Chapter 39 The third part: Post-80s siege Part 4 (2)

"Bible" 1 Corinthians 13:4: Love is patient, love is kind: love does not envy; love does not boast; love is not arrogant, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own Good, slow to anger, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth: bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things; love never fails. Autumn in Shanghai seems to be too close to winter.It feels a little desolate for no reason, the sun is still shining at noon, but at night, the temperature drops suddenly.Su Wei often said that the feeling of autumn is the feeling of being single. Su Wei interviewed a professional woman who had just entered the wealth list, and the cooperation was very pleasant. After the interview, the two sat and chatted.

"After the interview, chatting with you again won't waste your time, right? Sister Zhou, can I call you like that outside of working hours?" Su Wei asked carefully.This woman with a legendary experience is a role model for women in the new era in her heart, strong, independent, and happy in her family. "Of course you can. You are a very energetic little girl with a bright future." On the terrace on the second floor of the Greek restaurant, two women looked at each other and smiled. The location was chosen by Zhou Min. When she first arrived at the door of this blue and white building, Su Wei hesitated a little.And Zhou Min immediately explained that she paid for the consumption this time, and she is a frequent customer here.Under her guidance, she walked through the hall with Greek sofas, ancient fireplaces, and star-studded roofs, and walked up the stairs to the terrace on the second floor of the restaurant.Su Wei sat on a chair, looking at the distant river view, with Greek love songs in her ears, Zhou Min introduced the dishes to Su Wei one by one, ordered seafood platter and smoked salmon for Su Wei, and ordered a glass of white wine for herself. wine.The transparent blue vase on the white tablecloth, the Greek landscape mural on the wall, Zhou Min's Fendi dress in front of her and the goblet in her hand, together with the beautiful scenery of Lujiazui in the distance, constitute a picture that Su Wei longs for. screen.

"Thank you very much, Sister Zhou. Today's interview gave me a lot of inspiration. I have been thinking about this issue. It is really not easy to be a woman. It is difficult to balance family and career. Do you mind if I ask you something about Do you think about divorce?" Su Wei looked at the woman in front of her who had appeared in other fashion magazines and was interviewed by others. She was capable but feminine, refined but not aggressive.She understandingly ordered fresh-squeezed juice for herself. Zhou Min looked at Su Wei with a smile and said: "From the perspective of sexual psychology, divorce is an important death in interpersonal relationships. Many women will give up their careers and choose families when they are young, just like me when I was young. At that time, I don't understand myself, I don't understand marriage, and I don't understand what kind of person I need to spend my life with. I belong to the unfortunate one. My family is broken. The objective factors such as age can be repeated. The ability to separate is a sign of a person's maturity. Separation, like reunion, is an unforgettable scenery on the road of life. Smart women know how to face loss and gain Grief and loss is an important experience in life."

Zhou Min took a sip of the white wine, put the goblet lightly on the table, and continued: "The emergence of marriage is a restriction on the relationship between the sexes. The world we live in is colorful. , the only thing that remains constant is change. Sometimes it is calm, but more often there will be waves, even storms. As a small boat, how can the family not follow the ups and downs? We all desire a happy marriage, but when problems arise When it is irreversible, women should be more rational. The premise of people choosing a way of life must be to want to be happier. Whether married or single, life continues every day. The mental state of a person is the most important, and it is also the key to whether a person is happy or not. The true measure of happiness. Therefore, many things should not be shown to others, but to truly ask yourself. Changes in marriage come from many aspects. I am not disapproving of the life style of housewives, but in today’s society, it is fair , It is also very realistic that women often have to bear the double pressure of career and family. When they lose themselves, or lose the opportunity to create wealth by themselves, they are often controlled by others. There are good men, but not everyone will be so lucky When your lover keeps making progress, but you always stay in the same place, the two people will gradually lose a lot of things to communicate, and the relationship will change accordingly. I saw an expert on the Internet said There is such a saying that "divorce is a big meal, which can make women give birth to infinite wisdom." Women should face their own failures calmly, and should not break the pot, but should live more attentively, so that people around them will appreciate and appreciate it. Love from the bottom of my heart. There are many contradictory things in marriage, and we can only choose according to our own special circumstances. In fact, I have read the marriage systems of many countries, so as to understand the kind of independence and opposition shown by Chinese women. Fear of marriage. Chinese women are afraid of divorce, because China’s marriage system does not protect women’s rights as in some countries. Too many women think that after divorce, it is not only face that is lost, but years of youth may be exchanged for nothing. The end of marriage is probably a bit scary. Men in some countries dare not have an affair easily, because the compensation of the wrong party and the division of property after marriage between normal couples will almost ruin the man. Part of the reason why marriage is more stable than love is that marriage has The legal effect can protect some rights and interests. Many marriages in China are seemingly incompatible, some for children, some for property, and some for face. Therefore, people who hold hands and then let go, no matter what age people will carefully weigh, so So far, we still have to obey the marriage system.”