Chapter 6 〇Five Volunteers Zhao Guangjun——Record of the Second National Moral Model Zhao Guangjun

His name is being widely recited in the land of China. CCTV's "News Meeting Room" made a special news report for him. "China Youth Daily", "Yangcheng Evening News", "Guangzhou Daily" and other media continuously published reports about him.There is also a long list of halos and honors under his name: In 2004, he won the Gold Medal of Love Angel for Helping the Disabled in Guangzhou. 2005 Guangzhou Lei Feng Style Advanced Individual Award. In 2006, the pacesetter of spiritual civilization construction in Guangzhou. 2006 Guangdong Province "Patriotism, Law Abiding, Honesty, Courtesy" Outstanding Person.

In 2007, the sixth "Top Ten Outstanding Youths of Guangdong Province". In 2007, the 20th Anniversary of Guangdong Volunteering Service Top Ten Most Influential Figures. In 2007, he was nominated for the 18th "Top Ten Outstanding Youths in China". In 2008, he was awarded the title of Outstanding Communist Party Member of Guangdong Province. In 2008, one of the top ten outstanding volunteers in China. 2009 National Moral Model Award. ... His name is Zhao Guangjun. It was the first time I saw Zhao Guangjun, a 33-year-old young man from a clerk in Jiangnan Middle Street, Haizhu District, Guangzhou. My first impression of him was that he was fat.Because he is fat, his eyes look smaller, but when he looks at you, his clear eyes make people feel kind and sincere.When I saw him, he had just had a crew cut, and he looked quite energetic.With a fat face and thick lips, it makes people feel that this is a simple and honest man.Zhao Guangjun, who is called a good person by the neighbors, said in a very calm tone when interviewed by reporters: "I am just an ordinary volunteer. I have not done anything earth-shattering. Everything I do is ordinary. It is commonplace in our lives." However, such a volunteer has helped more than 1,200 "problem teenagers" through the "Life Hotline" during his ten-year volunteer career. He helped more than 200 suicide survivors to return to a new life; in order to help those lonely old people and young people who went astray, he spent almost 130,000 yuan in savings and accumulated more than 50,000 hours of service.

Faced with these astonishing data, some people may not be able to help asking: As an ordinary property manager, his own salary is not high. In this case, spending money and time to do things that are not beneficial to him Good thing, is it some kind of hype? However, when the author has a deeper understanding of Zhao Guangjun, seeing the deep and shallow footprints he has walked all the way over the past ten years, I can't help but burst into tears, for Zhao Guangjun and for those thousands of volunteers! As a matter of fact, no one is born a volunteer, so it is said in Li, "Jade cannot be cut, it cannot be used, people cannot learn, and they do not know righteousness." I think this sentence could not be more appropriate when applied to Zhao Guangjun.Let us take a look at the process of Zhao Guangjun's growth.

Time goes back to 1997, when Zhao Guangjun was just in his early 20s.At that time, Zhao Guangjun mixed with some troubled youths and lived a "happy" life like a street king. However, all this was just a passing moment, and soon after, the "boss" died in an accident.After Zhao Guangjun carefully arranged the mourning hall for him, he found that none of the brothers came. In the empty hall, there were only mourning and joy, as if they were telling Zhao Guangjun the cruelty and ruthlessness of the world.The sadness in Zhao Guangjun's heart is beyond words.I called one after another, one said no time, the other said forget it, everyone died, it was over.He didn't expect that the brothers at the wine table would have such an attitude, and they didn't even come to see the "boss" for the last time.Zhao Guangjun, who usually dislikes lying the most, suddenly felt like he was being fooled.

After returning home, Zhao Guangjun immediately turned off the CALL.Every day except eating and sleeping. The death of the "boss" really hit him too hard.When the boss was around, he knew that as long as he followed the "boss", his life would be extremely brilliant.But the loneliness in the mourning hall made him doubt this life goal. Is it all wrong?If all this is true, then why didn't the brothers even come to give the "boss" the last ride?What is righteousness?Loyalty is just a knife between friends? All of a sudden, life and death, love and hate, love and hatred, and other such issues are constantly turning in Zhao Guangjun's mind.He thought that his brain hurt and he still couldn't understand these many problems.

Just at this time, a distant cousin of Zhao Guangjun passed away.Originally, Zhao Guangjun didn't intend to attend his cousin's memorial service, but he couldn't resist his mother's request, so he had to follow his mother into the funeral home again. The scene of the memorial service surprised Zhao Guangjun secretly.Hundreds of people gathered in the small farewell hall, only a small number of relatives were known by Zhao Guangjun, and most of the rest were unfamiliar faces.In fact, those strangers are almost all my cousin's neighbors or neighbors.As for Uncle Biao, in Zhao Guangjun's impression, he was only known as an ordinary citizen, neither an official nor how many friends he had.But there are so many people in the mourning hall, and everyone's face shows regret and sadness. Who are so many people?Zhao Guangjun couldn't help asking one of the older women, and the answer he got was: He is a good person, warm-hearted, and loves to help others. We are reluctant to let him go, so we all came to see him off for the last time.As she spoke, the woman burst into tears and burst into tears.

It's the same death, the same mourning hall, but why is there such a big difference?Just a few words exploded in Zhao Guangjun's mind like a time bomb. Regarding life and death, at this moment, it seemed that Zhao Guangjun had an epiphany, and it seemed that in the dark night, it suddenly came into view. A light, this light made Zhao Guangjun see another side of life. The sobbing in the mourning hall had subsided, and Zhao Guangjun saw his mother looking at him with tears in her eyes.He knew that in the past many days and nights, his mother did not know how many tears shed for him.

Zhao Guangjun suddenly threw himself into his mother's arms and burst into tears.Zhao Guangjun's actions immediately attracted everyone in the mourning hall.Everyone came to persuade Zhao Guangjun not to be overly sad.Few people know why Zhao Guangjun cried so sadly.Only his mother, because the son's regretful voice was clearly heard in her ears: Mom, I know I was wrong.At this moment, Zhao Guangjun secretly swears in his heart: learn from his cousin, be a good person, be a useful person to society, and start over again! Later facts proved that Zhao Guangjun was not impulsive. While he proved himself with actions, he also hoped that his mother would stop worrying about him day and night, let alone shed tears for him, that's all.This was his original naive idea.

However, being a good person is not as easy as imagined. Zhao Guangjun still clearly remembers the first time he did something good. July of that year was the hottest time in southern China.At noon that day, Zhao Guangjun was rushing home. When he passed the corner, he saw an old man walking forward with a big bag of rice on his shoulders.Without saying a word, Zhao Guangjun walked over and grabbed the rice from the old man's shoulders and said, "Old man, let me carry it for you." Someone shouted: "It's a robbery, come quickly!" Zhao Guangjun turned his head, but saw that the person who shouted for robbery turned out to be that old man!Zhao Guangjun was about to explain to the old man, but before he could figure out what was going on, he was pinned to the ground by the patrolling security guards.

On the way to the police station, the security officer asked him why he robbed an old man of rice.Zhao Guangjun couldn't argue for a while, and felt very helpless.Fortunately, the police officer in charge of the interrogation was an experienced investigator. When he saw Zhao Guangjun coming in sweaty and carrying a large bag of rice, he immediately understood.How can a robber be stupid enough to grab a bag of rice?At the police station, although Zhao Guangjun was praised by the police, he still couldn't understand why it was so difficult to do a good deed, and even be mistaken for robbery by others. There must be something wrong somewhere.

Is it my way?Zhao Guangjun is reflecting on himself.In a vague way, Zhao Guangjun felt that his actions were too blind, and the reason why the old man couldn't accept it must not be completely attributed to the social atmosphere.Wouldn't it be better if there was some kind of organization to organize everyone and do it in a targeted manner?Soon after, Zhao Guangjun's idea became a reality. In May 2000, it was the "May Day" holiday.One day, Zhao Guangjun was watching TV, and he saw the news that the Guangzhou Municipal Committee of the Communist Youth League was recruiting volunteers from the whole society on a large scale.He couldn't help being overjoyed, and hurried to the recruitment site on Renmin North Road, Guangzhou without even changing his clothes.When Zhao Guangjun explained to the staff at the recruitment site that he was here to sign up, everyone at the site couldn't help turning their attention to Zhao Guangjun. "You said you are here to sign up?" one of the persons in charge asked Zhao Guangjun.He didn't seem to believe that Zhao Guangjun had come to sign up for volunteer work.The Zhao Guangjun in front of him was dressed too avant-garde and unusual: he had long hair with a shawl, and a pair of jeans with a few holes cut on purpose, just like those social youths on the street. "Yes. I'm here to volunteer." Zhao Guangjun's answer made the people next to him frown. "Do you know what the volunteers do?" the person in charge asked again. "Aren't volunteers serving those in need for free?" Zhao Guangjun's answer was straightforward.But seeing his attire, the person in charge was still worried. "In this case, why do you want to volunteer?" This time, Zhao Guangjun hesitated for a moment, and replied: "In order to redeem my friends and lose weight, don't you see the fat in my body? What's more, I just want to work as a volunteer, hoping that girls will like me In a word, I just want to find a girlfriend." Zhao Guangjun didn't smile, he spoke very seriously and had a serious face.But the person in charge couldn't help laughing.No one has ever volunteered with such a purpose.However, this is indeed the most undefended confession.Zhao Guangjun impressed the recruiters with his sincerity. They did not reject a desire to make progress, but accepted Zhao Guangjun tolerantly. From then on, Zhao Guangjun began his ten-year volunteer career without hesitation. How many decades are there in a person's youth?Undoubtedly, Zhao Guangjun used his youth to make the most vivid and touching footnote for his volunteer service.In the past ten years, there have been too many setbacks, and too many times of being misunderstood by others. He has invested a lot of time and money, and even lost his health. However, no matter how difficult he encountered, he has never regretted it.Whenever he sees the bright smiles of his clients, he feels extremely gratified.Among the many people Zhao Guangjun has served, Aunt Liu is the most unforgettable one for him.It was Aunt Liu who made Zhao Guangjun, who had just joined the volunteer ranks, realize everything a real volunteer has to do. Before that, Zhao Guangjun only heard from fellow volunteers that there was an old man surnamed Liu in the community who had to use crutches to walk because of his poor health.The old man's children have been working in other places all year round, leaving her alone to guard an empty big house, and there are very few people who visit.Volunteers who have contacted Aunt Liu said that the elderly are in great need of care.Zhao Guangjun volunteered to take over the task. At the beginning, Zhao Guangjun came to Aunt Liu's house with great enthusiasm. As soon as he came to Aunt Liu's house, he was busy up and down, helping Aunt Liu to clean, buy rice, cook, wash clothes, etc. He thought that Aunt Liu would be happy from now on. Will be happy, but Aunt Liu just thanked him lightly, and did not see Aunt Liu's heartfelt smile.The more polite Aunt Liu was to him, the more uncomfortable Zhao Guangjun felt, as if there was a thick wall between him and Aunt Liu.He couldn't understand the reason for a while, thinking that he didn't do his best.He redoubled his efforts. He mopped the floor once, but he mopped it three times. The doors and windows were wiped and wiped again and again.When buying vegetables, they always choose what the elderly love to eat, and try their best to suit the appetite of the elderly.However, he still couldn't see Aunt Liu's comfortable smile.For this reason, Zhao Guangjun was a little discouraged.To be honest, Zhao Guangjun never took such good care of his own mother.What is the problem?Zhao Guangjun is a thinking person, but also a person who refuses to admit defeat.Volunteering has just started, and if you shrink back when encountering a little difficulty, can you still be regarded as a real volunteer? In order to find out the crux of the problem, Zhao Guangjun asked an experienced volunteer colleague for advice.His colleagues told him that Aunt Liu's problem can be summed up in the word loneliness, and if loneliness is solved, all problems will be solved. But how to solve the problem of loneliness?Problems in life are easy to solve, but this is a psychological problem!Obviously, heart disease still needs heart medicine, which is common sense.Zhao Guangjun also understood this truth.But how to cure?Another problem.For this reason, Zhao Guangjun had to turn to the library.He borrowed a lot of books about psychology from the library, and he began to supplement the knowledge of psychology day and night.The books he read during this period laid a good foundation for him to help those troubled teenagers in the future.It was also through reading that Zhao Guangjun deeply understood the loneliness of the elderly. When Zhao Guangjun came to Aunt Liu's house again and helped Aunt Liu with the housework, Zhao Guangjun was no longer in a hurry to help the next family. Instead, he sat beside the old man and chatted with the old man.From food, rice, oil and salt to every detail of life, slowly, the wrinkles on the old man's face were stretched, and a smile appeared.As time went by, the two talked almost everything.Aunt Liu already regarded this fat boy as her own son, and the old man even planned to introduce Zhao Guangjun's girlfriend.Every time he knew that Zhao Guangjun was coming, the old man moved a small bench and sat at the door to watch. If there was any delicious food, he always reserved it until Zhao Guangjun came to eat together.When Zhao Guangjun left, the old man would hold Guangjun's hand reluctantly and send him a long way. During the time spent with Aunt Liu, Zhao Guangjun understood that as a volunteer, one must not only have enthusiasm, love, confidence, patience, and carefulness, but also a certain amount of knowledge.This is a milestone for Zhao Guangjun to become a qualified volunteer in the future.Among the nearly 1,000 orphans and widows that Zhao Guangjun has served, whether it is the orphans and widows who read the water meters for them in his work, or the poor elderly in the community he often serves, when they mention Zhao Guangjun, they all give a thumbs up and say: "Fat boy is like his own son. He just needs to say hello on weekdays, and he will come immediately. He will change the gas tank, repair the water pipes, etc. He is responsive. During the holidays, rice and oil are delivered, and cotton is delivered when the weather turns cold. I was given a blanket, alas, if only I was lucky enough to have a son like Guangjun." Many old people still don't know that the rice and quilts sent by Zhao Guangjun are all saved from his own salary at his own expense.A few careful old people will find that Guangjun always wears two or three sets of clothes for many years, and he has never seen him wear new clothes.Guangjun also eats simply. Sometimes when he is hungry, he just buys a few steamed buns from the steamed bun stalls on the street and eats them while walking.That's it for a meal. Zhao Guangjun later wrote in his diary: "As long as there is a need for volunteers, we will be there. Even though we have gone through all kinds of hardships, as long as we can bring happiness to others, I will be extremely happy! " Save Youth: I Am Your Brother Compared with the elderly, children worry Zhao Guangjun even more. Children are the flowers of the motherland and the future of the motherland, and their physical and mental health is particularly important.In fact, children are in the growth stage, have not yet formed an independent personality, and have no mature value orientation. Compared with adults, they need more care and love. By chance, Zhao Guangjun saw a piece of news on TV, which reported that the number of young people born every year in the country was more than three times that of the elderly, and it was even more difficult to count those who had suicidal tendencies.Remembering that he was also a young man who went astray, Zhao Guangjun was secretly anxious.He didn't know how to help these teenagers.Just at this time, the leader decided to let Zhao Guangjun join the outreach team.The duty of the outreach group is to help marginalized teenagers solve the problems they encountered in the process of growing up, so that they can distinguish right from wrong, rein in the precipice, and know how to return when they are lost. As soon as Zhao Guangjun started working with young people, when he came into contact with the first case, he felt that the responsibility was heavy and the difficulty was even greater. Zhao Guangjun met Xiaotong (pseudonym) in March of that year, which was the season when the spring was cold and warm and cold.Xiaotong is a child of a single-parent family. Her parents divorced very early. The lack of caring family environment made Xiaotong very withdrawn.At the age of fourteen, she played truant to run away from home, mixed with some unscrupulous youths in society, and finally developed to the point of prostitution. At first, Xiaotong rejected Zhao Guangjun very much. In her heart, there has never been a good person in this world.He ignored Zhao Guangjun's visit and was lukewarm.Zhao Guangjun also felt helpless for a moment.After learning about her family situation, Zhao Guangjun decided to do what he liked, invited her to eat and sing, and even gave her money to spend.Materially meet her requirements as much as possible.As for Xiaotong, seeing someone invite her to dinner and sing, and give her money, she is of course very happy.They gradually became familiar with each other.After getting acquainted, Zhao Guangjun began to persuade her to stay away from those bad youths in society.At the beginning, Xiaotong was also obedient, her attitude improved a lot, and she went to school on time every day.But the good times didn't last long. Just when Zhao Guangjun thought she was on the right track, not long after, Zhao Guangjun received a call from her family, saying that Xiaotong had run away from home again. When Zhao Guangjun heard the news, he was anxious and angry, and immediately went to find her.Zhao Guangjun searched for her for several days, and finally found her in a karaoke hall, but Xiaotong refused to go home.After three or four days of earnest persuasion by Zhao Guangjun, Xiaotong reluctantly returned home with Zhao Guangjun. Through this incident, Zhao Guangjun realized that it is difficult for Xiaotong to get on the right track with material and money alone.The right medicine must be prescribed.For this reason, Zhao Guangjun went to the bookstore to buy a bunch of books on juvenile psychology, and buried himself in them. Zhao's mother felt very strange about her son's recent changes.When did the son become easy to learn?Although Zhao's mother also knew that her son had participated in volunteer work, she always thought that her son was just a whim, and didn't think about it deeply, let alone that her son really fell in love with volunteer work now.Mother Zhao saw that the books her son bought were all about psychology, so she asked her son how he fell in love with psychology.Zhao Guangjun half-jokingly said to his mother: "I want to be a psychologist." However, being a psychologist is not so easy.Zhao Guangjun didn't know if he didn't read the book, and he was startled when he saw it. He thought that the things about the child were nothing special, and he didn't want the knowledge in it to be great.There are many corresponding measures for children in single-parent families.Due to the long-term lack of care for children from single-parent families, they have low self-esteem, indifference, and changeable moods.Zhao Guangjun realized that it would be difficult for Xiaotong to get back on the right track by himself.In addition to the necessary material help, it is also necessary to cultivate relationships in many ways, including Xiaotong's relatives. For this reason, Zhao Guangjun found Xiaotong's family many times, communicated with them in various ways, and asked his family to cooperate with him to let Xiaotong return to school and relatives as soon as possible.From then on, Zhao Guangjun no longer simply met Xiaotong's demands with material things, but chatted with her more, learned about her inner world, and talked with her about life and ideals in a targeted manner.After a period of contact, they gradually became friends who talked about everything. Later, Xiaotong was admitted to a very good school. Before going to school, she called Zhao Guangjun. As soon as Zhao Guangjun pressed the answer button, she heard a call from the other end of the phone: "Brother." Then there was no sound. .Zhao Guangjun's heart tightened, and after a while, there was a soft sobbing sound from the other end of the phone, Zhao Guangjun became more anxious when he heard it, and hurriedly asked: "What's the matter, don't worry, tell me slowly, okay, no matter what happens, I will help you." As soon as Xiaotong heard Zhao Guangjun's anxious voice, he immediately said, "Brother, I'm Xiaotong. I'm fine. I just called you when I was happy. Brother, I'm going to go to school in another place. Thank you for your many years of teaching, you will always be my good brother, I will definitely study hard, brother, please rest assured!" Oh, it turned out to be Xiaotong.A big stone in Zhao Guangjun's heart finally fell to the ground. Love does not need to be reciprocated, and a cordial greeting is enough to make Zhao Guangjun feel extremely relieved.Yes, from the very beginning when Zhao Guangjun came into contact with those children, he always treated them as his own sister and brother. Wei Zai, who has been living in fantasy, has a deep understanding of this. Wei Zai is the client Zhao Guangjun has followed for six years.In Zhao Guangjun's initial impression, Wei Tsai was a kid who didn't like going to school, didn't like reading, loved fighting all day long, and fantasized that he could become a powerful hero.To Zhao Guangjun, the Wei Tsai in front of him seemed to be the old self who fought and killed all day long, and he felt pity spontaneously.For such a child, Zhao Guangjun still knew it well.Because that's how he got there.He didn't just preach to him, but prescribe the right medicine, and chatted with him about martial arts, from those heroes in Jin Yong's martial arts novels to those gangster bosses in today's society, about their essential differences, about martial arts, The effect of self-cultivation on the individual and the like.After spending a lot of time with him, Wei Tsai gradually felt that this fat guy was quite compatible, and also very suitable for his own appetite. In order for Wei Zai to have a deeper understanding of volunteers, he took Wei Zai to Shenzhen to visit volunteer Cong Fei.Later, he took him to visit the Juvenile Correctional Center in Guangzhou, allowing Wei Tsai to experience two different worlds for himself, and made him realize the value of freedom.On the way back from the correctional center, Wei Tsai said to Zhao Guangjun, "Brother Jun, you don't need to persuade me anymore. I will go to school tomorrow."For Zhao Guangjun, this really feels like all the hard work has been rewarded.He hurriedly contacted Weizi's parents, and then organized volunteers to take turns tutoring Weizi, and made up for the homework that Weizi left behind.Wei Zi’s class teacher later asked Zhao Guangjun what method he would use to get Wei Zi back to school, Zhao Guangjun just said lightly: “I don’t have any special method, it’s just because he is my younger brother, my dear younger brother, I have the responsibility to let him return to school. Come back to school." Over the past ten years, Zhao Guangjun has helped more than a thousand children at least.Every child regards him as his own brother.Because of dealing with children for a long time, Zhao Guangjun gradually summed up a set of experience.He attributed his experience to three methods: one is the method of money solicitation.This method can make these children identify with themselves in the fastest time.The second is the emotional training method.In a word, let yourself truly become the elder brother of the child.Let them know that no matter what the time is, there is an older brother to help them.The third is the method of terrorism.This method is mainly for children who are quite stubborn.By using violence for violence, give these children who are addicted to violence a heavy blow.Let them experience the cruel reality.For example, some children like to be gangsters, Zhao Guangjun will try to attack them in a limited way after trying other methods to no avail, until these children agree with Zhao Guangjun and listen to him slowly, then persuasion will be more effective than ordinary preaching it is good. In fact, Zhao Guangjun didn't have any special magic weapon in the process of dealing with these children. He just did it with his heart to keep the two hearts close.He did what he said, and he never said what he couldn't do.Because he knows that children have a very fragile heart.Zhao Guangjun once wrote such a sentence in one of his diaries: "To gain the trust of the children, in addition to sweating, you must also shed the sunshine of selfless love." Lifeline: the unquenchable lamp in the cold night The most precious thing for a person is life, and there is only one life for a person.It stands to reason that everyone should cherish their own life.But in fact this is not the case.Zhao Guangjun witnessed the process of a life disappearing.This process actually only takes a few seconds. It was the autumn of 1994. A few days after the Mid-Autumn Festival, Zhao Guangjun received a call from a volunteer. The volunteer said on the phone that a client couldn't stand it and was about to jump off the building.At that time, Zhao Guangjun was having dinner at home. When he heard the news, he didn't even eat, left his job and ran downstairs.When Zhao Guangjun arrived at the scene, he saw a man who looked like a wage earner sitting on the railing on the ninth floor, making a gesture to jump downstairs.Several volunteers are persuading upstairs.When Zhao Guangjun arrived, the crowd downstairs was booing. Some people shouted upstairs, jump down if you have the guts, and stop showing off if you are a man.As soon as the people downstairs finished speaking, Zhao Guangjun saw the worker on the railing fly down from upstairs like a big black bird. The whole process probably took less than five seconds. Zhao Guangjun didn't dare to look at the dead man's face, and he didn't blame the booing crowd, he just secretly wiped away the tears on his face, and left quietly - such a scene was so sad.On the way back, Zhao Guangjun kept thinking: If the people downstairs hadn't made such booing, maybe he wouldn't have jumped down.If he had come half an hour earlier, maybe that person would have listened to his persuasion and would not have committed suicide.If the unscrupulous boss had paid all the wages owed to the workers before running away, such a thing would not have happened.if…… Too many ifs.But there are no ifs in life, only iron-like facts: life is so fragile, and a young life disappears in just a few seconds. While mourning for the deceased, Zhao Guangjun couldn't help thinking: Is there any way to prevent it from happening?After returning, Zhao Guangjun has been thinking about this issue. At the end of this year, a reporter from the "Yangcheng Evening News" came to interview Zhao Guangjun and had a discussion with Zhao Guangjun on this issue. Later, the reporter half-jokingly and half-seriously said to Zhao Guangjun: "Fat boy, why don't you publish your cell phone number?" Think of it as a hotline? It might have a certain preventive effect.” It was really a word that awakened the dreamer.Yeah, why not?Everything is difficult at the beginning, as long as you do it at the beginning, it will be effective slowly.So Zhao Guangjun decided to publish his mobile phone number in the Yangcheng Evening News.To Zhao Guangjun's surprise, since his phone number was announced, there has been an endless stream of calls for help every day.Sometimes he didn’t close his eyes for a few days, and he called for help one after another. The mobile phone tried a superhuman record of 70 hours of continuous talking, and the phone kept calling until it became hot. , had to talk while charging.Zhao Guangjun couldn't bear to refuse any call for help. Among the many suicide victims Zhao Guangjun saved, Xiaoli is the one Zhao Guangjun is most proud of. Xiaoli is actually a girl who lacks love.Because of the overbirth, her parents took her younger brother to work outside, leaving her to study at home alone, and only gave her very little living expenses. Zhao Guangjun still remembered that when Xiaoli called him for the first time, it was just past three o'clock in the morning. Because he hadn't slept for a long time, Zhao Guangjun, who had just dozed off, was awakened by Xiaoli's phone call.When Zhao Guangjun heard the other party turn his head, he said, "Brother Jun, I don't want to live anymore." Zhao Guangjun was taken aback.No one has ever been so direct, Xiaoli is the first time.Zhao Guangjun suddenly became nervous.After learning about Xiaoli's basic situation, Zhao Guangjun felt that Xiaoli's emotions were getting more and more agitated. He was afraid that she would be overwhelmed for a while, so he decided to visit her immediately. When Zhao Guangjun came to Xiaoli's residence, Xiaoli's mood suddenly improved. She looked at the sweaty Zhao Guangjun and said embarrassedly: "Brother Jun, I thought you were just talking, but I didn't expect you It's really here." Seeing that her mood improved a lot, Zhao Guangjun also breathed a sigh of relief and said, "Sister Xiaoli, life is so beautiful, don't make fun of it, Brother Jun doesn't have time to make fun of you." Before Zhao Guangjun finished speaking, Xiaoli's face changed immediately.The emotion suddenly became agitated again: "You think I'm joking with you, well, come and help me collect the body at dawn, anyway, my parents don't want me anymore." The girl's face was like the weather in June, Say change and change.However, Zhao Guangjun had already made up his mind at this time.He knew in his heart that at this time, Xiaoli was just emotionally unstable and needed a listener.Zhao Guangjun listened to her very patiently, and occasionally asked a few questions. It continued until dawn, and Xiaoli herself felt embarrassed. At this time, Zhao Guangjun hurriedly left for home. rush to work. Zhao Guangjun never expected that this was just the beginning.At three o'clock in the morning of the next day, Xiaoli's phone call came in on time, and the call lasted until dawn.It was still the same on the third day. Sometimes Xiaoli asked Zhao Guangjun to come and see her, otherwise she would be threatened with death.Zhao Guangjun felt very embarrassed by Xiaoli's request.Go, there is really nothing you can do except to listen to her rant, don't go, I'm afraid that her mood will change, and then she will really do something stupid.How can we have the best of both worlds?Zhao Guangjun thought about it, and suddenly he had a flash of inspiration, and a very bold plan appeared in his mind.It seems that in Xiaoli's situation, only a surprise can win. It was past three o'clock in the morning, and Xiaoli called again on time.Zhao Guangjun didn't chat with her for a long time, and Xiaoli's mood came again. After she was dying on the phone, she asked Zhao Guangjun if he could come to see her for the last time.Zhao Guangjun told her to wait a while, and he came right away.Zhao Guangjun rushed to Xiaoli's house by taxi, he took Xiaoli's hand and said solemnly: "Sister Xiaoli, since you feel that you have nothing to love in life, well, Brother Jun, I will accompany you today to leave this sad place. Annoying world, anyway, if this continues, I will soon bore you to death. Now I will count to three, and after counting to three, we will jump off the building together, okay?" Xiaoli didn't expect that Zhao Guangjun would come for real, she was so frightened that her face turned blue.But Zhao Guangjun didn't flinch at all, but really counted.When Zhao Guangjun counted to three, he took Xiaoli's hand and jumped downstairs.When the two landed safely, Xiaoli's tears came down.She hugged Zhao Guangjun and cried, "Brother Jun, I don't want to die anymore." In fact, everything is under Zhao Guangjun's control.Before that, Zhao Guangjun had already observed a concrete shed protruding from the building next to Xiaoli's house. The concrete shed was only one meter high when Xiaoli jumped from her house. This distance was a relatively safe distance for Zhao Guangjun. .The reason why Zhao Guangjun dared to jump down boldly was because he had calculated this distance correctly. Things really went in the direction Zhao Guangjun expected.After this night's jumping incident, Xiaoli was completely moved by Zhao Guangjun.No one has ever been so kind to her, only her brother Jun.After that, Xiaoli no longer called Zhao Guangjun's life hotline all the time, and she became more cheerful.But Zhao Guangjun is still not very relieved.He found Xiaoli's mother again and communicated with her, hoping that she would care more about Xiaoli. A month later, Xiaoli took the initiative to find Zhao Guangjun and asked to join the volunteer team.After becoming a volunteer, Xiaoli deeply regretted her past behavior.She said to Zhao Guangjun: "If something happened to you that night, Brother Jun, I will never be happy in my life. Honestly, Brother Jun, were you really not afraid at all?" Zhao Guangjun said with a grimace : "I'm afraid too, but I'm even more afraid of your call at three o'clock every night. If I can get you now, if I have to choose now, I'd rather jump again." Is there any more simple and touching words than this?Zhao Guangjun never had any amazing words, he always used actions to explain everything.This is true for Xiaoli, and it is also true for others.Among the more than a thousand teenagers he has served, Xiaoli is not the most stubborn one, but the methods she uses are the most extreme.In the process of chatting with the author, Zhao Guangjun revealed to the author some basic laws of those who commit suicide that he summed up in his work.Under normal circumstances, suicide is rarely an emergency. Before committing suicide, those who commit suicide are often in the ambivalence of wanting to die but at the same time eager to be rescued.There are three misunderstandings among them. The first is that ordinary people do not commit suicide, the second is that all suicides are mentally abnormal, and the third is that after the suicide is rescued, there will be no more problems.Among these three misunderstandings, Zhao Guangjun has a particularly deep understanding of the third misunderstanding.There are blood lessons in this. That time when Zhao Guangjun was on a business trip, his PHS Lifeline had no signal.三天后，他回到广州，发现电话里有几十条短信，短信中的绝大部分是一个名叫小玲的姑娘发来的。小玲是赵广军服务过的轻生者，他曾经在半夜里把她从阳台上救了下来。当赵广军看到这一大堆短信时，心里一下子就凉了半截。小玲发给赵广军最后的短信是这样写的：我终于看清了你的真正脸孔，当你看到这条短信时，我早已在天堂等你，等你这个虚伪的所谓志愿者！赵广军马上给小玲的妈妈打电话，得到的消息竟然是小玲不在了。一个年轻的生命仅仅因为电话不通就这样消失了。这让赵广军深感愧疚，从此他时刻记着紧握电话，他再不能够让这样的悲剧发生了。 由于长期超负荷工作，赵广军终于累垮了。严重的高血压加上腰肌劳损，还有中风让赵广军的健康亮起了红灯。 2007年5月，赵广军再一次因为血压过高住进了医院。和赵广军一起并肩作战的黄红英去医院看望这位在她心目中一直是相当壮硕的肥仔时，却发现赵广军的病历日志上写着：严重高血压、糖尿病、心肌炎、心血管病等好几项。即便如此，躺在病床上的赵广军想着的仍然还是他的生命热线。在血压稍微平稳之后，他就要求出院。主治医生问他是不是不要命了。他又是淡淡一笑说：“生命热线就是我的生命啊。”他把自己在住院期间各级组织送来的慰问金四千多元全部捐给了梅州河源等洪水灾区之后，马不停蹄地开始为灾区筹措大米、面粉和矿泉水。他就是一刻钟也停不下来的人。 在采访的过程中，笔者曾这样问他：“在你做生命热线时，你的女朋友曾因此和你三度分手，当时你的内心是怎么想的？” “老实说，第三次分手时，我当时真想一死了之。我关了电话一个人在楼顶上坐了好长时间，我想到了爱情，想到了生和死，第一次亲身体验了轻生者最真实的内心想法。我在想，如果我当真从楼上跳了下去，结果会是怎么呢？肯定和那些跳楼轻生者没有什么两样，都一样会摔成一堆烂泥，到那时，我想谁也认不得我了。在此之前，我曾碰到我过去的一位朋友，朋友的冷嘲热讽动摇不了我，但是这次失恋，当时真的让我心如死灰。我也是一个有血有肉的普通人。后来，我打开手机，想给生我育我的妈妈发最后一条短信作最后的道别时，一个求助电话非常及时地打了进来。当我一听到对方那让人心碎的声音时，我突然惊出了一身的冷汗。我在问我自己，我这是在做什么？我还是一个志愿者吗？我还配做一个志愿者吗？什么叫责任？什么叫担当？狠狠地抽自己一巴掌之后，我对自己说，这是第一次，也是最后一次！我在那一刻完成了自己的涅槃。” “一个人并不是生来就可以明事理的，这需要一个过程，一个循序渐进的过程。刚开始我只是怀着摆脱过去，重新做人，这样的一个愿望去做志愿工作，不断工作的过程，也是我不断学习的过程，更是思想不断提高的一个过程。在我成为一名党员之后，对人生有了更深一层的思考。一个有责任有担当的人，他的生存不仅是为自己的利益，他会把个人与社会联系起来，以广大人民的幸福为己任，并尽自己最大的努力去帮助别人。我想如果我能做到这些，我就问心无愧了。” 事实上，赵广军在长时间的志愿服务实践中，也是一步一步地摸索着走过来。当他以心灵影响心灵，用生命挽救生命时，便体会到以爱生爱，以乐添乐的人生境界，也终于觉悟到人生价值的真谛：传播爱心，担当责任，奉献社会。 现在，“赵广军精神”已经不是赵广军一个人的精神，而是千千万万个赵广军式的志愿服务者精神。他们用广阔无比的爱心为南中国这座城市命名，为每一颗在寒冷中发抖的心传递爱和温暖。 时间在流逝，唯有爱在永久流传。正如赵广军所说：“只要我的心脏还在跳动，我就永不停步。”志愿者的爱从来都是用行动来诠释的。赵广军正是用他的实际行动来证明自己所说的每一句话：我从来没想过我的行为会得到什么回报，我只在乎我能为别人做些什么！ 这就是赵广军，一个志愿者的内心独白。