Chapter 10 9. The Mystery of Empress Lu's Marriage

From head to toe, the couple Liu Bang and Lu Zhi had a strange smell, and everything was wrong. First of all, the age gap between the two is relatively large. Liu Bang was born in 256 BC and Lu Zhi was born in 241 BC.There is a difference of fifteen years. Secondly, the age at which the two got married was very different. They got married in 214 BC. In this year, Liu Bang was already forty-three years old, and Lu Zhi was twenty-eight years old. The twenty-eight-year-old girl is now among the ranks of leftover women.And the women of that era had an earlier marriage age, so how could Lu Zhi be left behind?

Some people couldn't understand this, so they forced the two to get married ten years earlier, claiming that Liu Bang married the beautiful and beautiful eighteen-year-old girl Lu Zhi when he was thirty-three years old.In this way, a 33-year-old adult man and an 18-year-old young girl form a beautiful love combination, avoiding explaining the reason why Lu Zhi became a leftover woman—relevant records like this have become popular at present , in all there is. But in fact, there is no basis for saying that Lu Zhi married Liu Bang at the age of eighteen.The strong evidence that can infer the age of their marriage is the two children Lu Zhi gave birth to Liu Bang: Princess Lu Yuan and Emperor Xiaohui.Among them, Emperor Xiaohui was born in 211 BC, when Liu Bang was forty-six years old, and Lu Zhi was thirty-one years old.

Princess Lu Yuan's age was close to that of Emperor Xiaohui.The difference is almost two or three years old. If Lv Zhi had married Liu Bang at the age of eighteen, it would be hard to imagine that the couple had been silent for more than ten years, but suddenly made great efforts ten years later and gave birth to a pair of children in one breath.What's more, Mr. Chen Huaxin's book "Grand Views of Empresses and Concubines in Past Dynasties" clearly stated: Lu Gong, Lu Zhi's father, moved to Pei County in 214 BC to avoid his enemies. Lu Zhi, an older leftover daughter, married Liu Bang.Calculating in this way, Lu Zhi should have given birth to Princess Lu Yuan in the year she got married, and three years later, she gave birth to Emperor Xiaohui.

In this way, Liu Bang married at the age of forty-three, and Lu Zhi married at the age of twenty-eight. Is this the helpless choice of two families with difficult marriages? But looking at the situation of the two people getting married at the time, it seems that it is not: Shan's father, Lu Gong, was good at Peiling, avoiding enemies and following guests, because of his family.When Peizhong's powerful officials heard that the order had important guests, they all went to congratulate them.Xiao He was the chief official, and the master came in, and ordered the officials to say: "If you don't have a thousand dollars, you can sit in the hall." Gao Zu was the head of the pavilion. money.When he entered, Lu Gong was shocked, and he stood up to welcome the door.Mr. Lu was a good matchmaker, and when he saw Gao Zu's appearance, he was invited to sit because of his respect.Xiao He said: "Liu Jigu speaks too much, but rarely accomplishes anything." Because Gaozu insulted all the guests, he sat up and sat down without any excuses.At the end of wine, Lu Gong stayed with Gao Zu because of his eyes.Gao Zu was drunk, and later.Lu Gong said: "Young ministers like to meet people, and there are too many people. There is no such thing as Ji Xiang, who used to love himself. I have a daughter, who used to be Ji's broom concubine." I often wonder if this woman is with a nobleman. Peiling Shangong, if you don't want her, why do you promise to be with Liu Ji?" Lu Gong said: "This is not known to the sons and daughters." He died with Liu Ji.The Duke and daughter of Lu are Empress Lu, who gave birth to Emperor Xiaohui and Princess Lu Yuan. ("Historical Records: The Chronicles of Gao Zu")

This record is extremely incredible and abrupt, and it is unbelievable to describe it in detail. This is about Lu Gong, a single father, who is the father of Lu Zhi.He had a good personal relationship with the county magistrate of Pei County, and because of his enmity with his father in Shan, he moved his family to live in Pei County.Since Lu Gong moved here, the county magistrate has expressed a strong desire to possess his old friend's daughter Lu Zhi. The county magistrate of Pei County wants to get Lv pheasant. This request was rejected by Lu Gong without hesitation - "Peiling Shangong, please do not give me what I ask for."

Although the county magistrate of Pei County wanted to get Lu pheasant, Lu Gong categorically rejected it, but because of his personal relationship with the Pei County magistrate, Lu Gong was still regarded as an important person by the local people, so they came to give gifts one after another to make friends.And Xiao He, the meritorious official of the county government, came to volunteer to be the master of ceremonies, recording how much each person gave.This position is very suitable for him, because Gongcao is in charge of assessment records in the county government.At that time, the rule at the banquet was that those who gave gifts with more money could sit at the top; those who gave gifts with less money could only sit at the bottom.Lu Gong sees people ordering dishes, and only speaks when he sees money. There is no deception, and the price is the same. If you are not convinced, you can send more money.

It was at this time that Liu Bang came - he "has always changed the officials", that is to say, he usually looked down on the officials in the county.Considering that he insulted all the officials in the court, and that the local government imprisoned Xia Houying for a year, beat hundreds of slaps, and insisted on distributing Liu Bang's black materials, it shows that Liu Bang and the county magistrate The hidden conflict between them has already become public and intense. As the saying goes, the little demon in the temple is strong, the pool is shallow and there are many kings, and the power struggle is so fierce in a small Pei County.

Xia Houying is Liu Bang's friend, so the county magistrate refused to let him go.Similarly, now Lu Gong is a friend of the county magistrate, so Liu Bang, can you be polite to him? On this occasion, Liu Bang must come to play. It's unreasonable not to kick! After Liu Bang arrived, he reported an astonishing amount of 10,000 yuan as a gift. In fact, he didn't want to pay a penny, he just came to make trouble. But I didn't expect that Lu Gong was very shrewd, he knew what was going on as soon as he heard it, so he hurried out to greet him personally, and invited Liu Bang to his seat.Xiao He deliberately said on the side: Liu Ji is just a braggart, but he has no skills.

Xiao He said this to put aside his relationship with Liu Bang, because he still has to work in the county government and cannot openly offend the county magistrate.On the surface, he is a member of the county magistrate, but in fact he is a member of Liu Bang.This is an inevitable choice for employees in the workplace who are in a state of open power struggle. You don't need to offend anyone. After all, the intrigue between the pavilion chief Liu Bang and the county magistrate has nothing to do with others. So Liu Bang sat down, "because he insulted all the guests, he sat up and sat down without any excuse"-after he publicly insulted the county magistrate's cronies, he sat in the VIP seat carelessly and began to eat and drink.With him around, the wine was too much to drink, so all the people left one after another, "Grandpa Lu stayed with Gaozu because of his eyes"—Gong Lu signaled Liu Bang to stay with his eyes.

Please pay attention to this detail: Lu Gong signaled Liu Bang to stay with his eyes.This type of writing is often seen in literary works, such as exchanging glances, watching words and watching colors, and so on.But in real life, there are very few people who can really communicate with eyes.Being able to speak with your eyes and at the same time be able to read the meaning of other people's eyes is the ability of people with extremely high emotional intelligence.In real life, the number of people with high emotional intelligence is very small, and the vast majority of people will never speak with their eyes, let alone look at other people's eyes.As for Liu Bang and Lu Gong, both of them actually have this ability, and it is certain that they recognized each other immediately.

People with high emotional intelligence are good at handling interpersonal relationships, because they can see through each other's mind at a glance.What you say can suit the mood of the other party.On the other hand, people with low emotional intelligence often make mistakes when they say too much and make mistakes because they cannot grasp the other party's psychological activities. So Lu Gong left Liu Bang and asked the 28-year-old leftover daughter Lu Zhi to marry him. Lu Gong’s choice caused his wife’s dissatisfaction—so we know that in Lu Gong’s family, Lu Gong and his daughter Lu Zhi are people with high EQ, while Lu Gong’s wife has a relatively low EQ.At the same time, we are also convinced that the county magistrate of Pei County must also be a person with low EQ.It is precisely because Lu Gong saw the death of the county magistrate, and knew that people with low emotional intelligence like this would die miserably in the tide of history.That's why I jumped on Liu Bang's boat. As for Lu Zhi's choice in this regard, she will definitely know that Liu Bang not only has women outside, but also has illegitimate children.However, a bad man with high EQ and dependability is far more attractive than an honest man with low EQ.That's why she willingly gave birth to Princess Lu Yuan and Emperor Xiaohui for her husband. Lu Zhiai's dedication was soon rewarded - she was sent to prison by her husband Liu Bang, and was even insulted by the jailer.