Chapter 4 Do not soak your hands in sewage for a long time

Everyone thinks that only women who work hard can be successful, so those women who rush to do rough and dirty work are often praised by everyone.But the vast majority of women who like to do rough work have been doing rough work all their lives.Some people who often do chores hardly enjoy leisure time after they get married, because even relatives and friends ask her to help with errands, and at the end they only say "Thanks for your hard work".They are not only like this in family life, but also in the workplace. "Do these things hard now, and sooner or later a good day will come to you." This kind of illusory expectation is just an expectation after all, and it will not become a reality.In most cases, working hard every day does not bring you a good life. Why?As the saying goes, bitterness comes with sweetness. Wouldn't it be too unfair if life worked like this?Simply put, life does not distribute corresponding rewards according to the degree of hard work.There is a common saying that goes like this, "Only by suffering and suffering can one become a master", implying that suffering is the teacher of life.If it is said that as long as one goes through hardships, one can grow, then all older people should be quite outstanding in terms of character and ability, but it is obvious that there are too many middle-aged people around us who are not mature enough.The important thing in life is not how to feel the suffering, but how to get out of the suffering as soon as possible and learn from it.If the ring falls into the sewage, you should remove the ring from the sewage as quickly as possible, and then wash your hands with clean water instead of soaking your hands in the sewage all the time.Do remember that hard living is part of growing up, but not something you should be doing.In the company, Fenghua is famous for being quiet and hardworking.When no one asks, she goes to work early every day, wipes the desks of all her colleagues, and even mops the floor of the office.When other people have heavy tasks, they naturally ask Fenghua to run errands for them, and Fenghua also helps them without saying a word.Occasionally, colleagues in the department have dinner together, and she does not allow other colleagues to do it, and she does all the cooking and cleaning tasks by herself.Although Fenghua often felt tired to do her own job well and help other colleagues, but as always, she didn't feel that hard work.She is happy to be recognized in this way, and often says that she finds satisfaction in trying to do something. "If you work so hard, one day you will be rewarded with a promotion and a salary increase, right?" On the contrary, although Ms. Yili in the same department often said that she would help Fenghua to share some things, she never said anything about the chores in the office. interest.However, Yili has strong business ability, is serious and attentive in her work, and gets along very well with her colleagues in the company.Yili often thinks about how to become an expert in the market, collects information in her spare time, and has established good interpersonal relationships inside and outside the company.A few years later, Fenghua and Yili reunited, and their situations were quite different.Fenghua became the wife of a colleague in the same department.Fenghua's husband is the eldest son of a family with many children, and he has long been very fond of the gentle and virtuous Fenghua.After getting married and pregnant, Fenghua resigned to become a full-time housewife, relying on her husband's meager salary to maintain the family, and also sent part of it to her father-in-law. Life was very difficult.Therefore, she had to find time to work part-time among her tiresome household chores.However, Yili got her wish and got a salary increase two years ago, and was transferred to the long-awaited marketing department.It turned out that it was a client she knew before who provided her with information, so that when there was a vacancy in the marketing department, she was transferred in time.Ellie is also married, but has little to do at home.Although Yili said that she had to work and take care of her family, her life was very hard, but from her bright expression, it was not difficult to see that she was satisfied with the good life now.Seeing Yili's situation, Fenghua really couldn't understand. "This is fate! Some people have the same life no matter how hard they work; some people have a smooth future no matter which direction they go." Girls who are in their twenties must understand if they want to live a good life" what it really means to live hard.Living hard doesn't mean getting your hands rough, it means running around hard with your feet.Your hands should be as delicate as a princess's, but your feet should be as diligent as a maid. "Working with your hands" means that you are passively completing tasks in place, while "working with your feet" means that you are constantly adapting to changes in the environment and actively looking for new ways out.Women who don't like to explore new ways out and use their brains are likely to live a hard life all their lives.This is because they fail to notice the opportunities that can save them from hardships.They just keep complaining, why can't they get any return after working so hard.Women with this kind of thinking will unknowingly gather together with women with similar personalities.If the friends around you are all people who are in similar situations and cannot provide help, of course, you will not have any opportunities for development.People think that the lucky women always stay where they are and enjoy themselves.But don't look at their free hands and think that they are always resting.In fact, their heads are galloping across the battlefield at the speed of a red rabbit.