Chapter 15 Chapter Fifteen Three Marriages

"Ask the world, what is love, and teach life and death to agree with each other." Jin Yong wrote all the joys and sorrows, love and hatred in the world in his martial arts novels.He said in an interview with CCTV: "My marriage is not ideal, and I have divorced many times." Behind the "Swordsman" on paper, his marriage broke down twice, and his beloved son committed suicide in the United States , he has to bear all these one by one. The love between Jin Yong and his first wife, Du Yefen, sprouted in Hangzhou in 1947. At that time, he was working in the "Southeast Daily" and met Du Yefen's younger brother Du Yeqiu because he edited a humorous column.The Du family's father practiced medicine in Shanghai, and his mother liked quietness, so she bought a courtyard in Hangzhou with eight gold bars, and usually lived in Hangzhou with her daughter, while Du Yeqiu followed his father to school in Shanghai and only came to Hangzhou during the holidays.

One day, there was a question in the "Dr. Mimi's Q&A" column edited by Jin Yong: "What characteristics do you need when buying a duck?" "Dr. Mimi" replied: "A firm and firm neck means freshness, and rich and thick feathers. must be well-proportioned.” Du Yeqiu, a young man, disagreed, and wrote a letter to “discuss” (or raise an argument): “Mr. Dr. Mimi, you said that the duck’s feathers must be dense to be delicious, so I would like to ask, Nanjing salted duck has only one feather. No, why is it so delicious?" "Dr. Mimi" wrote back: "Your Excellency is very true, I think he must be a very interesting child, I really want to meet and have a personal talk." Du Yeqiu wrote back: "Everyday If you are free, welcome."

Jin Yong came to visit on a Sunday afternoon and met Du Yefen, a 17-year-old lady from the Du family.The next day, he came to the door again, sent some theater tickets, and kindly invited the Du family to go to the Dongnan Daily Office upstairs in Zhong'an Bridge to watch "Peacock Gall" written by Guo Moruo.This play was performed by the "Nine Anti-Enemy Drama Team", the predecessor of the Shanghai People's Art Theater, and it aroused great repercussions in Hangzhou.Afterwards, Du Yeqiu and his father went back to Shanghai, but Jin Yong became a frequent visitor to the Du family, and fell in love with Miss Du, who was just beginning to fall in love.

In March 1948, "Ta Kung Pao" wanted to send Jin Yong to work in Hong Kong. He was not very happy, so he wrote to Hangzhou to ask for Du Yefen's opinion.Later, the senior management of the newspaper agreed to his request: only to go for half a year.Before going to Hong Kong, he went to Hangzhou twice.At that time, Xu Junyuan asked him to write an article "How I Decided to Go to Hong Kong" and published it on "Great Park". His colleague Li Junwei even gave him a title in advance, called "Hangzhou Farewell to the Phoenix", and drew two small ones. masthead.He said: "When I saw the masthead was so beautiful and the title was so colorful, I was too scared to publish the article." On March 27, Du Yefen sent him to Shanghai, packed his luggage for him, and sent him to the plane.Before leaving, I told him a sentence: "We each pray once a day, don't forget to say, I hope you return to Shanghai as soon as possible." The plane took off on the morning of the 30th. It is a life-long event rather than a life-long event, so everything has to be 'discussed in half a year'".

It is said that they held their wedding in Shanghai in October of that year, and Xu Junyuan was the witness. Du Yefen went to Hong Kong with him.His old colleague and boss Luo Fu in "Ta Kung Pao" and "New Evening News" remembered that they lived on Morrison Hill Road at that time, and there were Du Laozhi Road and Du Laozhi Ballroom nearby, so someone joked about Miss Du. He gave her a nickname and called her "Du Laozhi". Jin Yong used to write film reviews and screenplays under the pseudonym "Lin Huan". He himself did not explain the origin of this pen name. There is a word for "wood", the double "wood" becomes "forest", and "huan" is a portrayal of their love and happy life at that time.When Du Yefen was in Hong Kong for several years, Jin Yong was busy with work and had no time to accompany her. She was lonely and boring at home alone, and her life was not happy.In the end, she went back to the mainland alone, and the two went through the divorce procedures.

Luo Fu said that Du Yefen was working as a cutscene reporter at the Great Wall Film Company, but for some reason, the two broke up and she went back to Hangzhou by herself.Jin Yong's other colleagues in "Ta Kung Pao" said: "Du Yefen is from Hangzhou and does not understand Cantonese. She felt that her life in Hong Kong was miserable. In addition, Cha Liangyong's income was not much at that time. She left Cha Liangyong when she couldn't bear the hardship. When Jin Yong recalled this unhappy marriage at the age of 74, he still said with tears in his eyes: "She betrayed me." A reporter asked Rover, what happened when Jin Yong said in an interview that his wife betrayed him?Rover replied: "That's what he said, and we didn't know it very well at the time."

Jin Yong considers himself to be a person whose emotions are more important than rationality. He told reporters: "When I was young, I liked a girl, and I knew it was not suitable, or I had no chance, so I went after it." "Now I am not afraid to say, my first job My wife betrayed (betrayed) me." He also said: "I was divorced. When I got married for the first time, she loved me very much, and I loved her very much. But when I got divorced afterwards, if you ask me if I regret it, I said no regrets. Because under the conditions at the time, everyone was so sincere, and there was no way for everyone to know what happened afterwards."

They have no children.Du Yeqiu recalled: "Some newspapers said that Zha and Du separated because Zha wanted to apply for a job as a 'diplomat' and was opposed by his wife. Love is not enough'” Jin Yong's second wife is Zhu Mei (also known as Lucy), who was born as a journalist. She is beautiful and capable, understands English, and is eleven years younger than him.When the two fell in love, Jin Yong was still in "Ta Kung Pao".Gao Jie, the child of my colleague Gao Xuekui at the time, was still a primary school student. Once, a colleague from the newspaper went to the "Li Garden" in Shatian and witnessed this "Uncle Cha" bringing a quiet and slim girlfriend. "By the vermilion lacquer nine-curved bridge, we cuddle up to each other. This is the first time we have seen what is passionate love."

On May 1, 1956, they held their wedding at the Mira Hotel in Hong Kong.At that time, Jin Yong was still working in "Ta Kung Pao", and wrote film reviews and scripts under the pseudonym "Lin Huan".Many people from the press and film circles were present to congratulate, including Fei Yimin, the president of Ta Kung Pao, film actors Chen Sisi, Zhang Zheng, Qiao Zhuang, etc. "Great Wall Pictorial" published the news of their marriage.They rented a house at No. 2, Mid-Levels Cable Car Trail (now Kennedy Road), and the landlord was Jian Erqing who later wrote a column in Ming Pao.

After their eldest son, Zha Chuanxia, ​​was born, Jin Yong founded Ming Pao. He went through hardships and suffered hardships. Zhu Mei shared weal and woe with him and became the earliest and only female reporter. The figure of their husband and wife and a cup of coffee were left behind at the ferry crossing in the middle of the night. Two people share such stories.It was indeed an unforgettable history of getting along with each other. When "Ming Pao Monthly" was founded, Jin Yong went all out and was busy day and night. At that time, they had two boys and two girls. Besides taking care of the children, Zhu Mei also brought him meals every day.

The 1968 "Ming Pao" editorial meeting records show that Zhu Mei often attended as "Cha Tai", sometimes called "President Cha and his wife", and sometimes "President Cha, Tai Tai". "Chinese Evening News" was founded, and Zhu Mei served as the president, and later became the interview director of "Ming Pao Evening News". On May 20, 1969, "Ming Pao" held a banquet at the Mandarin Hotel to celebrate its 10th anniversary. She was dressed in a rose-red dress and had her hair permed.During the group photo, the couple sat together with Shen Baoxin and his wife, and a pair of young children, Chuanxia and Chuanshi, squatted in front of them, a happy and complete family. On the 10th anniversary of "Ming Pao Monthly" in January 1976, Jin Yong wrote "A Ten Years of "Mingyue" at this time", recalling the start-up of "Mingyue", "My wife Zhu Mei cooked rice from her home in Kowloon every day and sent it to Hong Kong for me. ", the writing is full of warmth.At this time, "Ming Pao" has firmly established itself as a major newspaper in Hong Kong, and the Ming Pao kingdom is quite large, but their marriage has cracks, and they are finally going to divorce.Zhu Mei is very capable, serious about her work, and even a little stubborn. The two often quarrel because of work, which may hurt Cha's self-esteem, and thus have extramarital affairs. "Ten yuan tip" ended a marriage that was in trouble, and concluded another marriage that shared wealth and honor. At that time, Ming Pao's office was located on King's Road in North Point. When Jin Yong was tired from working at the newspaper office, he most often went to a nearby restaurant to have a cup of coffee to refresh himself and relax his muscles and bones.This restaurant is near the "Li Chi" in North Point. Jin Yong "visits here" every day and is a regular customer and regular customer of the restaurant. One day, Jin Yong went to this restaurant to drink coffee as usual. Suddenly, a young and beautiful waitress came up and asked him if he was Jin Yong. He said yes, and everyone chatted for a while. When paying the bill, Jin Yong tipped the waitress an extra ten yuan.The waitress was of course flattered, because at that time, ten yuan was a lot of money, so the waitress immediately stopped Jin Yong and wanted to return the ten yuan to him. The waitress said that Jin Yong is a literati, and earning a living by writing manuscripts is quite hard, so she will definitely not take the ten yuan tip.After hearing this, Jin Yong was filled with joy, because he did not expect this waitress to say such words at such a young age.Then they made friends. Unexpectedly, the ten yuan tip has such an astonishing influence. It not only created another relationship and another marriage for Jin Yong, but also changed the relationship between Jin Yong and his wife Zhu Mei. According to reports, Jin Yong and the waitress developed a rapid relationship, and later they built a "love nest" together in Happy Valley. Zhu Mei was kept in the dark at first, but later found out from some clues that her husband was having an affair.Jin Yong used to return to "Ming Pao" every night to write editorials, but for a while he seldom appeared in the newspaper office. He just asked a young man to send his finished manuscript to the editorial department of "Ming Pao". When Zhu Mei found out about this, she asked the young man where to get the manuscript.Seeing that there was no way to hide it, the younger generation confessed everything, saying that Jin Yong asked him to go to Happy Valley to pick up the manuscript.So Zhu Mei asked this young man to take her to Happy Valley, and finally discovered this "secret". Of course, this marriage is also in crisis, and it cannot be saved. Divorce seems to be the last way to go. There are rumors that Jin Yong proposed divorce on his own initiative, but Zhu Mei also proposed two divorce conditions before agreeing to divorce Jin Yong: one is that Jin Yong pays a sum of money as compensation; Jin Yong got married. On the 10th anniversary of Ming Pao's publication, Jin Yong and Zhu Mei took a group photo Zhu Mei asked the waitress to tie her fallopian tubes for the sake of her child.Because Zhu Mei and Jin Yong have had several children, if the waitress has another child, her children will be ignored, so Jin Yong and the waitress must not have children. It is said that Jin Yong agreed to these two conditions, and then formally divorced Zhu Mei. These legends may not be confirmed, and the reasons for the divorce are also complicated, but the divorce is a fact.Luo Fu said: "Zhu Mei helped him start a business and did her best. She is very capable and helped him with a lot of things. We don't know exactly what happened to him." "He divorced Zhu Mei , I can’t get the understanding of my good friends.” Lin Yanni said that Zhu Mei is “also a strong person.” The editor-in-chief of “Ming Pao Weekly” Lei Weipo got married, and the wedding was held in the suburbs, and she was also present to congratulate her.Jin Yong asked: "Do you want me to take you home?" Zhu Mei only replied indifferently: "No need." Zhu Mei spent the rest of her life in loneliness and desolation, and sometimes went to live in England, where it is said that she had relatives. Around 1995, she was seen selling handbags on the streets of Causeway Bay, Hong Kong Island.Someone told Jin Yong, he said it would not be possible.He said: "I always wanted to get close to her and help her, but she refused, she didn't want to see me, I asked my son to take care of her, but she didn't want to see her either, she preferred to be independent." On November 8, 1998, Zhu Mei died at the Ruttonjee Hospital in Wanchai, Hong Kong due to the spread of tuberculosis at the age of 63. She still left a considerable amount of property to her three children.The person who took the death certificate for her was neither her ex-husband nor her children, but the staff of the hospital. The desolation of the old age was embarrassing, and it formed a huge contrast with the scenery of Jin Yong's old age. Many years later, Jin Yong said that if it can be remedied, he hopes to be better to his relatives and friends.When interviewed by reporters, he said with shame on his face: "I'm sorry Zhu Mei..." He said to CCTV host Bai Yansong: "I am not very successful as a husband because I have been divorced and my wife who divorced me There is one, I feel sorry for her in my heart, she has passed away now, I am very sad." The woman who can grow old with the billionaire Jin Yong is called Lin Leyi (the foreign name is May), which is Jin Yong's third and current wife.She was only sixteen years old when she met Jin Yong, more than twenty years younger than Jin Yong.The two of them sparked their love in a hotel in Zhajiao Lichi.Miss Lin was a waiter in that hotel at that time.That day, Jin Yong had just quarreled with his second wife and was extremely frustrated, so he went to that hotel to sit bored.Jin Yong caught Miss Lin's attention.Miss Lin wanted to invite the frustrated man to eat a bowl of noodles, and the frustrated man also paid attention to Miss Lin.It was love at first sight, the two eyes met, and they couldn't tell each other.I'm sorry for Zhu Mei, divorce again, get married again, and send my little wife to study in Australia. Lin Yanni, a female writer who is very familiar with Jin Yong, said: He had three wives in total. The first one was married to Wei Wei, but they broke up without children.The second Zhu Mei (Mei) is a strong woman who fought together with him. She is beautiful and capable. They gave birth to two sons and two daughters.Maybe heroes are too common to be used to, and there is less appreciation for each other in the marriage, coupled with other reasons, they finally broke up. ... The current Mrs. Cha is twenty-seven years younger than Mr. Zha. Mr. Zha loves beauties the most. How can the current Mrs. Cha be unattractive. Her name is Lin Leyi, she looks pretty and elegant, but she is also quite shy and afraid of being published in the newspapers, but she gets along very well with the children. But according to Ouyang Bi's calculation, the age difference between the two should be thirty-two to thirty-four years old. She joined Ming Pao in 1986 and worked as a newspaper inspector for more than a year. Every day, she had to go to the seventh floor to deliver reports to Jin Yong. One day, the secretary told her: "Mr. Cha is here, Mr. Cha is inside." Then, she saw Jin Yong coming out with a very young and beautiful woman, and she politely called: "Mrs. Cha..." Jin Yong immediately smiled and said, "You don't need to call her Mrs. Cha, just call her May." It was the first time they met. At that time, May was under 30 years old. In the future, they would meet at some dinners, such as the dinner with Wang Guangying and his wife. May's Mandarin is not very good. They often chat in Mandarin. May listened quietly by the side, and generally would not interrupt. When she did not understand, she would ask her husband next to her. Jin Yong would stop talking and whisper to her in Cantonese.In Ouyang's impression, May is very straightforward, without the arrogance and domineering of the boss's wife.Once when she went to the boss's office on the seventh floor, May was also there, and the two were talking about traveling to England. Jin Yong confessed that they had to go out beforehand. Go and see Zhu Mei, he doesn't want to. He is actually quite nice, I don't know what he thinks." There was some complaint in his tone.The current wife is dissatisfied with her husband for not seeing his ex-wife, this is the first time Ouyang Bi has seen such a thing.She thinks this only shows that May has a cheerful personality and has no intentions. The reporter asked Jin Yong and his current wife Lin Leyi "how to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife", he said frankly: "It's nothing. She usually accommodates me in everything, and when she loses her temper, I can't hold back my words. The relationship with her is not good. It's a particularly successful, but not a failure, just like an ordinary couple." He said that Lin Leyi's favorite work of his is, "Because she finds it very sad. Women are more emotional." Jin Yong also said to Tao Jie (Cao Jie): "The communication between husband and wife is life communication, not ideological discussion. If you want to avoid conflicts, it is better to talk less. Husband and wife do not necessarily have to share the same interests, but to leave some blank space , each has its own space. My wife likes Australia, but I don't like it... I read a lot of British books, and I am deeply influenced by the universities there. I also like France and Italy. Every time I go to these countries, I go to pay my respects. Monuments. This feeling is the same as when I went back to the mainland. But Chinese culture is a part of my life, like the blood flowing in my veins, and I will never be separated.” When asked how he manages the marriage of “friends who forget years”, he smiled Said: "Although there are not many examples, it is still possible. The most important thing is to respect each other." His wife took good care of his daily life and paid great attention to his diet. He was not allowed to eat this or that, but he accepted it with pleasure.Except for food and drink, his home is decorated by his wife, which is beautiful and reflects his heart and wisdom. On Christmas Day in 1986, "Ming Pao" held a party at a tea restaurant in Central Hong Kong. More than 200 people attended, and people came and went. People are a bit cautious, but Ah May is holding a "rolling snake" toy in his hand, and he is blowing it on his mouth. When he is not blowing, he has to roll it up. When he blows it, it will be filled with air, like a round paper stick.She kept blowing, and aimed the tail of the "snake" at her husband's face in public, blowing one after another, as if entering no one's land, and Jin Yong, like a generous elder, smiled and gently pushed her hand away.Later, he simply took a "coil snake" and blew it up one by one.This scene left a very deep impression on Ouyang Bi who witnessed it.Ah May's lively and hearty personality is like an innocent little girl playing with her father, completely disregarding her status as a proprietress, and not caring about the gazes of so many people around her. Jin Yong once invited Wen Ruian and others to dinner. After the meal, the couple had to walk across the street to take another car. Perhaps because the arcade was too dark and the concrete floor was too slippery, the couple once wanted to hold hands, but failed. "Maybe it's because our car is behind us. For some reason, the two of them suddenly feel a little embarrassed. The hand that we wanted to hold but never held has never been held." Seeing this scene, Wen Rui'an laughed heartily in the car stand up.That afternoon, Jin Yong took Wen Rui'an on his family's yacht. Wen asked him: "Does this yacht have a name?" The magnificent decoration is worth at least one million Hong Kong dollars.In the afternoon, they went to the deck to bask in the sun, while his wife, May, and daughter went swimming in the sea.Jin Yong said: "My current wife is not their mother, but we get along very well." According to Ouyang Biyan, the female editor of "Ming Pao", May is close to the age of her two daughters. Although she is a stepmother, she does not look like a mother and daughter. , rather like sisters.They talked and laughed, and sometimes their voices were so loud that they asked their husbands to stop. In October 1976, Jin Yong's eldest son, Zha Chuanxia, ​​who was studying at Columbia University in the United States, hanged himself to death, which became a pain in his heart that could never be healed.He recalled painfully: "I remember being so discouraged and sad after receiving the news that my eldest son had passed away in the United States, but I still had to continue writing editorials in the newspaper office that day, crying while writing, and I was always very sad, but I still had to write After that, he personally went to the United States to bring his son's ashes back to Hong Kong for burial.His son's suicide also became the direct reason for his belief in Buddhism.He was revising at the time, and a few months later he wrote this in his afterword: ... The emotional focus of this book is not the love between men and women, but the friendship between men, the brotherly feelings of the Seven Heroes of Wudang, Zhang Sanfeng's love for Zhang Cuishan, and Xie Xun's love for Zhang Wuji like father and son. However, Zhang Sanfeng's grief when he saw Zhang Cuishan committing suicide, and Xie Xun's sadness when he heard the news of Zhang Wuji's death are written too superficially in the book, which is not the case in real life.Because I didn't understand it then. The sentence "It's not like this in real life. Because I didn't understand it at that time" can't express the pain and sadness in his heart. In 1961, when Jin Yong wrote, "Zhang Sanfeng's grief when he saw Zhang Cuishan committing suicide, and Xie Xun's sadness when he heard the news of Zhang Wuji's death" had no personal life experience. In March 1977, when he wrote these words, it was only five months since Zha Chuanxia committed suicide.Losing a child in middle age is the deepest misfortune in real life. However, he accepted his fate, because a fortune teller told him that there was only one son.In the early years, someone told his fortune that he was destined to have only one son, but Zhu Mei bore him two sons. He thought it was just a fortune teller's nonsense, and the death of the eldest son unfortunately verified the fortune teller's prophecy.From then on, Jin Yong believed in fortune-telling and so on. There are two versions of the reasons for Zha Chuanxia's suicide.One theory is that it is related to the divorce of the parents.Zha Chuanxia was studying in the United States and was very sad when he learned that his parents were going to divorce.He tried to persuade his father many times, but failed to change the fact that his parents' divorce hit him extremely hard, and he chose to end his young life in desperation.Lin Yanni said: "During the divorce, Cha Liangyong and Zhu Mei (Mei) both experienced the most painful moment in their lives, that is, the eighteen-year-old Ai'er committed suicide when his parents were divorcing." Another way of saying is that Jin Yong has a deep affection for this son, on the contrary, the mother-son relationship is not very good.Zha Chuanxia wrote an article when he was eleven or twelve years old, saying that life is very bitter and meaningless, and that he was born with Buddhist thoughts.Some people said that the child should be prevented from thinking like this, but he felt that his son was right, that life was just like what he thought, and even praised his son for his profound precocious wisdom. He never thought that his son would die because of this thought.At that time, Zha Chuanxia was a freshman in a university in the United States and had not yet chosen a subject. He had a girlfriend in San Francisco. They had a few words on the phone, and he didn't want to live anymore, and he chose to commit suicide impulsively. In 1991, Jin Yong sold Ming Pao to Yu Pinhai. Some people said that it was because Yu Pinhai looked like his dead son.The reporter asked about this, and he replied: "Rationally, I don't think so. But he is the same age as my eldest son, both belong to monkeys, and his appearance is indeed a bit similar. Subconsciously, there is a feeling of closeness unconsciously, maybe there is." Jin Yong now has two daughters and a son, and the deceased Zha Chuanxia were both born to Zhu Mei.The eldest daughter, Cha Chuanshi (English name Grace), used to work as an ordinary employee in the advertising department on the sixth floor of "Ming Pao". She has hearing problems, and she can't hear normal volume.There are rumors that the little dragon girl comes from his daughter "little deaf girl", and some employees call her "little dragon girl" behind their backs. On May 15, 1988, Zha Chuanshi married Zhao Guoan, the deputy editor-in-chief of Ming Pao Evening News. At that time, the newspaper published their wedding advertisement.Zhao Guoan was divorced, and it is said that Jin Yong was not very happy. His decision was that Zhao had to leave Ming Pao after marrying his daughter. The second daughter Cha Chuan Na (the "A Na" mentioned in Jin Yong's article) graduated from Shuren College and married doctor Wu Weichang in 1987. "Ming Pao Weekly" reported their wedding with rich pictures and texts. The second son, Zha Chuanti, loves food and intends to taste all the delicacies in the world. With Cai Lan as his teacher, he writes food reviews for newspapers and magazines. , vinegar, tea, wine).He likes Dongpo pork and Xiangkou food the most.Because his father also loves Dongpo pork, he has eaten Dongpo pork all over Hong Kong. If there is something delicious, he always wants to eat it with his father.He said: "When I was young, my brother Zha Chuanxia and I studied together in St. Paul's School. My brother got excellent grades and was liked by the teachers. I was very naughty and was punished by the academic administration. Sometimes I even invited my parents to come to school." Chuan Ti went to the UK to study accounting, and returned to Hong Kong before graduating. He worked as the deputy manager of Mingheshe Publishing Company and assisted in the publication of his father's martial arts novels.He said: "For me, Jin Yong is a successful martial arts novelist, and Cha Liangyong is my father." On the afternoon of November 25, 1994, Jin Yong said to Leng Xia: "Every Saturday night, we have a family gathering and eat together. The three of them live in the same building, very close to my family. The three brothers and sisters have a very close relationship. Good. It’s good to me too... My divorced wife and I often get together and eat together.” He said to Bai Yansong on CCTV: “As a father, I am very tolerant to my children, but it’s a pity that I don’t teach them much. I love them. But it seems that I don’t like teaching people very much, so now I doubt whether it’s okay to be a professor or not.”

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