Chapter 37 4. Her son is always her concern

According to the definition from the perspective of traditional culture, the greatest achievement of a woman is the success of her husband and children.However, in modern society, women play more and more roles, and their role is getting bigger and bigger, so their social status is getting higher and higher.With her own hard work and perseverance, Dong Mingzhu overcomes obstacles in the turbulent workplace, gallops all the way, and occupies a place in the world of men with her own wisdom and characteristics.In the opinion of public opinion and many women themselves, the perfect woman should be an outstanding professional woman, mother and housewife, but in reality, this triple success image can be said to be a myth, even if it is very difficult to do well in two fields.Many people try their best to do the three roles well, but very few succeed.For many successful women, it is normal to give up their personal pleasures for their careers.In the 1980s, British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher, the "Iron Lady" was the most powerful woman in the world. She doesn't go to the movies or dance, which is also determined by her family's religious piety.Without the support of any family background, she has been living a self-disciplined and frugal life in pursuit of excellence, and through her unremitting efforts, she finally reached the pinnacle of power.It seems that it is not an exaggeration to describe the competition and vagaries of the shopping malls as "swords and swords". Gree's Iron Lady also needs to breathe a sigh of relief after the battle.Dong Mingzhu said that she actually has a docile side, and she is very easy-going when she is not working, laughing and joking with others.Of course, this is a trait that every woman has.As a successful woman and a well-known professional manager, Dong Mingzhu is majestic on various occasions, showing her fortitude, courage and arrogance.Now, in front of her, no one can make her feel wronged, and nothing can make him distressed and helpless, except his son.As a mother, Dong Mingzhu couldn't help crying when talking about her son, because she felt that she had devoted herself to work over the years and owed her son too much.More than one mother who is engaged in different professions has commented that Dong Mingzhu's heart is quite "ruthless".

When she left Nanjing to start a business in Shenzhen at the age of 36, her son Dongdong was just in the second grade of primary school.Dong Mingzhu left the child at home and asked her mother to take care of it.Only when he is on a business trip can Dong Mingzhu have time to go home and see his son.Every time he came home, the son would not speak, but just cuddled up to her like a kitten, as if his mother would leave him as soon as he let go.Grandma told him to go to bed early, but he shook his head desperately, saying that he was not sleepy.But as long as Dong Mingzhu said: "Go to sleep, mom will accompany you in a while." He would "swipe" and jump onto the bed.Watching my 8-year-old son alone at home is difficult for many people.During her work in Nanjing, Dong Mingzhu was too busy with work. When she returned to her residence, she wanted to lie down and sleep, and she didn't even bother to wash her face.The son lives in his mother's house, but he seldom visits there, and he can't see him several times a year, so there is very little face-to-face communication with the child.Although they are in the same city, the distance between them seems to be a world away.Once Dong Mingzhu went out and found something left at home, so she hurried back to get it.Passing the child's room, she wanted to open the quilt to take a look at the child again, but she lifted the quilt, only to find that the child was covered in the quilt crying with snot and tears all over his face.Dong Mingzhu's heart was tightened all of a sudden. At that moment, she realized that as a mother, she gave too little to her children.When Dongdong saw his mother came back, he quickly wiped away his tears and said with a smile: "Mom, please go, I'm fine, I'm fine."

Seeing that the child is so sensible at such a young age, he is obviously reluctant to let her go, but he refuses to speak out... Dong Mingzhu held her son in her arms, and she couldn't hold back the tears anymore. At that moment, she really wanted to give up everything, so she just stayed with her son and watched him grow up slowly and healthily.She even thought that it would be great if she were an ordinary housewife, and maybe her son would be happier that way.This woman who was described as "dominant" by her opponent is no longer the strong woman who dominates the rivers and lakes. She is a mother, a mother full of deep maternal instincts.Fortunately, the child is strong and self-reliant, has been studying hard, and is silent when he is sick, giving his mother a lot of support.After Dongdong grew up, when Dong Mingzhu came home occasionally, he would always sit quietly next to his mother, but he would not speak or behave more, as if he was waiting for his mother not to let her go.When his son was 12 years old, he flew on a plane for the first time. He asked his mother, "Can you send me off on the day of the flight?" At this time, Dong Mingzhu had enough financial strength and conditions to agree to his son's request.However, facing her son's earnest eyes, she rejected his request on the grounds that she had no time.When her son asked her colleague to send him, she refused again.Many years later, when Dong Mingzhu thought of this incident, she still sighed.She already owed too much to her son, yet rejected him so "ruthlessly". As a mother, wasn't she being too cruel?You know, the Guangzhou airport was quite chaotic at that time, and my son was only 12 years old. It would be too harsh for him to take the bus from Zhuhai to the Guangzhou airport by himself.Dong Mingzhu said: "At the destination, when the child got off the plane, our salesperson picked him up. The salesperson told me on the phone that the child simply rushed out of the airport." Speaking of this, Dong Mingzhu choked up again: "I understand immediately The tension and insecurity in the child’s heart at that time made me very uncomfortable.” No one knew that when the 12-year-old child got on the bus by himself and the plane by himself, he was always in his heart. what to think.Was it just fear in his heart?Perhaps, there is also a hope for family affection.Perhaps, he asked his mother to send him off, just wanting to spend more time with his mother.Although he has been used to concealing his feelings since he was a child, he is still a child after all, a child who longs for his mother's love.In other children, maybe they are already tired of their parents' excessive love, but why does mother's love seem so weak when it comes to him?Too busy with work, there are very few opportunities for face-to-face communication with children. Dong Mingzhu reflects maternal love more in the subtle influence of behavior, hoping that her son can become a useful person to society.In fact, there are not too many languages ​​​​to communicate between mother and child. It is not about what to say to him or what to do, but what kind of words and deeds the mother does and what kind of influence it has on him.She felt that her son should be tempered more during his growth, and living in a honeypot would be detrimental to his growth.Many parents think that taking their children to school and going home every day is caring for their children, but she will stand at the school gate and watch the children walk home by themselves.Facing the issue of how to educate children, Dong Mingzhu has her own point of view.She believes that the general family's "doting" on children is not a good educational method.Dong Mingzhu believes that this kind of maternal love is not the best way to raise children A good way, in her opinion, the best maternal love is to give the child a space to develop and let him judge things by himself.Having been selling Gree air conditioners in Nanjing for more than two years, Dong Mingzhu has been in the market almost every day, rarely going home to see her mother and children, and sometimes passing by the house to go back, because it was very late, mother and children were asleep, the second Early in the day she left home again.Once Dong Mingzhu won the "price war", she decided to go home and spend a few days with her mother and children.Dong Mingzhu still remembers the situation that day. That day, when his son came home and saw her lying on the sofa, he was very happy.

As a result, the phone rang at this time: "A group of Gree salesmen 'resigned collectively', please go back to the headquarters to handle business work." Before Dong Mingzhu had time to say a few words to her son, she packed her bags and ran to the train station.At the moment when she got on the train, she clearly saw the tears on her son's face, looking at her son, her tears also flowed down.As a mother, Dong Mingzhu is no different from any ordinary mother. She also has sincerity and deep affection for her children.Although she admits in her heart that she feels guilty towards her son, just like the nickname "Often Reasonable" she had when she was in high school, in a way, she still believes that her education method is correct.From the perspective of cultivating children's healthy development, Dong Mingzhu's views are undoubtedly absolutely correct.Because of this, when asked "what is the greatest achievement", Dong Mingzhu said very confidently: "Two aspects: I did not spoil my son and let him grow up sensible; I have made Gree a China's world famous brand, and will become a world famous brand in the near future, is my greatest achievement." Dong Mingzhu seldom shed tears, and when she did, she was mostly moved by her children.During the college entrance examination, my son also prepared alone, and brought his own medicine to prevent accidents.This is a great comfort to Dong Mingzhu, because he can stand on his own and knows to take care of himself.

In January 2007, Dong Mingzhu was awarded the "2006 China Economic Person of the Year" by CCTV, and she shed tears when she received a congratulatory message from her son.Sometimes she feels that she is a woman and a mother only when she is away from Gree.I am worthy of the company, my clients, and myself, but I am sorry for my family, especially my son.Now, the son has grown up healthily and partly inherited his mother's self-reliance and self-improvement. He said that he does not want to live a comfortable life under the wings and protection of his mother, and does not want to live in the shadow of his mother to limit his own development.Although Dong Mingzhu did not practice personal caress and strict discipline during her son's growth, she maintained a kind of timely communication and guidance.Since her son was a few years old, she has often encouraged him to be strong, brave, and self-reliant. She told her son that only in this way can he truly become a person who has the ability to contribute to society when he grows up.

In 1995, Dong Mingzhu did it twice when she was hospitalized in a car accident. She began to feel a little panicked, thinking that the problem must be serious.It was at that moment that she thought about what would happen to her son after she left?Couldn't help crying bitterly.Later, Dongdong came and held his mother's hand quietly without saying anything.She later felt that people are like this sometimes. When they are sick, they want to stop working so hard after being discharged from the hospital, but when they face the reality, when they have to pay, they have to stand up. Dong Mingzhu feels relieved What's more, the son is already much taller than the mother, he is a graduate student in Beijing, and he already has his own values ​​and views.When discussing the behavior of some people with his mother, he also suggested that his mother should not use her own behavior standards to demand others. How can there be so many people like her?In many TV programs that interviewed Dong Mingzhu, Dongdong did not appear, because he did not want to live in the shadow of his mother, and he did not want to enjoy different treatment in society because of his mother. He chose to work and hoped that he would not know his mother. place to work.The mother and son still rarely see each other, but they will communicate by phone.The son seldom made phone calls, and the mother gradually understood that since she wanted him to be successful and self-reliant, she couldn't expect him to revolve around her.The best maternal love is to give the son a space for free development, guide him correctly by himself, let him judge things by himself, and encourage him to truly become a useful person.In the group photo with her son, Dong Mingzhu's eyes are no longer sharp, and the brows are full of tenderness, happiness and satisfaction.As a mother, Dong Mingzhu was no different from any ordinary mother.Yes, how could Dong Mingzhu be able to get to this day without the support of his son?Although it is said that the number of times she meets her son is pitiful, as long as she thinks of him, she feels a sense of relief in her heart.The son has now grown up and entered the society to live the life he wanted.For so many years, her son has never complained to her, but instead understands her and supports her. How can she not feel relieved?However, did she give too little to her son?When her son needs her care especially, she wanders outside; when her son travels alone and needs her protection, she is forced by principle to let him face the wind and rain alone.Seeing her son getting better and better, Dong Mingzhu felt very relieved.Now she can rest assured that she doesn't have to lie to her young son that she will be back soon as she did back then; now she is no longer alone, and she doesn't have to hide her tired heart.She can straighten her shoulders, open her lips full of happiness, and tell her happiness with a smile.