Chapter 8 Wu Mi: Rigorous in academic studies and honest in life

Wu Mi (1894—1978.1.17), born in 1894 (the 20th year of the reign of Emperor Guangxu of the Qing Dynasty), was born in Jingyang County, Shaanxi Province.Yu Seng, Yu Sheng, pen name Yu Sheng, a famous Western writer, a professor of the Faculty of Arts of National Southeast University (1926-1928), was elected as a professor by the Ministry of Education in 1941. Professor Wu Mi's lesson preparation is quite distinctive.When the Southwest Associated University moved southward, the Faculty of Liberal Arts held classes at the old site of the Bible Academy on the hillside of Hengshan Mountain in Nanyue, and the dormitory was once tight.Professor Wu Mi shared a room with Qian Mu, Wen Yiduo and Shen Youding.

At the beginning of the Anti-Japanese War, the conditions for running the school were poor, but he was calm and composed, and he was still meticulous in preparing lessons, which made people awe-inspiring.There is an article in Qian Mu's "Eighty Reminiscences of Parents, Teachers and Friends" recalling this incident, writing: "There is a long table in the room. At night, one more spontaneously ignites and one lamp is placed in front of his seat. At that time, many parties read frequently, "Chu Songs" ", meet new insights, and write them into chapters. One person sits silently under the lamp and writes. Yu Sheng (Wu Mi) writes the outline for preparing for tomorrow's class, copying notes and writing the outline one by one, merging and adding. Each item is outlined with a red pen. Yu Sheng has been teaching at Tsinghua University for at least ten years, and his lectures in this residence are so rigorous and meticulous. Shen Youding murmured to himself: "It's such a good night, you can chat with each other and keep your heads buried. Why did you come here?" Yu Sheng reprimanded: "You like to chat, so you might as well go to another room to find a friend. Otherwise, go to bed early, so don't hinder others here." You have to be silent when you have a tripod. Yu Sheng also said: "Limited to ten hours Turn off the lights, don’t be too late, and disturb other people’s sleep.’ The next morning, Yusheng got up first, and went out alone, in the morning light and dew outside, read all the articles he wrote last night, and recited them repeatedly. When everyone got up, Shi returned to the room. Yu and Yusheng have known each other for many years, and I have heard others speak and behave like him in ordinary times, but I have known him deeply, and he is really outstanding. It is not easy to know if it is not a daily relationship."

The effort of teaching comes from the effort of preparing lessons.In fact, Professor Wu Mi has been well-known for his serious lesson preparation since the day he stepped onto the podium.Before going to Tsinghua University, Professor Wu Mi taught at Southeast University in Nanjing for three years, teaching courses such as "History of European Literature", and gained a reputation for a while. In 1923, "Tsinghua Weekly" had an article dedicated to "the beauty of the style of study in Southeast University, the teachers are well-educated and dedicated, and the students are good at reading and hardworking."It mentioned Wu Mi's lectures: write the outline on the blackboard in advance, and when the lecture starts, he does not read books or notes, and talks endlessly in an orderly manner.At the end of the article, he sighed with emotion: "Mr. Wu is also a classmate who graduated from Tsinghua University, and his alma mater failed to recruit him to come here. I would rather be a pity!" A professor can "...not read books and notes, talk Uninterrupted, well-organized", one can imagine how much effort he has put in when preparing lessons.

Wen Yuanning's "Mr. Wu Mi" said: "As a teacher, except for the lack of appeal, Mr. Wu can be said to be perfect. He strictly observes the time, like a clock, and lectures diligently, like a coolie. Others have cited it. He opened the book and read the original text, but he always recited it no matter how long the quotation was. No matter what he explained, he was as orderly as a drill sergeant, the first point was like this, and the second point was like that. There is, but it’s definitely not out of the question. Some teachers talk about everything, but don’t make any arguments. Mr. Wu expresses his own opinions and has something to say; he may be wrong, but at least he is not exaggerated. He is not ambiguous. Always decisive. In other words, he is not afraid of the consequences for himself by speaking out. He is blameless in matters of factual basis, especially as found in various encyclopedias and reference books, only in matters of interpretation and appreciation. You can still argue with him."

What does it mean to be responsible to students? Just look at Professor Wu Mi's "coolie"!But he was consistent and never felt bitter. Professor Wu Mi's serious and responsible style is not only reflected in his own lesson preparation.Liu Zhaoji's "Mr. Wu Mi I Know" mentioned a "little incident" that happened in Kunming.Once, "a young teacher lost his textbook for class and asked Mr. Wu Mi if he wanted to borrow it. Unexpectedly, it aroused severe criticism from Mr. Wu: 'How can a teacher lose a textbook (textbook)! It must be I found it, I must find it before class starts!' At night, the dormitory has turned off the lights and went to sleep. I heard the knock on the door in the back building, and I heard Mr. Wu asking loudly: "Did you find the textbook?" I also heard the impatient answer: "I found it!" Mr. Wu, don’t worry, I’m already asleep, so I won’t open the door.” I heard Mr. Wu say: “That’s good, the teacher can’t throw away the textbook, next time!” Later, I heard the young teacher say:’ In fact, I didn’t find it at the time, and I lied because I was afraid of offending Mr. Wu and getting nervous again.’ Thinking about it now, this trivial matter reflects Mr. Wu’s seriousness and responsibility for the cause of education, and he will never change it throughout his life.”

Professor Wu Mi gave a lecture on "Comparison of Chinese and Western Poetry" at Tsinghua University, and wrote a teaching explanation: "This course selects a number of Chinese and Western ancient and modern poems and essays on poetry, recites the lectures, and compares evidence. The teacher will use his past reading and writing poems Contribute the experience and methods of the students to the students. Moreover, the teacher's adoption and coherence skills are mere acquisitions, and he is willing to share them and discuss them together, in order to create true ideals and exquisite appreciation, and solve the most important problems in literary life. This study Cheng does not study the history of poetics, does not do literary textual research, but hopes that every student will be good at reading poetry and writing poetry, and eventually become a perfect and profound person."

The heart of a child is all here.Knowing this, it may be superfluous to explain why he is so serious about preparing lessons. Wu Mi is a person with a strong poetic temperament. When he was in class at Tsinghua University, he lectured on British romantic poets and Greek and Roman classics. Recite. Especially famous chapters or lines, he encourages students to read and recite as much as possible." (Wang Minyuan "Remembering Mr. Wu Yuseng") Therefore, his classes are very attractive to young students in their 20s and are very popular. In the mid-1930s, the Department of Foreign Languages ​​and Literatures of Tsinghua University trained a group of famous scholars and writers, such as Qian Zhongshu, Cao Yu, Li Jianwu, Zhang Junxiang, Ji Xianlin and so on.

After the "July 7th" Marco Polo Bridge Incident in 1937, the Anti-Japanese War broke out in an all-round way, and Tsinghua University was ordered to move south. On November 7, Wu Mi, Mao Zishui and other Tsinghua teachers and students left Beijing, passed through Tianjin, Qingdao, Hankou, and Changsha, and arrived at Southwest Associated University in Kunming in March 1938.In the Foreign Languages ​​Department of Southwest Associated University, Wu Mi mainly lectures on the history of world literature, history of European literature, history of ancient Greek and Roman literature, new humanism, literature and life, translation courses, and the comparison of Chinese and Western poetry.At the same time, Wu Mi also taught graduate students, the main courses are: Shelley Studies, Western Literary Criticism, Comparative Literature, etc.

Wu Mi is proficient in many foreign languages, has a thorough knowledge of both Chinese and Western languages, and does not have the pedantic taste of ordinary professors, so he was very popular among students at Southwest Associated University.On a whim, he would recite his own poems in class, and even his love poems to Mao Yanwen. The class atmosphere was quite lively and relaxed.His teaching style is also very special, very European and American style, "Mr.'s lectures never follow the scriptures, but are often of a rambling nature. He only specifies some reference books, and asks us to read them ourselves, put forward opinions, and write more reading reports. In class Mr. sometimes tells anecdotes about literati, which are full of humor, which makes us laugh." (Mao Yumei "Remembering Wu Mi Mentor")

Although Wu Mi's style of work is very democratic and his temperament is very strong as a poet, he is very rigorous in his studies. "When Mr. Wu Mi taught the "History of European Literature" at Southwest Associated University, he continued to use Zhai Mengsheng's textbook, and mainly based on his own research and unique insights for many years, he gave this course very vividly and interestingly. Come, it is very attractive to students, every class is full of students from the department and other departments. This is one of the most popular courses in the Faculty of Arts at that time. There are many densely written books in each class. Mr. Wu Mi has an amazing memory, and he blurted out many major events in literary history, even the dates of the writer's birth and death without any mistakes. Mr. Wu also made many additions to Zhai Mengsheng's "A Brief History of European Literature", and revised some The fallacy. Every time he goes to class, he always brings this thick book with a lot of neatly written notes in it, or sticks the notes in the blank space. Every time the class bell rings, he will Walked in, very punctual. Sometimes, before all the students arrived, he was already standing at the door of the classroom with a pack of books in his hands. When he started to give a lecture, he always smiled, looked at the students first, and sometimes called roll call. Classes are mainly in English , and sometimes speak Chinese, which is clear, natural, and easy to understand." (Zhao Ruihong, "I am Professor Wu Mi, turn on the light for me")

Disciple Li Funing also has similar memories: "Mr. writes Chinese characters, never writes simple characters. The fonts are always block letters, dignified and upright, and meticulous. This rigorous style of study has nurtured me and benefited me a lot throughout my life. The content of Mr.'s lectures is substantial. He is well organized and never talks nonsense. The teacher is extremely serious and responsible for teaching. He must come to the classroom ten minutes early for each class, wipe the blackboard, and prepare for the class. The teacher never misses class and never leaves early. Every time the teacher asks Must answer, treat students' questions with enthusiasm and seriousness, answer patiently, follow instructions, and inspire students to answer questions by themselves. Mr. is more careful and serious in correcting students' homework, circles good sentences and wonderful places written by students, and writes specific comments , to help students correct mistakes and make continuous progress." (Li Funing "Remembering My Teacher, Professor Wu Mi") Wu Mi is a person with dual personalities, and many people agree with this point: "...Mr. is not good at housework. But when he revises articles for us, he always writes with a brush dipped in red ink, and the handwriting is neat. A word must be corrected. Tu is very square and full of grids, so as not to be misunderstood. His rigorous academic research is in sharp contrast to the loose life." (Mao Yumei "Remembering Wu Mi Tutor") "There are five teachers in the Department of Foreign Languages ​​of Southwest Associated University The deepest impression on me...the five gentlemen are Wu Mi, Ye Gongchao, Liu Wuji, Wu Dayuan and Yan Kasun. Among them, Mr. Wu Mi can be said to be the most interesting, the cutest, the most respectable, the most vivid and the richest In terms of appeal and subtle power, he is also the most contradictory and painful person in his heart. Mr. Wu seems to be a classical school on the outside, but he is a romantic school in his heart; he is sometimes Apollonian, sometimes Dionysusian Sometimes he is Hamlet type, sometimes he is Don Quixote type: or an organic combination of two types and two styles." (Zhao Ruihong "I am Professor Wu Mi, turn on the light for me") In view of Wu Mi's outstanding achievements, in August 1942, the Ministry of Education of the Nationalist Government hired him as a professor of the Department of English Literature. Together with Chen Yinke (History) and Tang Yongtong (Philosophy), he was awarded the honor of "Ministry Appointed Professor", and was later appointed as a professor of the Ministry of Education. Member of the Academic Review Committee.This is an affirmation of Wu Mi's academic achievements.Wu Mi felt very honored to be awarded this honor together with Chen and Tang, whom he admired, so although someone suggested that he refuse this honor, he still accepted it. In the autumn of 1944, Wu Mi left Tsinghua University where he had studied and taught for 30 years. The conflict with the dean of the department Chen Futian was one of the reasons for his departure. It is said that this was somewhat related to Qian Zhongshu.There is a saying that Wu Mi had a deep personal relationship with Qian Zhongshu's father, Qian Jibo. Wu Mi asked Qian Zhongshu to attend Tsinghua University for a year, and personally tutored him in foreign languages. Later, Qian was admitted to Tsinghua University.Wu admired Qian Zhongshu very much, and wrote a poem to praise Qian's talent: "Who has both talent and knowledge? Knowing both old and new Chinese and Western things. Great things can be made by early wisdom, and people can make up for them by nature. Yuan Shen Gu (Ting Lin) Zhao (Oubei) passed on the family business, and his vigor surpassed that of Su (Dongpo) and Huang (Valley) to vibrate the country. The tragedy is over and my business is over, and the two generations will agree with each other.” From this we can see that Wu Mi’s knowledge of Qian Zhongshu He appreciated it very much. When Qian Xuecheng returned to China, Wu Mi agreed with Tsinghua University to hire Qian as a professor of Tsinghua University's Department of Foreign Languages, and Tsinghua University basically agreed at that time.But when Qian arrived at the United Nations University, the school was only willing to hire him as an associate professor. The young and energetic Qian Zhongshu was naturally very unhappy, and he was even more dissatisfied with Chen Futian and Tsinghua University. He even blamed Wu Mi and vented it in the novel.Wu Mi was naturally very displeased with Tsinghua's change of mind, so he persuaded Qian to go to Hunan Lantian Normal School as a professor.This incident deepened the conflict between Wu Mi and Chen Futian (dean of the department). Wu Mi finally left Tsinghua University to go to Yenching University, and his life in Tsinghua came to an end. There is nothing particularly attractive about Wu Mi in appearance.Wen Yuanning, a professor at Tsinghua University who is familiar with him, once described him vividly: "There is only one Wu Yusheng in the world, and you will never forget it when you see him...but Yusheng's face is a kind of natural endowment, which is as strange as a caricature. The head is shaped like a bomb, but it is also explosive, the face is thin and yellow, and the beard is almost ready to spread to the whole situation at any time, but it is neatly shaved every morning. The pair of eyes are shining like two burning coals—these are all mounted on a neck that is too long and a body as strong as a copper rod.” But such a famous professor is a love Suprematists. "He is a humanist and an Athenian in theory, but he is a romantic through and through in terms of sexuality." (Wen Yuanning, "Wu Mi") When Wu Mi was young, he studied hard, and every meal would be delivered to the study by his family.One night, the family gave a pancake and a plate of chili peppers with oil. Wu Mi was engrossed in reading, so he dipped the pancake in ink and ate it. Wu You is a talent for eulogizing and never forgetting. In 1955, when he returned to Anwu's hometown, he stood in front of the stele of Yingxiang Palace for a while, and only recited the inscription once, and then he was able to write it out without missing a word. As soon as Chen Yinke arrived at Harvard, he advocated buying books in large quantities, multiple purchases, and all books.It was precisely because of Chen's purchase of so many books that Wu Mi was moved and wanted to follow suit.It is said that he was impulsive at the moment, and in order to compete with Chen Yinke and Yu Dawei, Wu Mi gritted his teeth and did not hesitate to spend 60 U.S. dollars. At that time, the monthly living expenses of official fee students were 100 U.S. dollars. "The Complete Works of Shakespeare" was dragged out with 19 giant volumes in total, annotated and compiled, and carried back to the dormitory panting all the way.Later, with the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, Wu carried this book through thousands of mountains and rivers. Every time he moved his residence, it was laborious and expensive, and at the same time, there was no suitable place to store it, which turned out to be a labor-intensive burden. Wu is upright, always self-denying, and never taking advantage of others. In 1944, he went to Baoji to visit friends and bought a third-class ticket. There was no seat on the bus, so he had to stand in the aisle.At that time, I happened to meet my brother-in-law Wang Junsheng, who held a free pass, so he took him to the second-class car to find an empty seat. Wu didn't know it. The second-class car." Wang immediately showed his ID to explain his identity relationship, and the ticket inspector smiled and agreed, but Wu was very angry, and angrily returned to the third-class car, still standing in the aisle until Baoji. Wu has a profound knowledge of research and is well-known both at home and abroad. Anyone who listens to Wu Mi's speech on Hongxue holds his breath and concentrates, as if intoxicated.In the end, Zifa sighed deeply: "That's not listening to a report, it's simply watching a performance." Wu Yiren played Lin, Wang, Xue and Jia vividly and vividly. In the 1940s, the ancient city of Southwest China was in the "Wu Mi style", and people at the time praised: "If the report of Guo Moruo and Wu Mi can be recorded word for word, it will be a first-class excellent article." In 1947, Wu Mi came to Xi'an Lectures, the intellectuals rushed to tell each other, the grand occasion was unprecedented. One day, a group of politicians from the "Three Youth League" in Shaanxi pretended to be elegant and invited Wu to give a lecture on "Red Mansions". Wu Su despised such characters and declined politely.Unexpectedly, this group of people moved out, Mr. Wu's father, Mr. Jianchang, tried his best to be accommodating.Wu Mi was helpless, so he flattered him, and after he left, Wu's father asked, "Why didn't you tell me?" Wu replied, "They are like gods in temples, clay sculptures and wood carvings, and they are like talking about red buildings to them, and they are like offering pianos to cattle and horses." Ear." Wu Mi is kind-hearted and willing to help others, so she is often deceived by others.The imported watch he was wearing was coaxed away by two rascals with a small alarm clock worth only 6 yuan.Another person surnamed Zhang told Wu Yan that a student named Wu was in urgent need of 200 yuan for hospitalization due to illness.Afterwards, this Zhang came again, saying that the student was in urgent need of surgery for treatment, and Wu was out of money at this time. When he was thinking about it, the liar thought that Wu had doubts, so he took out a "letter for help" and asked Gao Reading aloud, just as the nanny came in, she was surprised to see a blank piece of paper being read by the guest. (Gai was suffering from eye disease at this time and could not see clearly.) So the nanny called someone to turn the liar to the public security organ.Wu was deeply moved by this, and praised the nanny's shrewdness. Li Junqing served as Jiang Jingguo's English secretary for 20 years, and he was one of Wu Mi's early students.Whenever I think of Wu Mi, I can't help but think of the story of his dog two entering the classroom.It was a big brown dog with big ears and eyes, very beautiful.This dog was not raised by his family, but he rescued it from several big men chasing him, and he was going to catch it, kill it and eat it.Maybe it's because I am grateful for Li Junqing's life-saving grace. I am very close to him, and I go to school with him.Every time the big dog came to school, he always lay down outside the classroom door, or ran around in the surrounding open space, but there were also two accidents—— One time was an English composition class taught by Chen Futian, head of the Department of Foreign Languages. As usual, he first wrote the topic on the blackboard and explained the key points in about 10 minutes.That day, Professor Chen finished his lecture and was about to walk out of the classroom. When he passed Li Junqing’s seat, he suddenly heard a dog barking. It turned out that the big dog had slipped in at some point and lay under the owner’s chair. Chen Futian walked by and stepped on its tail. .The whole class stopped writing and looked at Li Junqing. He was terrified and thought it was over.Unexpectedly, instead of losing his temper, Chen Futian, who is full of foreign style, squatted down to pet the big dog and said "Sorry" repeatedly. Once again, it was Wu Mi's "Comparison of Chinese and Western Poetry". The big dog who was waiting outside the classroom sneaked into the classroom and squatted in the corner.Wu Mi was copying poems on the blackboard at this time, and didn't notice the unexpected guest. After he finished writing, he turned around and found that there was a dog listening to his lecture. He hurried off the platform and said to the big dog: "Now I can't make the stone nod yet, it's not the time for you to come, you should go out first!" After saying that, he waved his hand, the big dog seemed to understand Mr. Wu's words, and immediately walked out quietly with his head down, walking side by side Looking at Li Junqing who was sitting in the front row, he seemed to have made a big mistake. Wu Mi left the impression of a rigorous academic master to future generations, but his marriage and love are like a hard green fruit, which makes future generations dare not compliment him. Some people say that he is an out-and-out "sexy person". Although his words are extreme, they reflect his restless side in marriage and love.For this reason, Chen Yinke saw it quite thoroughly, saying that he was romantic by nature, but he was "arrested" by the old ethics and morality, and his feelings could not be expressed. After a long time, he was on the verge of breaking. , compared to letting the pot burst, it is better." There is an old saying in China that "the matchmaker jumps into the sedan chair", which means that a third party who acts as a matchmaker falls in love with one of the parties, but instead becomes the bridegroom or bride, and gets into a sedan chair that should not belong to him.Wu Mi's tragedy of marriage and love is the best footnote to this famous saying. In November 1918, Wu Mi, who was studying at Harvard, suddenly received a letter from Chen Liexun, a classmate of Tsinghua University studying in the United States, who wanted to introduce his younger sister Chen Xinyi to Wu Mi as his wife.The letter stated that Chen Xinyi graduated from the Complete Department of Zhejiang Women's Normal School. She is 24 years old and is a primary school teacher in Dinghai County, Zhejiang Province.Chen Liexun clearly pointed out in the letter that his sister had heard him talk about Wu Mi many times at home, and later read Wu Mi's poems and essays in "Puzzle Magazine" and "Tsinghua Weekly". Looking at Wu Mi's photo, I feel admiration, and I am willing to marry Wu Mi and serve him for life.After receiving the letter, Wu Mi's heart skipped a beat, and she immediately wrote back to acknowledge it. She immediately packed her bags and rushed back to China impatiently.The curtain of tragedy opened slowly. In August 1921, after returning from studying in the United States, Wu Mi hurried to Hangzhou to meet Chen Xinyi without a two-day rest.However, this meeting was extremely dramatic, and it seemed that from the very beginning, it implied some kind of tragic imagery.When he arrived at Chen's house, Wu Mi was dressed in a suit and leather shoes, looking very energetic, with the demeanor of an overseas student.As soon as Chen Xin was drawn out, according to Wu Mi's diary, everyone just met each other silently.Unexpectedly, after a while, another heroine appeared on the stage. This is the other most critical central figure in Wu Mi's life tragedy - Mao Yanwen.It just so happened that Mao Yanwen and Chen Xinyi were good friends. On this day, she came to visit in high spirits. She was going to say goodbye to her best friend and go to Beijing to go to school. She didn't want to run into Wu Mi unexpectedly.Apart from the fact that the two daughters of Mao and Chen were originally classmates, Mao Yanwen's fiancé, Zhu Junyi, was also Wu Mi's tablemate when he was studying at Tsinghua University.Zhu Junyi's elder Mao Yanwen is 4 years old. They are aunts and cousins.But when Mao Yanwen was 9 years old, her father made the decision and betrothed her to the son of a friend surnamed Fang.When Mao Yanwen graduated from Zhejiang Women's Normal School, Fang's family was afraid of accidents and forced them to get married. Just as the big sedan chair for Fang's wedding was carried to the gate of Mao's house, Mao Yanwen, unwilling to be at the mercy of fate, bravely escaped through the back door.Prior to this, she and her cousin Zhu Junyi had already made an alliance under the moon and made a private commitment for life.After the Fang family resigned, the parents of both parties made the decision, and Mao Yanwen and Zhu Junyi were officially engaged.As Zhu Junyi's tablemate, Wu Mi knew Mao Yanwen as early as when he was studying in Tsinghua University.At that time, every time Zhu Junyi read his cousin's love letter, he would show it to Wu Mi. Wu Mi admired Mao Yanwen's talent in his letters. Over time, a strange emotion surged in his heart. Due to the friendship of his classmates, he never expressed it, but hid it deeply in his heart. When Wu Mi was studying in the United States, when he received a letter from Chen Liexun intending to marry his sister to him, he entrusted Zhu Junyi to ask Mao Yanwen to inquire about Chen Xinyi's situation and communicate with each other about the two.In this sense, Mao Yanwen is actually the matchmaker between Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi.This time, I met Mao Yanwen unexpectedly in Chen Xin's family. Wu Mi already had a good impression of him, but seeing him lively, elegant, generous and decent, with a new style of lady, Wu Mi suddenly felt a little lonely in his heart. How could Mao Yanwen The famous flower has an owner, and she is the fiancée of a close friend. In the afternoon, Mao Yanwen said goodbye to them and returned to Shanghai.Wu Mi and Chen Xin hit it off right away, and under Chen's father's arrangement, they went boating on the West Lake, and Wu Mi felt extremely happy.The next day, the two had another morning tour of the West Lake, having a great time.Wu Mi recorded in his diary that: today's tour is more enjoyable than yesterday's tour.Family, country, life experience, friends, and friends, talk about everything at will... The happiness of this day is something that has not been counted in more than ten years. Thirteen days later, Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi officially got married. Subsequently, Wu Mi and his classmate Zhu Junyi were both hired as professors by Nanjing Southeast University.Facts have proved that such a hasty marriage is a tragedy for both Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi.Originally, Wu Mi had solemnly entrusted Mao Yanwen to inquire about Chen Xinyi's situation in China. Mao Yanwen did not blindly exaggerate because he and Chen Xinyi were classmates and friends.She thinks that Chen Xinyi has a good character and can make friends, but it is unnecessary to get engaged rashly.After meeting Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi, he had long forgotten Mao Yanwen's advice in the letter. His good friend Chen Yinke advised him: "It's shameful for a man to be inferior to others in knowledge; why should he be embarrassed when he marries a wife?" Married to Chen Xinyi in a hurry. However, at Southeast University, Mao Yanwen really walked into Wu Mi's life.Zhu Junyi suddenly changed his mind at this time. He resolutely proposed to terminate the engagement with Mao Yanwen on the grounds that the marriage of close relatives would harm the next generation.After waiting for 6 years, Mao Yanwen, who ran away from marriage just to marry her cousin, did not expect it. In desperation, she had to turn to Wu Mi and his wife for help.Wu Mi then acted as an intermediary, going back and forth between the two, trying their best to fight the fire and make peace.Unexpectedly, Zhu Junyi has made up his mind to go, and he is resolutely unwilling to conclude a white head with Mao Yanwen.As a result, the cooperation between Zhu and Mao failed, and the engagement was eventually dissolved. Wu Mi, who was supposed to fight the fire, got himself burned. After Zhu and Mao parted ways, he confessed his love to Mao Yanwen regardless of his status as a married man.Mao Yanwen flatly refused.What she couldn't tolerate was that Wu Mi's actions were really absurd, regardless of her status as a matchmaker and friendship.In almost every letter, he would take the trouble to recount that since a certain month in a certain year, when he read her letter from Zhu Junyi, he gradually fell in love with her. This made Mao Yanwen very disgusted, not to mention her relationship with Wu Mi. His wife, Chen Xinyi, was originally a good friend and classmate. Thinking about it carefully, this is also the catastrophe in Wu Mi's emotional journey.At the beginning, the two heroines made their debut and appeared at the same time.Both Chen Xinyi and Mao Yanwen are women who occupy an important position in Wu Mi's life. Chen is his married wife and has three daughters, and Mao is his unswerving lover until death. Of course, the instigator of this tragedy was Wu Mi himself. The British dramatist Bernard Shaw once said: "There are two tragedies in life. One is getting what you want, and the other is not getting what you want." After Wu Mi was rejected by Mao Yanwen, he was not reconciled.He simply did more deviant.Chen Xin couldn't bear Wu Mi's emotional rebellion, and finally divorced after 7 years of marriage.This earth-shattering move left the world dumbfounded. Colleagues of the "Xueheng School" almost unanimously condemned him, and his father even publicly denounced him, "ruthless, rude and lawless, and perverted in order to maintain the old ethics." Mao Yanwen immediately became the "central figure among the three" from an unknown figure. She complained endlessly in her heart, but she still refused to submit to Wu Mi's courtship.Wu Mi was not discouraged.The pursuit of Mao Yanwen intensified and became a marathon of love, which contained so many stories that in Shanghai in the 1930s, their story became the topic of tabloid talk. Wu Mi's perseverance finally touched the beauty's heart.In a woman's bones, she always likes to be loved, and Mao Yanwen is no exception.However, the love between the two did not come to fruition because of its hard-won.Wu Mi is a person full of contradictions. Conservative and romantic, new school and old school unexpectedly exist in opposition.When Mao Yanwen fell in love with him and was about to talk about marriage, Wu Mi felt a little worry. She wanted to become husband and wife with Mao Yanwen, but also worried that there would be disharmony after marriage. The two completely different moods made Wu Mi hesitate and worry about gains and losses. . In March 1931, Wu Mi went to Paris for academic exchanges.Contrary to his warm and affectionate appearance before, he sent the telegram to the United States, urging Mao Yanwen to give up his studies and rush to Europe quickly to marry him, or they would break up.Some people pointed out that he frequently issued ultimatums to Mao Yanwen, using very vicious terms.At the same time, according to legend, he also wrote letters back to his country, professing his love to a woman named Xian, and at the same time having a hot fight with a blonde. When Mao Yanwen came to Paris, Wu Mi didn't want to get married anymore, so he got engaged instead.Mao Yanwen, who came here full of enthusiasm, was in a panic. It turned out that the other party tried his best to pursue her, but now she let go, and the other party changed his mind again.Mao Yanwen cried and said: "You should always think about me, I am an old girl in her 30s, what should I do. Could it be that our starting point is wrong?" Wu Mi was unmoved, and said calmly: "People are often limited by time and space, and their moods change. They have no autonomy and have nothing to do." Regarding this, Wu Mi recorded in his diary: Even though Wan Yan cried, it was not enough. It touched my heart, but Mi hated Yan, and even more regretted that I didn't know people before, and I lost my ears with love! What a "lose ground with love".Interestingly, during this period, Wu Mi became envious of the love between Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, who were all the rage in the tabloids. He said: "Mrs. Sorrow and joy, but deal with it like a style, even if Lu Xun is happy, he is willing to be directed. Yunyun. Woohoo, why is Mi's needs different? And Mi's reality is much better than Lu Xun's, and there has never been a happy encounter in his life. The daughter of An De is Xu Guangping Huh? Read this sad." After the marriage discussion in Paris ended this time, Wu Mi and Mao Yanwen returned from Europe.Mao Yanwen stayed in Shanghai, waiting for Wu Mi to marry him. In August 1933, Wu Mi went south again, with the purpose of going to Hangzhou first to woo Ms. Lu Baohua, and if that failed, then go to Shanghai to continue discussing with Mao whether to marry.His friends advised him not to play love games all the time, and he must find a wife when he goes south this time.In the end, both ends failed again. Mao felt that he was too carefree, so he also sang high-profile, saying that she was going to be an old girl, try her best to teach and save money, and adopt a little girl. In the park, I think it is fun."The naive Wu Mi didn't realize the subtext in these words. He probably felt that Mao couldn't escape anyway, and he was still keen on his polyamorous love.In a fit of anger, Mao Yanwen married Xiong Xiling.Wu Mi didn't expect such a move. Mao's marriage made him feel abandoned, and at the same time he was very guilty. He believed that Mao was angry, gave up on himself, and married as a last resort.For a long time, Wu Mi couldn't decide what role she should play.Whether it's a cheating lover, or a cheating fool, both, and neither.In any case, Mao is the most beloved woman in his life, and only when she is truly lost can she feel precious.After Mao Yanwen got married, and especially when Xiong Xiling passed away three years later, Wu Mi kept pestering her, not only unwillingly, but also sincerely repenting. In 1999, there was a wave of "Wu Mi craze" in Taiwan.Mao Yanwen, who is already 102 years old, has not diluted her resentment towards Wu Mi because of the passage of time. She said that she has never loved Wu Mi.If Wu Mi knew about it, how would he feel?