Chapter 10 and Xiaolan private life

Destiny is always elusive.Unbelievably, my failed first love brought my future wife to me. In one of the few dates that my first love girlfriend and I had, we arranged a movie networking event for 6 people.On my side are me, my brother, and my brother's girlfriend. Apart from herself, there are two female classmates of hers on her side, one of whom is my current wife, Sun Chunlan.After we fell in love, I kept calling her Xiaolan. The movie was watched at the Beijing Exhibition Hall.The first impression Xiaolan gave me was that she was a very pure girl, and I vaguely saw some shadow of Mayumi.She went to school very early, and was admitted to university at the age of 16, and she was only 19 years old at this time.Her skin is as white as milk, and she wears a pair of white-rimmed glasses. She is full of bookishness, and her quiet smile shows the simplicity of not being involved in worldly affairs.I was surprised when I first saw her, how could such a beauty not be on my top 50 list?

It was the end of the second semester of my junior year.After that meeting, my first love girlfriend and I broke up soon, and I never saw Xiaolan again.When I returned home during the summer vacation, my parents told me that they had found me the daughter of one of my father’s old workers in Changzhou, and asked me to go back early after graduating from university and get married in a newly built tile-roofed house.I am naturally very disgusted with such "parental orders". Unexpectedly, when I returned to school in my senior year, I accidentally went to a school dance on a weekend, and I saw Xiaolan again.When I was a sophomore, I saw a boy in the same dormitory who always went to the school dance hall to dance, so I learned the basic dance steps from him.Although I don't go to dances many times, I, who is quite musical, have invented a "Dang's Tango" dance.At that time, national standards were not prevalent, and the so-called dance steps were all performed on the spot. I learned whoever danced well in the dance hall.After learning one trick from the east and one style from the west, a little fusion became my original "Tang Tango", which greatly enhanced my status in the university dance forest.Guys ask girls to dance, and if they don't dance well, they get rejected for the second song, but that never happened to me.

Xiaolan is a member of the school dance team, so her dancing skills are even better.Since we already know each other, I went to ask her to dance.We danced three songs in a row, and the two of them hardly spoke during the dance, or I don't remember if I did.All I remember are her clear watery eyes, a slightly shy smile, and the swirl of the hem of her sky blue dress with the dance steps.It all made me feel a little tipsy. In college, girls usually like to go together, and boys have very few opportunities to speak alone.A few days later at noon, I intentionally strolled outside the school cafeteria.I saw that she was going back to the dormitory after finishing the meal alone. This was a rare opportunity, so I hurried up to her and said, "Sun Chunlan, see you in the school library at 7:30 tonight." Then I left.

Later my wife told me that at that time she never thought that I would come to ask her out, and she just felt at a loss while holding the lunch box.I was going to refuse on the spot, but before I said it, I had already left.So I had no choice but to go to my appointment at night and tell me to my face that she was not interested in dating. At 7:30 in the evening, at the edge of a triangular table at the entrance of the newspaper reading room, I flipped through the newspaper uneasily, and she showed up on time.When I saw her coming, a stone fell from my heart, and I said excitedly and excitedly: "You are here, let's go out for a walk." Just like that, I didn't allow her to say anything, so I pulled her out. out of the library.

This is our first official date.During the walk, I chatted with her pretending to be relaxed, and talked about things in our respective lives.That day was Wednesday, and at the end of the day, I asked her to hang out with her at the school gate at 9 o'clock on Sunday morning, and she agreed again.I was secretly happy.After that walk, she said later, she had taken a liking to me. On Sunday morning, I came to the school gate 20 minutes early and waited.Sure enough, she came on time again, wearing a white dress and wearing a headband like Junko Xiaolu in "Volleyball Girl".The two of us got on the bus and walked through the blue-gray toned city of Beijing to the golden and green Lama Temple.It was a day when the sky was high and the clouds were clear, and the scenery and people you saw along the way seemed to have been washed by water.Neither of us talked much that day, but it felt great.For the first time, I discovered that when I was with a girl, I didn't need to deliberately pursue her, but I could also have a tacit understanding.If you can always have this feeling, what more can you ask for in life? On the way back, I said to her on a whim: "I like you very much, will you marry me?" She looked at me in surprise and said What came out was: "Well, I should have no problem."

Thinking about it now, I am so grateful for that day.Thank you for the weather that day, thank you for everything you encountered that day, thank you for my request and Xiaolan's answer that day.That day was doomed to our fate for more than 20 years.The more than 20 years since that day are both reality and fairy tales.The bitterness, joy, sadness and joy, only the two of us clearly understand it in our hearts. The Passion of "Success 4+1" According to my observation, many college students are only impulsive but not passionate.Does passion equal impulsiveness? No.Passion is something that comes from the heart and flows from the blood.

Do any one thing, once you have passion, the probability of success will be much greater.Because passion will make you continue to pay attention to it, invest in it, and enjoy it. When you enjoy the thrill of achievement, you will continue to continue your passion, thus forming a virtuous circle of passion. Real life will not be as glamorous as imagined, even if you take the position of president, your work will be boring.But passion can turn a negative cycle into a positive cycle, as long as you put in, you can find fun. When cultivating your passion, you must also pay attention to the direction and height you determine.Ideals should not be set too high. Try to set a relatively short-term goal. When you achieve this short-term goal, you will feel that your passion will be rewarded.

In life, you must compare yourself with yourself, even if you only make a little progress, but you must be more passionate today than you were yesterday. Entering my senior year, I already felt that my major had little future, and I also felt uninterested in the prospect of returning to Jiangsu to be a teacher.I think optical fiber communication is a development direction of the future communication industry, so I decided to change my major and go abroad for postgraduate entrance examination. The first time I had the idea of ​​going abroad, it was in my brother's graduate student dormitory at Tsinghua University.From the sophomore to the junior year, I often went to my brother, and he had a great influence on me during that time.He often told me that going abroad is very helpful to a person's future, if possible, we must try to go abroad.

In my senior year, I had the opportunity to go to the Institute of Semiconductors, Chinese Academy of Sciences for an internship.There are 5 places in the class, and many people don't want to go.At that time, the purpose of our internship was to do our graduation thesis. To go to the Chinese Academy of Sciences, we had to go back and forth early and late every day. How could it be convenient in school? This just happened to me.I think this is definitely a good opportunity to broaden my horizons, and my brother has also practiced there, and I have also visited the laboratory where he practiced, and I have longed for the Chinese Academy of Sciences in my heart.

Sure enough, here I saw what true wisdom is.Diligent and rigorous scientists, unheard-of instruments, and fresh and avant-garde scientific research concepts all amazed the 22-year-old me.I also saw the newest computer for the first time.What a beautiful Apple II, it is simply a magical elf.The most wonderful thing about it is that it can directly draw the experimental data with a curve. If it is drawn by hand, it can only be drawn by comparing one data with one axis.Even the equipment of the whole laboratory is fully controlled by computer.We must know that at that time, Beiyou still used the old-fashioned computer with a body so huge that it could fit in a room, and the input program had to punch holes in the paper tape first. Most of our experiments in school were completely done by hand.The comparison of the two makes people feel like they are in two worlds and two eras.

In the Institute of Semiconductors of the Academy of Sciences, many people have gone abroad for investigation or training, and we often see people coming back from abroad.They showed me some photos taken in the United States, beautiful campus scenery, and novel laboratories, which made me feel like I was peeping into a mysterious new world.My intern tutor came back from further studies in the United States. His English is excellent, and he brought back many advanced instruments from abroad, so he is highly respected in the institute.During the intervals between the usual experiments, one of his assistants often told me the benefits of going abroad.Therefore, I have strengthened my belief that I must go abroad. It took me eight or nine months to complete the new professional courses.With so much unfamiliar content, I found a way to learn quickly.I can finish a book in two or three weeks.In order to prepare for the exam, I did a variety of questions and took the time to fill in a lot of content that I didn't master when I read the book.Although mechanical and repetitive learning is a kind of torment, there is no other way but persistence. Wisdom of "Success 4+1" Is knowledge alone wisdom? No.Wisdom is the ability to use knowledge.Studying in college is not just about simply reading books.It is important to study what major to study, but more important than this is to develop your own learning ability. The learning method that companies need is not to give you a book and let you study for three months to get a good grade.Instead, I will give you a book, and a result will be produced in one day.This is the rapid learning method.Therefore, I don't think it matters at all whether the grades in the courses taken in college are good or bad.You try to do: Take a book and study for three days at the beginning of school, and then go to the exam-even if you only get 60% of the answers correctly, you must be a good student! Many college students with excellent grades are not very good in enterprises. Why? It is because they do not have the ability to learn quickly.How to cultivate this ability? Take a chapter and spend half a day reading it to see if you have roughly learned it.If you can't do it in this chapter, come back to the next chapter and sort it out again.Keep tweaking to see what works for you.If you can't find this quick way to learn, you're not in college!