilla all played a role that cannot be ignored.It was the royal family who chose her, and she became the princess of fairy tales; it was the royal family's various rules and unreasonable practices that restricted her and put her under tremendous pressure.She used to cry all day long. It can be said that without the royal family, we would not know Diana, and this book would not appear. When 19-year-old Diana bathed in the beautiful love of the prince and dreamed sweet dreams, her grandmother first sounded the alarm to her.

The grandmother, Mrs. Femoy, was the queen mother's maid.Contrary to people's expectations, instead of matching her granddaughter's marriage with the prince, she poured cold water on Diana and told her the great difficulty of marrying the royal family.She warned Diana: "You have to understand that royals have different interests and lifestyles. I don't think it suits you." Indeed, Mrs. Fermoy's words unfortunately mean the right thing.As a well-informed court maid, she is very aware of the gap between the millennium-old glorious Hanoverian dynasty and her 19-year-old innocent, lively, and free-spirited granddaughter.

There is an ancient Chinese poem that goes: "Once you enter the Hou's gate, it is as deep as the sea, and from then on Xiao Lang is a passer-by." The sad and helpless situation always makes the person concerned feel heart-piercing pain.But the shouting was inaudible, the confinement was too deep. The night before her engagement was officially announced, Diana packed her bags, hugged her loyal friends one by one, and left the apartment she shared with them for good.She was escorted by a heavily armed Scottish guard, Paul Officer.The philosophical police officer said something inappropriate but very correct to this innocent girl full of longing: "I'm just saying, this is the last night of your life as a free civilian, so be it."

As if slapped in the face, Diana was dumbfounded and hesitated. "Those words were like a sharp sword piercing my heart," she later recalled. The car was still driving, driving Diana into the majestic and mysterious royal family in the middle of the night.Her life has never been changed. Let's take a look first, what does the almost mysterious royal family look like? Looking back on the long history, Britain has experienced 10 dynasties since the establishment of the Norman Dynasty in 1066, namely the Norman Dynasty (1066~1135), the Anjou Dynasty (1135~1100), and the Plantagenet Dynasty (1216~1399). ), Lancaster Dynasty (1399~1461), York Dynasty (1461~1485), Tudor Dynasty (1485~1603), Stuart Dynasty (1603~1714), Hanover Dynasty (1714~1901), Saxon Dynasty -Coburg-Gotha dynasty (10901～1910) and Windsor dynasty (1910～*9 shake).

Anyone familiar with world history will know that the British Empire is one of the most glorious empires in European history.At the beginning of the British Empire's prosperity and rise, it was Queen Elizabeth I of the Tudor dynasty who personally guided the British warships in a corner of Europe to sail to the ocean, which changed Europe and the world... Elizabeth I's father, Henry VIII (1491~l547), reigned from 1509 to 1547.He would be ashamed if he lived to see what England had achieved under his daughter.Also as kings, the only thing the father and daughter have in common is the same ambition: to establish the hegemony of the British Empire.Henry VIII was brilliant and studious, but he was surly, narrow-minded and suspicious by nature.In order to consolidate his throne, he did not hesitate to execute all British nobles who might pose a threat to his throne.Henry VIII married six times in his life, and used various excuses to hang two of his wives on the gallows. One of them was Elizabeth I's biological mother Anne.Anne was executed for adultery, and her lover was also guillotined.Henry VIII was so rejoicing, but eventually died in mediocrity, leaving behind a mess of exhausted national strength and poor people.

Elizabeth I (1533-1603) is recognized by historians as one of the greatest monarchs in England.Elizabeth reigned from 1558 to 1603, and these 45 years are completely comparable to the later "Victorian prosperity".Under her rule, the British Navy defeated the invincible Spanish "Armada" in one fell swoop and established a maritime supremacy; opened up the first overseas colony in North America; the London Stock Exchange opened; the East India Company was established... During her reign Inside, British literature and art are also flourishing unprecedentedly, and many famous writers such as Shakespeare, Bacon, Christopher Marlowe, and Edmund Spencer have emerged.When Elizabeth I died aged 69, Britain had replaced Spain as the leading European power.

Elizabeth I suffered repeated emotional setbacks, and many women in the British royal family in later generations also experienced the same misfortune.For the benefit of the country and the royal family, she finally chose to stay in the boudoir alone for life.During her life and death, many people were puzzled and even suspected that the queen was physically defective.The whole country hoped to drink the Queen's wedding wine, and Congress implored her to marry whoever she wanted, but she remained unmoved. As king, she could only choose among other European monarchs who were of equal status to her.The good relationship between the Queen and the Qin and Jin Dynasties of other countries is bound to bring about a combination of interests.From this point of view, if she were to marry any of the kings of France or Spain, who were at war with each other at that time, England would inevitably choose to support one of them, thus involving the British Empire in the war.For this, she is willing to sacrifice herself.The subjects respectfully called her the "Virgin Queen".To show her respect, Walter Raleigh, the discoverer of the first British colony, named this colony on the other side of the ocean "Virgin Land", which is now Virginia, USA.

After Elizabeth I, the British royal family experienced 300 years of ups and downs.Finally, another great woman took on the important task of rejuvenating the British Empire. She was Victoria I (1819-1901) from the Hanoverian dynasty.The Hanoverian Dynasty is a British dynasty with Germanic ancestry. The first monarch of the dynasty, George Louis, Elector of Hanover, became King of the United Kingdom in 1714, called George I. In 1837, after the death of William IV, his 18-year-old niece Victoria came to the throne and became the last monarch of the Hanoverian dynasty.Victoria was born at Kensington Palace, London, the son of Edward, Duke of Kent, and a German princess.But Victoria only enjoyed paternal love for 8 months, and her father left her.Since then, little Victoria has been growing up under the care of her uncle Leopold (later King of Belgium).

Under Victoria's rule, the territory of the British Empire continued to expand.Although the North American colonies became independent from Britain during this period, and Canada also gained political autonomy, African countries such as Ghana, Nigeria, Uganda, Kenya, Somalia, Rhodesia and Swaziland successively became British colonies, which can be described as a loss. In the east corner, harvest the mulberry elm.In order to ensure the smooth flow of the sea route, the British army occupied Egypt again. On New Year's Day 1877, Victoria was proclaimed Queen of India. Victoria I was not talented or majestic, but she was assisted by famous figures of all dynasties. The period of her reign was an era of peace and prosperity in British history.The shadow of marriage also shrouded most of her life. In 1840, only 3 years after her reign, the Queen married her cousin, Prince Albert of the Saxe-Coburg-Gotha family.The two were deeply affectionate and always loved each other as before, and their family life became a model for Britain.

The untimely death of Prince Albert in 1861 left Victoria in great grief.Even when she died, she failed to recover from the shadow of her deceased husband.After the death of Prince Albert, Queen Victoria retired from public life and wore only black for the rest of her life in memory of her lost lover.The queen in grief did not abandon the government, but managed it behind the scenes. Victoria had 8 children in total.According to the principle of matching marriages, she married all her children with other royal families in Europe. For example, the eldest daughter Victoria married the Hohenzollern family (the family is the main ruling family of Brandenburg-Prussia and the German Empire). Friedrich III, Friedrich III later became King of Prussia and Emperor of the German Empire.Kaiser Wilhelm II of the German Empire is her grandson.With many princes, grandchildren and royal in-laws, Victoria I also enjoys the reputation of "Europe's grandmother".Queen Victoria was well-informed, which helped her mediate between national crises.

Victoria I died in 1901 after ruling Britain for more than 60 years, but the "Victorian Era" she opened up continued until the outbreak of the First World War in 1914. Crown Prince Edward VII (1841-1910) finally took the throne after decades of waiting, and he was nearly sixty years old at this time.The long and almost hopeless wait also sapped Edward's youthful ambitions to a certain extent. His interest in women and horses far exceeded his interest in governing the country.It should be pointed out that Edward VII's lifelong mistress Alice Copple was the great-grandmother of Prince Charles' mistress Camilla in the future. Before Edward VII died, as the mistress of the king, Alice had become a well-known figure and was generally accepted by people, so when the king was dying, Queen Alexander of Edward sent someone to invite Alice Copple to come to Edward VII Before his bed, accompany him to spend the last time before his death. Edward VII was greatly loved by the people.The people loved the king not only because he was amiable, well-dressed, and sociable, but mainly because of the political legacy left by Edward VII.Edward VII's greatest political achievement was the signing of an Entente with France that ensured an alliance between Britain and France in World War I against the German Empire ruled by Edward VII's nephew, Wilhelm II.The famous military alliance "Allied Powers" in history originated from this. On September 5, 1914, Britain, France, and Russia signed an agreement in London, and the Allied Powers were officially born. Due to the death of the eldest son of Edward VII, in 1910, the second son George V (1865-1936) succeeded to the throne. Four years later, George V led his country into an unprecedentedly brutal World War I against his cousin, Kaiser Wilhelm II of Germany.As the war progressed, the people hated the German Empire and Wilhelm II more and more. At the same time, they were also dissatisfied with the fact that the British royal family still inherited the surname of the German Hanover family, and even began to doubt the king's loyalty to the motherland.For this reason, George V decided to change his surname, and took a purely British name for himself and the royal family, in order to show a clear line with the German blood.Thus, a new dynasty --- Windsor dynasty was born in 1917.George V also did an excellent job of resolving the crisis of national confidence in him. After the death of George V in 1936, his eldest son Edward VIII (1894-1972) came to the throne, and was forced to abdicate at the end of the same year, thus staged a love tragedy of "not loving the country but loving the beautiful woman" which is very rare in the history of Britain and even the world .The Prince of Wales spent most of his years abroad, perhaps as fate would have it, during which time he met the American woman Wallis Warfield Simpson.The two hit it off, and their relationship heated up sharply.The problem is that Mrs Simpson is divorced once and would have to divorce a second time if she lived with the future King of England.There are even rumors that she had a close relationship with high-level figures of the Nazi Empire.The British ruling and opposition parties were shocked. The then British Prime Minister Stanley Baldwin begged him to change his mind many times, and his whole family advised him to make a new choice. However, he was determined and made the choice to abandon his country and marry a beautiful woman without hesitation. He said again and again: "I simply cannot live without the woman I love." Why did he have to find a divorced and not very beautiful woman as his life partner.Wallis is said to have been "always with a witty remark which dispelled Edward's melancholy and made him feel loved and wanted".Edward VIII's weakness was his sensitivity, his desire to be pampered after a lonely childhood. Edward once said: "In my childhood, I never seemed to know what it means to be loved. The servants seemed to show great concern for me, as if they loved me, but I think it was because I was the successor king Because of this, I never feel that I am loved by others. My parents may love me, but it is a pity that it is difficult for me to truly feel their love for their children." His great-nephew, Prince Charles, is very similar to him in this regard. Charles once complained: "When I was growing up, I never felt a loving family environment, nor did I get comfort from my family. Mamma They all seem to love me, but I don't know if it's because of who I'm going to be, or because of my special status in the past and in the future." Perhaps, he also needs a woman who can comfort him and spoil him. In the 1930s, it was obviously unthinkable for a twice-divorced American woman to enter the British royal family and become the Queen of England, not to mention that Britain was still facing the threat of war at that time.Since the day Edward decided to marry Wallis as his wife, the royal family has been in danger and has been restless for several months.But Edward has made up his mind, he would rather lose the throne than leave the woman he loves.Faced with this dilemma, the British royal family had no choice but to establish another king.So, on September 10, 1936, Edward signed his resignation and lost his crown as King of the British Empire.At the same time that Edward VIII announced his withdrawal from the throne, his younger brother, the Duke of York, officially announced his succession to the throne and became George VI.Since then, Britain has had a new monarch. On the second day after Edward abdicated, British radio became the center of public attention, and almost all British people were quietly listening to Edward's radio speech.In his speech, Edward revealed the real reason why he put the royal family and the country into crisis in a sad tone. He said: "Without the help and support of a woman I love, it would be impossible for me to fulfill the responsibilities and obligations that should be fulfilled as the king of a country." Only two days later, Edward was exiled to France. On June 3, 1937, he held a formal wedding with Wallis at their new residence --- the Kant Castle outside Paris, and they have become a real couple ever since.Edward VIII gave up the throne because of love, and lived a life of exile for the rest of his life.He had to fend for himself and endured overwhelming loneliness.Although he has the woman he loves all his life as his companion, the British royal family has never accepted this woman, let alone hugged her, welcomed her, and recognized her.The British royal family still allows them to continue to use the titles of Duke and Duchess of Windsor, but that is just a name. Since Edward left the British royal family and went to France, until his death on May 28, 1972, the wandering Duke of Windsor finally returned to the embrace of the British royal family.Under the personal arrangement of Queen Elizabeth, Edward's body was flown back to the UK and buried in Frogmore Cemetery in the Duchy of Windsor.After Edward VIII's death, Mrs. Simpson lived and spent her final days in France.She died on April 2, 1986, and her body was flown back to the UK to be buried next to the grave of the man whose love paid dearly.Only engraved on her tombstone: "Wallis: Duchess of Windsor, 1896-1986". The Duke of Windsor waved his hand, bid farewell to the throne of the British Empire, and left in a chic and mournful manner.His younger brother, the Duke of York, took over his brother's scepter in haste.His wife, Elizabeth Angela Margaret Bows-Lyon, never dreamed of being a mother.But now, for the sake of the country and the royal family, she cannot have a second choice. After becoming a country at the age of 36, the queen mother admitted that the pressure was very high and it was an "unbearable honor"; but she still tried her best to do her part and successfully revitalized the royal family that was in chaos due to Edward's abdication at the time. George VI's family of four became A model of the British family. In World War II, Queen Elizabeth was so heroic that even Hitler called her "the most terrible woman in the world" through gritted teeth.During the war, the two daughters of George VI and Queen Elizabeth, Elizabeth and Margaret, lived in Windsor Castle.During the worst phase of the war, Londoners struggled to get by with the sound of air raid sirens every day.For safety reasons, President Roosevelt asked the queen to send the princesses to the United States.Queen Elizabeth thanked her politely: "Without my company, the princesses will not leave the country; without the king's company, I will not leave the country; and of course the king will never leave the country." Queen Elizabeth once said to her grandson, Prince Charles, that she would never forgive Edward for giving up the throne due to personal interests-if he hadn't been irresponsible, her shy and stuttering husband would not have to be forced to be emperor, let alone be under heavy pressure and pressure. Tired to death. In the eyes of the Queen Mother, her husband is gentle and humble, lacking the power and arrogance of a king of a country.Although she worked hard to support her husband and help him win the reputation of a good king, George VI, who was frail and sick, could not bear the fatigue and suffered from arteriosclerosis and lung cancer.It was reported that he used brown makeup on his face to cover up his pale complexion.He finally died at the age of 56, and his daughter Elizabeth II came to the throne. Queen Elizabeth began her 50-year widow career. The collapse of Nazi Germany marked the end of an era, but with it another difficult, turbulent era for the devastated British Empire.After the war, the colonies of the former British Empire abandoned their old masters one after another, pursuing their own new life.Southern Ireland and the ten islands of India became independent one after another, and the struggle for freedom in the British colonies in Africa was also surging. In 1948, Britain was forced to withdraw from Palestine, which opened the way for the establishment of Israel.By the time Elizabeth II succeeded to the throne on February 6, 1952, the former British Empire had been reduced to a second-rate power dependent on others. Born on April 21, 1926, Elizabeth grew up in Buckingham Palace. She has successively obtained a Bachelor of Music from the University of London, a Doctor of Civil Law from Oxford University, a Doctor of Music from the University of Wales, and a Doctor of Laws from the University of Edinburgh. Queen.Her talent for languages ​​is even more impressive: she is fluent in French, Spanish and German.It's a pity that the queen's talents cannot be displayed because of her supreme status. Like her father's accession to the throne, Elizabeth was thrust into the throne in haste. On February 5, 1952, Princess Elizabeth and his wife were traveling in Kenya and stayed at a famous "treetop hotel" in the Aberdare Forest Game Reserve.At dawn the next day, an adjutant rushed to report: George VI had passed away suddenly, and Princess Elizabeth was the queen of Great Britain, the British Dominions and their overseas territories.At this time, she was only 26 years old. On June 2, 1953, Queen Elizabeth II's grand coronation ceremony was held in London, and the coronation ceremony was broadcast live to the world on television for the first time.Elizabeth began her royal career in a simple white sleeveless gown.Queen Elizabeth is a dedicated queen to whom the state is paramount.To this end, she takes her responsibilities and obligations seriously.She reads documents every day, meets with the Prime Minister of the Cabinet every week, wears a crown, holds a scepter, and walks into the House of Lords every November, where she reads a parliamentary speech prepared by the Prime Minister.Despite her birth date in April, the Queen did not allow her birthday to be celebrated until June.Because June is the month with the most frequent royal activities.On the day of "Garder Festival", knights wearing the Order of the Garter (the highest British medal issued by Edward III in 1350 and tied under the left knee) gathered in Windsor Castle, and the Queen awarded honors to outstanding people under the eyes of everyone.Soon, the famous Royal Acost Horse Racing was held in the town of Acost in Berkshire.That's the most popular race in the UK. Year after year, the Queen has tirelessly participated in official activities.She attends 14 medal and decoration ceremonies such as the "Festival of the Garter" each year, and often travels abroad on behalf of the royal family. Although the queen is nominally the supreme commander of the British armed forces and a religious leader, she has the power to appoint and remove the prime minister, ministers, senior judges, and governors of various territories, and has the right to convene, stop and dissolve parliament, but in fact she rules but does not rule. The power of the cabinet is entirely in the cabinet, and the queen is just a symbol of the highest power in the country.All of the queen's government affairs are arranged by the cabinet, and senior officials must be appointed in accordance with the recommendations of the prime minister and the cabinet.When each session of Parliament, the Queen's Speech is drafted by the Prime Minister, and so on.According to current British law, if the Queen's own death sentence is presented to her, she also has to sign it.Edward VIII once complained that, as a king, he has no right to love a woman he likes. In contrast, Elizabeth II's love and marriage are relatively complete and satisfactory.As early as 1939, when the Queen visited the Royal Naval Academy in Dalmouth with her father, the Queen met her distant cousin, Prince Philip of Greece and Denmark, and immediately fell in love with him. The two got engaged on July 9, 1947 and were married at Westminster Abbey on November 20 of the same year.On the same day, George VI named Philip the Duke of Edinburgh.Elizabeth II and Prince Philip soon had two children: Prince Charles was born on November 14, 1948, and his sister, Princess Anne, was born on August 15, 1950.Prince Andrew did not come into the world until 1960.The youngest Prince Edward was born in 1964. But the queen's younger sister, Princess Margaret, was not so lucky and fell in love with an air force colonel Peter Townsend who was not befitting of her princess status.Margaret was only 14 years old when Townsend came to Buckingham Palace as the King's Stable Master during George VI's time. In 1952, the princess and the Air Force colonel both fell in love.But Townsend's family background is definitely not worthy of the princess, and he is also divorced and has two children.He was 16 years older than Margaret. In 1955, Princess Margaret was forced to break up with Townsend under pressure from the royal family, otherwise she would lose all financial resources.The colonel left England forever, came to France to settle down, and later married a Belgian girl. Princess Margaret married the glamorous and famous photographer Tony Armstrong-Jones five years later.She was nearly 30 at the time.The two lived together for 14 years and divorced in 1972 due to emotional discord. Tony was made Lord Snowdon in 1974 and has been the official photographer of the royal family. As time goes by, the princess has not forgotten her Prince Charming. In July 1992, the princess reunited with Peter Townsend, who had been separated for 40 years, at home.The colonel in front of him is already a gray-haired old man who is nearly eighty years old, and Princess Margaret has mixed feelings and feels sad. The heir to the throne, Charles Philip Arthur George, was well educated. l952 was created Duke of Cornwall, Earl of Carrick, Baron Renfrew, Isles of Scotland and Lord Great Steward. In 1958, he was named Prince of Wales (a special title reserved for the heir to the British throne during the reserve period) and Earl of Chester. He graduated from Geelong Grammar School in Australia at the age of 17. In 1967, Prince Charles entered Trinity College of Cambridge University to study archaeology, physics and anthropology. He received a bachelor's degree in 1971 and was the first British crown prince to obtain a bachelor's degree. From 1971 to 1976, he served abroad with the Royal Navy and entered the Royal Air Force Academy and Dartmouth Royal Naval Academy. Awarded an honorary degree by Durham University on 2 July 1998. Charles also showed a strong interest in painting, opera, hunting and so on.In recent years, Charles has devoted himself to architectural and environmental studies, as well as social matters related to the national economy and people's livelihood.If Charles had been king, he might have been too kind and weak, but as a man he deserved it.He took part in the tough training of the Navy, loved the intense game of polo, high-speed skiing down the slopes, and water-skiing surfing.He made all kinds of efforts to take over the British throne, but he was waiting for a long time. Compared with this millennium glorious royal family, the 19-year-old Diana is insignificant.But she will adapt to all this as the future queen.The difficulty can be imagined. Before moving into the royal family, Diana left a message to her roommates who lived together day and night: "Please call me, I believe I will need your help." Her words always seem to be unfortunate. Cinderella got the prince, but lost her free life.The ivory tower is magnificent, but it is so unreasonable. When the whole world is congratulating the prince on his happiness, Cinderella is facing everything with difficulty. She spent her first night in royal life at Clarence House, the Queen Mother's London residence.It was the quiet night when the storm was approaching, and she walked into this strange world completely alone and helpless.No one in the royal family felt the need to welcome her, not even her future husband. It is taken for granted that Diana was educated about royal etiquette.In fact, Diana received limited training in her new identity. After moving into Buckingham Palace, Diana began to feel it was a "suffocating" place. To a noisy girl used to communal flats, Buckingham Palace looked like everything but home.Diana felt like a pool of stagnant water here.The rigidity of the royal family is at odds with her lively disposition.She found that how to choose clothing is the only thing the royal family likes to innovate.For the rest, she just needs to "comply."She must learn the complicated and complicated etiquette in the court and the difference between seniority and inferiority, and familiarize herself with the glorious history of the royal family's ancestors.However, no one seemed ready to have a heart-to-heart exchange with her and give her the warmth of family and friends. Lonely girls need these.She found that the people in the palace treated her politely and deliberately avoided. Gradually, she grew resentful of the tact, prevarication, and subtle ambiguity of the court ministers; she felt it especially when she pointedly asked them to talk about her fiancé's relationship with Camilla Parker Bowles. at this point. She wandered around, trying to find someone to talk to.So she often wanders from the third-floor apartment to the kitchen, chatting with the chef to relieve boredom.On one occasion, Diana, dressed casually and barefoot, served a valet with bread and butter, who was very uncomfortable. Her efforts come across as "alien" to others.Everyone is so used to court life that they seem to have forgotten that this young girl also needs the understanding and communication of others.She just became a symbol, a title and a status. Diana attended the first official event, and her evening dress caused a sensation in London.Her unique taste in clothing led her to choose a strapless, plunging black silk evening gown. The clothing industry likes it, and the British common people appreciate it.But the royals won't be satisfied. This is by no means the conservative and dignified image of royal women. Charles even accused Diana of wearing mourning clothes. This hurt Diana, and she pushed back unceremoniously: "I'm not a member of your family yet." This unpleasantness is nothing.It's just that the differences in their concepts have begun to emerge. What happened next made her even more nervous. Facing rows of spotlights and critical reporters, Diana, who was not familiar with royal etiquette, struggled to cope and was extremely embarrassed. When the Princess of Monaco, who rescued her from the predicament, comforted her, she said something meaningful: "Don't be afraid, the worst is yet to come." In order to relieve the tension before marriage, she once asked the teachers of West Heath Middle School to teach her dance again.The last dance class before the wedding, Snipe recorded in his diary: "Diana counted the days before the wedding with her fingers, imagining the crowds outside the palace, and couldn't help secretly sad. We hope Classes continued in March, but Miss Diana said: 'After 12 days, I won't be who I am now.'” Having said this, Diana must have understood that for the coming glory, she must pay a high price that can be said to be incalculable-freedom, and herself. From the day she gave her marriage vows, she bid farewell to the lifestyle she had been used to for the past 20 years, the freedom to go shopping alone, the freedom to shop at will, and she could no longer visit friends on a whim or have a drink in a small bar. She married not only Charles, but Charles' duty and everything connected with it. In October 1981, Diana made her first visit as Princess of Wales.For the shy princess, welcoming the crowd's love was a real strain on her body.She kept making her way through the crowd, receiving bouquets and looking very happy.But torrential rain, severe pregnancy reactions and her physical condition made her unable to bear the glory of being the Princess of Wales.She said to her husband with tears in her eyes several times: She no longer has enough energy and courage to face the tide of enthusiastic crowds.More than once she missed the quiet flat in which she had lived before her marriage, and longed to be among her happy, innocent friends again. Charles sympathizes with his new wife, but royal duties cannot be ignored.For the glory of the royal family, people need to sacrifice for it.As she struggled to overcome her shyness and behaved in public time and time again, she sadly discovered the truth: "No matter how well you do, you will never hear any words of praise from your royal relatives." Diana Frustrated, Diana was forced to sever her ties to her former world during the difficult adjustment process, but received no worthwhile compensation from within the royal family. She needed wise advice, words of reassurance, but all she got was tactful and polite responses.They either treat her as an outsider, or they don't take her words seriously. The ancestral motto that the royal family abides by is: You are either a member of the royal family, or you are not. If Diana wanted to be "a member of the royal family", she had to work hard on her own, and no one else could help her.As an adult royal, she should take responsibility for her actions and solve her own problems.If she made a mistake, she was negligent; if she did the right thing, she did her duty without expecting any approval or encouragement. Diana was most perplexed by her change of status, both at court and elsewhere.She was no longer Diana Spencer, but a status, a title. "Her Royal Highness The Princess of Wales" distanced her not only from her former friends, but also from her royal relatives. Royal protocol dictates that people address her first as "His Royal Highness" and then as "Madame".Everyone curtseyed to her, of course.Diana felt very uncomfortable. She realized that everyone was seeing her with new eyes, treating her like a piece of precious china to be admired but not touched.Diana was overly treated, and what she longed for most was comfort, encouragement. In this predicament, her eating disorder recurred, she experienced constant nausea, and she lost weight precipitously, to the point of being "skinny."She often cried, quarreled with Charles, and even thought of suicide, but this just gave the royal family a bad impression. As far as members of the royal family are concerned, their upbringing and their temperament have kept them from emotion and rowdy scenes.In their world, emotions are controlled and behavior is routine.They had imagined that Diana would adapt to their rigid code of conduct overnight. For the duties of the Princess of Wales, almost every day, she has to participate in official activities with the bouts of vomiting.She also had a morbid fear at the time: that if her husband and members of the royal family were disappointed in her, it would be even more difficult in the future.For this reason, she always dragged her body, pale and sickly, and insisted on performing her duties.While she is keenly aware that she has not played the role of "husband", she also feels that other members of the royal family see her as a "liability".On several occasions she had to walk out of formal dinners at Sandringham and Windsor because of discomfort.She had every reason to go straight to bed rest, but she always insisted on returning to the dinner table when she was a little better.She sees it as her duty to persevere on such occasions and to maintain a good image. Regardless of the effort to maintain her image, for Diana, the biggest annoyance was the loneliness of court life.Her crown prince husband, Charles, is busy all day long, and nothing big can disrupt his schedule.Because of his royal duties, he naturally didn't have much time to take care of his new wife.Sometimes Charles will take care of the servants to take care of Diana, but how can a respectful servant replace the tender husband that Diana imagined? She finally found that marrying Charles seemed to be an extra "burden" for Charles, but she did not have an extra husband that belonged to her.He is always so busy. The warm and relaxed family life she had imagined would not appear, and she found that the royal family had too much rigid etiquette.Take dinner, for example. It's less like a meal and more like a ritual. 她必须准时7点30分下楼与大家共饮餐前酒；当钟敲响8下时，宣布晚餐开始，而她必须挽着王子，以高雅的姿态走向桌边，像其他人一样，站立等候女王入座；她不可以坐在王子的身旁等等。对查尔斯而言，他早习惯了这些规矩，从小他所受的教育就是不管在任何情况下，都不可以让女王等候。 戴安娜无法理解，王室生活对她来说已经成为一种沉重的负担。 在婚前，她已经有心理准备，但她没有想到日常起居生活等小事都成为冗长乏味的仪式。回想婚前那个自在的吃巧克力肉卷、看电视或往人家汽车上抹鸡蛋面粉的女孩，她觉得自己在违心地演戏。 另一方面，以戴安娜高中未毕业的学历和幼儿园保育员的工作背景，她也无法适应融入王室人员的高雅话题中。 她的无知让王室成员惊叹，作为王妃，她居然不知道澳大利亚的首都在哪里。 当欧洲的皇家和贵族聚会的时候，戴安娜更是无所适从。她对人说，逢到这种场合，她实在害怕坐下和人谈天，只是呆坐在那里，沉默着看那些王族和名流谈笑风生。以戴安娜当时的教育水平和见识，着实不容易找到和这些上层人士交谈的话题。一次有人问她怎样看待红色中国，她一本正经地回答说：“我认为红色的瓷器(在英文中“瓷器”和“中国”同字)配上蓝色的桌布，简直太好了。” 在王宫家庭的聚会上，王族的其他成员不时地换用法语、德语、意大利语和西班牙语交谈，戴安娜自觉像个聋子傻瓜，十分尴尬。她学一点儿法语，但早已经还给老师了。她惟一可以自我满意的地方，也许只有她的风姿美貌和公众与媒体对她的狂热崇拜与追捧。 开始女王以为，戴安娜进入王室以后，会以她的美丽和风姿给千年温莎王朝带来一丝新风，增进大众对王室的好感。但是女王未料到，戴安娜的风光不仅为英王室带来了新面貌，而且盖过了她的丈夫查尔斯。她本应该是丈夫的美丽陪衬，但事实上恰恰反过来了。 威尔士访问之行已经证实了这个令人沮丧的事实。更糟糕的是，戴安娜似乎未意识到自己的地位，有意无意间也抢了她丈夫的风光。 戴安娜王妃陪同查尔斯王子在澳大利亚访问一间音乐学校，有人提议让查尔斯王子演奏大提琴。对于查尔斯王子来说，这本来是一个亮相的良机。谁知戴安娜王妃却在此时似乎无心地起身漫步到钢琴旁边，开始演奏。摄影师们马上弃查尔斯王子于一侧，把镜头重新对准戴安娜王妃。 查尔斯进行枯燥的演讲，听得不耐烦的王妃将裙子提起。昏昏欲睡的摄影记者来精神了，抢拍了这难得的一刻。 这对她的丈夫来说，自然难堪。 第一个表示不满的是玛格丽特公主，女王的妹妹。她觉得温莎王室还没有人像戴安娜这样好出风头，把别人都当傻子。 戴安娜也承认，自己上报纸太多了，但是她喜欢曝光，喜欢让人注意她，喜欢人赞美她的姿容。 她还说：“我丈夫希望看到我美丽动人的样子。”戴安娜的衣服不计其数，珠宝的价值也不可估量。穿衣、化妆、握手、微笑，是她王妃生活的主要内容。 无所事事的戴安娜，也许穿什么衣服才是她一天中惟一能自己作主的决定。 当然这是一种夸张，她的早期宫廷生活中，王妃也在努力适应着。 王妃需要朋友。既然王室成员只能敬而远之，她试图和王室的工作人员交上朋友。 为了使自己快乐起来，她经常出入厨房。但这项尝试因为一位资深的王室工作人员的反对而终止了。 理由是王室和工作人员应该界限分明，主是主，仆是仆。 有一天，王妃去厨房看看，当她进门和每个人打招呼时，一位资深的仆役指了指门，礼貌又不很客气地说：“门外是你的世界，门内是我们的世界。”戴安娜吓了一跳，竟一时没反应过来。那仆役仍在那儿，挡住她的去路。王妃的脸一下红了起来，只好走开。从此以后她再没涉足过厨房。经过这事，她更感寂寞，也更不快乐，感到很压抑。 不快乐的戴安娜寂寞地生活于王宫中。她曾经是只快乐的、自由自在的小鸟，但她却飞进了王宫，被披上了锦衣，戴上了金冠，同时也被拔去了翅膀，关进了牢笼。快乐小鸟成为了悲哀的孔雀。 孔雀的悲哀还在于，随着种种原因她和查尔斯感情淡薄后，为了王室的形象，她还成为了婚姻中的玩偶与演戏的明星。她不再是她自己。