Chapter 2 Chapter 1 The First Case of Human Human Search in China
On the evening of December 29, 2007, Jiang Yan, a 31-year-old white-collar woman in Beijing, jumped from her home on the 24th floor and condemned her husband and "little three" with her life.Jiang Yan's behavior of paying the bill for infatuation is shocking. From the moment her husband cheated, filed for divorce, and moved out of the house, she began to plan her own death journey.Before committing suicide, Jiang Yan wrote her own death blog on the Internet, recording her mental journey two months before the countdown to life, and opened the blog space on the day of suicide.After Jiang Yan committed suicide, her suicide blog was made public, and the "death blog" immediately became the number one public event on the Internet in 2008.From then on, there was a sense of murder on the Internet, and many netizens spontaneously came to Jiang Yan's home to commemorate, and even many netizens gathered at the door of Jiang Yan's husband Faye Wong's house, distributing big-character posters condemning Faye Wong at the door.Netizens kept saying that they wanted to seek justice for Jiang Yan, and even issued a "network hunting order" to "remove Faye Wong's head" within a certain time.
Netizens went from cursing in forums, to setting up a special website group to "curse" them, and then launching a "human flesh search engine" to expose privacy, exposing private addresses, phone numbers, household registration books, ID cards, and the famous "death blog incident". In the end, it was converted from online abuse to direct personal attacks and group containment in the real world.This kind of "cyber violence" caused by "cyber mobs" that has transferred from the online world to real life has finally evolved into "the first case of cyber violence in China". On March 28, 2008, Faye Wong, who suffered from depression due to unbearable harassment, experienced four months of hiding in Tibet and trembling, and finally walked to the court helplessly, declaring war on "cyber violence" in real life. On April 17, the "China's First Cyber Violence Case" was heard in the Asian Games Village Court of the Chaoyang District Court in Beijing. Netizens wept in the courtroom.
Amidst the voices of denunciation, Faye Wong's words alone were very weak. He told reporters in an interview: "The reason why I went to court was not to win or lose the lawsuit, but I needed the law to give me a chance to speak. Netizens know the truth of the whole incident, because my voice is too insignificant in the face of thousands of 'cyber mobs' in the online world."
So, what is the truth about Jiang Yan's suicide?Before Jiang Yan committed suicide, what kind of mental journey did she, her husband and "Little San" go through?How do we view this "cyber violence"?How did Jiang Yan's death turn from a private incident to a public one?The reporter exclusively interviewed Jiang Yan's husband Faye Wong, who is the plaintiff, and Zhang Leyi, Jiang Yan's ex-boyfriend, who was the defendant, to uncover the inside story of this "China's first human flesh search case".
Jiang Yan’s last message on the blog is: “If there is an afterlife, I will be a tree, standing forever, without joy or sorrow. Half of it is peaceful in the dust, half of it is flying in the wind, half of it is in the shade, and half of it is bathed in sunshine. Very silent and very proud, never relying on and never looking for."
Zhang Leyi told the author that Jiang Yan was born in Beijing in 1976. He dated his classmate Zhang Leyi for 4 years in college, and they broke up peacefully before graduation.Zhang Leyi stayed in Beijing and later became a senior technical consultant of a foreign company, while Jiang Yan graduated to work in the Ministry of Agriculture and was arranged to work in Africa for 2 years.After returning to Beijing, Jiang Yan went to Shenzhen alone to teach French, and returned to Beijing soon after.After Jiang Yan got married, Zhang Leyi gradually seldom contacted Jiang Yan.In the blog, Jiang Yan left the following words: "I buried my first love for four years on the shore of the Atlantic Ocean. If all my loves were over at that time, then the five years of love and my marriage will be the end of my life." Where can it be brought? Can the fire of life be ignited after it is extinguished? The day when the BLOG reopens will be the day of the end. I know that I am a very planned person. Even if I leave, I will Everything will be arranged so that no surprises will happen."
Jiang Yan is introverted and stubborn. After returning to Beijing, although she never forgets her first love, and occasionally has a relationship with Zhang Leyi, her first love boyfriend in college, but now things are different, and it is difficult to get together again.Jiang Yan, a girl without love, lives a monotonous and boring life, but online games and online chatting have become Jiang Yan's favorites, and she is immersed in the illusory online games.
One night in May 2002, Jiang Yan, who was chatting, met a stranger in a music forum, and the two chatted quickly on the Internet. They chatted from online games to Chinese and foreign pop music, from their hobbies to their respective interests. contact method.When he learned that the other party's real name was Faye Wong, Jiang Yan jokingly said: "Aren't you a fan of Faye Wong who sings? Is that why you changed your name?"
Faye Wong quickly explained: "Hehe, my mother wanted me to be a daughter when she gave birth to me, so she named me a girl." During the online chat, Jiang Yan felt that Faye Wong was not only understanding, but also kind-hearted and Reiki.When Jiang Yan learned that Faye Wong's education level was only a junior high school graduate, she thought Faye Wong was lying to him.When she learned that Faye Wong was 4 years younger than herself, she took it for granted that she was her older sister.
With the recognition of "sister and brother", the distance between the two suddenly narrowed.Faye Wong told Jiang Yan that he liked to draw since he was a child. Because of his obsession with drawing, his academic performance plummeted. After graduating from junior high school, he dropped out of school and stayed at home, buying a computer to specialize in graphic design creativity.Lie in front of the computer all day and seldom go out, and have no other contacts with others. Apart from network design, I also like to play games and chat online.When Faye Wong heard that Jiang Yan graduated from a prestigious university and had worked abroad, she admired her very much.That night, the two chatted for a long time until dawn.The appearance of Faye Wong added a touch of color to Jiang Yan's dull and boring life, even a kind of concern.Jiang Yan will be excited for a long time after playing games and talking with Faye Wong every day.As long as the two meet online, they will chat for several or even ten hours.After getting acquainted, the two were surprised to find that not only were they both in Beijing, but their homes were not far from each other.
Two young people who are addicted to the Internet, met on the Internet and exchanged phone numbers, and then exchanged photos. In the photo, Jiang Yan wearing a bachelor's cap looks much younger than his actual age, and Faye Wong with long hair looks like a A young man with an artistic temperament.So, the two unanimously proposed to meet.When Jiang Yan heard Faye Wong's request for an appointment, a kind of excitement like first love hit him immediately.For 22-year-old Faye Wong, this is the first time he has met netizens in real life.
In the autumn of 2002, Jiang Yan's love came again. She fell in love with Faye Wong, a Beijing boy who was 4 years younger than herself.This is also the first time that Faye Wong, who has always been closed, has intimate contact with the opposite sex. The pure Faye Wong allows Jiang Yan to find intimacy after experiencing ups and downs in love.In Jiang Yan's eyes, Faye Wong is a gifted boy with an artistic temperament and great talent. Her motherhood was inspired by the pure Faye Wong, and the two quickly fell in love.
Faye Wong only has a junior high school education, and has been teaching advertising design at home since leaving school, while Jiang Yan is a top student who graduated from a prestigious university and has experience working abroad. There is also a 4-year age difference between the two.In the eyes of outsiders, the two are not a good match in terms of age, appearance, education and family background.But for Jiang Yan, who loves first, love has no distance.Although the Jiang family didn't accept Faye Wong at first, thinking that he was too young and naive in life, he was still a little boy who only thought about his own feelings, and didn't have any skills to be the pillar of the future family, but seeing their sweet and affectionate appearance holding hands, Everyone quickly accepted Faye Wong.Jiang Yan's parents even treated him as their own son and took good care of him.In future blogs, Jiang Yan recalled the beauty of being in love and the calmness of being under family pressure: "My family members don't accept Faye Wong. The pillar of the family in the future. But what does it matter? I set my sights on him, he is tall and handsome, he has a bright smile like a child, and he has a good sense of art. This is very similar to me. I love him , love is a lifetime!"
Soon, Jiang Yan and Faye Wong began to rent a house to live together outside. Since Faye Wong had no job at the beginning of the cohabitation, Jiang Yan assumed the main rent, household and gave Faye Wong a lot of living allowances.Later, in order to seek a decent job, Faye Wong decided to go to a self-financed university to study advertising design, so Faye Wong's father paid the tuition for Faye Wong to study.At that time, Jiang Yan had just applied for a job at Citroen, and with a salary of about 3,000 yuan a month, she could afford the rent and the main living expenses for the two of them.
For Faye Wong, Jiang Yan put almost all his efforts and money on him at this time, and would rather suffer a little bit by himself to guarantee Faye Wong's expenses.Although Jiang Yan eats cheap meals, takes a crowded bus for more than an hour to and from get off work every day, and wears clothes bought from street stalls for tens of yuan.However, Jiang Yan, who is nourished by love, is happy and joyful in his heart.The reason why she saves so much is to let her boyfriend go to school decently, dress clean and decently.Because Jiang Yan is 4 years older than Faye Wong, in their love, Faye Wong quickly adapted to the life of being taken care of.In Jiang Yan's blog, she described her state at that time: "Eating cheap meals every day, squeezing the bus for more than an hour to and from get off work; wearing clothes bought from the wholesale market for tens of dollars. This is indeed not a white-collar worker. But why am I so happy and joyful in my heart? Seeing that he has finally improved, I am willing to give him all the good things. Buy him a T-shirt worth a few hundred yuan and jeans worth a thousand yuan. He's a man of grace before and after. I'm happier than I am when people praise me."
As recognized by Jiang Yan, although Faye Wong, a talented boy, is young and only has a junior high school education, once his artistic talent is stimulated, it will soon become a steady stream of creative passion.While studying at school, Faye Wong won many awards, and entered a foreign company as soon as she started working. Because of her excellent academic performance, Faye Wong was selected by the famous Ogilvy & Mather advertising company after graduation.
Later, Faye Wong's performance strengthened Jiang Yan's judgment. Faye Wong showed great talent in advertising design as soon as she joined the work. She was promoted to three levels in Ogilvy & Mather in a year, and her salary was nearly 10,000 yuan. This fresh graduate Students began to be paired with assistants.However, Faye Wong is still a big kid after all, his success in advertising is precisely due to his childishness in communicating with people, and he doesn't know how to deal with his relationship with Jiang Yan.
In their love, in Jiang Yan's eyes, Faye Wong is everything to her, and she is willing to give everything for her lover.In her world, Faye Wong is the center, her baton, and both of them are determined by Faye Wong.In order to give their love a nest, Faye Wong and Jiang Yan discussed buying a house in 2002, and Jiang Yan agreed.So they bought a set of off-plan houses in Ocean World, East Fourth Ring Road, Beijing. After careful design by the two, they happily moved into their new house in early 2004.Jiang Yan wrote in his blog: "Today, March 2, 2004. We live in Ocean World, which is our real love nest. In the bedroom, the small floral curtains flutter in the wind, and in the kitchen The lovely bottles and jars are full of the warmth of life. Although the empty living room only has a poor sofa and TV, I can clearly see that the air is filled with sweet love, and life can be like this, which is enough."
Since the two had just bought a house, the financial pressure was relatively high, so the two did not have much financial resources to buy furniture after moving.Once Jiang Yan's sister Jiang Hong went to their new home and found that there was only a big sofa and TV in the huge living room, and the room seemed empty, so she asked, "Why don't you buy more furniture?" Think about it, but Faye Wong is busy making money, so she always has no time to work overtime, and besides, we don't have that much financial resources."
Despite the tight economic situation, Jiang Yan still prioritizes meeting Faye Wong's needs, because Faye Wong likes wooden dolls, and Jiang Yan, who was frugal, spent hundreds of dollars to buy three limited-edition dolls.
However, the young Faye Wong does not know how to pay for others like Jiang Yan. He cares more about his own feelings. As a boy in his early 20s, his thinking is not mature enough, and he also lacks the sense of responsibility that a mature man should have.
In terms of work, Faye Wong is dedicated and even outstanding. Many of the famous brand advertisements we see are from Faye Wong, and the monthly salary of a little boy can get 25,000 yuan, which is many times higher than that of ordinary white-collar workers.However, Faye Wong, who is in her first love, still doesn't know how to consider her girlfriend's feelings.One day, Faye Wong held a bankbook of 100,000 yuan and proudly said to Jiang Yan: "See what I can do? I have saved such a large sum of money." Jiang Yan just wanted to praise him, but she didn't expect the following The words made her fall into an ice cave, and Faye Wong shook her head and said innocently: "Your money is mine, and mine is still mine." Sensitive Jiang Yan felt a contraction in her heart, but she didn't burst out.
At the beginning of 2006, Jiang Yan had been in love with Faye Wong for 5 years. Seeing that women of the same age around her were already married and had children, Jiang Yan wanted to get married before the age of 30, but she did not expect that Faye Wong would not agree.The sad Jiang Yan proposed to break up or get married. Although the 25-year-old Faye Wong didn't want to get married so early, she couldn't bear to give up her five-year relationship with Jiang Yan, so she agreed.But the Wang family put forward a condition that there would be no ceremony or banquet.Jiang Yan felt very aggrieved, but for the sake of her five-year relationship, she finally agreed.In Jiang Yan’s death blog, she recounted her wronged marriage with tears: “What kind of wedding was that! No banquet, no wedding photos, no wedding trip, no wedding candy, no notification to anyone, no blessings .Me, the one to marry—when I smile at him, he will feel happy, and when I cry at him, he will feel heartache. When he looks at me, he will feel irreplaceable in the world, When I leave him, he will be in pain. He only has me in his eyes, and only me in his heart. A couple for life, this is the person I want to marry in my heart. I am looking forward to, yearning, in my heart depicting."
On February 22, 2006, after Jiang Yan and Faye Wong got married in a hurry, the relationship between the Wang family and Jiang Yan became cold because of the disagreement on the issue of marrying Jiang Yan, and the two parties seldom had direct contact.
The married life of Jiang Yan and Faye Wong is not satisfactory.After marriage, Faye Wong, as a man, also hopes to be able to take on the burden of supporting the family as much as possible, but when we first met, Jiang Yan’s income was higher than Faye Wong’s, which made him a little bit embarrassed. He hoped that he could devote himself to work In the process, make achievements to earn more money to support the family.Faye Wong works in the advertising industry, which is very stressful and has irregular work and rest hours. It is common to work overtime when the work is heavy, and sometimes staying up all night is commonplace.However, as a woman, Jiang Yan expects her husband to be by her side. She is unwilling to face the cold room alone. Without Faye Wong in the room, it seems that there is no warmth of home.Jiang Yan recorded this feeling on his blog: "Tonight, as usual, I was alone with me. The heating in the community suddenly stopped. Looking at the cold moonlight outside the window, I didn't feel sleepy. I added another quilt, or It was very cold. The chill slowly eroded upwards from the toes, and went straight into my heart. While tossing and turning, I saw his photo on the bedside table. He smiled so brightly, so youthful and innocent. It's warm. It feels so good to hold him!"
Jiang Yan, who stayed alone in the vacant room, inevitably complained to Faye Wong, and this kind of complaint increased the pressure on Faye Wong at work and family, and conflicts arose.
Here Jiang Yan complains about Faye Wong, and Faye Wong is also full of complaints about Jiang Yan.Although the two of them met through the Internet, after they got acquainted, especially after they got married, because Faye Wong's work often required overtime, Jiang Yan, who stayed alone in the vacant room, played online games to pass the boring life, and smoked more and more fiercely. Sometimes I can smoke more than one pack in one night, and Jiang Yan occasionally attends some netizens’ parties, which makes Faye Wong very unhappy. Faye Wong has repeatedly persuaded Jiang Yan to leave the Internet and stop indulging in online games, but Jiang Yan always refuses to listen. .
Once, when Faye Wong came home from get off work, it was past 1 o'clock in the night. As soon as she entered the house, she could smell the smell of smoke all over the house, and Jiang Yan was still concentrating on playing games.Faye Wong held back her anger and said, "I haven't eaten dinner yet, you can get me something to eat." However, Jiang Yan, who was busy fighting online, ignored Faye Wong's complaints at all, and Faye Wong walked into the bedroom in a fit of anger." " shut the door with a bang.For this reason, the two had a fierce quarrel.
After the two got married, Jiang Yan repeatedly asked Faye Wong to invite her ex-boyfriend Zhang Leyi to have a meal together.However, she was rejected by Faye Wong every time.Faye Wong felt that it was too awkward for three people to eat together, so she said angrily: "If you want to eat, you can eat by yourself, I won't go." And Jiang Yan didn't show weakness: "Go and go." As he said that, he turned his head and was about to leave. conflicts occurred.
In 2007, Faye Wong joined Saatchi & Saatchi Advertising Company.Although he holds a relatively high position in the company and has several assistants under him, Faye Wong is still a young man after all, and his mental age is much younger than his actual age. He has encountered some difficulties at work, and he is not good at speaking and even stutters He didn't argue.He is well aware of his responsibilities as a supervisor and silently shoulders the responsibilities.The pressure at work is increasing, but the conflict between the husband and wife has not been resolved. The wife hopes that the husband will care more about himself and the family, but the husband hopes that the wife can understand his work pressure. Neither Jiang Yan nor Faye Wong communicated calmly. After communicating, they began to blame and quarrel with each other, and the contradictions continued to escalate.
Huge internal and external pressure caused Faye Wong to fall ill at work. After being sent to the hospital, the doctor told Jiang Yan that Faye Wong suffered from mild depression. She must put an end to all mental stress and need to rest at home and wait for her condition to improve.However, Jiang Yan thought that Faye Wong was pretending to be sick to win her sympathy.Later, Jiang Yan and his 70-year-old father accompanied Faye Wong to see a doctor. The result of the examination was that Faye Wong's health was normal, and her condition was neurological mild depression caused by work pressure.Jiang Yan recorded this conflict in his blog: "When did love suddenly tear away the perfect appearance. Even though he was angry, he dropped my phone, and even said ugly words to me during the quarrel, but I still love him deeply. I would rather believe that when he did these things to me, his heart was also dripping with pain. Work is a demon, almost killing him! And I can only stand behind him , to weather the storm for him when he needs it."
When Jiang Yan said that Faye Wong was pretending to be sick in front of many people, Faye Wong couldn't stop crying.He felt that his wife had been obsessed with the illusory world of the Internet, and had broken ties with her ex-boyfriend, regardless of his own feelings. Even though he was exhausted for this family, he still blamed himself, which was really sad.
And Jiang Yan is a woman who longs for perfect love. In her world, love is the only and supreme. When she is immersed in the world of her own love, she doesn't know that she needs to treat her lover with more tolerance. .She still doesn't understand that a man can't bear a love that is too heavy and too tossing.At this moment, what she couldn't accept was that Faye Wong, who was ill, accepted the affection from another woman.
The 23-year-old Dongfang is an immature little girl in the eyes of her colleagues, who is not stable enough in doing things and lacks a down-to-earth and hard-working attitude, but in the eyes of Faye Wong, she is an enthusiastic little girl.During Faye Wong's illness, Dongfang enthusiastically took flowers to the hospital to visit Faye Wong, and often bought some of Faye Wong's favorite food and sent them to the hospital, which moved Faye Wong unceasingly.
Compared with Jiang Yan, Dongfang is a different type of girl.Jiang Yan is mature, introverted and affectionate. Her love is too heavy for Faye Wong. Jiang Yan's beauty needs a mature, stable man with connotation to appreciate it, but Faye Wong is just a big boy who doesn't understand emotions and is playful and immature. .It is a pity that Jiang Yan chose Faye Wong, who has an artistic temperament, and chose a boy who could not appreciate his own beauty.For Faye Wong, Dongfang, who is heartless and similar in age, is the kind of partner who can play together, making Faye Wong feel relaxed and comfortable, and the two who like each other quickly come together.
During the National Day holiday in 2007, Saatchi & Saatchi organized staff to travel to Italy.Before leaving, Faye Wong said to Jiang Yan: "We are going to travel to Italy, and we need to exchange some euros." It happened that Jiang Yan had some euros on hand, so Faye Wong got 600 euros from Jiang Yan.Jiang Yan recorded the conversation Faye Wong had with herself before departure: Today (September 29, 2007), Faye Wong said to me: "We are going to Italy, but I don't have Euros, do you have one?" I hurriedly prepared myself to go to Paris next year All the euros for attending the annual meeting were given to him.That night, Faye Wong seemed particularly happy.I teased him: "Why are you so excited after taking my euros?" Faye Wong smiled mysteriously and said, "I won't tell you!"
Of course, Jiang Yan would not have imagined that Faye Wong traveled with Dongfang in Italy with her own money and took intimate photos.Later, an insider revealed that when he was in Rome, Dongfang came to Faye Wong's hotel room at night and refused to leave. His colleagues in the room were so angry that they went out to "dodge". During the period, they called and asked, "Has she left?"
It was during this trip to Italy that Faye Wong had her first intimate contact with the East.Of course, at this time, Faye Wong has not forgotten his wife. He specially bought back the top-quality cigarettes and other items that his wife likes from Italy.
However, on October 21, 2007, Jiang Yan still discovered the intimate photo of Faye Wong and Dongfang.Jiang Yan immediately asked Faye Wong what was going on.Faye Wong vehemently denied it at first, only saying it was a joke with her colleagues.But Jiang Yan didn't believe it at all, she instinctively felt that Faye Wong had an unusual relationship with that girl.She quietly asked her acquaintances to inquire at Faye Wong's company, and the news she got back made her heart fall into the ice cave.She knew that her husband had cheated, and that the third party was a young girl.Under Jiang Yan's questioning, Faye Wong finally admitted to having an extramarital affair with Dongfang, but he spoke inconsistently and even said about breaking up.The two began to fall into a boundless quarrel: "I asked again and again, and you kept ambiguous, and I became more and more suspicious of what you wanted to hide. Why did you have to separate? And why did you stay here?" Such an obvious change in attitude within a few days? I can clearly see that you have been hesitant about the breakup from the beginning to now being firm. I believe that there must be a reason, and it’s okay to say that I have no basis for random guesses. It doesn’t matter if you say I’m paranoid, but my premonition tells me that something must be wrong. Sure enough, as expected, I really didn’t expect that you’ve been lying to me all along. You’re the one who said: ‘Give me one more chance, I’ll do my best Do it well; I don't want to be with her; I've already told her that the two of us won't continue; I really don't want to be with anyone now, I just want to be alone.' She stays together all night, looking forward to staying and flying with her.
Ok you, I really understand what I mean, I said that if you really don't have feelings, then we will divorce, but if you divorce to be with her, you have to give up everything, you can come up with such a trick to deceive Do I want to hide it from the sky and be with her immediately after breaking up with me easily?What a wishful thinking.
If it’s really a disagreement, it’s easy for two people to settle the matter between two people. If you want to be free, I can fulfill you even if you die; but it’s different when there is a third person. Why should I wrong myself to fulfill it? Someone else's plan?You keep saying good things for her, saying how kind and innocent she is, you are such a ridiculous person, it turns out that people who repeatedly act as a third party can also be called innocent.
On the evening of October 23, 2007, Jiang Yan and Faye Wong finally lay peacefully on their own beds, both of them were awake.Jiang Yan recorded the scene of that night in his blog like this: "He said to me: 'You should trim your eyebrows, cut your hair, and put on makeup. Why don't you like to dress yourself up?' I was speechless after being exhausted by love. Yes. He continued to say to himself: "Why don't you have an affair? Yes, it's fine if you have an affair. Well, it's great that you are not my wife. Why don't you talk? I think my heart is so cold Ah." I was still speechless, I just said in my heart: "Do you think I'm having an affair? You're relieved if I'm having an affair, right? If I'm not your wife, I can help you find a girl, right? You're not cold-hearted, You just changed your mind, and it was me who was cold-hearted.'"
At this moment, Jiang Yan saw that his heart sank in the deep sea and his heart was beyond redemption.
Jiang Yan is a perfectionist, he has invested too much in this relationship and paid too much.So when she learns that her loyal feelings have been betrayed, it's an unforgivable thing for her.How to solve this matter, Jiang Yan did not know, she did not disclose this matter to her relatives and friends, nor did she seek everyone's help, just like her last message: very silent and very proud, never relying on and never looking for.
Jiang Yan is an aloof and cold woman. In her subsequent attempts to communicate with Faye Wong, she always hesitated to speak, and never opened her heart to have a thorough communication with Faye Wong.In the end, Jiang Yan chose to be alone, and only talked to himself in the closed blog, recording his sad thoughts in words.Perhaps in this love, what Jiang Yan loves more is her own belief in love. In order to defend this belief, she does not hesitate to sacrifice her life.
From Jiang Yan's blog, it can be seen that when her heart hurt the most, she had already thought of dying. On October 22, 2007, Jiang Yan officially wrote down the first article of Death Blog: "BLOG is about to close. It is the end, and it can also be said to be the beginning. However, I hope that there will be no day when it will be reopened. Think about it with your feet. I know that there are always more things that backfire.” On October 28, she wrote: “From today to the next two months, what is recorded here will be my last diary. Two months later, It's the day I go away, like I said, to a place where no one knows me, where there will be no phone, no computer, no internet, no one can find me, no one, anyone." After that, Jiang Yan locked the blog so that others could not browse it.
However, Jiang Yan still has a glimmer of hope for Faye Wong and is unwilling to divorce.And Faye Wong also fell into a helpless panic. He said to Jiang Yan: "Give me another chance, and I will do my best; I never thought about being with her. I have already told her that the two of us will not continue." ;I really don't want to be with anyone right now, I just want to be alone."
But in Jiang Yan's view, Faye Wong said this just to deceive her, trying to hide the truth, and after breaking up with him easily, she would be with Dongfang immediately.Jiang Yan can't tolerate the intervention of a third party, why should he wrong himself to fulfill other people's plans?
On the evening of October 29, 2007, Jiang Yan and Faye Wong had dinner together.The two discussed again about Faye Wong's cheating: "After get off work yesterday, you said we went out to eat, drink some wine, and chat. You told me: You told her that it was over, she agreed immediately, and Say 'I'm still young, I have plenty of opportunities'. You say you're depressed, you say she's actually dating several people at the same time, and now she's planning to date another person, and you say you're so stupid, I laugh. You ask I am happy, I smiled. Does smiling mean happiness? I have nothing to be happy about. The person in front of me once said that the two of us are not suitable at all. I am more suitable with her. I still like her very much. , I think we will still be separated in the future, and everyone said that we are not the same kind of people, and that she and I are more suitable."
"All night, you talked eloquently, and I did my part as a listener, listen, laugh, are you trying to untie my knot now? Prepare for later? You say, next time you will I know how to deal with it. You are wrong, you don’t know me very well, next time? There will be no next time. You know, it’s really a fatal mistake to think you know someone well. I’m not this time Did you just fall down here?"
"It's so funny. A person who has cheated will really try his best to justify himself. It turns out that his excuses are really the same. Why don't I know that a man, since he was 20 years old, needs forever They are all young girls around 20 years old. It turns out that eternal love really does not exist. When the enthusiasm recedes, all you see is the shortcomings of the other party."
After hearing such words, Jiang Yan didn't say anything, but felt as if his heart was sinking in the depths of the ocean.A few nights later, Jiang Yan once again found Faye Wong's theory, who had been avoiding her all this time, but the two of them didn't come to any conclusion: "It was another sleepless night, another one-man show all night, and faced with a girl who only knew how to repeat herself." The man who talked about divorce all night. This man, at 5:30 in the morning, with a constipated face, said to me: I really don’t know what to do, can I go home and discuss it with my dad? Dejected. Wave your hand, please feel free. When have I restricted or interfered with your actions? Why do you look like a resentful woman when you come up? Now you are the one who has extramarital affairs, and you are also the one who insists on divorce How are you? I am the one who should complain! Standing alone on the balcony, in the cold wind, smoking cigarettes in hand, I just laughed out loud. I really have a good eye, such a cowardly man, but he is determined to A man who had an extramarital affair and asked for a divorce. A 28-year-old man who is still holding his head and crying to his father. Really, did I pick it? I admit it, I really resigned to my fate. Come on, I close my eyes and raise my head , I accept whatever the result is."
Jiang Yan was not moved by Faye Wong's words, but she still had the hope that he would really turn around in her heart.But soon, more serious blows followed. On November 11, Faye Wong moved out of Ocean World's home and disappeared without a trace. "After 3 o'clock in the afternoon, when I got home, is it still home? It was broken, and the key was inserted into the lock and turned... It was locked, and no one was there?! When I entered the house, it was really empty. Breathing seemed to stop for a moment. Crazy The same thing happened, he dialed his number repeatedly, kept calling, got through, but no one answered. Mechanically, kept pressing the redial button, I don’t know how many times, and finally gave up. No effort at all No, I can't stand, just collapsed on the ground, all hope is lost. Let it go, let it go, let's go."
"At night, turn off the lights, open the French windows, sit on the floor, with your back against the wall, just sit, look at the fog outside, look at the flickering navigation lights in the fog, I have been crying too much recently, come whenever I want , blurring everything around me, who can save me. Crying until I lose my strength, I can't stop convulsing, my heart beats violently, my chest seems to explode, the oxygen suddenly becomes thin, no matter how much I open my mouth, I can't breathe, almost suffocation .But there is a thrill of relief. Let me go alone."
Just when Jiang Yan was at a loss like a trapped animal in loneliness, she suddenly found something strange in the house, and many things were missing: "Walking around the room, not knowing what to do, opening drawers, rummaging randomly, passports, The Hong Kong and Macau Pass is only my own, lying so lonely in the drawer. I always feel that something is missing, and I flipped through it again, and suddenly realized. Passbook! It turns out that he not only took his own clothes, but also took the passbook I took it away. Are you afraid that I will take it out? What a villain. What kind of person is this, not to mention that he has been spending my money for so many years, and he has not paid a penny for his family for so many years. , not to mention that I want to leave the euro with my new love to go to Rome to play, and even take away the passbook, will I still go to get the money out by myself? At this time, all I can think of is absurd, and I just want to say: what a bastard ."
Since then, Faye Wong has been living in her parents' home.After Faye Wong moved away, Jiang Yan's hopes were all shattered, and his determination to commit suicide was unbreakable.But even at this time, Jiang Yan still concealed her relatives, friends and colleagues for the sake of self-esteem, so most of the people around her failed to discover her problems in time.
That night, when Jiang Yan was chatting on MSN, she suddenly discovered that her ex-boyfriend Zhang Leyi was also online. She chatted with Zhang Leyi, and Jiang Yan asked, "Where are you? Are you in Beijing?"
At this time, Zhang Leyi was on a business trip in Shanghai, and he truthfully told Jiang Yan that he was in Shanghai.Jiang Yan told Zhang Leyi the news that Faye Wong had left home, and Zhang Leyi was speechless for a long time.In the end, Jiang Yan said vaguely: "Let's meet after you return to Beijing. Things are changing very quickly. I don't know if we can meet again if we don't meet this time." Zhang Leyi also felt that Jiang Yan's words vaguely showed a kind of bad emotional, agreed to Jiang Yan's request.
Lonely Jiang Yan lived alone in the apartment, never leaving her cigarette. The huge mental pressure made her tasteless and restless.
11月15日博客上，姜岩记下了这样的话："一上午短消息不断。综合起来一个意思:你要懂事理，你别再闹了，你在折腾我们。我真想大笑两声，果然怎么都是自己的孩子好啊！出了什么问题都是别人的错，自己儿子就是完美的，永远没错的。原来错的就是我，就是我，讨伐吧，假如讨伐我可以让你觉得心情舒畅的话，对于这样溺爱着儿子的不客观的父亲，我不想再说什么。向一个父亲告他儿子的状，我也真是糊涂了，越活越回去了，该着让人家一条接一条短消息的骂啊！就算人家先挑衅，也要忍，百忍才能成钢不是吗？"
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"让大家都舒坦，什么叫让大家都舒坦啊？我乖乖的二话不说地去签字离婚，啥都不反驳啥都不说，你们就舒坦了是吧？归根结底不是因为婚外情，而是感情破裂，而是我们从一开始就不合适，多好的离婚理由啊！多舒坦啊，你们真的是舒坦了，全都顺了你们的心意了。"
2007年11月22日，张乐奕从上海出差回京后，给姜岩打了电话，两人约好在国贸附近的俏江南饭店吃饭。此时，张乐奕只是发现姜岩情绪不高，但并没发现有什么异样。在聊天过程中张乐奕问："你最近还玩魔兽吗？"
"不玩了，再也不玩了。"姜岩回答道。
"为什么？"张乐奕不解，因为他们都是网络玩家，而且沉迷于魔兽世界。
"我是为了老公才不玩的，老公埋怨我玩游戏，回家来没饭吃，为了老公我也不能玩了。"听到这里，张乐奕也不好说什么。两人聊了一些网络游戏的事情之后就各自回家。望着远去的姜岩娇小的身影，张乐奕心里很不是滋味。但是，他不知道这是他见到姜岩的最后一面。后来，张乐奕在博客上记录下了这次见面的遗憾："最后一面的你还是那样巧笑嫣然，还是抽着七星，那个我们抽了4年的牌子。你坚决地拒绝了我邀请你再来玩魔兽世界的请求，现在我才知道原来这也是你心里面的痛啊，才知道你为什么这么坚持，你坚守了自己的诺言，但是那个混蛋呢，他在干什么，你一定要为了他这样吗？你为什么不说，你为什么什么都不说呢？为什么啊？"
11月26日，姜岩在网上看到了网络红人"3377"的事。她只觉得心里发苦，多么雷同的相似啊，她能体会这种切身的痛苦，眼睛看着网页，却不由得想到王菲。她想，如果不是因为出现第三者，她会无条件同意离婚。但是，第三者的出现让她感到忍无可忍。经过这些天与王菲的争论，姜岩心力交瘁，身体也日益衰弱。她不停地咳嗽，有时还发烧。可她根本不去理会，孤傲的她白天仍强打精神照常上班，加紧时间与她留恋的朋友、同学们见最后一面。但是她没对别人吐露自己情变的半个字，而是有意无意地谈论着死亡，笑着说也许明天我就会死掉。没有人看出她的苦笑，也没有人听出她的言外之意。她的同事好友在姜岩死后，痛心地在网上撰文说："是我太疏忽，还是你隐藏得太好，我竟然没在你一成不变的微笑中，发现你的决绝……"
万念俱灰的姜岩计划用安眠药自杀，一晚上几乎整宿未眠。第二天晚上6点多，依然不死心的姜岩决定死马当活马医再见王菲一面。见面后，姜岩吃饭的时候要了啤酒，因为姜岩没有把握能够力挽狂澜，心想就当作最后一次见面吧，希望可以借着酒劲，把心里的话说出来。但是当看到有些不修边幅的王菲时，姜岩有些不知所措，仍然没有将心里话说出来。
姜岩只是隐晦地说："我的等待是有期限的，我的最后心愿已了。"这样的提示，不知道王菲能不能听懂。姜岩走出门转角后才回头，空荡荡的街道，姜岩只看到自己孤独的影子。
"进入倒计时的我,还可以再有希望吗？还需要再做最后一次的努力吗？还是就这样算了？很累啊，老公出轨了，我要这样在后面一再的追着，拉着，甚至求着，这样的我还是我吗?这样求回来的是什么啊？感情可以是这样乞求来的吗？谁能告诉我？未来可以有多远？有谁能告诉我？"
然而，多次与王菲谈心，他执意要离去，终于，姜岩不再犹豫了。"星期三晚上终于还是跟王菲见了面，无论他怎样的不情愿，我坚持。事情不可以这样无限拖延下去吧，我几乎是百分百的猜测，这些天过去了，他并没怎么想过我们该怎样，该走向哪里。如果真的是这样，我不想再这样耗下去了，一个人承担这些真的很累。尤其是当你在苦苦煎熬的时候，另一个人却不看不想不考虑，只是得过且过地一天天混过去，这样还有什么意义。我也不想和别人分担这些，我能想到的可以与我分担这样痛苦的人，都是我所在意的人，关心我的人，何必多拉些人来跟我一起经历这些不愉快呢，把压力转嫁给别人，不是我所愿。"
"果然，王菲真是不让我失望呢。仍然是一副茫然的表情。问到想法，只说没有；问到打算，只说不知；问到将来，只说没想。问到想什么了，只说工作很烦，别的什么都不想想。暗自点了下头，就是这样了。逃避现实，永远有借口，为自己活着，一如既往。我也不过就是陪衬，一个点缀而已，怎么值得去费心，哪需要在意我的想法呢？这就是和我交往了5年多，结婚将近2年，弃我于不顾的人了。真是失败呢。没有什么好留恋的了。我起身，道别，不说再见，亦不想再见，从此萧郎是路人。"
没有人知道那些天姜岩究竟是怎么过来的，她在迅速地由内而外憔悴着、衰老着。出现在人前的她，表面繁华，内里悲苦，只有在夜深人静的时候，面对一室凄清，那种痛楚蚕食着她，一寸寸不留余地。
12月26日，去意已决的姜岩在博客上贴了最后一张照片，就是引发夫妻大战的王菲和东方在罗马的那张亲密照。爱到极致便生恨，姜岩看过"3377"的帖子，张美然曾经在博客上贴出了自己和"77"的照片，而被前妻的朋友认出来，引发了一场网络大追杀声讨，使"3377"在现实生活中也无所遁形。所以她临死前贴出了照片，一是证明自己不是瞎猜疑，二是发出了一个"网络追杀令"。
跳楼自尽的姜岩当然不会知道，就是她记录下的"死亡博客"和这张贴出去的照片，不但引发了2008年中国网络界第一大公共事件，而且引发了"中国网络暴力第一案"。
2007年12月27日，姜岩打开已经关闭两个月的博客（注：博客关闭时，博主能写但不对外公开），她写了最后一篇日志："不说再见，向我的朋友们。向这个华丽又肮脏的世界。在夜深人静的时候，安静地，孤独地等待。这一天，她在MSN上最后的话是：如果有来生，要做一棵树，站成永恒，没有悲欢的姿势。一半在尘土里安详，一半在风里飞扬；一半洒落阴凉，一半沐浴阳光。非常沉默非常骄傲，从不依靠从不寻找。"
随后，姜岩吞下了300片"舒乐安定"自杀。自杀前，她把自己博客的密码告诉了天津的一位网友。晚上9点多，姜岩的那位天津网友找到姜岩的姐姐说打姜岩的手机一天都关机，感觉有点不太对头。于是姐姐马上打电话给王菲问："你们是不是闹别扭了，姜岩在哪儿？"王菲听后莫名其妙，连忙给家里打电话，一听姜岩在家但听声音不太对，于是众人立刻赶往姜岩家。
姜岩被送到医院，经过一番抢救后终于醒了，清醒之后的姜岩指着王菲说他搞婚外恋，和一个叫东方的女人一起去罗马，姜岩的姐姐这时才知道他们婚姻出了问题。在药物的影响下，姜岩的情绪很激动，医生问她都吃了什么，吃了多少，什么时候吃的，她不说，并且拒绝洗胃，坚持要离开医院回家。姜岩光着脚穿着单衣冲出了医院。此时，天上飘落着雪花，姜岩的姐姐只好跟着她打车回到远洋天地。
回家后姜岩情绪非常激动，质问王菲国庆长假和圣诞节都和谁出去了，是不是和东方。王菲只好都承认了。姜岩大受刺激，扑上去和他扭打成一团，姐姐好不容易才将姜岩拉扯住。
经一天的哭闹后，由于药效发作和精神极度疲惫，姜岩从28日中午睡到晚上，29日又昏睡了一整天。姐姐又将姜岩送到了医院，姜岩的父亲也赶来了。姜岩醒后还是很狂躁，一直哭闹，大家只好又把她送回远洋天地。
再次从医院回家后，姜岩继续和王菲对质，姜岩的家人这时才知道事情的大概。姜岩的姐姐一直陪着姜岩，劝她想开些。就这样姐妹两人一直谈到凌晨4点，姜岩对姐姐说："我已经做过一次傻事，不会再做了。"情绪稳定后的姜岩洗了个澡，然后就躺在床上睡了。
2007年12月29日下午5点半左右，姜岩醒了，但她的精神并不太好。这时她的手机上突然接到一个短信，姜岩看后忽然情绪激动起来，一把将手机摔在了地上，穿上衣服就冲出门去。陪伴姜岩的姐姐和父亲不知道怎么回事，赶紧追上她，问："你去哪儿？"姜岩头也不回地说："我要去找王菲和那个第三者！"父女俩根本拦不住姜岩，只好跟在后面。
到了王菲的公司后，当时王菲在公司里工作，很多人在加班。姜岩冲了进去，第一句话就质问王菲："你和东方一起爽吗？"两人爆发了激烈的争吵。姜岩问王菲和东方有没有上过床，王菲当众承认了并且央求说："你就放过我吧。"姜岩气愤地说："我们认识5年，结婚2年，我供你上学的时候怎么不要我放过你！"
后来，王菲趁乱躲到了洗手间。经过一番折腾，姜岩等人回到远洋天地的家后，由于一直瞒着姜岩的母亲，父亲必须要回家去。姜岩的姐姐觉得一个人陪着姜岩没问题，因为有了前一个晚上的经验，加上姜岩曾经许诺不再做傻事。不过姐姐还是有点不放心她，就一直陪着她说话，想让她放松下来。由于姐姐这几天基本上没睡，感觉非常累，姜岩就说，你去休息一下吧。于是姐姐去卧室躺下，但还是没敢睡。
接着，姐姐听到姜岩在打电话，当姐姐听到姜岩说了一句"你不用来了"后便再也没有声音。姐姐冲出卧室，却发现客厅的落地窗打开了，客厅里却空空如也。姐姐焦急地喊着姜岩的名字，一个屋子一个屋子地寻找，却没有找到人。
最后，姜岩的姐姐在楼下找到了妹妹的尸体。
姜岩自杀后，她的博客首先被网友"撒加的橡皮鸭"转帖出来，并很快被网友转贴到各大论坛，引起网友们极大的关注。因为博客中公布了王菲和东方的照片和姓名，很快王菲和第三者的工作电话、家庭住址等背景，都被网友们"扒"了出来，众多网友留言谴责王菲及"第三者"，并表示要支持姜家打官司。
2008年伊始，一篇《从二十四楼跳下自杀的MM最后的BLOG日记》在各大论坛开始流行，天涯社区、大旗网等各大网站以及全国各地的地方社区门户都在讨论这个话题。一个女人因为第三者的介入，最终义无反顾地选择了死亡，这背后究竟有多少值得我们深思的故事？大旗网还对这件事情展开了调查……
姜岩自杀事件在王菲所在的公司成为爆炸性新闻，公司高层马上就采取了危机处理措施。2008年1月11日晚，王菲和东方所在的公司在天涯社区发表《盛世长城国际广告有限公司的声明》，声明中称："在得知此事原委之后，公司即决定让王菲、东方两名员工暂时停止工作，以妥善处理此事。其后不久，他们二人即向公司提请辞职，公司已予以批准。深望王菲妻子的家人节哀顺变，善自珍摄。"
2008年1月8日，张乐奕突然接到姜岩姐姐姜红的电话，姜红告诉张乐奕一个对他而言几乎是灭顶的消息："岩岩去了，但她一直没有忘记你，一直念着你。"
张乐奕大吃一惊，忙问："怎么回事？"
"你去看看岩岩的博客就知道了。"说着姜红哭泣着挂断了电话。而张乐奕随即上网浏览了姜岩死后留下的死亡博客。在泪眼蒙眬中，张乐奕在自己的博客上写下了第一个祭奠姜岩的帖子。
"你走了，在2007年的年底，而我到今天才知道。因为是你姐姐打来的电话，所以我一点儿没有不相信。你姐姐说，'岩岩一直没有忘记你'。泪水，在一刹那奔涌而出。"
"那一年第一次看到你，你从录像放映室转身飞奔出去的身影，你在花坛旁边的长椅上手中烟的亮光，我们第一个晚上的彻夜游荡，我们的教室，我们的水房，我们的乒乓球台，我们4年的时光，我现在还保留着那时候长长的信件。我们争吵，就跟我们后来那么多年无数次的争吵一样，我们分手，就跟你在生前面临的最后一次分手一样。"
"这个世界对你来说太残酷了，你那么坚强，坚强到连拿走自己的生命也如此义无反顾。有些人以为自己是多么超凡脱俗，他们不知道敢说敢做敢爱敢恨的你才是最脱俗的，你走了，你不打算看到2008年这个熙熙攘攘、热热闹闹的北京，我知道，那会让你更加难以承受。我想，你应该走得毫无痛苦，至少在你张开双臂纵身跳入黑夜的那一刻，天堂的那边会有你喜欢的烟和酒，没有伤你心的人，因为他们在地狱。"
"没有悲欢的姿势，一定不是你想要的，如果有来生，你仍然是会要大喜和大悲的吧，因为，青春透明如醇酒，可饮可尽可别离。我们可以痛快的畅饮，也可以痛苦的别离。祝你新年快乐。"
2008年1月9日，姜岩的姐姐开始在网上留言说："很多人都说不值得，也许。但是，能被这么多认识和不认识的人牵挂和思念是否也算值得？作为2007年年末的一个网络事件，不是名人，没有组织，没有炒作，纯粹是网友自发发起而造成这么轰动的后果，恐怕也是个空前绝后的异数吧。"
也就是这一天，张乐奕约见了姜红，两人聊了一些关于姜岩的事情。这时候，姜红告诉张乐奕，王家的一些做法导致了姜岩至今没有下葬，姜岩死得这么惨，应该推动事态尽快进展下去，让姜岩能够顺利安葬，以慰姜岩在天之灵。
与姜红分手后，张乐奕决定自己建立一个网站，让大家对姜岩死亡博客事件有一个全面了解。于是，张乐奕用姜岩博客的名字申请了一个域名，在缴纳了10元域名使用费之后，2008年1月11日晚上，"北飞的候鸟"网站正式开通，张乐奕独自担任网站管理员，负责上传相关内容。在网站名字下方写着"向北的最远方，唯一的救赎"。在"关于网站管理"条款中，张乐奕提出："请不要在这里报复性地贴任何人（包括王菲以及东方）的通信方式、家庭住址，网络上有太多地方可以搜索到，不要再让他们出现在这里。"
张乐奕之所以要做一个祭奠网站是想给后来的人一点启示，不要让这个悲剧再次发生。就如同祭奠网站上所说的"要汇聚所有讨伐道德沦丧的斗士。"在张乐奕的个人空间里，那里原本正常的生活因为姜岩的逝去抹上了沉重的色彩，正如张乐奕自己所说："其实我之前一直是一个吊儿郎当的人，可她的离开让我沉重起来。"张乐奕在博客中说："当我看了越来越多的人到你的空间留言，越来越多的人知道你的事情，我的想法改变了很多，你用生命给大家上了一课，其实之前也有很多的人给我们上课了，但是，至少对于我，你这课是最醍醐灌顶的，是能够让我毕业的点睛之笔。orionchris.cn不仅仅是纪念你的地方，也不仅仅是为了惩戒谁，那里要教会我们怎么样去做一个男人，怎么样去保护那些落下凡间寻找自己翅膀的天使们。"
1月12日，姜岩的姐姐在网上留言，对事态的进展进行了描述："因为王家的态度，你迟迟不能下葬。昨天下午，我考虑再三，决定还是主动给王菲的父亲打一个电话，7天前他在爸爸妈妈面前痛哭流涕，还说王菲以后还是你们的儿子。虽然他们做了那么多对不起我们的事情，但我还是寄希望他能有一点点良知，毕竟你已经去了，我不希望活着的人再出什么事。在电话里，王父一如既往地说以大局为重，还许诺说以前的承诺有效，会尽快给我回复。"
王菲和东方两人被盛世长城公司辞退后。2008年1月14日，在天涯社区论坛的留言中一位自称是王菲同事的人写下一个帖子《我所知道的一些事情》，描述姜岩自杀当天王菲的细节："在2007年12月29日之前，王菲正常上班，很开心的样子。每天工作、和东方一起吃午饭、在公司打游戏（公司提供游戏给员工放松的，属于正常活动）等。直至此时，公司的同事都还不知道王菲已经离家两个月了。关于王菲和东方意大利度假的事属实，有知情人透露东方晚上来到王菲的酒店房间赖着不走，气得同房间的同事出去'躲避'，期间还打电话催问'她走了没？'"
这个帖子无异于一枚重磅炸弹，立即在网上引起巨大波澜。
此后，"暴力"行为不断升级：最初，网民只是以道德卫士的姿态质疑王菲和东方的人品；随后，有人通过种种渠道调查出王菲的个人资料和联系方式，并将其公布到互联网上；接下来，对王菲的攻击开始从虚拟世界延伸至现实生活，不断的骚扰电话使王菲及其家人的正常生活受到严重影响，王菲所在单位无奈之下要求王菲和东方辞职，接着是网友们怀抱鲜花到王菲和姜岩在远洋天地的家门口祭奠亡灵，甚至还有新加坡赶来的网民参与其中；此后，网民参与了姜岩从火化到下葬的全过程，并有多拨网民赶到王菲父母所在小区，在王菲父母家门口写下"血债血偿"等字眼，一些网民轮番在王菲父母家楼下袭扰王菲，致使王菲成为惊弓之鸟；随后，一些"通缉令"、"追杀令"、"悬赏令"更是让人看得胆战心惊。
姜岩的姐姐1月15日在网络上发表过一份《姜岩事件最新进展姜岩姐姐最新声明》，声明称："我们对网友的同情和支持表示由衷的感谢，但我们并不赞同对无关人士的人身攻击。"
其实，类似的"暴民行动"并不是第一次了。在此之前的"虐猫事件"、"铜须门事件"、"3377事件"，都有网友自发调查，在短短几天之内，网友们就锁定了当事人，并把相关人员的工作单位、联系方式等个人信息在网上公布。
随后，"撒加的橡皮鸭"联系到大旗网，大旗网对姜岩的姐姐以及姜岩的前男友张乐奕进行采访，进行了简短的通话。通过电话，大旗网了解到：姜岩的妈妈目前身体状况非常不好，冠心病发作刚进行了抢救。而在说到王菲及其家人时，这位在网上一直给我们冷静感觉的女士，也忍不住气愤。她说，王菲的父亲还打电话过来威胁，认为是她们在网上发帖，让王菲失去了工作，并要找律师。
针对由网友提出的遗产问题，姜岩的姐姐说，他们从来没有想要得到什么遗产，而所谓的遗产也只是当初结婚时王菲父母买的那套房子，他们没想过要这套房子。姜岩也没有什么遗产，姜岩的钱之前全部用来补贴家用了，她的遗产也只是单位给的公积金、社保这一类。而让人气愤的是，王菲家就连这些也想要分得。
有网友猜测当初姜岩和王菲结婚是不是王菲父母不同意时，姜岩的姐姐说，并没有这回事，当初王菲父母是同意的，并且非常感谢姜岩家人的照顾，因为王菲当时正在念书，是姜岩在照顾王菲。
姜岩的姐姐说，她只想把姜岩的后事办好！但王家却连这点要求也不能满足，姜岩的尸体停在太平间已经二十多天了，还没有火化。此前王菲的父亲提出的要给一些补偿，也一直没有实行。在此过程中，作为丈夫的王菲本该承担起自己的责任，但他却完全没有露过面。
姜岩的姐姐说，现在他们居然想把第三者的存在都抹杀掉，但是这些证据都是存在的。我们失去了亲人，没有想找他们打官司，可现在他们却先找我们打官司了。
最后姜岩的姐姐表示，她只想把妹妹的后事办好。如果王家能真诚安慰一下，并主动、大度地把丧事给办得妥当体面，事情绝不会闹到这个地步。
随后，大旗网联系采访了张乐奕："在通话结束前，电话那边传来短暂的沉默，好一会儿，才传来语不成调的声音：'你不知道吧，我其实是姜岩大学四年的男朋友……'那一刻的悲伤，在电话这头的我也能够感受到。这时才能如此深刻的体会，姜岩，你的解脱给关心你的朋友们带来了多么沉重的伤害。在我的要求下，他（张乐奕）描述了自己眼中的姜岩：'坚强，但是她一直在压抑自己，弦绷得太紧才会断的……'"
2008年1月19日这天，正是姜岩去世后的"三七"忌日，很多网友自发来到姜岩生前居住的小区悼念她。当天中午，网友们陆续赶到小区。他们看上去彼此陌生，只是低声交换着网上流传的消息。三三两两的居民在远处观望。在和物业沟通后，大家有序地来到姜岩家门口，依次献花。为了不打扰到邻居，整个过程都在无声中进行。在表达了自己的悼念后，大家带着悲伤纷纷离去。有网友用帖子记录下这次悼念活动："因为带着花，不让进小区。之前去的网友们可能太多了，所以原本就是用门禁打卡进出的小区看管更加严格。我们把花放在小区南门和稻香村那个门中间的地方，那里已经有很多花了。这应该都是很短时间内的。后来好心的物业管理告诉我们，因为花太多，影响了附近的住户，所以摆放在小区内的花都被收走了。到楼下，有个好心的男生还带了一个大纸盒，里面放的是暖宝，他怕大家冷，所以带来的。给每个人分发。很亲切。"
"物业很好，正在给大家介绍情况，据说我们去之前他已经领着网友们去过24层了。后来他又带领我们去看了姜岩坠楼的地点，楼下住户的院子。住户也很好，他们可以关闭院门不接待任何人的，但他们没有，他们只是请大家不要打扰到他们，其他并没有多说什么。"
"姜岩没有照片了，她的家人只有一张她小小的1英寸证件照。姜岩是个端庄清秀的女子，可以说，比我们想象中的她要更加美丽。大家自发的向照片三鞠躬。"
"姜岩的朋友们其实一直都在，没有人要求的，却来为这个已经往生的朋友的未曾谋面的网友们做服务工作。他们可能不止是接待我们这一拨人了。和好心的物业一样，在寒风中，耐心地给大家讲解，也如姜岩的姐姐所提出的要求，请大家不要再打扰生者。"
此时，网友们