Chapter 5 what are we up to

what are we up to I have many girlfriends, all of whom are married now; they don't raise children, and they don't have much work, but they talk about it and don't know what they are busy with every day. "We have to find a job. Do we just spend our whole life like this?" The young Zhang Zai was anxious. "In four or five years, I will be thirty years old!" The beautiful Wang felt even more disappointed. But despite being anxious, in fact we still passed year after year without doing any work.We neither wash nor cook at home, nor do we watch theaters or play cards. We have raised children and have a nanny, which reminds people that the young mistress is extremely busy, but in fact we are also busy every day.

Such a situation even made me feel a little baffled, so I made an appointment for a day to gather and discuss: What are we busy with? Shu, who lives in a big family, spoke first: "I have no choice, it's not that I'm too lazy to do things; the family is surrounded by so many people, father-in-law, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, uncle, and an aunt who was born in a brothel. Don’t be perfunctory in front of me? Every morning, the mother-in-law recites the Buddha’s name and burns joss sticks, and the sister-in-law and uncle go to school. After burning incense with the old man, they send the young one off to school, and when they return to the room, they still have to wait on their husbands. Get up. This is the rule of a big family, and we women who know how to read and know etiquette should know it. Otherwise, you will lose your court training and humiliate your parents. Don’t you think it’s too humble to do such things? You will understand that the daughters-in-law in big families all lead such a life. They are afraid that they will be laughed at by others, so they endure the humiliation; at first they dare not resist, but later they do not want to resist. Come on, as long as the husband is willing to put on the coat and quilt for her in front of others, it will be regarded as taking care of her dignity. They are the least willing to offend others, find movie advertisements for the aunt, tell the story of the Dragon King with the mother-in-law, and ask for courtesy when relatives come, all day long I was all busy trying to deal with people. At night, my husband came back, so I got up from the party and tried to deal with it. He fell asleep, and I lay on the bed exhausted. I didn't read it, I didn't post the account, and even the family letter had to be followed by my parents, but I had to save it for tomorrow. If we have a small family..."

"Small family?" The impetuous Man sneered, "I think a happy small family is always an illusion. Although you live in a big family, you are not free, but you have food and drink, and you don't care about your family. How can we have such troubles? We have three meals a day, ironing clothes and cleaning shoes, and we have to direct everything in person. Once my aunt runs away, I recommend the head shop to call, and change two a day, even if you can’t sit or stand uneasy. The most troublesome thing in a small family It’s Auntie. You sit in the room on weekdays. She runs in to get money to buy soy sauce, and then says that the brush is missing. She hates you to close the door, but she knocks loudly again, saying that it’s a registered letter waiting to be picked up. Reply note. In this situation, what else do you think you can do? What books are good? If you happen to want to write an article by yourself, it is guaranteed that you will not write three lines. It'll be all over the place."

"So we must have a job, leave the family and work outside!" The young Zhang repeated her idea. Wang quickly objected: "If you want to find a job, you have to get a divorce first, otherwise I hope he will go bankrupt and lose his job. A husband with a considerable income will never let his wife concentrate on her career and go out. You see, the one next door to us Missisun, didn't you just teach for a week, and then you got so quarreled by Mr. Sun that you had to hire someone to take over the class? Men always have a wife to help out when they are at home. They wake up in the morning, Turned around and pretended to be asleep, so the wife had to express affection and tenderness, and coax him out of bed. If he was not careful, he would act like a baby, put on his clothes and fell on the bed again, so he dragged on for a long time An hour has passed. The first thing to do when you get up is to go to the bathroom with your slippers. At that time, you have to fetch the newspaper for him and follow him. You sit by the bathtub when he gets on the horse, and everyone reads the newspaper and laughs at the same time. My legs were numb, so I stood up to wash my face and shave, soap for a while, razor for a while, I need you to help me with everything. Until your stomach is really hungry, everyone walked into the dining room and sat down, both healthy and healthy. The young master's errand is here again! The bread is too soft to replace the biscuits, the milk is too weak to add sugar, and I hurried to the office until the clock strikes nine. Before leaving, I repeatedly told you not to go out in the morning, maybe he If you forget what you brought, you can send someone to fetch it. In short, a woman's responsibility is to look after the house..."

"Then you'll always be free to do some work after he's out?" Shu asked eagerly. "Do some work?" Wang smiled charmingly: "When your husband left, your aunt would come to trouble you. You should know this bitterness very well; at that time, Wang Ma ran in to clean up your room when she saw the young master going out, and the rag Da Wen, sweeping the floor and sweeping up the dust, so you have to take a deep breath on the balcony, and when she comes back after everything is ready, the writing desk is too wet to write articles, so I have to pick up the newspaper and read it. Sofa King Mama came in again and said that it was a side dish. This made it impossible to work during the day, and had to accompany me to say some comforting words at night. So I said that if our husband does not go bankrupt and lose his job, our hope will always be just a hope. ."

Zhen's eyes were red when she said this. She said that her husband didn't need her affection and comfort, but she didn't allow her to find a job by herself, which made him lose someone to vent his anger on when he returned home.He has a very bad temper and always finds her to make noises: the footwashing water is too hot, the button is off, everything is wrong with his wife, scolding enough, he even broke the teacup, overturned the table, and he didn't turn his head back. The women on the dance floor went to relieve their boredom.So she had to cry alone, sobbing and choking. In the end, it was the aunt who came in to fix the table and sweep away the debris.

"Don't they have new ideas? They don't know how to be civilized and polite!" Zhang was so angry that his face turned red. "They have new ideas, but after marriage, everyone will force their wives to keep the old morality;" Man began to explain: "I know that men are the most jealous. When I was in middle school, there was a husband who refused to allow his wife to go to the barber shop. It's indecent to say that it's for the shaving staff. They don't allow their wives to show their chests and arms to violate the new life, although they hope that other women can dress up more sensual. They will never let their wives have development or The opportunity to develop abilities is to suppress her blindly with the principle that the male is the outsider and the female is the inside, and she will always be under my control."

We all agree with these words.After the men caged and tamed the women like birds, they soon became dissatisfied with their masterpieces; their feathers were still beautiful, but there was no vitality in their resting wings all day long.At this time, even if someone opened the cage door for them, they would not be able to fly anywhere, and the vast sea and sky would always become a realm of dreams.Although this result reassures them, they bully her and blame them for not working hard to climb up. They can neither help their husband's career nor accompany him to make him happy. It's time for women to beg for food.

"So, they don't need to talk about being civilized and polite to you!" Man really felt a little emotional. "But we women are really too ambitious," Zhang said angrily, "Men will not hesitate to use bribery and coercion to suppress us into obedience. Don't we get jealous and make them busy every day without knowing it?" What are you busy with, can't you succeed in everything?" I know that women's jealousy methods are different from men's: they dare not break the traditional concept and ask men to sit at home with her all day, because a husband who has nothing to do will also make her lose face.Therefore, they have to sacrifice their freedom, give up their careers, endure troubles every day, and perform the sacred duty of "accompanying".They're never really interested in the job, they're just afraid that if they don't, the men will throw a fit and go out and mess around.What a stupid and distressing way to be jealous!I think if all the men are willing to wear a chastity belt on their own initiative, there will be no wife in the world who would stay at home with her husband.

So, our problem ends like this: I believe that if women are willing to change this method of jealousy, make a few popular slogans, health first!Happy first!Knowledge comes first!Career first!If you want to accompany your husband, you have to do it occasionally when you have spare time. Don't interfere with all work because of jealousy, and ruin your life's happiness.