Chapter 27 6. I love my family
"This year's Spring Festival is also Valentine's Day. Am I your lover, or a family member?"
"Wish we were family!"
This is a line from a TV commercial I aired during the Spring Festival in 2010.And when 2010 came to an end, I also got married with Xie Xingfang in Guangzhou.Since then, December 13 every year has become our wedding anniversary.
After so many years of national player career, we fought around and played countless games.Every time you step off the podium, you have to lower your position again, and start to attack new goals again.After so many years of repetition, it is actually quite tiring. Before 2008, I will devote myself to my career.But when my experience and experience increase, my identity and role will inevitably change.Today, I am almost 30 years old, I am not only an athlete in the national team, I also need to have my own family.I have to have a character that belongs to my family.I will spend more time going back to eat with them, chat with them, live with them, and even travel together.
After being called "Guangzhou son-in-law" for many years, I have always dreamed of marrying Xie Xingfang into the family.I remember that on the night when I won the men's singles championship in the Guangzhou Asian Games, Afang's family and Guangzhou media reporters kept "pressing" me when I would propose to Afang.At that time, I could only say: "A Fang has been with me all the way since I entered the national team. From Athens in 2004, the Olympic Games in 2008 to today, we have experienced a lot together. She is the most The one that suits me." This can be regarded as a promise made to the whole world.
Then we decided to go to get the certificate on December 13, 2010, and there was no marriage proposal process as everyone imagined before.The reason why I chose this day is that there is just enough time, and the date is easy to remember.And there was a little hiccup in the middle.Because the army needs to issue a certificate to get a marriage certificate, I have reported to the army a long time ago, but this certificate has an expiration date, and I always have competitions all of a sudden, I can’t spare time, and I didn’t register for the first time become.I asked, can I register in Beijing?It turned out that I could either go to Nanjing, where my army is located, or go back to Fuzhou, or Guangzhou, where A Fang’s registered permanent residence is located, and no other places would work.So, I found the officer of our army again.He widened his eyes, not knowing what "aircraft" we were doing: "Ah, didn't you register for the first time?" Not long after the fight, we registered our marriage in Guangzhou within the valid time of the certificate.
It was a Monday, and we were afraid that there would be a lot of people queuing up, so we made an appointment with the Civil Affairs Bureau of Baiyun District, Guangzhou City in advance to make it smoother.As a result, the leaders of the Civil Affairs Bureau were very enthusiastic and came to register with us.Of course we are very grateful for their enthusiasm, but we also feel quite embarrassed.The registration was originally a matter for two people, but the leader accompanied the whole process, and even took pictures together after it was over.Xie Xingfang and I walked into the lobby of the Civil Affairs Bureau, and saw staff members taking pictures with their mobile phones.At that time, I thought: ok, that's it, let's shoot.
The two parts that made me nervous the most were two people signing the consent form.This is a very sacred moment, different from the meaning of a wedding. Signing our names means that we are a couple protected by the law.It's okay to take the oath, because it is followed.The other is to take wedding photos.Because it is a very traditional form of two people sitting together to take ID photos, so my heart is still a little surging.After all the stamps were stamped and the marriage certificate was handed over, at that moment I just thought: This is getting married?Even if you are married?It was an amazing feeling.But before I could fully experience it, the staff of the Civil Affairs Bureau came to take pictures with us and asked us to have dinner together.So, in a very dramatic way, we just went smoothly as a couple.
Over the years, my every move with Ah Fang has been put under the microscope of the media, and there are almost no secrets at all.At this sacred moment of marriage, we originally wanted to quietly enjoy the time that only belonged to the two of us, but within two days, the photos of our certificates were circulated on Weibo.
After Fangfang changed from the original girlfriend to the current wife, my responsibilities will of course be different.I don't just want to make more money and give her a better life.To some extent, we will become more and more dependent on each other.I love the lively family atmosphere.What I enjoy the most now is that when I go home after training, my father, mother, and Fangfang are all there, and sometimes my cousin will also come, and the family eats together.Sometimes Ah Fang has a class at Peking University, or she has to go out to work that day, and the traffic in Beijing is particularly congested, and she will come back late, so we will wait for her to have dinner together.Sometimes when I come home late from practice, they will wait for me.This kind of family life gives me a very warm feeling.
After finishing her work in the Guangzhou Asian Organizing Committee, Xie Xingfang entered Peking University as a postgraduate student majoring in social work.This is also her interest.Usually, she will participate in the projects of the China Athletes Education Foundation to help some athletes achieve re-learning and successful transformation after retirement.
Now, Ah Fang needs to deal more with PPT and brick-thick materials, participate in extracurricular discussions with her classmates, and go to the canteen of Peking University to eat together. She has gotten used to her new role.When she is free at home, she is also studying English hard, often listening to her chanting words.
Speaking of learning English, there is another joke.One year in France for the Supers, we went together.At that time, I wanted to buy an oil-controlling facial cleanser, but Ah Fang looked at me and found it difficult, and said, "This is too difficult. I can only explain whether to buy facial cleanser or lotion." Her English level is not good enough to speak "Moisturizing" and "oil control" this stage.I deliberately teased her at the time: "Then you don't know anything, how did you learn English? Then why should I bring you out?" I was acting aggressively.The couple just have to "pinch" often to be interesting.
In the past 99 years, the Ah Fang I have known is a very ordinary girl, and most of the time I give it on my own initiative, and she rarely asks for anything.I feel very relaxed with her and have few worries.This also makes me regard going home as the happiest thing in every day.As the wedding is approaching, whenever Fang Fang talks about the colors and flowers of the wedding scene, I can feel her yearning, just like every ordinary girl's yearning for the wedding.I said to myself in my heart: "Wow, you must do it well, and you can't mess it up." Over the years, I have participated in many friends' weddings, some low-key and some grand, but the wedding that really belongs to me and Ah Fang is not The need is too luxurious, the best decoration is sincerity, and the most sincere is the most touching.
Now that the family lives together, I feel very at ease.I know I have a solid team behind me.I sometimes joke with them that I'm the "CEO" in the family, not the CEO, but the one who executes, and they make the decisions.
Our family is a traditional ordinary family in Fujian, and my parents are also working-class workers who receive wages for meals.In my family, Dad is the head of the family, and Mom will maintain Dad's authority.And when I was talking about the future with Ah Fang a long time ago, I only had one request - to live with my parents.Because I need them, I want to work with them to make up for the regret that I didn't have the opportunity to be together often.The lively family atmosphere makes me feel alive, warm and festive, which is like a home.If it was just me and Fangfang, I would feel too deserted.Moreover, I will definitely not ask her to cook, and if I don't do it myself, the house will be even more deserted.
But now, as long as I am free and I happen to be in Beijing, Ah Fang will also cook for me.Two people, one meat, one vegetable and one soup, very good.To be honest, Ah Fang's cooking tastes pretty good.However, the rice is always cooked to exactly two bowls, and there is no need to add an extra spoonful.To be honest, I actually don't have enough to eat.Also, the reason I don't want her to cook is that as long as she cooks, I must be the one doing the dishes.Washing the dishes made my waist sore and my back ache, more tiring than training, and then I told her, you better stop cooking.
As I get older, I prefer to eat at home.On weekends, I go to a friend's house for a party. Everyone works together, and I often do the washing up.It's okay to wash the dishes once in a while, as long as you don't wash them every day.
Many friends also know that our family has a teddy dog named "Simba", which has the same name as Simba in "The Lion King".Its arrival has brought a lot of joy to our family.It was brought home by Ah Fang when she was three and three months old.Ah Fang was in Guangzhou at the time, and I was afraid that she would be bored, so I said it would be nice to have a puppy.It turned out to be a little teddy, brown and male, I think it's called Simba.It stayed in Guangzhou with Ah Fang before it was 1 year old, so it could only understand Cantonese at first, and it didn't respond to speaking Mandarin to it.We drove it all the way back to Beijing.Now it is also bilingual.This dog is very smart and seems to know the world.Needless to say, it only recognizes Ah Fang as its master at first.The second favorite is me, but now it has become my mother.Because my mother cares about its eating and drinking, it is also very close to my mother.I'm the one who's most afraid of it, and I'll spank it because it keeps getting into trouble.Teddy was already very active.For example, we are all out, and we have some plants at home, and it will dig out all the soil in the flower pots when there is no one around.Or, we just put the photos we just watched on the coffee table and went out. When we come back, we will definitely be bitten by it.It just can't stay idle for a moment.But we never tie it with a rope, the puppy is very poor, let it run if it loves to move.
That's how life is, it's not about how big a house you live in, how nice a car you buy, or what other things you own.Maybe after you have these through your efforts, you will have a sense of accomplishment, but that sense of accomplishment is not necessarily a sense of happiness.
Happiness is driving back from training and seeing parents playing in the community; happiness is playing with Simba as a family; happiness is looking up and seeing parents cooking in the window of my house on the second floor; happiness is being unable to sleep due to jet lag , Went downstairs to the breakfast car at 6:00 in the morning to buy fritters for my family.An ordinary little thing or a simple picture will make me feel happy inexplicably.Only after growing up did I realize that the most real, simplest, and most ordinary thing is happiness.I want to tell all young people that it doesn't matter if you don't have a house or a car, as long as you can still be with your parents, eat their meals, and listen to their chats, happiness is by your side.
During the 2012 London Olympics, Ah Fang and my family will go to watch my competition live, so that my pressure will not be so great.Because I know that no matter what the outcome of the game, in a small corner of the field, they are selflessly supporting me.The love of family members is not selfish at all, it is the most selfless, which makes me feel very happy.
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