Chapter 77 Chapter 77

The word "hold" is composed of hand and Feng.It means offering it with both hands, which is an extremely respectful and devout attitude. But in fact, the cultural and ideological connotations contained in Pingzi are far more than these.Let's take a look at this Bong word.Fengzi is the universal belief of the mighty wind between heaven and earth.If the sun is placed under the word, the flowers will be bright and the leaves will be bright, and the butterflies will fly all over the sky.If the word below is He, the fruit will be abundant and the harvest will be plentiful.If you add a tree to the word, you will be powerful in the world and dominate the Quartet.The word "Feng" means that we believe in our own hands.

Believe in our own hands, weed up and start working hard, this is the most real gratitude in our minds. After understanding the cultural meaning of the word "Praise", and then delving deeper into the performance art of "Praise", we will suddenly see that there is something wrong with it.Gein's touting of this job is not as simple as flattering others. There are as many people in this world who are forced to compromise and flatter others. They may be able to achieve their goals after this process. But there are very few.The reason is that they did not understand the lofty realm of holding characters.

If you want to flatter this kind of work, it is nothing more than praising the other party to the sky without principle. When the other party is ecstatic by your boasting, they will naturally lose their vigilance, and then they will agree to your request.Is there really a limit to this kind of thing? Have!To tout this kind of thing is not based on your mouth, but your brain. You must be calm, rational and intellectual, carefully study the other party and dig out the real advantages of the other party.When applauding people, one must be appreciative of the idea, appreciating it just right, just this appropriation alone has pushed the word appreciating to a very high and far-reaching level.

The biggest taboo when it comes to applauding people is that they are applauding in the wrong way, not in the right direction, or not in the place they are applauding.For example, Zhu Yuanzhang of the Ming Dynasty was originally a bald-headed monk, and later became a bandit with a red scarf, and later became an emperor. So Xu Yikui, a professor in Hangzhou, presented a congratulatory form and said: "Under the light of the sky, a sage is born, and he will act as a model for the world." ..." Zhu Yuanzhang took the congratulatory form and looked at it, but the more he thought about it, the more he didn't feel right: "Well, under the light of day, why do you say light? Does it mean that I have no hair? But I have already grown my hair to return to vulgarity. Well, there is another sentence about a born sage, this sentence is chewy, so this person already knew that I was a remnant of a heavenly monk, or that I was a remnant of the monks?... Forget it, it’s too much to see. Take the trouble, kill this person first, and read the article slowly."

As a result, the unlucky Xu Yikui was dragged out and chopped up like this.No wonder Zhu Yuanzhang likes to engage in literary prisons. You say that the person who writes you is determined to flatter him anyway, but can we be more thoughtful and don't be so superficial, knowing that Zhu Yuanzhang is a monk with a bald head , don't mention this, okay? In history, there are many people who killed people by flattering them.The reason is that touting others is not thoughtful and lacks a serious scientific attitude, which has led to serious consequences. Why is it that there are still people who can't correct their attitudes when flattering horses is such a serious job?In the same way, we have to ask, since the highest level of flattery is to discover the strengths of the other party, why do you need to dig out the strengths of others?Couldn't he dig it himself?

These two questions are actually the same question, and they involve the most tangled human nature. Human thinking is like a searchlight, radiating from the depths of our hearts, overlooking this humble world from a high position.Compared with our thinking, the universe is too small, the world is too narrow, and the universe observer with such a broad perspective lives in a small corner of human society. This gap will inevitably produce a sense of adjustment.The specific manifestation is that the more we look at the world, the more wrong it becomes. Well, life is full of suffering, society is full of crimes, darkness covers the lives of countless people, there are too many men and too few women, the more men travel, the more women travel and the less , the wine and meat of the wealthy family stinks, and the road is frozen to death... How can this be done, it can't go on like this.So we will make reasonable and effective adjustments to this world in our own consciousness, and there will be tens of thousands of mansions, which will shelter the poor and happy people in the world. Well, people who live by the sea should move to the mountains.People who walk with burdens should ride horses and sit in sedan chairs, and beautiful singers who sing and dance in restaurants should go to dig coal in mines... No matter what a person thinks about the world, the adjustment of his psychological consciousness is all in Try to reduce the gap between his position in this society and his overlooking of the whole world.

That is to say, human beings view the world from the height of gods, and this perspective inevitably produces the result of being dark under the lights, that is to say, the searchlight at a high place can overlook the whole world, but it cannot illuminate itself alone. The lighthouse-like perspective of thinking brings us the illusion of God, and because this kind of perspective of thinking cannot turn back and look inside, we cannot see the flaws in our hearts. The standard is the standard to evaluate the outside world.That is to say, any person will never be able to recognize his own shortcomings. Although under the pressure of the outside world, he is forced to admit that he also has shortcomings, but this recognition is often consistent with his lighthouse style. Personality forms a fierce collision, which cannot be recognized by the heart at all.

From this we can conclude that everyone's inner self-evaluation is much higher than the external world's affirmation of him.And our evaluation of any other person is far lower than his deep self-knowledge. We can draw a simple mutual evaluation cognitive map to explain this thinking phenomenon: From this picture we can draw a conclusion: we always think highly of ourselves and look down on others.And others too, they underestimate us too much, but overestimate themselves. There are exceptions, such as teenagers in the period of immature self-personality, they will behave as chasing stars, which is actually a process of imitating external successful people and transplanting a certain personality they identify with into their self-consciousness.But once this process is completed, adolescents begin to mature and start thinking, that is to say, they begin to evaluate themselves and others with this lighthouse thinking.

This explains why flattering horses is such a serious matter, but some people don't care about it and do nothing.Calling a bald donkey at a monk, a fat pig at a fat man, and Gein's praise of people are completely against our own will.Just think about it, we are so tall and tall, and the other party is so humble and insignificant, but we want to flatter the other party servilely, what a humiliation it is, praise him once, and humiliate him for three lifetimes. However, in fact, as the spirit of all things in this world, human beings must have their unique advantages and strengths, but in the self-awareness of the parties concerned, these advantages are covered up by an illusory arrogant personality.However, due to the instinct of lighthouse thinking consciousness, the person concerned does not have the function of introspection and self-examination, and blindly stares at others, so he cannot see his own advantages at all.Therefore, the ancient emperors, the flattery they received was nothing more than long live, long live, long life and boundless blind flattery, which was not targeted at all.

Flattery loses its pertinence. In addition to the fact that the person being flattered does not know what advantages others should flatter him, the lighthouse thinking perspective of the bystander also invisibly narrows the other party's advantages, and does not think that the other party's advantages are advantage.Since you don't think this is an advantage, of course you won't flatter carefully. Even if you flatter yourself, you are forcing yourself to submit under high pressure, and there is no sincerity at all. As for flattery, no one has studied it more thoroughly than Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu of the Han Dynasty. There is a passage in the "Historical Records" that specifically says this truth:

Gao Zu arranged a banquet in Luoyang Nangong.Gao Zu said: "Liehou and all the generals, you must not lie to me, you must tell the truth. Why did I gain the world? Why did Xiang Yu lose the world?" Ling replied: "Your Majesty is arrogant and insults others; Xiang Yu is kind and caring. But Your Majesty sent people to attack the cities and seize the land, and the lands captured and surrendered were entrusted to the people and shared with the people of the world. But Xiang Yu was jealous. The virtuous are jealous of ability, those who have merit are jealous of others, those who are capable are suspicious of others, they do not give merit to others when they win battles, and do not benefit others when they win lands. This is why he lost the world." Gaozu said: "You only know One, I don’t know the other. If it’s about strategizing and winning thousands of miles away, I’m not as good as Zhang Liang; guarding the country, comforting the people, providing food and ensuring that the roads for food transportation are not blocked, I’m not as good as Xiao He; Commanding an army of millions, one must win a battle, and one must capture an attack. I am not as good as Han Xin. These three men are all heroes, but I can use them. This is the reason why I can win the world. Although Xiang Yu has one Fan Zeng didn’t trust me, that’s why I captured him.” Looking at Liu Bang, it's no wonder that this guy can claim the title of emperor of the world. This person's thinking is not like a lighthouse, but like a sky filled with stars. He can discover the strengths of everyone, and he admits that he is incomparable. other side.He is inferior to Zhang Liang in planning, Xiao He in logistics and administration, and Han Xin in execution. It is only because he admits that he is inferior to others, so he has gained great wisdom that no one else can match. Then look at Wang Ling and others standing in front of Liu Bang. Everyone came out to hang out together. Why did Liu Bang become the emperor, and they only mixed up to work for Liu Bang?Just from what they said to Liu Bang, it can be seen that they don't know where Liu Bang's strengths are, and they don't know where their weaknesses are. Fortunately, Liu Bang arranged for them to do things, otherwise, would these people be able to eat? Food is indeed a big problem. The so-called flattery, to be clear, is to lower one's figure, try to overcome the disadvantages of one's lighthouse thinking, and find advantages in others that one cannot compare to oneself.In fact, at this point you no longer need to flatter horses, you almost already have the wisdom of an emperor, so do you still need to flatter others? Still have to shoot.Also in "Historical Records", such an interesting thing is recorded: Han Xin knew that the King of Han was afraid of his talents, so he often excused his illness from attending the court meeting and serving him.From then on, Han Xin resented day and night, was unhappy at home, and felt ashamed to be on the same level as Zhou Bo and Guan Ying.Han Xin once visited General Fan Kui. Fan Kui knelt down to see him off, proclaimed himself a courtier, and said, "Why is your majesty willing to come here?" The generals are good and bad, and they think that each has its own strengths and weaknesses.The emperor asked Han Xin: "How many soldiers and horses can I command with my talents?" Han Xin said: "Your Majesty can only command one hundred thousand." The emperor said: "How about you?" He smiled and said, "The more you have, the better. Why are you still captured by me?" Han Xin said, "Your Majesty can't lead troops, but he is good at controlling generals. That's why I was captured by Your Majesty. Besides, Your Majesty was given by God, isn't it? Humans can do it." This story tells that Han Xin's personal breakthrough ability is too strong, which aroused Liu Bang's fear. Just when Liu Bang was worried that Han Xin might become a future trouble, he suddenly told Liu Bang's real advantages without being wary of Han Xin, which made Liu Bang greatly surprised. No wonder Han Xin's ability to execute is so strong, it was he who ambushed him from all sides, and forced Xiang Yu, the hero of the world, to force Bie Concubine to wipe his neck.It turns out that this person has cultivated to the point where he can overcome his natural flaws in lighthouse thinking, and he was able to recognize Liu Bang's advantages. It's a pity that this realization came a little too late. If Han Xin was able to achieve this step earlier, I'm afraid It is not Liu Bang's turn to compete for the world. According to history books, Han Xin has posed an unprecedented threat to Liu Bang, but Liu Bang couldn't bear to kill him. Why?Could it be that Liu Bang is too soft-hearted? No, Liu Bang is heartless, ruthless, and hard-hearted, and he will never soften his heart.The reason why he didn't kill Han Xin was because he finally found someone who knew his strengths.The so-called bosom friend is hard to find, Liu Bang, as a peerless emperor, is too aware of the flaws of human nature.He knew that the people who were crawling under the golden palace and yelling long live at him with their buttocks raised were actually full of resentment in their hearts, and they didn't recognize Liu Bang's merits at all.If they knew this, then their achievements in life would definitely not be limited to raising their buttocks and shouting long live. Now that he has finally found someone who truly appreciates his strengths, Liu Bang is so excited, how can he be willing to kill his only confidant? Han Xin's flattery this time is basically a success.If it wasn't for Liu Bang, who was also familiar with the emperor's wisdom, Empress Lu who was also familiar with the emperor's wisdom suddenly appeared and killed Han Xin without any explanation. Han Xin's future achievements in life might overthrow Liu Bang and replace him. Although Han Xin died at the hands of Empress Lu, he still succeeded in creating a new realm.Putting his success story here, it has been difficult for anyone to surpass him since then.