Chapter 66 65. Never abandon or give up in the process of quitting gambling

It is one thing to expose the tricks in the gambling game, and I also want to talk about quitting gambling.I think people who gamble are very pitiful. Their gambling is a kind of addiction, which is very difficult to quit.In my opinion, the first thing is to control the money in his hands so that he can have enough to eat, but never give him spare money to play, and let him feel that his family has not abandoned him, otherwise, he will go to extremes.Secondly, it is also very important to keep him busy and to live a fulfilling life. People are easy to get cranky when they are free.Third, don't show any good looks to his gambling friends, don't think about face at all, and always advise him to stay away from those cronies.Although he may not listen at first, he still has to say it.The influence of a person's social circle on himself is very important.The fourth is to let him know that the gambler did not win.Finally, let him set a goal, have an ideal, and then realize it step by step.Interfere in his spare time as much as possible, know what he is doing, and don't ignore him.Only by making him completely busy can he stop thinking about gambling.Especially for those gamblers who have lost a lot, their psychology is very simple: after winning back, they will do nothing.At this time, don't scold him or blame him, let him completely give up the money he has lost. You can help him to achieve psychological balance by helping and subsidizing him, but don't let the money enter his pocket.This requires the relatives to have a lot of patience and love for him, and at least give him a very warm environment at home.Sometimes the sarcasm and abuse from relatives will only make the gambler go further and sink deeper.Of course, whether these methods will work depends mainly on the gamblers themselves.The family members need to cultivate his self-control. If he is determined to quit gambling, that would be the best.I once met a female gambler who shaved her hair and became bald in order to show her determination to quit gambling.I have also met people who cut off their little fingers with a knife. I don’t know if they quit successfully in the end. Although I don’t agree with the way of hurting their own bodies, I still admire them. Sometimes a person should have this kind of behavior determination.

I know a buddy who successfully quit gambling, maybe his story may be a little enlightening for those who want to quit gambling.When I knew him, he was a serious gambler.In the early days, he had a job that everyone envied. In his spare time, he also opened a small restaurant, which was looked after by his mother.My daughter-in-law is a kindergarten teacher.Their family lives very happily.I don't know when he became obsessed with gambling, he stopped attending classes seriously, and didn't take care of his business. He has been gambling for half a year.He lost all his fortune, borrowed money from everyone he knew, and was fired from office for gambling.The family's livelihood is barely supported by the little salary of the daughter-in-law who works in the kindergarten, but he has not yet woken up and gambles every day.As long as he can sell all the things he can fancy at home, he will gamble for some money.Gamblers like this abound. If you don’t believe me, go to the gambling bureau to inquire. Behind almost every gambler there is a bitter story of a broken family.

I met him at a gamble.The game was set in the back of a roadside grocery store, and a group of people were gambling, playing two-card poker-sized eyeballs.A local acquaintance introduced me, and Xiaohai accompanied me.There were a few crappy tricksters in that game, and the skill of closing cards to play the bridge was among the best. In my eyes, it was the lowest level of tricks.But for other people on the field, they thought how fair this game was.Although the bridge is poorly made, there are always people connecting.Of course, those few people also regarded me as a winner.I slowly won some money in this game, and I didn't call for a break.After playing for several days, I wanted to go back, and decided to win some money on the day I left.So I made a deal with Xiaohai, and you will not be polite when you go up, if you can win, you will win all of them, and then leave.

He came while everyone was playing, and everyone laughed at him, saying they hadn't seen him for a long time.He said that he went to other places to make some money and came to join in the fun.Everyone called him Xiaozhi, and I only knew his name.He generously took out 30,000 yuan and threw it on the table, and the eyes of those old people immediately lit up, saying that Xiaozhi was rich.He bet very hard, the game was not big, the maximum bet was 500 yuan, 30,000 yuan was a lot of money for such a game.Xiaozhi seems to like to be a banker, because he wins more and loses more that way, and everyone agrees.I just sat down and played a game. I always have a way to make him win, and I always have a way to get the money he wins.He went to play around noon, and when he played until around 7 o'clock in the evening, he had almost lost all of it, and he still had more than 4,000 in his hand.At this time, a woman came outside with a big belly.Some acquaintances said that it was Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law who came to look for him to go home.Xiaozhi seemed very impatient and yelled at her loudly, which meant that her appearance made his luck in cards worse.The woman was also impatient, she went up and scratched him, grabbing the money from his hand.Women with big bellies are afraid of everyone, and so is Xiaozhi, so she snatched the money right away.When she found out that there was only about 4,000 yuan, she cried "woooo".

She cried and scolded Xiaozhi, and I only found out after listening to her: his father has a protruding lumbar disc all year round, and he is incapable of working; After a week in the hospital, half of my body lost consciousness.Because Xiaozhi lost all his family's money in gambling, and had no money for medical treatment, his father asked his friends to borrow money and raised 30,000 yuan.Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law has a big belly, and his father has a bad waist and can't go far, so he asks Xiaozhi to get the money.Calculated according to the time, Xiaozhi should be back at noon.But the family waited in the hospital until the afternoon and did not see Xiaozhi come back, so they sent their daughter-in-law out to find him.It was in a county town, maybe his wife used to look for him often, knew where he often gambled, and came to him, that's why this scene happened.

Remember it was late summer.It was time for dinner after 7 o'clock in the evening, and the sky was still very bright.Everyone was disturbed by Xiaozhi's wife and all had to leave.Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law was blocking the door, begging everyone to return the money that won Xiaozhi, because there was an old mother in the hospital waiting for the money to save her life.Xiao Zhi seemed to think that she had lost his own person, so he dragged her desperately.His daughter-in-law was desperately grabbing the door frame, Xiaozhi saw that she couldn't be dragged, so he threw his hand and left.His wife wanted to hold him back when she went out, but Xiaozhi had already gone far away.Everyone took advantage of this time to rush away.I also came to the side of the road with Xiaohai, and saw Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law helplessly watching the gambler who had won her family's life-saving money leave, with a look of grief and indignation.

Xiao Hai and I were trying to figure out what time to catch the car back home. Seeing Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law staggering on the county road with her big belly, I suddenly felt a little strange: What if what she said was true?After all, most of the money was won by me. If it is really what she said, am I not guilty?In fact, do I commit few crimes? It’s just that I never felt it before.Talking to Xiao Hai, Xiao Hai also thinks it's not a big deal, if it's really someone else's life-saving money, it doesn't seem appropriate to just take it away.After fighting for a while, I reached a consensus with Xiaohai, and we went to see if what Xiaozhi's wife said was true. If it wasn't true, I would feel at ease when I left.So the two of us caught up with Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law, pretending to be Xiaozhi's friend, and wanted to visit his mother.Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law seemed to remember that the two of us gambled there too, with a look of suspicion and hatred, but she didn't say anything, she just said that she happened to go to the county hospital and her mother-in-law was still there.The road to the hospital was quite far, so she was reluctant to call a car and walked there.Xiaohai and I called a taxi, and we went to the hospital with Xiaozhi's wife.

When we arrived at the hospital, she led us into a ward with six people.There are many family members inside, and it seems that they all belong to other beds.Xiaozhi's mother looked very lonely in front of the hospital bed: a woman in her 50s was lying on bed No. 3, and a man of her age was watching her IV.Compared to other people's bedsides which have a variety of fresh seasonal fruits, the bedside of the 3rd bed is empty, with only a small soup pot.When Xiaozhi's father saw Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law taking us in, he rushed over to meet him and pulled her aside to talk, probably asking if he had found Xiaozhi or something.We came to the bedside, and Xiaozhi's mother seemed to move her eyes, winking at us to show that she knew we were here to see her.After a while, Xiao Zhi's father came back. It seemed that he knew about Xiao Zhi. He sighed softly, but he didn't say anything. He just went to hold his wife's hand, massaged it gently, and greeted us.It seemed that he didn't want to talk about Xiaozhi in front of his wife, but just repeatedly said thank you for visiting Xiaozhi's mother.We both felt a little embarrassed, after all, we came empty-handed, and we came here at first to prove it.Xiaozhi's mother had a kind face.We greeted each other a few words, inquired about the illness, and heard from Xiaozhi's father that she could only feel it if she could move her fingers, and when someone moved her on the left side vigorously, the feeling on the right side was completely gone.It seems to be a disease caused by worrying about getting angry and suppressing it all at once.

After sitting for a while, we both felt that it was not a problem, and it was quite embarrassing to sit.I poked Xiao Hai, and Xiao Hai immediately understood, took out 30,000 yuan and said: "I was too busy talking, and I forgot the business, Xiao Zhi has something to do, please ask us to bring the money, uncle, take it away." .” Xiaozhi’s father was a little at a loss, not knowing whether to take it or not.Because he just learned from his daughter-in-law that Xiaozhi had lost all his money, I gently poked Xiaohai and glanced at the other side of the bed, meaning that Xiaozhi's father should put it away first, and Xiaozhi's mother should not hear it. What, after all, his mother can understand everyone's speech.Xiaozhi's father understood and put away the money.We both said goodbye.Just after leaving the ward, Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law just came back from fetching water, saw us leave, said hello, and still looked at us with hatred.We both fled the same way out of the hospital.

Standing at the gate of the hospital, the two of us figured out that there was no car left at this time, so we discussed whether to find a place to stay and eat something, or charter a car to go back overnight.While talking, Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law came over with a big belly, and dragged Xiao Haifei to return him the 4,000 yuan she had robbed.Because she knew that Xiao Zhi had 30,000 in his entire body, and also knew that Xiao Hai took out the money himself (but she didn’t know that we were scammers who took Xiao Zhi’s money. If she knew, she would definitely not do it).In the end, Xiao Hai didn't take it, she stood there embarrassed, and said thank you straight from her mouth.Xiao Hai had nothing to say, and said that the conditions in this hospital were not ideal, and whether he would consider going to the city for treatment, the effect would be better.Then I left her contact information, saying that if she goes to the city for treatment in the future, she can call us and we will help arrange it.After we finished speaking, we both ran away in a panic.On the way back, the two of us felt a lot of emotion. We were grateful, sighed, and helpless.

I thought this matter would end here, but about two weeks later, Xiaohai received a call from Xiaozhi's wife, saying that she would take her mother-in-law to the city for treatment. She didn't know which hospital to go to, and she didn't know her in the city. Who is really desperate and thinks of asking us for help.It happened to be boring at the time, so I helped Xiaohai contact a hospital.So we got involved again, and we also went to visit when we were free.Later, just in time for Xiaozhi's daughter-in-law to give birth, the father and son were very busy.When we have nothing to do, Xiao Hai and I also go to help run around, anyway, we are bored and have nothing to do all day long.Later, Xiaozhi's mother did not recover very well, which may have been delayed in the early stage.It has been several years now, and I can barely walk, still limping, and my right hand is always shrunk together.His mother is also a strong person, and when she can't use the strength to hold something in the ward, she always scratches herself and blames herself.Maybe because of the money, I recovered a little and was discharged home to recuperate, and the doctor also said that I had to take care of this disease and exercise by myself.Xiaozhi's father was a taciturn person who rarely spoke.Every time we saw us go, I would know "hehe". When I was discharged from the hospital, Xiao Hai and I went to deliver it, because Xiaozhi still had to take care of his wife in the hospital, so he didn't go back with him. Later, because I always remembered it, I went to visit his mother by buying some nutritional supplements and medicines for treating cerebral thrombosis.We got acquainted after going back and forth, and then she also knew that Xiaohai and I took the 30,000 yuan at the beginning, and she always felt guilty, always saying that she hoped to return the money to us someday.As for us, we are even more guilty than her, but we can't say it out, so we can only help as much as possible.Later, when we talked about Xiaozhi's gambling, his mother hoped that we could find a way to help him quit gambling.To be honest, others really can’t do anything about it. Quitting gambling depends on one’s determination. Like my friend Xiao Xing, he decided not to gamble after he knew the inside story of gambling.I think it's because he came to his senses after knowing ten bets and nine deceptions, but Xiaozhi didn't know, so I couldn't say no? At that time, Xiaohai said something casually. He said that if he wanted to quit gambling, he had to have no money, or find a place where he could not touch gambling.Xiao Zhi's mother is also a very assertive person, she also agrees with Xiao Hai's words, and immediately put them into action.A few months later, the whole family asked Xiao Hai's father to sell the house and moved to the suburbs of the city, making Xiao Zhi completely far away from the original circle, and everything started again. Just moved, Xiaozhi is also very uncomfortable, always fidgeting.However, the money is kept to death by his wife, and there is still a patient and a child at home who need to be taken care of.Slowly he got used to it.Later, he found a printing company in the city to do typesetting get off work, commuting from nine to five every day.Although the treatment is less, he is very satisfied.He has also been looking for opportunities to do some business, and his wife found a job as a salesperson.Anyway, I haven't seen that kid gamble in the past few years. His son is now 5 years old. Although life is difficult, a family without gamblers is happy, and now his mother can barely take care of herself. His parents later became religious, and every time I went to visit, she would ask me to become a religious person, talking about saving suffering and getting rid of suffering, which is quite interesting to think about.But they never knew I was a cheat, what would they think of me if they knew?I admit that I have met many people like Xiaozhi. They took the emergency money from their relatives to gamble, but I gave them away.I really don't know what to say to them, and I can't say anything.