The fruit of silence is prayer, The fruit of prayer is faith, The fruit of faith is love, The fruit of love is service, The fruit of service is peace. An Indian businessman who admired Mother Duran wrote the above five sentences for her and printed them on some small yellow cards.Sister Durham used these little cards as her career cards, which she gave away for free to people all over the world.Because these five sentences clearly clarify the direction of her work and the path she is walking on. This simple path was opened up by Sister Durham, and anyone can follow and follow.If a person can truly submit to the essence of this path, life must be more joyful, more peaceful, and full of light.

The city of Skopje, the capital of Macedonia, is the city where Sister Delam was born and raised, where she spent a happy and turbulent childhood and adolescence.Therefore, it is necessary for us to go there and take a look to see what a beautiful and troubled place it is. At the turn of the 19th and 20th centuries, shortly before Mother Drum was born, Skopje was very different from what it is now, when it was a small town belonging to the Kingdom of Macedonia, but it has been around since the Turkish invasion. under Turkish rule.Skopje is located in the southern part of the Balkan Peninsula, only 120 kilometers from the Greek border. By European standards, it is just a simple small town.But for many years, the Celts, Romans, and Hungarians all waged wars for the place, and it was not until around 1910, when Sister Delam was born, that the place became a little calmer.

But the First World War broke out soon, and because of its special geographical location, it inevitably became the center of the "European powder magazine".In World War II, it was again occupied by Italy and Germany.After World War II, Skopje belonged to the Federal Republic of Yugoslavia.It was not until the end of the 20th century that Skopje became the capital of Macedonia after it became independent from the Yugoslavia. But to this day, that beautiful place is still plagued by poverty, chaos and ethnic conflicts. In 1910, the war that lasted for many years finally came to a halt, and peace began to gently embrace this beautiful small town. At dusk, a builder from Albania was walking home happily. His name was Nikolai? Bao Yashu.Although the truce lasted only a short month, the business of the construction factory flourished.His wife greeted him at the door with a smile.Her name is Zhuang Da, she is a gentle and dignified woman, but also has deep love and faith.

In Skopje at that time, there were not many Christian Albanians, or even very few.In this small city ruled by the Ottoman Empire for 500 years, mosques stand shoulder to shoulder with churches.But the Nicholas family, who believed in God, was very devout. On August 27 of this year, the three children of Nicholas and Zhuang Da were born.Before that, they already had a daughter and a son.But the birth of this little girl still brought great joy to the family.This is God's gift to us, what a precious gift.Zhuang Da thought, hugging his little daughter more tenderly.Staring into her daughter's clear brown eyes, she happily said to the family, "If you have no other better ideas, then let's call her Gong Sha!"

"Gong Sha, Gong Sha." The younger brother and the younger sister called softly. In the Albanian language, Gongsha means flower This little girl who came in the joy of peace was to become the world-famous Sister Durham in the future.Her full name is: Agnes Gongsha.Bao Yashu.Some people also translated this name into Yani? Gongha.Boyas or; or, Agnes Gonza.Boyajin; or, according to Si? Gongxia? Boyashu, and so on.As for how she became world-famous, we will talk about it slowly. Do you have the cure for poverty? Little Gong Sha grew up quickly.When she was playing in the street with the other kids, there was nothing special about her.She's a bit sentimental, but she's also bubbly, and she goes to a public school with other kids in a small town, and she's not the best student at school, but she likes to think for herself, keep things down to earth, and don't talk empty words.This important quality played a vital role in her later service to the poorest of the poor.As we shall see later, Sister Delam spent her whole life against empty words.

Little Gong Sha's childhood was in the chaotic period of the First World War, but the strong parents used kindness to build a solid barrier for the three children, so that they could live in sunny days even in the turbulent war years. In warmth and tranquility. This kind of love is like what an Indian poet named Tagore wrote when praising God: Let your love surround me like sunshine, and give me brilliant freedom.Little Gong Sha is living in such love. In fact, we also live in such love.If we don't feel it, it must be that the "I" in our hearts has grown too big, covering our ability to feel love.

In addition to going to school and playing, Xiao Gongsha often attends church activities with her parents and older brothers and sisters-her whole family is devout Catholics.However, this was nothing special at the time and place, because the residents of the whole area were deeply religious, and the church or mosque was not only the center of spiritual life, but also the center of social life. In this regard, we are not the same as those countries or nations that believe in religion.But even if we don't have any religious beliefs, we should have awe and gratitude for God and a basic respect for what we don't know yet.

Little Gongsha and her older sister Jaga both love music, and they give this love unreservedly to the church - they are both key members of the church choir.Because of her clear voice, little Gong Sha often acts as a soloist. When she sings solo, the pianist who accompanies her can't help but admire: "Listen, lovely little Gong Sha, her singing voice is as beautiful as an angel. " Not only in church, but also when friends gather, Xiao Gongsha's wonderful soprano voice always brings joy to everyone.Therefore, even when going out to play, friends should tell little Gong Sha: "Hey, Gong Sha, don't forget to bring the accordion or mandolin."

However, not everything in this world is as simple and beautiful as music. In Skopje at that time, poverty could be seen at any time, and poor people came to beg for money almost every day.Therefore, mother Zhuang Da often taught the three children that no matter when, they should not lose love and generosity.Zhuang Da never let the poor people who come to beg for money leave empty-handed.And when giving, she always smiles and is as kind as possible, for fear that their self-esteem will be damaged-after all, no one likes the feeling of being rescued. Zhuang Da said: "When you eat, always be ready to share your food with someone who has nothing to eat."

Zhuang Da also said: "Although those people have no blood relationship with us, although they are poor, they are still our brothers and sisters." Zhuang Da not only talked, but also personally participated in several charity associations of the church. In addition to preaching, he also did some specific things to serve the poor. Under the influence of her mother, little Gong Sha began to pay attention to the poor at a very young age, and was very sensitive to poverty.Once, little Gongsha went to the church with her whole family. At the door of the church, she saw many poor people queuing up to receive bread, so she asked Nicholas: "Dad, do you have medicine to cure poverty?" He opened a construction factory and a pharmacy, so little Gong Sha would ask this question.

Nicholas was moved by his daughter's kindness. He hugged his daughter lovingly and said, "Dear baby, until now, I haven't found a cure for poverty in the world. If you can invent this medicine, I must be very happy." Happy." At that time.Little Gong Sha has not yet entered elementary school, she is a preschool child.But as an adult, Gong Sha, our beloved Sister Delan, has actually devoted her whole life to one thing, that is, treating poverty.Of course, what she used was a very special medicine, and the name of this medicine was love. Everything passes away but love stays Gong Sha's early life was not only influenced by the church and her mother, but also by other influences, such as her father's influence, and it was greatly influenced. Gong Sha's father, Nicola, was a radical nationalist, and he often held some political rallies at home.In the silent late night, Nicholas and his comrades had a meeting in the living room, and little Gongsha was reading in her room.No matter how dedicated little Gong Sha is, she will still be attracted by the passionate voices of her father and uncles: "Albania will be independent one day, and we must promote its realization!" Therefore, although this is a family that believes in the Lord, But in fact, for a long time, it has been shrouded in a strong political atmosphere rather than religious atmosphere. Albania was occupied by Turkey in the Middle Ages, and has been under Turkish rule for 500 years since then.When Xiao Gongsha was 9 years old in 1919, it was still ruled by Turks. Little Gongsha loved her father very much, so those rallies taught her a profound life lesson, making her understand from an early age that strength and determination are indispensable when one is pursuing a goal.Her father often said to her: "As long as you believe that you are right, never give up!" One night in August 1919, Nicholas went to a political dinner.When he came back, his appearance was completely changed, as if he was a different person. Little Gong Sha exclaimed in surprise: "Dad, what's wrong with you?" Zhuang Da hurried over to help Nicholas: "Nicholas, are you sick?" The older sister Yajia shouted in panic: "Mom, Dad's mouth is bleeding." Nicholas leaned on Zhuang Da, and said very weakly: "Zhuang Da... I feel... very uncomfortable..." Before he could finish speaking, he fell to the ground with a thud. Zhuang Da immediately sent Nicholas to the hospital.But the best medical skills at that time could not save him, and he died a few hours later.The doctor said sadly to Zhuang Da: "I'm so sad. From the way he bleeds, it looks like he was poisoned." As soon as the doctor finished speaking, his elder brother Lazar stood up abruptly. He shouted angrily, "He was murdered! I knew it must be! Someone tried to suppress his fierce speech." The sudden death of his father had a huge impact on this perfect family, among which Lazar may be the most affected. A few years later, he chose to inherit his father's will without hesitation - to fight for the independence of Albania. This year, Xiao Gongsha just turned 9 years old. She didn't understand what happened, let alone why her father never came home again.The pain of losing her father, as well as the deep thought of her father, made Xiao Gongsha write a small poem: his burning heart caring wife and children and country, like a gorgeous rose Falling in rags. Many years later, when Gong Sha was already the Delan principal of St. Mary's Middle School, in order to comfort a little girl from Bangladesh who refused to sleep late at night, she recited this little poem and said: "This poem means to be an important person. Believe in love, whether you see hatred or destruction, believe in love." In those silent and long nights, 9-year-old Gong Sha often cried because she missed her father. When she cried, she would read this little poem and say to herself, "Believe in love, no matter what you encounter , Is it hatred, or is it destruction, is it abandoned? Or is it plundered? No matter what happens to you, believe that everything will pass away, but love will stay." compassion has eternal value The children's singing and laughter have not been heard in the house for a long time.This morning, as soon as the warm sunshine hit the window, his mother Zhuang Da woke up the children, then called them to her side, held their hands tightly, and said lovingly and firmly: "This is a very important thing." Terrible tragedy, but it is over. Children, Nikolay must want us to think about the future, rather than wallow in the grief of losing him. I think we should now try to find ways to keep this family together. Children Ladies and gentlemen, I am responsible, and you are also responsible." Many things are easier said than done.Nikolai's partners quickly embezzled all the assets of the construction factory, leaving Bao Yashu's family without a source of income. They had to sell all the family properties purchased by Nikolai when the business was booming.When the carriage full of various utensils left slowly, Lazar shouted anxiously: "Mom!" But Zhuang Da calmly said to the children: "Don't quarrel, children, these things are just things outside the body." Soon thereafter, they had nothing left but a single shelter. It was a period of extremely bleak days, and for some weak-willed people, it was simply hopeless. But the strong Zhuangda Bao Yashu and her children never gave up hope, let alone faith.In the most difficult times, Zhuang Da always said to the children: "God help those who help themselves! We must help ourselves, children, for the sake of the Lord!" Not long after, Zhuang Da opened a small shop by himself, mainly selling clothing materials, hand-woven blankets and embroidery. Completely beyond Zhuang Da's expectation, the business of the small shop improved quickly.In this way, Xiao Gong Sha and her brothers and sisters who dropped out of school can continue to go to school again.In this way, Zhuang Da saved the family and the future of several children with her tenacity and intelligence.If Bao Yashu's family were to decline because of Nicholas' sudden death, then, to a large extent, it would be very difficult for little Gong Sha, who dropped out of school because of this, to become Sister Delan in the future.This benevolent angel of mercy and the Holy Mother of the poor, it is difficult to appear in our world. Oh, we should really thank Zhuang Da for this, she is really a great mother. During those extremely difficult days, little Gong Sha often helped in the fields.At that time, Skopje was just a small town, comparable to some small towns now.In addition to doing business, the residents of the town also cultivate some fields to supplement family expenses.The hard work in the field not only cultivated Xiao Gongsha's courage to endure hardships, but also cultivated her patience and resilience in the face of hardships, so that she will have enough strength to face the huge difficulties that arise in missionary work in the future. Because of Zhuang Da's hard work and intelligence, the family gradually prospered again.Zhuang Da's reputation is getting higher and higher, and even the bosses of some textile factories often visit her and ask her to express her opinions on the selection of materials in the factory.The life of this family has also roughly returned to the situation before Nicholas' death, but it is not exactly the same. When Nicholas was alive, because of Nicholas' political stance, the family was always filled with a strong political atmosphere.But now, under the leadership of Zhuang Da, the religious atmosphere began to envelope the family.What used to be talk of Albanian independence is now replaced by prayers and good deeds. One day, Zhuang Da met a woman with a tumor on the street.But what hurt her more than the physical pain was that none of her family members were willing to help her, and they even drove her out, leaving her with nowhere to live.Zhuang Da didn't know this woman, but he saw her like this.He deeply pitied her and sympathized with her.Zhuang Da said to her: "Then, please come to my house and let me take care of you." As he said that, he really brought this stranger back home. "Children, we have guests." Zhuang Da shouted when he entered the door.This sentence sounds ordinary, but it gave this woman a lot of comfort, and made her feel that although she was so miserable, she was still respected. The words and deeds of her mother subtly influenced Xiao Gongsha in this way, making her understand that respect is indispensable and love is the most important thing when serving the poor after becoming Mother Teresa.Poor people have no money and no social status, but they are not without dignity.So when you do something for the poor, you should first let him feel that you are not giving charity, but loving. Years later, Lazar said, recalling his mother.I suspect that few people I know would be willing to do that. " With the help of the three children, Zhuang Da comforted the poor woman, provided her with food and shelter, paid for her medical treatment, and personally took care of her in some trivial and troublesome things until she finally recovered. When the time for parting came, the woman held Zhuang Da's hand tightly, with tears in her eyes, she choked up and said, "Benefactor, how should I repay you?" And Zhuang Da simply replied: "You don't need to do anything, take good care of yourself, that's the best reward for me." The woman walked away step by step.Little Gong Sha stood at the door and quietly witnessed this moving scene.If little Gong Sha learned strength and will from her father, then she discovered another treasure in the world from her mother: sympathy has eternal value. This book had an extraordinary impact on her life This year's Easter is coming soon, and her mother gave Xiao Gongsha a copy of "The Biography of Saint Francis of Assisi" as an Easter gift.No one expected that this book would have an extraordinary impact on Gong Sha's life. "The Biography of St. Francis of Assisi" deeply attracted little Gong Sha and moved her deeply. She thought: "There are still people living like this in the world." One late night, little Gong Sha reread the book under the lamp At that time, a burning desire suddenly rose in my heart: "I want to live like Francis, I can't just live for myself, I want to contribute something to this world." It was a spring night, the clear moon quietly illuminated the beautiful land of Skopje, and the night wind was blowing, bringing the fragrance of grass and flowers and the singing of insects in the fields. 12-year-old Xiao Gongsha stood in front of the window, looking at the bright moon in the sky, and made her promise. What kind of book is The Life of Saint Francis of Assisi?Why did it move Xiao Gongsha so deeply and have an extremely important impact on her life? This is a book recording the deeds of the monk Francis.Francis was a saint in the 12th century.He was born in Assisi, Italy, the son of a wealthy cloth merchant.When he was young, Francis suffered a serious illness due to being captured in the war. After recovering, he followed Jesus Christ and became a monk, serving the poor and sick.At that time, people were extremely afraid of various infectious diseases such as leprosy. Before Francis, many monks had sacrificed their lives to take care of the sick, but Francis still embarked on this road without hesitation. , The congregation founded by Francis is called the "Little Brotherhood", which means to be humble and smaller than anyone else. Dante, the greatest Italian poet, was also a member of the Fraticelli.Dante published the immortal "Divine Comedy" at the beginning of the 14th century. For 700 years, this masterpiece has exuded a rare and magical charm in any era.In order to show respect for Christ, Dante never directly called Christ's name in "Divine Comedy: Inferno", but replaced it with "mighty one".Even, in order to express his extreme reverence for the Virgin Mary, he never directly mentioned her name in "Inferno". Poverty is the main spirit of the "fraternity", and Francis and his little brothers have nothing but a gray dungaree coat, two pairs of trousers, and a rope to tie the coat.They renounce all the riches and luxuries of this world in order to perfectly imitate Christ and serve the poor and the outcast.After Francis' death, generations, including some of the non-religious, agreed that he was one of the greatest saints, the most perfect of Christ's followers.He influenced countless others, including our beloved Sister Duran. In fact, Mother Teresa's life is very similar to that of Francis in many ways.The poverty and simplicity she chose, her dedication to the teachings of Christ, her complete trust in God, her firm belief in serving the poor among the poor, and so on.Also, Francis was an extremist—or even considered a heretic—in his day, because he lived the life of a beggar, believed in divine protection, closely followed the teachings of the Gospel, and held within his own organization what he believed in. Religion reforms without breaking with the church.And Sister Durham was a radical even in the 20th century—a strong and charismatic female leader under the patriarchal authority of the Church.The order that Francis founded is one of the largest in the world, and so is that of Sister Terram, and it is in Calcutta, India.It can be said that Kolkata is one of the poorest and most polluted cities in Asia, and it is also one of the most difficult cities.After Francis founded the Men's Order, he founded the Women's Order; so did Mother Teresa, who founded the Men's Order after the Women's Order.Not only that, but the Order of Francis later developed into a larger family, the Third Franciscan Order; while the order of Mother Teresa separated into a secular branch, her volunteers or assistants. member. They all followed a simple and unadorned path and thus opened up a new possibility for Christianity. Not only that, it is said that Francis was also a very magical person. He called small fishes and crickets brothers; he called cicadas sisters; Honey and wine, in order not to let the bees starve to death in the cold winter; when walking in the snow-capped jungle, he didn't care whether the cold dead branches would scratch him, but he accidentally broke those exquisitely carved branches. beautiful foliage. He loves everything so deeply.For to him all things are God incarnate.In the end, everything was moved by him and fed back the same deep love to him. It is said that when he was retreating on a small island, a hare always followed him, inseparable; in Siena, a flock of sheep followed him, meekly growling to him, and clinging to him trustingly; When sailing in a lake, a fish pursued his boat, and would not leave it for a long time; even the jackal was willing to obey him and be his brother; and the birds liked him more. When he was preaching, the birds scrambled to rest on his head, shoulders, legs, feet, and palms, and some even hid in the folds of his clothes. The ones who grabbed the seat landed on the open space in front of him, raised their cute little heads, looked at Francis, and listened to him attentively.It is said that once, when Francis was preaching in a city, a group of swallows were chattering under the eaves, and Francis said to them: "Sister swallows, you have talked enough, now you should listen to me. The Lord is right." Before the words finished, the swallows immediately fell silent. Francis was also a poet. The peace prayer we saw earlier was written by Francis. It can be said that this is the most beautiful and most beloved prayer in the world. After Francis passed away in 1226, the prayer "Lord, please make us instruments of peace" resounded in Assisi and spread throughout the world.At the Nobel Peace Prize Award Ceremony in December 1979, Mother Delam sent a "Prayer for Peace" to each participant, and invited everyone to pray together for the peace of all mankind. The 12-year-old little Gong Sha held the "Saint Francis of Assisi" in her hands on that beautiful moonlit night, looked at the bright moon in the sky, and secretly made such a vow.But at that time, she didn't know what to do, let alone become a nun. Planted the seeds of love in her plump heart In 1925, little Gong Sha was 15 years old.This year, she participated in a youth seminar group at her church.This group is called the Church of Our Lady.This was actually nothing special at the time.Because many girls in the city participated. But the researchers of Mother Teresa believe that this is a turning point for Gong Sha to become Mother Teresa. There are many activities in the Church of Notre Dame, and one of the activities that is often held is to read the letters sent back by Jesuit missionaries from Bangladesh, India and other places.In addition to introducing the academic affairs there, those letters also talked about the social conditions there. One letter wrote: "The life here is extremely poor, and even hard-hearted people will cry when they see it. Thousands of people died of starvation." Thousands of people?every day?O my Lord! Little Gong Sha was so surprised that her heart almost stopped beating.She couldn't believe it; somewhere in the world there was such poverty and misery. She could no longer be calm—couldn't pretend she hadn't heard the news.She began to think about it, and vaguely realized that maybe she could do something about it. Since then, the words in the missionary's letter have been lingering in Gong Sha's mind, lingering, to be more precise, never disappearing for a moment.Later, she even began to miss that place, just like missing her hometown, as if those people who were struggling in suffering were her relatives.Such thoughts made her calmer and more fond of thinking.When girls of the same age were happily playing on the playground, she sat quietly with a Bible in her hand, or walked quietly under the tree by herself. At this time, little Gong Sha has grown into a charming girl. She has a pair of deep and bright eyes, and a clear and clear soprano voice. These two points alone are enough to make her the student's favorite. The object is enough to make her the pride of Bao Yashu's family.In fact, brother Lazar was particularly proud of this younger sister.Gong Sha is about to graduate from high school, and her brother firmly believes that her sister will have a bright future.At that time, there were very few high school graduates, and even fewer girls. At this time, Laza left Skopje. He was deeply influenced by his father and determined to inherit his father's behest.Therefore, he applied for the military academy, which is exactly what Nicholas wanted.After graduating from the military academy, Lazar joined the Albanian Army immediately.If Nikolai's spirit in heaven knew, he would be deeply comforted. However, Laza did not expect, never imagined that when he kissed his sister off at Che Liyu, it would be the last time he saw "Gong Sha? Bao Yashu", that is to say, when La Sui When I saw my sister again many years later, she had changed from Gong Sha to "Sister Delan". After La withdrew, the life of the family continued as before.After Gong Sha finished school, she went to the store to help her mother with work, and then participated in the activities of the Notre Dame Church.At the same time, she often asks the priest for information about missionary work to satisfy her deepest desire. One day, Gong Sha accidentally ran into a priest who had just returned from India at the train station. She greeted him immediately, and said to the priest, "Father, have you just returned from India? Please tell me a story Can you tell me about your working situation there?" Little Gong Sha couldn't wait for the priest to return to the church, so she found a random place in the station and dragged the priest to sit down. We don't need to know exactly how long the priest spoke that day.We only know that the priest was speaking, and Gong Sha was listening, listening intently, for fear of missing a word or a word. In this kind of study, how much did Gong Sha learn?How much did you absorb?No one knew, probably not even Gong Sha herself.But soon, people were amazed to see that faith had borne miraculous fruits on this little tree of longing for God. Once, during a church Sunday service, the new parishioner opened a scroll of world maps.This is a very special world map with some signs prominently printed on it.Holding up the map, the young priest asked, "Can anyone tell me what these signs represent?" Present here are all believers in the city of Skopje.But only Gong Sha stood up and replied, "I know, Father." So the priest asked Gong Sha to come forward and explain those signs to everyone.Gong Sha walked to the map gracefully, pointed to one of the signs and said, "This is the mission area established by the Jesuit father and son in Bangladesh in 1925. There are two Yugoslav missionaries there." Then Gong Sha moved her finger To another sign, said "This missionary area was established earlier..." It turns out that the sign on the map represents every country and region that the Jesuit missionaries have reached, and the 15-year-old Gong Sha was able to Explain the situation in each mission area clearly, like a treasure. Mother Zhuang Da was not surprised. She knew that little Gong Sha had been paying attention to missionary affairs for a long time.It's just that she didn't expect her to understand it so carefully, so deeply, and so comprehensively.But Gong Sha's outstanding performance surprised the new parish priest and left a very deep impression on her.At the end of the meeting, Father Priest called Gong Sha cordially and said to her: "Gong Sha, you should be rewarded for your enthusiasm. I will give you the address of the Lloyd Sisters in Ireland. They are also preaching in Calcutta. If you want , you can communicate with them." She made a life-changing decision In 1928, 18-year-old Gong Sha graduated from high school.On this day, a priest who often came to Bao Yashu's house came again. He came to collect donations for the nuns. Several nuns of the Laureate Sisters were about to leave for Calcutta, India to preach. After the priest left, Gong Sha suddenly had a strong and uncontrollable desire: "I also want to go to India, to Calcutta, to serve Christ there—to serve the poorest of the poor." That is to say, She's going to join the order of nuns. Gong Sha firmly believed that this was God's call to her. This is an extraordinary decision.Choosing to be a nun is tantamount to completely giving up the life of this world, and some kind of good future that may exist.In short, it is a huge sacrifice in life, which is equivalent to death in a sense, that is, completely dedicating oneself.And Gong Sha is a girl with a healthy body and mind. It is undeniable that she also dreamed of being a happy bride in the deep quiet night.But now, the desire to respond to the Lord has completely overwhelmed that dream, and she is no longer willing to live as an ordinary woman for the rest of her life, so she can live happily, sweetly, and warmly. She decided to join the order of nuns. Of course, this is just her personal idea, she must also seek the opinions of her mother and sister, if she can get their approval and blessing, she will be very happy. That evening—it was an unusual evening. After dinner, the mother and daughter sat around the table and chatted.It was getting dark, it was the softest and most peaceful moment of the day.Gong Sha pondered for a long time, and finally plucked up the courage to say softly: "Mom, sister, I have an idea, and I hope to get your permission, so that I can answer the Lord's call." She chose words carefully, so that she would not Excited, she clasped her hands.After saying this, she lowered her eyes and paused for a moment, then raised her head again, and said more clearly and firmly: "I want to join the Sisters of Lloyd—I want to become a nun in India." The mother looked at her dear little daughter with great surprise.Although she is a devout Catholic herself, she also wants her daughter to be a devout Catholic.But to join the order of nuns and be a born nun is something else entirely. Yet she agreed.She knew that no one could change what Gong Sha had decided.In this, she is too much like her father; as long as she believes that she is right, she will never give up, even if it costs her life. Gong Sha was very happy.She stood up and hugged her mother and sister tightly.She is deeply grateful for their understanding and support.But she thought that this was not enough, and she had to tell Lazar that if Lazar also supported her, it would be more perfect. So, she wrote a letter to Lazar, telling him this important decision.At this time, Lazar was already a lieutenant in the Albanian army, but Lazar's reaction was very cold. He wrote back: "How can a girl like you become a nun? Don't you understand, Are you ruining your own future by doing this?" In order to attract Gong Sha's attention, he also drew a heavy horizontal line under the word "destroy". After reading Lazar's letter, Gong Sha was extremely distressed.She longed deeply for Lazar's blessing because he meant so much to her.But Lazar's objection did not shake her belief. She wrote in her reply to Lazar: "Dear brother, you think your status is very important. As an officer, you serve the king who has two million subjects. .Did you know? I am also an officer, but I serve the king of the whole world! Which of us is right?" After Gong Sha finished writing her reply letter to her brother, she was led by the priest to visit the dean of the Skopje Monastery of the Lloyd Sisters in the suburbs. Everything went smoothly. Although there are some necessary assessments for joining the Sisters, Gong Sha Clearly impeccable, she was accepted on the spot. 这一年的11月，修女会安排龚莎前往劳莱德修女会总会做望会生(见习生)，总会位于爱尔兰首都都柏林的附近，也就是说，龚莎要离开斯科普里，离开亲爱的母亲和姐姐，离开这个温暖的家庭了。 离别总是伤感的。母亲流着眼泪呼喊龚莎，她有可能再也见不到亲爱的小女儿了。这对一个母亲来说，该是多么大的牺牲和奉献。龚莎虽然也跟母亲一样恋恋不舍，一样难过，但她还是头也不回地上了火车。 若干年后，当一位记者问到德兰姆姆早年的生活时，她说“起初，约在12岁至18岁时，我并没想过当修女，那时我有一个十分美满的家庭。可是到了18岁，我便拿定主意要弃家修道。从那以后，50年来，我从未怀疑过我的这个决定。我想这是上主的圣意，是他的选择，不是我的选择。” 18岁的龚莎，为自己的人生做了一个重大的决定。这个决定不仅注定要影响她的一生，而且注定要影响许多人的一生。”走出去，把基督的生命带给众人。”多年后，德兰姆姆在描述她18岁那年所领受到的召唤时，说了这样一句话，并把这次召唤看成是上主对她的第一次圣召。